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Who or which bible doctrine says one must pick a spouse from the same local assembly where he or she worships? I hear there are even some churches where the pastor preaches against and even discourages his members who finds a spouse outside his local assembly from going ahead with the relationship.

I know some ladies who are still single because the first thing they tell any man who approaches them is for him to join her church. Biko can someone explain the meaning of such things.

Some Naija pastors and these their doctrines. Ok oooo, Ssssooorait!!!! Lol!

The Uruguayan is finally available to play again after serving his ban for biting Giorgio Chiellini. But should the Catalans throw him straight into the deep end against Madrid?

For once the big talking point ahead of a Clasico is not the eternal rivalry between Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi.

Instead it is the return from suspension of Luis Suarez. However, he has yet to play officially for his new side after he was banned from all football-related activities for four months for biting Italy's Giorgio Chiellini at the World Cup.

This suspension, by a strange twist of fate, ends on Saturday when Barcelona travel to the Santiago Bernabeu to play bitter enemies Real Madrid in the Clasico.

Should Suarez be thrown straight into the deep end and make his debut against Carlo Ancelotti's men, or should Luis Enrique be more cautious and start the 27-year-old from the bench?

Have your say....

A young girl asked me this question recently and I quote “When do I know I am ready for a relationship?” and I was like... There is no cookie cutter answer to this, but as always I will give my perspective based on what I have been through and past suggestions that have been successful. I want to stress we all have a love tank that needs to be filled, but we don’t have to fill that tank through the opposite sex in the confines of a romantic relationship. The need for companionship often leads to developing unhealthy habits that only delay having a healthy relationship partner. The truth is this - When you can be happy alone, then you are ready for a relationship.

With respect to that, Here are my 8 signs you are not ready for relationship:

1. You struggle with insecurities.
Insecurities only make our relationships worse and not better. You will always have those situations where arguments and problems blow up because of insecurities. In some cases of insecurities you are only seeking the relationship because of your insecurities because it makes you feel better about yourself.

2. You have not healed from past pains or bitterness.
When we refuse to heal and forgive we allow the person in our past to have control over us. When you forgive you release that pain and the control it has over you. Holding anger from a past relationship will only make you bitter. I discuss this topic deeper in my blog “Healing before Love” click here. If bitterness is your issue read the blog “10 steps for overcoming bitterness and resentment.”

3. You have not taken responsibility for the part you played in the failure of your past relationships.
We always hear people say “it was not my fault” or “he did this or she did that” the truth of the matter is that we are all participators in our pain- there are no victims. We have to always look ourselves in the mirror and ask the questions, what is wrong with me. And how can I improve to make my life better? I think we rarely see this type of deep introspection, but we often see the victim mentality. Good or bad your past relationships can make you a better person if you allow those experiences to inspire growth.

4. You don’t love yourself.
Often people don’t understand what this truly means. Loving self doesn’t mean, “ I am doing me” or “It’s all about me”; that is simply an immature and selfish thought process. Loving self means you understand your self-worth and you do things daily to improve who you are and the lives of others around you. When you love yourself, you treat people kind and you seek a mutual oneness with those connected to you. When we seek relationships without loving self, our self-worth is tied to the connection of another person. Our self-worth goes up and down depending on how the person with whom we’re connected feels about us. So, when your relationship partner puts you down you believe what they say. Develop a health self-love before seeking relationships.

5. You’re selfish and have a critical spirit.
Selfish people can’t love unconditionally, period, so this is something we must be mindful of. If you are selfish, you only love in the moment and once that moment is over, you are gone. When things are hard, difficult, or not your way, you bounce as well. A critical spirit is based in pride. When we are critical, we kill the spirit of other people. Work on these things before seeking a relationship.

6. You are fresh out of a relationship.
This is a huge one! I see this far too often. Give yourself time to heal before rushing into a new relationship. I’ve been in a relationship with a beautiful girl who was not ready for a relationship, because she was not healed from her last one. Even before we got serious, I knew it was a bad idea, but I moved out of my human emotion. When we make emotional decisions, in most cases, it leaves us heart-broken. Rebound relationships may numb your pain, but will delay your healing. Give yourself time to heal. The longer the past relationship, the longer you need to take to heal.

7. You can’t be happy alone.
The ability to be happy alone is a prerequisite to being ready for a relationship or marriage.

