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Dont even start Op.. what does it mean to submit as unto God? as a human being, submitting to God is doing his will without questioning. thats y thou we may have grudges, Gods will is always done.

likewise, the Woman could air her opinions. even God said to the israelites, "come let us reason together". at the end though, the husbands will must prevail. of coz there are times God permits what we insist. that is where the man must also "dwell with her with understanding". he could also permit her to have way even if he has a contrary view. however, once he feels his opinion is best, the woman must keep quite.


Christ loved the church and died for it while the prospective members were yet sinners.. husbands must love their wives even when she is a wrong doer. EOD

My dad and mum are As both. first 4 kids turned out lucky. all AS. last child who came abt 7 yrs after the 4th was unlucky. childhood (2-12) was nightmare not only for her but the whole Family. hers was even a mild one as compared to others. little cold, little household chores or a little excercise will let hell lose. there were days tears fell from my eyes and i wished pain was transferable so we could take parts away. for now, the teenager appears to have overcome the challenges.


very little crisis recently and they aint severe. there was this day the lad cried "mummy what is this, what is this,, God, Jesus, please now, pls help me". this was abt 2am and we had to stay awake. just one of the days i had to shed tears.

ive quited 2 great relationships cos of this and b4 i got my wife 2 b, 1 of the first things i inquire from a lady i plan 2 befriend is her genotype.. No time to waste. I don't think u will b glad to hear your child asking u, " mummy what is this" or "y me".. plus dont get religious saying u got Faith. God has given man wisdom to be guided. dont tempt him.

i bought in Suleja at 150 and along kaduna kafanchan road, they sell upward of 145. thing is this dpr are just noise makers. they only catch and announce as publicity stunts. but most of the others caught simply roger them and thats all. besides, most of the stations selling above 87 only sell early in the morning b4 dpr resumes work and later in the evening when dpr must have closed. sooo, all these call this call that na wash.

So i am being bashed for wanting to keep my wife Hardworking. Plus its not abt affordability oh. just that while in sch, i came across a good no of students who cant spare any time to wash Cloths. they rather borrow money to take their cloths for laundry rather than to do it themselves. my findings reveals that most of such people were born to meet the washing Machine at home or just had maids doing it. i then came to the conclusion that there is a Spirit of laziness attached to the Machine. I no want make e posess my wife. thats y ohh.

So i remember those days when my mum will give me a tray with 3-4dishes of cooked Rice and stew to share to neighbors around. I carry the tray on my head in one direction while my Sis takes hers in another. where is grew up, due to religious crisis, u could count 10k houses in a Christian area with non belonging to a muslim and vice versa. Thus if its Christmas, its like everyone is celebrating. Most times, once i deliver the food, the mother of the house quickly turns it, rinse the plate and pour in her own rice and stew. i notice this practice is still very much alive today. Hence i ask, is there any wisdom in exchanging rice and stew for rice and stew? Am thinking my wife to b should not do that.

She's an adulteress. Divorce her b4 she kills u. btw, hw many days did u take to write this volume?

Cutehector:
Op is just confused!

absolutely... if i b Woman, Family First sha

Monalisa185:
well, this Xmas, I did something different...

yam and sauce + fish instead of meat....lol

We Know as economy dey Sis. We understand your different menu.

So am planning on getting married next year and my fiance thinks i should get a washing Machine for her. Well, i dont think buying it early in the marriage is proper. Though i knw she's hardworking, I feel it will make her lazy early in the marriage. of coz when children populate the house i can consider that. Abeg ohh, am i right or just being too traditional?
Feminist, this is not your food ohh. )

the problem with us today is that people dont take time to know Gods word.. hence, discernment is difficult. people often miscontrue someone who dosnt miss church or morning devotion as a "committed Christian". if u are consistent in STUDYING (NOT READING) Gods word, u get loaded wit knowledge and even ur life changes in line with the Word u injest daily.

op, my point is if u are fully loaded with Gods word, u will most likely discover by a mere discussion if your gf or bf is also well rooted in Gods word or not. Someone who shows a clear cut understanding of Gods word, and his instructions and does same is God-fearing. For me, by simply asking a lady what she understands as "submission as unto God", her response tells me a lot. ironically, except u two cohabit, most of what u get to know and believe abt the other person is what they say rather than what they do.

Simply put, a God Fearing man is the one that shows unrivaled understanding of, and action on the statement, "husbands, love your wives as Christ loved d Church". again, u need to b well rooted in the word to know if such knowledge and(or) action is deep rooted or surficial .

Chanchit:
If to say he don beg for the Hotel now, the 500k court collected would be used as part payment for the hotel, while he keeps on looking for 1m. The hotel too could let him go on self recognition. I don't know how he thinks he can escape with a dud cheque.

a little education for u. when someone is granted bail, it does not mean money is paid. it simply means someone who agrees to bail him if liable to payment of the said sum should he not be able to produce him in court subsequently.

dikeigbo2:
According to the caption, Ask your mama According to the content Ask your papa In summary you know what you want ,then go for it. Lol

If them no dey nnko? na who i go ask?

