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Theflint1:
Keyword being routine. I'd get doing on a first child discreetly, but doing DNA tests routinely and openly on kids a woman you're supposedly married to is just crazy.

DNA test can't be routine in the first place because the result is definite.
If you do know test and it's yours, it's yours. Nothing changes that. Even if the test is done 10 years later so I don't understand what is "routine" about a 🧬 test.

Trevor012:
Is it only infidelity that people see when they read through phones? How about information about friends/family that are very personal and is shared with just you?
It's not everything your partner needs to know. So if Tunde shares a secret with you, you will go and tell your partner.

That's the very ideal of a commited relationship. One where you're allowed to be vulnerable to your partner. Where you're allowed to open up to your partner.

And I don't mean "flings" here or a girl you just met. I mean, someone who you're really serious with. Like someone who you've both invested years, emotions and finance on yourselves both.
But most especially a wife.

You should have gotten to a stage with your wife where you can both funnily crush yourselves with jabs. You can make fun of her and she can make of you and both of you will know exactly the point that comes from. From a place of love not a will of intent to cause harm.

That she can filter between jests and seriousness when she encounters something new.
That is the ideal of marriage and I'm an idealist. I invest and hope for the very best of situations.

DissTroy:
We can go back and forth localised to the timezone you and I live in even, and over again, but when you turn off your internet connection, just remember to protect your loved ones from an increasing probability of occurrence.

Stay alert.

Again my friend, you keep diverting. I don't know if you are purposely dodging the question. You keep making it about the woman.

Right now, I am asking you about the MAN!

What do you say to a man who cheats on his woman? As in a situation whereby the woman is indeed faithful but the man is sleeping with another woman elsewhere, what do you say to that man?

If your woman cannot freely and comfortably access your phone, then there is a problem there.

It signals that there is something to hide or not want to be seen which breeds mistrust and this goes for both parties.

If you are in a relationship where both of you do not know each others pass words openly and freely. It means that relationship is unhealthy.

DissTroy:
I hope this is not an opening to personalise attacks on anyone on this thread?

I'm flawed. I'm far from perfect. I'm extremely flawed and sharing passwords doesn't mean I can't get my way around it to get cozy with others.
Incognito mode? WhatsApp calls which can't be recorded then deleting the call logs? I'm flawed. I can get my way around it if I want to.

But this issue began with the topic of paternity fraud. A woman does not directly bear the brunt of her husband or man's wiles when he sows his seeds outside as long as she's provided for.

A man does..Not only does he invest financially, he invests emotionally into raising a child under the pretext of it being from his loins.

Men are territorial about everything. Women are territorial more about their kids. Fooling a man into defending a territory with everything which is being ravaged because you open a backdoor is cruel.

A woman owes a man loyalty first. A man owes her dependability in return. Yes, there are middle grounds, but every other thing is a just that - every other thing.

I'm sorry but I don't think this answered my question, because your answer is talking about women or rather is focused on the woman or maybe I'm having comprehension problems here but what I'm asking is about men and it is this;

What do we say to MEN who cheat on their women?

As in, guys who already have a girlfriend, a fiancee or a wife but go out and cheat on them, what do we say about that??

Because reading the last few pages, one gets a sense of women being attacked as being inherently unfaithful when the reality of our lives is that men cheat on their women far more, such that it is even normalized in many societies such that men can have 6 wives but women are completely subjected to have only a single man and husband till they die.

So I'm trying to wrap my head around the women bashing or calling of women unfaithful when it is usually men that do so.

seankafor:
all these because he said that he'd like to run Dna on his kids

Me that is extra inquisitive nko?

I repeat, the only time I'm not running DNA is if the baby is carbon copy of me like I'm carbon copy of my dad

Asking about the DNA of your kid means that you don't trust your woman.
And if you don't trust your wife, you really are in problem. Because there's bound to be much problems in that marriage.

It's almost as if you don't understand what a marriage is.

Disstroy I'm still waiting on you for this. Morife, don't run.

donjazzet:
Disstroy, what is your opinion on men who cheat on their spouses? And what do we say to men who cheat on their women, is it to be encouraged or dissuaded?

GrammarNazi1:
You're talking to a man who has been married for at least 5 years.

How long have you been married?

So you mean to tell me, a man who has been married to a woman for 5 years still has such a view upon women??

Clearly you don't see the indictment upon your wife, your opinion on women hold.

I mean, look at the opinions of ibime and gloriousG, that's how you know men who are in a wonderful marriage.

