Well OP,there's really no hard & fast rule to the process of healing. 1 thing i can say,though,(from experience)that crying it out really helps. Sometimes a good long cry really helps. Lastly,lemme quote another singer:" Thought i couldnt live without u,it's gonna hurt when it heals too,it'll all get better in time. Even though i really loved u,i'm gonna smile 'cos i deserve too,yes i do,it'll all get better in time."
Wise Words!

Because michelin89,i'm using a cellphone. There's no need to use swearwords.

Orisirisi o! So d smel of a persn's farts is now an aphrodisiac,abi? OP,u r one sick dude.u need help,of d psychiatric kind.

This belief is a mark of oriental & eastern orthodoxy,roman catholicism & all the mainstream traditions arising 4rm d protestant reformation,such as anglicanism,lutheranism & presbyterianism. Neither the word trinity nor a statement of trinitarian dogma is found in the bible. The new catholic encyclopedia states: "the formulation 'one God in 3 persons' was not solidly established,certainly not fully assimilated into christian life & its profession of faith,prior to the end of the 4th century. Among the apostolic fathers,there had bn nothing even remotely approaching such a mentality or perspective."-(1956, Vol. XXVII, p 294L

The trinity is a "christian" doctrine,stating that God exists as 3 persons,each said 2 b eternal,each said 2 b almighty,none greater or lesser than another,each said 2 be God,& yet altogether being but one God,agreed?

I s'ppose it depends on d kind of persn u r.if u're d kind of persn,who,like me cnt tolerate it(dere is no justification 4 it & i wldnt bother listening 2 his excuses)mayb he'd keep it 4rm me.but i'd beta nt find out 4rm any1 else.

Sure chris,i'l b waiting.by the way,can anyone explain 2 me the doctrine of trinity.

I'm sorry A_K_O,i'm using a phone so uring abbreviations kinda comes naturally.

Chris,if u had read my post very wel u wld see dat i said Jesus did nt mean we shld start counting a person sins.wat i meant by dat reference was dat it doesnt matter hw many times a person sins,as long as he is truly repentant,he shld b 4givn.d trick is knwing wen d persn is truly repentant.we cannot read hearts,only God can and he helps us mak d right decisions in cases lik dis by givin us his holy spirit.as 4 d abstinence,it doesnt matter weda it was an ancient jewish custom or nt,it was made by d 1st century christians under d influence of d holy spirit,& if Jehovah tot it necesary 2 include it in his word,i wil obey it.in d issue of blood transfusions,we r nt unreasonable,4 example it is a matter of personal decision 2 accept blood fractions or medications dat contain them,such as certain drugs dat fight viruses & diseases,or dat help blood clot.
P.s-lemme b honest wit u,i dnt hav much info wit me presently,bt i wil do ma research & get back 2 u as soon as posible.wat abt d trinity doctrine?

Oh,& by the way,bein in a positn of oversight does nt grant u any special privileges.4 exampl,u dnt seat in special seats or get preference or anytin lik dat.diff ppl giv public talks.wen its a groups turn 2 clean(we take turns 2 clean)every1,elders & publishers,grown men & little kids join in.dere r no divisions.if u hav any mor questions abt our organisational set-up,feel free 2 ask.but if u wnt a mor scriptural topic,here's one:the trinity.all who bliv in it(catholics & d like)shld pls come forth wit dia arguments,& i'l try 2 refute dem as best as i can.i ask again,pls b sure dat u completely bliv in d bible & its authority as d word of God. I'm waiting. . . .

I'm a female,& i'm a baptized publisher. FYI-there r no pastors in the JW org.perhaps i shld explain our organizational setttings-1st d world HQ in brooklyn,den d branch office in various countries-d 1 in 9ja is located in igieduma,benin city.
Den in d local congregations-d presiding overseer is in d lead position,i.e he coordinates d oda elders,d service commitee,which comprises of the service overseer,d secretary & d theocratic ministry overseer,and den d body of elders.

Onyinye,sori,i 4got abt u.nw abt d whole blood issue,pls rd acts chap 15:28.in d context,dere was a dispute btw d 1st century christians abt weda circumcision was necesary 4 salvation.2 cut d long stry shrt,rd verses 20 & 28.dose verses clearly state dat we shld abstain 4rm blood,& frm strangld meat.som might say dat means we shld nt eat blood(som ppl do that y'know). Lemme giv u an illustration. S'pose u,wen u bcome a doc,tel ur patient nt 2 drink alcohol because he has a prob wit his hrt(or sumn lik dat). Wat if dis patient says,o.k,i'l nt drink alcohol,bt pours it on a piece of bread and eats it or infuses it in2 himself intravenuously,u cnt say he hasnt consumed alcohol,evn if he dint pour it dwn his throat.it's d same wit blood transfusions.abstinence means abstinence

I seem 2 hav made a few mistakes in my last post.i shld nt hav said fornicators wld b disfellowshiped,wat i meant was an unrepentant fornicator.if som1 shws remorse 4 d sins he has commited,den we'l do the christlike tin & 4giv-aftaall Jesus said we shld 4giv as many as 77 times.dat dosnt mean we shld b counting d times a person sins,bt dat as long as d person is truly repentant,we shld 4giv.bt,if d person is unrepentant,we shld do as 1cor 5:13 says.p.s-i'm nt taking dat verse out of context;if u read d whole of chap 5 u'l c dat was wat paul was talking abt. And i suppose,by definition,we r a sect.sori 4 d mixup.