Help me satisfy my curiousity to know if its wise to marry a lady who is not financially independent. there's this thread i saw and NLanders made it look like its not a good idea for a man to marry such a liability. As i dey think my marriage late next year, i won Know who i should keep off from.
Also, married guys, was your wife independent?

can i Order a tablet from aliexpress?

coming

There is most times Gods kind of person for u and not a particular person selectedd by God. u are meant to search and find as a man.
this is the info u need.
http://www.titusinstitute.com/datingbible/godswillmarriage.php

Lstar4real:
depend on Kg ....give me the link .......thanks sir

i hope to add a keyboard case and thats y i peg the price at $60.


http://m.aliexpress.com/item/1797894457.html

pls how much will a it cost me to bring a $60 tablet to kaduna from aliexpress..? @Lstar4real

hnm

byvan03:
It's sad that people now prepare for marriages like they are going to war .

them done make me go back to dust my marriage books to see if there's somthing i missed out b4 i enter this "VALLEY OF DEATH".

prissyluv:
I want to know ooo.
Does it mean that a lady cant get married because she has no source of income? All the married folks here,were you all independent before getting married?
Some comments here are so very funny.


I understand that op is 21 and just got into school after her NCE. She already said,the marriage will take place late next year and that the fiance has some plans in place. All she needs is to think it through and if she is convinced she can handle academics,family and probably pregnancy when it comes,she should follow her heart and convince her parents as well.

And to those saying she should wait after school and get a job,I hail una oooo. As if getting a job or starting a biz is that easy.

I think u should create a thread with this heading:" Married Ladies, were u financialy independent b4 getting married? Share your story. "
abeg create am cos.the way marriage is painted here, e tire me ohh.

queenfav:
thank u ooo.The fact is some of us actually plan our life. I won't join the bandwagon of ladies getting married every saturday to prove a point .There are things I have to put in place and get checked out before taking that step.And ooh..I forgot! Marriage to me is not the be all and end all of life, neither is it the holy grail..!If it were my problem,I would have been married sinceeeeee. So not every girl you meet has marriage as a top priority.There are many rushing out,so I see no need to rush in to please anyone.I'll do it when I am ready for the responsiblities and obligations it brings with it.I have some friends who rushed into marriage and are biting their fingers already. I am a divorce attorney who knows a lot more about the harsh realities of marriage than you obviously do.I have seen enough to know that its not how fast you go in,but how well prepared and enlightened you are,to stand the challenges in marriage and conquer it. It is not sth you go into acting on emotions. in fact,you have to make sure you are well insured against unforseen circumstances that may happen. If you assume its smooth sailing because the couples u know don't tell you their problems,then you seriously have to get off your high horse!I pity any lady who would get married because of parental/peer pressure or the fact that they want to start a family early.That's why cases of divorce is on the increase!I don't know it all ,but I know that I won't get married when I am not emotionally and financially ready for it.That's a risk I can't take.

I understand you care less about marriage and that's y in my first post, i warned her to be weary of people as U . In my posts, i gave 70% positive and 30% negative points. you and the other "No" "bandwagon" didnt do that. Instead, u made marriage look like not something worth being excited about. You painted a picture of 100% 'hellfire' for one who will combine marriage and schooling. I understand you are affected by your environment; of coz as a divorce attorney, u dont expect people with good homes to come to you. All those coming to you are those with troubles hence your general opinion. but, u cant use that to give an objective opinion if u realy wanna do. from ur submission, a lady of 30 who is not fully financialy stable should not marry cause of the posibility of troubles ahead. How can i go into marriage making contingent plans for possible divorce? It simply means that i have not studied my spouse or the situation before taking the leap. To me, making alternative plans for a divorce or betrayal or broken promise in marriage is the beginning of failure. It is to me utter foolishness for a woman to seek a job just cos she wanna prepare for any eventualities like divorce or failed promises. Rather, she should quest for a job cos she wishes to support her husband later in the marriage.

For emotional stability, i dont see any big difference between a 28year old unemployed divorcee and a 21year old unemployed divorcee. Both will likely rush to their parents and cry. I think the lady in question has not suggested any pressure from external quarters. I observe she is moved by her emotions within her and she appears to be carrying her brain with along with her. Love is essential for marriage. My point is, when advising, give someone the good side and also the bad sides so the person can make an informed decision. Mind u, there is no friendship in the world, between friends, nations, or even between God and Man that is a "smooth sail". But what i know is that even with trouble times, Marriage is good and soonest, am also "rushing" into it. . There are more excellent ones than the troubled ones. If all it took to make marriage work was mere emotional maturity and financial independence, the USA wont be having this much cases of divorce among it's teaming working class; neither will the divorce cases of high profile Nigerians ever be. GOD BLESS THEE FOR THY SUBMISSIONS.