8. You’re still dealing with your ex.
Don’t pursue relationships with people if you are still dealing with your ex. It’s kind of sad that I even have to discuss this one, but of course we know people do this all the time. Make a decision about your ex before creating something new.

Largas:
I learnt once again how much my family loves me.

That's just one.

I am interested in finding out what are the 3 things that you learned from a near death experience. Please state if you were in a near-death experience or not and what was it.

Looking forward to read your answers...

Have English Premier League club Sunderland's players set a dangerous precedent for under-performing sports teams?

After losing 8-0 at Southampton on Saturday, Sunderland's squad has offered to refund the cost of match tickets to their 2,500 traveling supporters who made the 1,026 kilometer round trip from the north east of England to the south coast.

"We win and lose as a team, players, staff and fans," Sunderland captain John O'Shea told the club's website..


"However we wanted to acknowledge and thank the supporters who traveled such a long way to give us their backing and despite everything, stayed with us until the final whistle,"

It's a gesture that could cost the Sunderland squad as much as $100,000, with any unclaimed money to be donated to Sunderland-based charity Grace House, which provides care to children who have life-shortening conditions for which there is no known cure.

Saturday ignominious defeat was Sunderland's biggest in 32 years and left the club one spot above the relegation zone after eight games.

The 8-0 reverse, which included a spectacular own goal by Santiago Vergini to spark the rout, was one short of the record defeat in the English Premier League, Manchester United's 9-0 rout of Ipswich in 1995.

"I've never felt as bad on a football pitch, as a player or as a coach, as I do today," said Sunderland manager Gus Poyet after Saturday's loss.

"Even as a fan I've never felt this way, it's embarrassing and unacceptable, I'm really hurt."


http://edition.cnn.com/2014/10/22/sport/football/sunderland-fans-ticket-refund/index.html?sr=fbmainintl

If you really want to be successful in life/career, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.

Nothing of value is FREE.... There's dignity in Labour...

NET gathered that the singer acquired the new property, located off the popular Admiralty Way alongside a brand new 2014 Range Rover Evoque valued at N24m. Photo: Filed

Times are indeed very good for Oritshefemi Majemite considering his recent achievements in life.

The ‘Double Wahala’ singer has continued to count his blessings since coming back into reckoning last year with the release of the song, a remake of Fela Anikulapo Kuti’s popular song of the same title.

Oritsefemi has moved into a new duplex valued at N200m in the Lekki Phase 1 area of Lagos and NET gathered that the singer acquired the new property, located off the popular Admiralty Way alongside a brand new 2014 Range Rover Evoque valued at N24m

Recently back from a tour of United States of America where he was billed to shoot a video for the ‘Double Wahala Remix’ featuring D’banj, Oritsefemi also signed a multimillion naira management deal with an Abuja-based management company, Avatar Entertainment sometime in September.

The newly-signed deal, which puts Avatar Entertainment solely in charge of the singer’s management while he’s signed onto his self-floated record label, MSN (Money Stops Nonsense) Gang.

Confirming the story of his new house and car, Oritsefemi’s manager, Yusuf Adebola Adepitan, popularly called Danku said: ‘Yes, Oritsefemi has moved to Lekki now, and he also has a new Range Rover, for now, we’ll still maintain the house in Ikeja for the boys to stay.’

Danku, however, refused to disclose the exact amount expended on the property as well as the automobile. Before now, Oritsefemi had stayed in Ajegunle before moving to his rented flat off Obafemi Awolowo in Ikeja.

In 2013, Davido, Don Jazzy and Dr. SID moved into multimillion naira homes worth N140m, N160m and N110m respectively and Oritshefemi has joined the list of top Nigerian entertainers who have splashed millions on aesthetic buildings in the highbrow Lekki area of Lagos State.

http://thenet.ng/2014/10/net-exclusive-oritshefemi-moves-into-n200m-lekki-home/?utm_source=&utm_medium=facebook

kaorama:
Good move. All error in Ekiti state must be corrected for proper take off of good and sustainable development.

Oh yeah, sounding like a card carrying member of PDP... Is that correct?

pontirock:
E No Concern Me, GMB FOR PRESIDENT!!!

Ok... Anyway GMB always win on social media as can be seen from the conduct of the online poll so far.....

After all said and done, you guys shouldn't forget to inaugurate him as the president via this platform. Lol.