Wel kunle,i can c u're 1 of d few who r genuinely interestd in hw we tink & wat we preach b4 tagging us a nonsensical sect.for starters,i nd 2 knw weda u bliv in d bible.if u bliv in d bible as d word of God,den u hav 1 tin in common wit us.evrytin we bliv in has a scriptural background.here are som of our bliefs-we dnt bliv in d trinity,we dnt bliv in hellfire,we dnt celebrate christmas,we bliv honesty is rily d best policy & we try 2 implement it in our lives,fornication(i.e premarital sex & all it entails)and adultery are nt tolerated,if 1 is found guilty of such u wil b disfellowshipped(similar 2 excommunication),we bliv in God's kingdom as d only hope 4 mankind & we r one of d few religions dat go out every week 2 preach.
Anybody dat objects wit d above is free 2 say so,just pls state ur facts in a concise & logical manner.rememba everytin must b backd up by d bible.
I wnt 2 implore all who read dis thread 2 pls,pls keep an open mind.
P.s-madamkoko,Jehovah's witnesses r abt 7million worldwide.plus,we havnt broken away 4rm any larger body.dat hardly classifies as a sect,dnt u tink?

I am a Jwit,and a lot of ppl hav a lot of misconceptions abt us,4 exampl som ppl tink we dnt bliv in christ,we dnt pray,etc.som tink we're antisocial ppl who r totally against havin fun.i find d idea quite laughabl rily.so here's ur chance 2 air ur opinions abt us,wat u like & wat u dnt lik abt us & mayb i'l b able 2 clear up som misconceptions.

I knw we've heard a lot abt cheating,& abt hw its d worst possibl betrayal in a r/ship,yadda yadda yadda,etc.my question is,if ur partner cheated,wld u rily wnt 2 knw abt it? As 4 me,i'd rather nt knw,because if i did,its ova,& evn if i miraculously decide 2 4giv & giv u anoda chanc,dere'd b no trust,& u cnt hav a r/shp witout trust.so,bottomline is,if u cheatd on me,i'd rather nt knw abt it,so u'd beta kp it 2 urself,or at least tel me 20 yrs afta d event.wat do u tink?

Date a smoker? Hell no! Apart 4rm d fact dat its a disgusting habit,its nt gud 4 ma health,or dint u knw dat bein a second-hand smoker ir deadlier/just as deadly as bein a 1st-hand smoker?(a 2ndhand smoker is sm1 who dosnt smok bt is around smokers & inhales d smoke dey puff out & d smoke 4rm d burning end of d cigarette). So me wey no dey smoke go con get lung cancer? I dnt tink so! As 4 d alcohol,dere's nuttin rong wit an occasional drink,bt no drunks pls!
Dere's no cure 4 cirrhosis of d liver.

I hav com 2 accept a sad,sad truth-men r like parking spaces,d good ones r al taken.
Back 2 d topic,i dnt tink gud men r scarce,its jst dat a lot of gud grls,lik urs truly,hav had d mis4tune of meetin d rong ppl.most of d time,some women dnt evn knw wat dey want,i mean dey go into a r/ship wit pre-conceived ideas,dey hv dis image in dia heads of a perfect guy & a perfect r/ship & wen tins dnt wrk out dat way,dey quit,losin som1 who might hv bn dia mr. right.

@poster,i rily dnt knw,i gues its just one of life's big mysteries,like:why is d sky blue?why does d sun come up evriday? Why is richieblack such a jobless idiot?
LOL.mor seriously,i tink d woman is mor stupid;she was stupid enough 2 get involved wit a married man,she was stupid enof 2 sleep wit him,she was stupid enof 2 do so witout protection & get herself preg,so she's definitly at fault.

Where is evrybody? Hello? Helloooo?

@poster,do u evn knw d meaning of d wrd dominate? Cos i dnt tink u do.if ur idea of a real man is a dominant,controlling,tyrannical,egocentric,chauvinist male pig,den of course i'm scared shitless,dumb@ss.oh, & btw,i hop my words werent 2 big 4 ur puny brain 2 comprehend.hey,here's a thought:why dnt u pick up a dictionary and look them up? Dat is,of course,if its nt 2 much 4 a peabrain such as urself.

Personally,i'm a very private person.its nt dat i have somtin 2 hide or i'm bein secret;dats just d way i am,so i wld definitely nt apreciate any1 goin thru ma fone.dat's why its my fone;it's for me & me alone.& if he goes thru it,God help him if i catch him.If he sees love mesages dere dats his problem,nt mine.every gal has toasters.d fact dat i'm goin out wit him does nt change d fact dat i wil b propositioned by oda men who cldnt care less if i was in a r/shp or nt.heck,evn married women have toasters.dats a fact & d facts wil nt change because of him.if he cnt deal wit dat,den he's got som serious self-confidence issues.