Not immature, underaged alpha male nonsense by guys who clearly don't understand what it means to be with a woman.

iamoyindamola:
Her phone is even boring to me, sometimes she initiate phone exchange for some minutes i always reject the offer
Not like i have anything to hide but i don't feel comfortable with it
Na from clap dance they start the next will be hours, days then we start sharing sim card

Isn't this what an ideal union is supposed to be?
Two bodies with one mind??

I set my standards for a relationship quite high. Especially if I am genuinely commited to it.
A marriage should ideally mean that your partner is your best friend, your strongest ally. The one person can that predict you completely. Every sex is an absolute communication of love.

The minute you have boundaries here and there within your marriage, cracks begin to form.

DissTroy:
Related issue: November, 2021 :

Disstroy, what is your opinion on men who cheat on their spouses? And what do we say to men who cheat on their women, is it to be encouraged or dissuaded?

BlaqFaze:
I can't think of a valid reason why females are scared of DNA test

I don't see anyone here "scared" of a DNA test.
We're highlighting the mindset before it.

For you to want to test the DNA of your wife's baby means that trust is completely gone from that marriage and you have no business being in that marriage or union.

GrammarNazi1:
The rot is so deep that for a man to be married for long, he may have to be a simp.

There's no changing these bitc**s and it is pathetic, really.

You have to be a teenage virgin, that's the only way, this writeup makes sense.
The writer has definitely not been with a woman.

Ballzproblem2:
niggas have been compromising their standards for years that's why y'all lame.


First they tell you marrying a virgin is not a must ,now they want sell you the idea of having blind trust for women.

You see what's happening? they're selling you the idea of settling for less ,make una dey play beta males

The issue is this, you that is looking for virgins to marry, are you a virgin yourself??

Because the idea that men would expect to have as much sex as they like with different women before marriage and then somehow turn around to look for virgins to get married to is insane. They hypocrisy of that stance is mind boggling.

A woman can only be expected to be a virgin before marriage IF the man himself is a virgin. That's equitable and fair, isn't it?

The most brutal video you will ever lay eyes on.
I'm sure it will definitely be banned soon.

https://reddit.com/r/MostShocking/s/U3uPO566Et

Viewer discretion strongly adviced.

VERY STRONGLY ADVICED.

But wait oo, with all these news about business failings in Nigeria, doesn't mean there isn't a middle scale business that can prosper in Nigeria??

If farming, transportation, property development is a problem, then what exactly can one venture into that will prosper in the country.

There has to be some niches that create some services that assure prosperity to the investors and owners.

For a long time, it used to be hotels in the east, because Easterners have far more indigenes than properties in the state and the aftermath of the war meant property shortage soo hotels were well stocked at various economic seasons. But large scale insecurity in the region now has hampered that prospect.

Is there something like that that can be replicated or invested in?

seankafor:
bro, when buying stuffs online, make sure to buy from official stores

For over 3 -4 years now of using jumia and konga, I've never had any issues..

The laptop 💻 I bought on jumia last 2 years which was defective, I returned within their 7 days return period and I was fully refunded

The problem with this is that usually 7 days is not enough to fully access the new product.

Not to talk of when they actually start counting the day it has received by you, meanwhile it's still in their warehouse and the driver actually hasn't delivered it to you yet.
I have friend who is into drop shipping that saw hell with delivery of these companies.

Itsrm:
Well, na their opinion. I don't agree with it. I have absolute trust in my wife. It will remain that way until she gives me reasons to have doubts.

Very wonderful opinion right here..💯

nihilistjnr:

Let me note that you have started today again.
Just a note.

DissTroy:
This back-and-forth is about heterosexual relationships. I don't know how you fit in here, Smollett.

Is this supposed to be a petty dig rather than an informative exchange that informs our world views on a general issue?

DissTroy:
Here's a simple test:

Can your partner confidently leave her phone with you all day?

Most men, married or in committed relationships, can't answer this simple question. Heck! Many can't even unlock "their" women's gadgets. That's a pointer to the faux safety blanket and trust they supposedly have for their women.

A woman is wired to continually prove her loyalty and continue to earn it, and that keeps her in line.

Simple question here;

What about the man??
Can a man confidently leave his phone unlocked with his woman?

We always seem to think here that relationship and trust is one sided thing and not a two way street.

Is fidelity in relationships expected to be the standard for women but not for men?
This particular point always boggles my mind.

Good luck finding a modern woman who would subscribe to these archaic traditional values. It's either you're setting yourself up for future disappointment or you're ending up with a naively ignorant and most likely undereducated partner.