Ekiti State Government on Saturday announced the dissolution of the 35 local government areas including Local Council Development Areas’ caretaker administrations.

This was contained in a statement by the Chief Press Secretary to the State Governor, Mr Idowu Adelusi, made available to News Agency of Nigeria in Ado-Ekiti.

According to the statement, all the 35 council chairmen along with their secretaries and other members of caretaker committees have been relieved of their appointments.

It stated that Governor Ayo Fayose had approved the immediate dissolution of all the councils.

The statement also ordered the immediate dissolution of all boards of parastatals, agencies and commissions.

The 35 local government areas involved were those of the original 16 and the 19 LCDAs in the state.

The statement directed all the affected caretaker chairmen to immediately hand over to the directors of administration in their respective council areas.

NAN recalls that caretaker chairmen had been in control of the 16 council areas throughout the four year tenure of the immediate past governor, Dr Kayode Fayemi.

The former governor also appointed caretaker committees for the 19 newly created LCDAs few days after the June 21 governorship poll which he lost.

NAN further recalls that Fayemi’s attempted to hold council election in the 16 councils on February 4, 2011, but was halted by the state High Court ruling following a suit filed by the Peoples Democratic Party in the state.

The PDP had alleged that some of the members of the State Independent Electoral Commission were card-carrying members of the then ruling Action Congress of Nigeria.

NAN reports that Fayose, at his inaugural speech on Thursday in Ado Ekiti, vowed not to recognise any illegal creation made by the immediate past administration.


http://www.punchng.com/news/fayose-sacks-35-ekiti-lg-chairmen-committees-boards/

joromi:
No one is talking about the age difference

She is 19
Flavour is 30

Chaiii...

She's ripe enough. Lol!!!

Sublime beauty!!!

Flavour has however successfully shrouded his relationship status in mystery since he became a star, so much so that he neither acknowledged nor denied rumours he recently fathered a child with Sandra Okagbue. Photo: Instagram

Flavour is surely one of the most eligible bachelors in the Nigerian music Industry.

The award-winning singer has however successfully shrouded his relationship status in mystery since he became a star, so much so that he has neither acknowledged nor denied rumours that he recently fathered a child with super model, Sandra Okagbue.

However, Flavour’s relationship status seems to have just been confirmed by the woman in his life.

In the last couple of weeks, Flavour has repeatedly shared pictures of himself and another super model, Anna Banner Ebiere (MBGN 2013 winner), and Anna does the same via social media.

A few hours ago, Anna took to her Instagram page to share another picture of herself with Flavour with the caption: ‘When you have someone that encourages you, supports you, scolds you, appreciates you, respects you, advices you, reminds you of what the future holds, plays with you, cares about you, loves you, makes you smile, tells you the truth without looking back, and most importantly draws you closer to God. Please tell me what else you want. Because I have all I need. You make me happy, your are more than awesome. … I pray that God continues to bless you.@2niteflavour.’

http://thenet.ng/2014/10/anna-banner-confirms-relationship-with-flavour/?utm_source=&utm_medium=facebook

At least two students from Nigeria who applied to a Texas college were told they wouldn't be admitted because of Ebola.
Kamorudeen Abidogun, a Texas man originally from Nigeria, said he received two letters from Navarro College, a two-year community college with a campus about 58 miles from Dallas. Abidogun has five relatives in Nigeria who were applying to the school and who were using his home in Richmond, Texas, as a U.S. mailing address, he told CNBC.
The college rejected the applications, citing confirmed Ebola cases in the country as the reason for the admissions decision.

CNBC
The letter begins: "With sincere regret, I must report that Navarro College is not able to offer you acceptance for the Spring 2015 term. Unfortunately, Navarro College is not accepting international students from countries with confirmed Ebola cases."

Idris Bello, a Nigerian who lives in East Texas, tweeted a photo of the letter to bring attention to the situation. Bello, in an interview with CNBC, called the college's purported policy "embarrassing."
In his tweet, Bello noted the irony of the school having such a policy for foreign students, when 26-year-old nurse Nina Pham, in nearby Dallas, recently contracted the disease after treating a Liberian man, Thomas Eric Duncan.