As other posters have so eloquently mentioned,d OP said that not only was he in luv wit a fellow guy,he was always in luv wit his fellow guys.come on ppl,dat says it all;he's gay,or at least he's on his way 2 being gay.som ppl see bein gay as a matter of personal choice,i see it as a disease,an illness.OP, u need help! ur sexual orientation is nt yet clearly defined.Now is d tym 2 seek dat help!

"Its hard to find sth that matches crap,dont u think?"
Good point!

If i had 2 choos btw a rich guy who loves me & who i care abt & a poor guy who luvs me and who i care abt,i'd go for d rich guy.it's nt abt bein materialistic or anytin lik dat,its simply bein practical.if i go into a r/shp wit som1,den i hav 2 plan ahead.s'pposin i got married 2 d poor dude,wat happns wen we start havin kids? Can i honestly expect som1 who cnt support himself 2 b able 2 support me and 2 or 3 kids financially,emotionally & physically? It just doesnt make sense. Plus,i grew up accustomed 2 a certain standard.wen i get married,u wld xpect tins 2 get better & nt d other way round.dat doesnt me a materialistic,spoilt brat,no,it simply makes me a woman who knws wat she wnts & isnt afraid 2 admit it.

I feel so disheartened when i hear shit like this.how cld her sister do somthing like that?i mean ur sister shld be more than just family.she shld be a close frnd.she shld be loving and caring.she shld look out 4 u,always have ur back.i mean,if he had cheated wit som1 else.i wld've maybe,just maybe considered giving him a second chance,but my sister?ther's no hope.and to all d ppl who r saying she shld stay and fight,whats she fighting for? that man is a worthless piece of shit.so is her sister,matter of fact she's worse.he's not worth fighting for.i mean,wat pushed him to cheat with her sister?the fact dat they didnt have a kid?i mean,come on,deyve bn married for only 2 yrs!i knw ppl,who've bn married 4 13 yrs or more,no issue,and they wld nt even think of cheating,because he's a real man,because she's a real woman,because they are real ppl!do u evn know the kind of psychological trauma the poor woman's going thru?and her husband had the nerve to say he was in love with her sis?if i was her(d elder sister),i'd pack my bags and get outta there as soon as i can,because the longer i stay there,d more i'l be tempted 2 do somtin stupid,like commit murder.

I've been reading some posts,and lawd have mercy!you guys crack me up! and OP,@i've not bn able to meet much girls that match my intelligence".what are you,einstein? as other posters have so eloquently mentioned,why dont you get a dictionary and look up the word intelligence? u've nt met any girl that matches ur intelligence? of course you havent,u dolt!ur intelligence is on par with a worm's!dumb@ss.

Because they r idiots.i feel really sorry for such men.it must be hard work clinging to such antediluvian views. a man like that insist on their wives' being timid and totally inexperienced because he cant stand the thought of her comparing him to anyone else.he'll be terrified of her growing up and maturing into a real woman because if she does,she'll discover that she hasnt married a real man.Wait a minute,why am i saying i feel sorry for them? she's the one i really feel sorry for.@ssholes!

One of my frnds is in dis situation.dey've bn married 4 abt 2 years.she found out 4rm som1 else,his best frnd who mentiond it her presence(her hubby was dere),tinking she already knew.
Dere was a big quarrel,& she was like,nt only did u kill som1,u didnt tink it necessary 2 tel me abt it,u lied 2 me,etc.
He maintains dat he dint lie,he just dint tel her abt it.Now she's nt talkin 2 him 'cos she's tryin 2 figure out wat 2 do.yes,he's her husband,yes she loves him,bt taking d life of anoda human being,weda intentionally or not is morally wrong,& d worst part was dat he dint tel her,& if according 2 her,if his frnd hadnt let d cat outta d bag,he prolly wld hav never tld her.

What wld u do if u found out dat ur bf/husband did time for manslaughter in d recent past witout tellin u abt it?

Som1 said somtin abt findin out d reason 4 cheatin and try 2 avoid d same pitfall.u see,dats d problem wit many relationships 2day.d faithful partner tries 2 make excuses for d cheater just so he/she wont hav 2 deal wit d fact dat d cheater(who in most cases is d guy)is an irresponsible oaf.d trut of d matter is dat there is no justification 4 cheatin.if u have a problem wit me,do d mature & responsible tin,com to me & talk it out.if dat dont work out,den take a walk.and if i find out dat u brok up wit som1 because of cheatin,den i'l tak a walk.once a cheat,always a cheat.

Kim's butt is gorgeous! For so long,sexiness has bn equated with thinness,but kim's 1 of d few gals who're changing dat.she has a full figure,she's voluptuous & she's smokin hot! She's bn featured on d cover of playboy,& her gorgeous backside has earned her d nickname:"the Behind".plus,it's all natural.she's nt done any plastic surgery.
Methinks she's giving beyonce and Jlo a run for their money.