DissTroy:
His questions and stance are valid.
Your trust means nothing to a woman. Once she's aware your guards are completely down is when she feels more daring to try certain antics on you.
And one way a woman gets your guard down is by open or seeming display of spirituality. That woman who posts Jesus everyday on WhatsApp and Facebook is more likely to play you than the other women who don't because she knows you've been blindsided by her wiles.

A woman can swear on her womb and everything sacred in the universe and still be lying. That most men haven't come to terms with this reality is why women continue to get away with playing men for fóols.

This is quite literally a shallow way of thinking.
Once someone starts an opinion with random generalizations like this, know that that person is actually not well Informed on the issue.

50 percent of the world's population is female, if you think that they all act and think alike, then you're surely mistaken.

I want to think you've had different girlfriends over the span of your adulthood.
Are all the same to you? If they are, then the problem might likely be you. (No offense intended).

Some women are kind and caring and loving and empathetic and usually expect the same.
While Some women are opportunistic gold diggers who see their vagina as a financial instrument and usually might have bad personalities.
Likewise some men too. Some are ibime's of the world. Intelligent, measured and responsible.
Some are Darlingtons, criminally minded, misogynistic and shallow minded.
And some are geenstay. Flat out cray cray.

It's left for you to know how you attract the best. By your own personality and habits.

BlueRayDick:
Some of us that started bashing him recently are doing so because we observed it's difficult to have a decent conversation with Teejay without him turning round to hurl insult at u. He just seem to be incapable of having a civil discussion without calling u names once u don't buy the otem nonsense gospel.

I personally usually let his unprovoked insults slide for a long time until I didn't.

If he wants others to be humans then he must also try to be human and understand people can have divergent views on the same subject matter.....Insulting the person discussing with u does not in any way portray u as more knowledgeable

Well said. Geenstay can't point to a single person on this board that he has ever had a meaningful conversation with.

Every single person on this board is "perceived to be his enemy". Any body who dares engages his point automatically becomes mentally inferior.
I don't know if its a defensive mechanism or personality issue.

seankafor:
Na mostly online I dey buy my things now.. it'd quite cheaper on the likes of jumia and konga compared to offline 📴 stores 🏬

Big big difference

I've actually found the opposite to be true. Whereby things were cheaper in physical stores than online stores. I'm talking 10k differences for TV, home theater and phone.

I checked the jumia stores for the prices then I went to an electronics market and found it much cheaper.

It seems online stores do inflate their prices significantly.

Ibime:
When you observe say water done pass garri, mockery no dey sweet for mouth again.

Make una allow TeeJay rest. Who done code done code.

But the guy no wan let us rest.

Every day one rubbish after the other, which frankly absolutely no one is interested in seeing as he the person who's disturbing and polluting the place with his noise refuses to engage like a human person once engaged.
All his posts is designed to infuriate. Every single one of them.

What then or how then do you suggest we solve the teejays problem. Because the spamming is excessive and disruptive from him.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Dude should be looking @ investment in Africa.

Our economic environment makes it extremely difficult for any start-up to genuinely take off.
Lack of power generation is truly a real hindrance to any business. Especially the tech startups.

Ibime:
Search Nairaland for "Roland17 Otem" and make an interesting observation
.
Egbons emotional IQ has always been very high. When you observe say water done pass garri, mockery no dey sweet for mouth again.

Make una allow TeeJay rest. Who done code done code.

The search didn't bring up any useful result, can you point to what you were trying to say?

What Elon musk owns.

How many paragraphs was that? Who would actually read it all?

Propaganda news up and down from Russian-brainwashed fools.

Incognito9:
Is tinubu transgender?

Don j verify for us

https://www.nairaland.com/7853459/us-release-only-certificate-atiku

This whole debacle is a big insult to all of us nigerians.
Imagine the citizens of their country not knowing the basic information about their president.

Don't know his father and mother, don't know his exact area of origin, don't know his primary and secondary school.
NOTHING!!

it's a big show of shame upon this country. This can only happen because you have educated willing enablers who are ready to go all out and defend the nonsense simply because of tribalism. It's really sad and pitiful.

Amigoss:
Hahahaha @donjazzet,what do you have to say...

A rapist in the UK who changed gender and transitioned from male to female before appearing in court has been found guilty of raping two women. Isla Bryson, formerly Adam Graham, will now serve time in an all female prison.

People are terrible, people are good. Their sexuality doesn't determine their morality. That it is a transgender who did this doesn't matter because straight gender normative people also do bad things like this.

Karma in action.
Lady justice doing her thing