After repeated requests for comments on the situation, Navarro's vice president for Access and Accountability, Dewayne Gragg, sent an email to CNBC.com.
"Our college values its diverse population of international students. This fall we have almost 100 students from Africa. Unfortunately, some students received incorrect information regarding their applications to the institution," Gragg wrote.
"As part of our new honors program, the college restructured the international department to include focused recruitment from certain countries each year. Our focus for 2014-15 is on China and Indonesia. Other countries will be identified and recruitment efforts put in place once we launch our new honors program fall 2015. We apologize for any misinformation that may have been shared with students. Additional information regarding our progress with this new initiative will be posted on our website," he continued.
When asked for further clarification, and to answer whether in fact there is or had been a policy to reject students based on the presence of Ebola in their countries, Gragg said in an email, "The prior email speaks for the college."
There have been no new reported cases of Ebola in Nigeria since Sept. 8. Out of 20 people reported infected as a result of a Liberian man traveling there with the virus, eight died. But the virus was contained in the port city of Lagos.

Abidogun said his five relatives who have applied to Navarro College all live in the city of Ibadan, in Oyo State, Nigeria, which is about 80 miles from Lagos.
Navarro College talks about the Ebola virus on the section of its website devoted to admissions information for international students, but it does not mention any policy to not admit people from countries with cases of Ebola.

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gustavo440:
did you apply or you work in the board. do you know the exact salary figures

Nah, Am an Engr.... I don't really indicate interest for such openings/positions.

Well, A dear friend of mine applied and am certain she will be taken. "That I know"...

From a reliable source, the salary is between 35 - 40k..... My source works in one of the banks anyways. All the best bro....

Anazo:
Goodmorning please anyone in d house. Have u received any message after d edo state teachers interview concerning maybe getting appointment letter or being posted to any school.

They are through will compilation of names and they have sent it to the board.... Awaiting approval.

Now, How much do you think you guys will be paid? As in salary?...... Am sure its between 30 - 40k.

Funjosh:
She is just lucky and Ebola kind of Pity her.

You are funny.

It can be exhausting nursing a child through a nasty bout with the flu, so imagine how 22-year-old Fatu Kekula felt nursing her entire family through Ebola.

Her father. Her mother. Her sister. Her cousin. Fatu took care of them all, single-handedly feeding them, cleaning them and giving them medications.

And she did so with remarkable success. Three out of her four patients survived. That's a 25% death rate -- considerably better than the estimated Ebola death rate of 70%.


Fatu stayed healthy, which is noteworthy considering that more than 300 health care workers have become infected with Ebola, and she didn't even have personal protection equipment -- those white space suits and goggles used in Ebola treatment units.

Instead Fatu, who's in her final year of nursing school, invented her own equipment. International aid workers heard about Fatu's "trash bag method" and are now teaching it to other West Africans who can't get into hospitals and don't have protective gear of their own.

Every day, several times a day for about two weeks, Fatu put trash bags over her socks and tied them in a knot over her calves. Then she put on a pair of rubber boots and then another set of trash bags over the boots.

She wrapped her hair in a pair of stockings and over that a trash bag. Next she donned a raincoat and four pairs of gloves on each hand, followed by a mask.

It was an arduous and time-consuming process, but Fatu was religious about it, never cutting corners.

UNICEF Spokeswoman Sarah Crowe said Fatu is amazing.

"Essentially this is a tale of how communities are doing things for themselves," Crowe said. "Our approach is to listen and work with communities and help them do the best they can with what they have."

She emphasized, of course, that it would be better for patients to be in real hospitals with doctors and nurses in protective gear -- it's just that those things aren't available to many West Africans.

No one knows that better than Fatu.

Her Ebola nightmare started Juy 27, when her father, Moses, had a spike in blood pressure. She took him to a hospital in their home city of Kakata.

A bed was free because a patient had just passed away. What no one realized at the time was that the patient had died of Ebola.

One woman walked in, and the Ebola nightmare began

Moses, 52, developed a fever, vomiting and diarrhea. Then the hospital closed down because nurses started dying of Ebola.

Fatu took her father to Monrovia, the capital city, about a 90-minute drive via difficult roads. Three hospitals turned him away because they were full.

She took him back to another hospital in Kakata. They said he had typhoid fever and did little for him, so Fatu took him home, where he infected three other family members: Fatu's mother, Victoria, 57; Fatu's sister, Vivian, 28, and their 14-year-old cousin who was living with them, Alfred Winnie.

While operating her one-woman Ebola hospital for two weeks, Fatu consulted with their family doctor, who would talk to her on the phone, but wouldn't come to the house. She gave them medicines she obtained from the local clinic and fluids through intravenous lines that she started.

At times, her patients' blood pressure plummeted so low she feared they would die.

"I cried many times," she said. "I said 'God, you want to tell me I'm going to lose my entire family?' "

But her father, mother, and sister rallied and were well on their way to recovery when space became available at JFK Medical Center on August 17. Alfred never recovered, though, and passed away at the hospital the next day.

"I'm very, very proud," her father said. "She saved my life through the almighty God."

Now he's working to find a scholarship for Fatu so she can finish her final year of nursing school. He has no doubt his daughter will go on to save many more people during her life.

"I'm sure she'll be a great giant of Liberia," he said.

http://cnn.it/1BWXM4x

luvluvluv:
The above line's wat struck my mind after I returned to my lonely apartment once again yesternyt....

After a seemingly brk up some yrs back dat later turned out to have ravaged my quest for a new relatnship, now like neva b4, I feel a gr8 sense of loneliness...

A brief intro..
My lyf in d university days was very rosy, talkin about affairs with with 'em even though one could hardly survive d never endin hunger..hehe. I was liked by so many. 28yrs,Not handsome, 5.10ft tall (na small I jus raise head ), very dark(like papa suwe).
But ultimately, I was liked o. How I did it, I don't know.

It's 3yrs now since d brk up (a story I will probably share some day) or sell as a movie script..lol. Recently I was transfered from lag to benin as requested. Well, needless to echo dat am doing well by God's grace. I rented an apartment in GRA and now am living life to its fullest. But I jus can't make a lady say "yes"

But I should have a gal! Am always at my best, gat d cash, don't want to play but jus a serious gal is enof. Or have I been approachin d wrong ones? I luv pretty and advanced ladies(not a major criteria though) even though am not very handsome..

I guess I need some help as to d best approach to apply. I decided to post dis here for all u matured minds. PLS HELP!!

Until you get comfortable with being alone to create your inner self. you will never know if your choosing someone out of love or loneliness

Be that as it may, what you need at this point in time is DIVINE GUIDANCE. Divine guidance is an invaluable resource. Without it, you are like a sailor at sea unable to find his way because he has no compass.

5minsmadness:
Choi. So my mata don reach nairaland

Who this be like?

EfemenaXY:
Have I judged you yet?

Re: the bolded, your words, not mine.

Its Ok.

Moving forward, The guy in question is a very good friend of mine.

pickabeau1:
Let the guy free the girl

Bro, its not that easy. He is really into her. They have invested in each other so as to achieve upward mobility in their relationship and they have spent time together with a focus on building a good relationship.

The main issue started when he informed her of his desire to travel abroad to further his studies.

Well, He left for UK Three weeks ago to commence his Masters Program @ the University in UK.

Now, The girl is putting the guy under duress.

EfemenaXY:
I fail to see why details of a very private conversation should be made public in the first place. That says a lot about the characters of @OP and his "friend".

Don't be caught up with the fallacy of making hasty conclusions. It has nothing to do with my character, not at all. Don't judge me because you don't know me.

Do you think am insane for pasting this dilemma down here? This isn't a JOKE!!!

If you can't contribute meaningfully and hence add value, Then just pass and let others have their say without being judgmental.

pickabeau1:
Replace their Names

Thanks. They aren't on this forum and besides, anyone could be Ohis and anyone could be Funke....

As far as I didn't get to use their full names, That's not a problem. Don't you think so?

Now, How on earth should a girl in this modern day and age be so insisting about marriage to a guy who isn't working yet but hustling hard to make ends meet?

Please, what is needed here is valid/matured advice.

Good evening Ladies and Gentlemen,

This is a situation that needs your opinion/contribution/advice.

A very good friend of mine is having a running battle with his girlfriend lately, it has to do with the issue of marriage.

However, via email, he sent me the conversation he had with his girlfriend today and hence asked for my advice.

As expected, I've given him my opinion and thought it wise to copy and paste the conversation between two of 'em here for you guys to analyze and contribute asap. Thanks.


12/10/2014 00:29:07: Funke: So ur sis hasn't called me o thot u gave her my no the other time
12/10/2014 00:36:25: Ohis: Nope I didnt
12/10/2014 00:36:44: Ohis: U didn't want to talk to her
12/10/2014 00:39:46: Funke: Ehn ehn na so thot I told u that u can give her
12/10/2014 00:40:51: Ohis: Well ok
12/10/2014 00:41:15: Ohis: I'll tell her to call wen I'm able to call her
12/10/2014 00:41:42: Funke: Hmmm kk just asking
12/10/2014 00:42:09: Ohis: No wahals
12/10/2014 00:42:29: Funke: Aiit
12/10/2014 00:44:00: Funke: Just say it as is it though it's kind of early but do u think u can make it by dec?
12/10/2014 00:49:25: Ohis: Not so sure as I'm yet to get job
12/10/2014 00:53:21: Funke: Hmmmm so it means that if u don't get a job early enough u won't come abi?
12/10/2014 01:02:50: Ohis: I need some money for my ticket
12/10/2014 01:02:48: Funke: Ans na
12/10/2014 01:06:14: Funke: Of course I knw u need some money for ur ticket thot u had everything worked out or will work it out when u get der like u told me
12/10/2014 01:07:07: Ohis: Will do
12/10/2014 01:06:46: Funke: But that doesn't ans my question
12/10/2014 01:10:23: Funke: Anyway where am actually going is that if u don't make it in dec then it means till the end of ur programme later/end of next year abi?
12/10/2014 01:11:10: Funke: Or is der a break in between?
12/10/2014 01:12:57: Ohis: They said there will btw Jan-feb
12/10/2014 01:13:50: Ohis: Ok
12/10/2014 01:14:18: Funke: Jan-feb ohk o
12/10/2014 01:15:07: Ohis: If its till d end of d prog? What happens
12/10/2014 01:16:17: Funke: I don't want to imagine what will happen
12/10/2014 01:18:18: Funke: I just knw it means u are working/planning 2wards ur 1-2 years marriage plans
12/10/2014 01:19:13: Funke: Cos we will definitely not marry next year if we go by that
12/10/2014 01:19:43: Funke: So it means we are looking at upper year upwards
12/10/2014 01:19:53: Ohis: Why would you think so?
12/10/2014 01:20:57: Ohis: I cant do upper year. My mind is set on next yr
12/10/2014 01:20:57: Funke: Becos of the facts on ground
12/10/2014 01:21:36: Ohis: My prog according to them ends july
12/10/2014 01:23:12: Funke: Ehn ehn ohk o I av voiced my concerns
12/10/2014 01:25:53: Ohis: Ok. Is sombody giving u deadline?
12/10/2014 01:26:15: Ohis: ☺
12/10/2014 01:26:55: Ohis: Just asking
12/10/2014 01:27:55: Funke: Oh really or shld I say seriously are u asking me that
12/10/2014 01:28:56: Funke: This isn't about anybody but me incase u don't knw am not 18 or 21 or even 25 ohk
12/10/2014 01:29:28: Funke: Time waits for no one am going to be 30 next yr
12/10/2014 01:30:17: Ohis: U ave entered d quarrel tone now.
12/10/2014 01:31:13: Funke: I av my life to think about and plan for when do u expect me to start having kids if by 30 I don't even knw when I will get married talk more of kids
12/10/2014 01:31:16: Ohis: I kno ur concern, I hav mine
12/10/2014 01:32:34: Ohis: We are not quarrelling. I agree
12/10/2014 01:33:32: Funke: Whatever concerns u av it doesn't compare to mine cos like it or hate it u are a guy and u can decide to marry anytime u feel u are set and ready
12/10/2014 01:33:53: Ohis: We shud b praying that everytin works out and not let doubts like dis spoil d prayers we hav made already
12/10/2014 01:33:57: Funke: I on the other hand don't av that luxury
12/10/2014 01:34:34: Ohis: Ok.
12/10/2014 01:35:33: Funke: I am but am just letting u knw so we will be on the same page
12/10/2014 01:36:11: Ohis: Ok we are.
12/10/2014 01:36:49: Ohis: Wat r u really afraid of?
12/10/2014 01:37:22: Funke: Aiit since u say so no p
12/10/2014 01:37:51: Ohis: Is dat u wont marry or u wont have kids bcuz of wat u av heard frm oda pple
12/10/2014 01:38:04: Ohis: ?
12/10/2014 01:38:25: Ohis: Just tell me
12/10/2014 01:38:45: Ohis: Cuz leaving u is not part of it
12/10/2014 01:38:49: Funke: Me afraid keh! I just don't want to say I told u so
12/10/2014 01:39:07: Ohis: Told me so how?
12/10/2014 01:40:38: Funke: Leaving me or not is not really the issue I just don't want to prolong any thing further
12/10/2014 01:40:56: Funke: It's time for the next step
12/10/2014 01:41:19: Ohis: I kno it is
12/10/2014 01:42:35: Funke: Fine then let's work towards doing it fast and move on
12/10/2014 01:42:56: Ohis: Yes ma
12/10/2014 01:43:52: Funke: Na so don't ma me o
12/10/2014 01:45:34: Funke: U let's make visible plans, pray and work towards it
12/10/2014 01:46:41: Funke: Cos am tired of not been sure how my life drama with u will work out at the planned time
12/10/2014 01:48:25: Funke: I don't want to be in the dark I want to knw the breakdown of all the major plans and sub plan to get to where we intend to get to
12/10/2014 01:50:35: Ohis: Ohis life drama!
12/10/2014 01:52:24: Ohis: Smh
12/10/2014 01:52:26: Funke: Ehn ehn what about it?
12/10/2014 01:53:01: Funke: Na so
12/10/2014 01:53:05: Funke: Why?
12/10/2014 01:53:26: Funke: Everyone has life drama abeg
12/10/2014 01:53:38: Ohis: Guess u r tired of me?
12/10/2014 01:54:01: Ohis: N my life drama.
12/10/2014 01:55:27: Funke: Don't rope me I didn't say that
12/10/2014 01:56:26: Funke: But if u keep prolonging the marriage I might be
12/10/2014 01:56:44: Ohis: From ur tone dats what I can sense
12/10/2014 02:01:27: Ohis: I hope its marriage u r talking abt n not wedding, cuz som people get married n start to regret. So I hav concluded on my part all these I kno.
12/10/2014 02:02:04: Ohis: Have you concluded on your own part?
12/10/2014 02:03:03: Funke: Story u and I knw am talking about marriage
12/10/2014 02:03:30: Ohis: Okh
12/10/2014 02:05:03: Ohis: Ohis Life Drama
12/10/2014 02:05:10: Ohis: ☺
12/10/2014 02:07:13: Funke: Why sudden intrigue by the word life drama?
12/10/2014 02:09:58: Ohis: Cos am tired of not been sure how my life drama with u will work out at the planned time


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scobaba:
I'm currently in Milan Italy for a training(job related). All the while I had been getting along with all my colleagues from other countries around the world.

On wednesday, I got called out while in the middle of a group work presentation.
The lady 'politely' announced to the whole class I had to be excused for a few minutes for 'ebola awareness'.

By the time I came back to class 20minutes later....i had no friend again.

I later complained to the training organisers and the lady came back next day to explain to the class, it was nothing serious, just a little. Chit chat required with all 'ebola countries' participants, but for wier, the harm had already been done.....everybody avoided me, except the Angola and Ghana participants.

The Ebola stigma for Nigeria, is still very much out there.

Perhaps we should be concentrating on stopping the spread of Ebola in Africa and eradicating it from the earth. Like the war on terrorism, All hands must be on deck.

For instance, I have a cousin who is a Brilliant pharmacist, she works for UN in Liberia, she's not been able to go out for months and that's a terrible situation she's in there. All due to Ebola!!!

This humanitarian crisis has enormous health implications for the whole world.

Bill Gates isn't just a smart guy — he's disposed to critical thinking.

I want to ask you two questions:
• Can you play the piano?
• Do you play the piano?
The queries are less similar than they seem — and they tell you something about how you learn.
"These are different questions,"... "and your answer may well be 'yes' to the first and 'no' to the second."
How so?
"The first question asks about ability" ..... "If you sat down in front of a piano, could you play a tune? The second tacitly asks much more ─ it goes beyond ability and asks about inclination: Are you disposed to play the piano? Do you like to play? Do you play regularly?"
This same distinction — between ability and inclination — extends into our mental lives.

For instance, research into reasoning shows that people can make arguments for either side of an issue when they're led through the process, showing that they have the ability. But people usually don't evaluate both sides, since they don't have the disposition.
So if you want to be more inclined to critical thinking, you need to know what's in your toolbox, just as Warren Buffett would have you do.
"Being a good thinker means having the right thinking disposition," because otherwise you'll never make full use of your abilities.

There are seven such thinking dispositions. They are:
1. The disposition to be broad and adventurous: The tendency to be open-minded, to explore alternative views; an alertness to narrow thinking; the ability to generate multiple options.

2. The disposition toward sustained intellectual curiosity: The tendency to wonder, probe, find problems, a zest for inquiry; an alertness for anomalies; the ability to observe closely and formulate questions.

3. The disposition to clarify and seek understanding: A desire to understand clearly, to seek connections and explanations; an alertness to unclarity and need for focus; an ability to build conceptualizations.

4. The disposition to be planful and strategic: The drive to set goals, to make and execute plans, to envision outcomes; alertness to lack of direction; the ability to formulate goals and plans.

5. The disposition to be intellectually careful: The urge for precision, organization, thoroughness; an alertness to possible error or inaccuracy; the ability to process information precisely.

6. The disposition to seek and evaluate reasons: The tendency to question the given, to demand justification; an alertness to the need for evidence; the ability to weigh and assess reasons.

7. The disposition to be metacognitive: The tendency to be aware of and monitor the flow of one's own thinking; alertness to complex thinking situations; the ability to exercise control of mental processes and to be reflective.
Put together — and used in the appropriate situations — these tendencies allow people to fully engage with knotty intellectual problems.
There's another benefit to having this outlook. I have come to understand that having a growth mindset — where you think your outcomes come through effort rather than innate talent — leads to success for kids and grownups alike.
Thinking about your thinking dispositions — rather than how innately smart you are — helps cultivate that attitude.

valdes00:
Am sure she's really nt cwious bout d relationship wit him...... Cos if she is, she knws d right thing to do...... No nid to ask for ppl's advise..... To d best of moi knowledge, you flirt wit most guys in here..... N u knw he will see it, u dnt xpect him to be comfortable wit it....... No matter woh he tells u in reality ..... Deep down in him, he is nt comfortable wit it.... Am a guy, and majority of guys thinks in 1 direction in situations lik dis....... Ur story might b real n it might also b 1 of ur publicity stunt..... Buh if its real n u knw u realy luf d guy, u dnt wanna lose him.... The ANSWER is in you..... #ADJUST

Often times, The reason ladies flirts with other guys online openly and in front of their bf's, is because they are tired of being exclusively committed to only one bf/man. A personal opinion though!!!

rozzay:
Now I was inspired by my sis marieolae to open dis thread cos I also nid advise. Now here's d problem. My boy friend u all know him Olubukato( I no dey hide am), we love each oda soo much inspite of enemies nd rivals but d problem is he s jealousy, he s always jealous wen am flirting online with all my friends and I tell him its my personality here. Ystaday he caused a scene with king tom! So pls I nid advise on how to handle him and tell him to stop flirting too.
Ps- he won't come na for bed we dey settle am just drop ur advise nd go. Thank u. Hhehehhehehehehehehehehe

Chill, work on your weaknesses and build upon your strengths to make you a better person. Do it for yourself.

You have complete control in this situation. You can control perfectly from the position you are in. Use respectful boundaries.

A Married couple work in different cities, He works in Abuja, but she works in Lagos, he goes home every weekend. Both have Facebook accounts. The wife has vowed never to date anybody on facebook, Moreso that she is happily married. She even gave her hubby the impression that she does not go there frequently like others do.

One day while bored at work He playfully creates a Facebook account with a fake pix, he sends his wife a request & she adds him. They chat regularly over 1 month, she finds him very exciting & is always looking forward to chatting with him, she began to hate weekends because he was never available to chat. they chatted about everything, recently their chats became very sexually explicit, she got turned on by the things he asked her to do, then one day he asks her to send a pix of her private part, she excitedly does that without hesitation, he then asks her to take other pix of her body parts & she did & sent all to him.

The husband called her that she would not be coming down to Lagos for that weekend because of a seminar in Abuja. When asked about her itinerary, she told her hubby that she will be home for the weekend with the kids. Both facebook lovers then arrange to meet in Nicon hotel Abuja Room 101... but unfortunately for her, she came and saw her husband.

If you are the husband, what will you do? Please, be sincere.

chimerase2:
*still sleeping*

Sleep tight!!!