I got oily acne prone skin. Have had acne from age 16. Its abt 14 yrs naw and i dont have a clear face. Thats not my concern though cos my acne regulates btw mild and moderate. i havent cared abt using moiturisers but now that the harmattan is here,am giving it a thought. ive used niveabut it darkens me n breaks me out. Otentika was great but i think it clogs my skin. which moisturiser can u suggest? i dont want something that will lighten me much. just a smooth, soft face will do. thks.

I love the last 3 or so comments coming from ladies with even experience. Those other ladies posting earlier painted us men like some horrible creatures,with all of us having tendencies of abusing women and being deceptive. Truth is, i got many aunts who are in their late 20s and early 30s, unmarried and though being graduates have not been able to land a beta job apart from private school jobs that pay 10-20k and overwork them. Am not happy when i see them desperate abt marriage and crying like small babies once a relationship they hope will end up in marriage goes gaga. One of them who after graduating with a law degree, went to law school, served and married at 28. After a year or so, she had a still birth and its 2 yrs now without another pregnancy. She once told me "if i had known, i would have married while in school, at least, i should hav one or two children now". Besides, she wont be in school forever. At most, 4yrs and she can also start supporting him once she lands a job.

Fact is girl, take your time to study this man. there are good men out there and i know i myself will make a good husband . If you got the right person, looked at all the consequences listed here for u and you are fully convinced it's a go, pls take the leap. If your parents still insists, then i think they care less about your happiness and are probably more concerned of the EGO they gonna get by people hailing them for sponsoring u to a degree . I dont even understand y they should insist on keeping u and spending more money just for someone to come and carry u away and benefit from their labor when they hav someone willin to take away the stress rightaway. Well, maybe they are well bucksd up.

Lastly, since u say u are a Christian, if they oppose, you could get your pastors to intervene. sometimes, they wield a very great influence especially if u are close to them or have spoken heart to heart with them. start getting close to ur spiritual leaders now if uve not done so. they can also advice u about your plans. [color=#000099][/color] Just make sure u are academically sound sha else carry overs fit punish u especially if u got a child. U are responsible for your actions ohh. Look b4 you leap. But dont wait and expire at home.

and for queenfav who can wear a 'waiting ring' till 2017, na una type dem Olukoya and Oyedepo dey complain abt. I wish u well on your path to widowhood cos as Gordons talk, "woman wey dey 40 and never marry don turn selfmade widow"
romance007, Wish U best of Luck.

inpeace:
I ve never used innjoo but this one is super

lol, when the Phone commot? just wait and use it for some two months. thereafter, come here and collect hankerchief for your tears. twice beaten,.......... you know the drill. i pray u enjoy it sha and it never developes fault cos their Customer Care is an Apology.

Maruf05:
no one can beat chest and say this is how the future will look like .even your parent cannot guarantee you of getin job after your degree with the situation of Ds country.every oda tinz remain speculation!. you and your partner are old enough to make a decision for your selves.jst be sure of what u want and go for t. put God first. that's d key for success.your parent can't be around for you every time whether u lik t or not.but be cool with your approach with them. good parent will always understand their children's position especially wen thy kno thy are sure about t and support.

Gbam!! that's just the point. u hit it well
certificate is overrated in Nigeria just cos it's seen as the only key to success.
@op fact is by your age, u may graduate at 26, nysc by 27, and job by 28 that's if things work out like WISHES. by then you may be lucky to find someone who loves u else, the waiting starts and desperation sets in. u are at that point having fewer options and u may never get such marriage material u claim u have now. worst is if u enter 30, enof prayer and fasting be that. lol.

you are an adult and thus responsible for whatever consequence shall follow your action. your daddy and Mum have themselves to themselves. you will be the one dying of loneliness not them. at that point, not the best job can help u with a good husband.
also, if your current guy is the wrong choice, u still live with the consequence. just as I suggested earlier, let your guy be patient to wait till u are in 200lv. plus, I understand u are a Christian. so as hayzed1090 suggested, based on Paul's teaching, it's better to get married now than to keep burning with lustful passion, except of cos if u are already testing the forbidden fruit. with proper planning, and a good hubby, marriage will be a blessing to your academics rather than a curse.
U AIN'T TOO SMALL FOR MARRIAGE BUT WAIT JUST A LITTLE. AND ABOVE ALL, PRAY AND WAIT ON GOD.
lalasticlala n ishilove no go come chop this one

Girl!! u came to the wrong forum Co's most guys and ladies on NL are old cargoes btw 27-50 and unmarried. am 30 and unmarried top. lol.. we will thus not give u objective answer cos we are affected by our conditions. that's y many have expressd the deluded thought that at 21, u are too small to marry and u Should wait to "grow" and mature.

@topic, u are 3 yrs above the marriage age in naija and far ahead many married ladies in the north. thing is, marriage is good at least if u find Mr. right. cos of your studies however, I think a 2year delay won't be harmful. within this period, work to understand your man and yourself. keep planning with him on how the home should be cos that will guarantee u less problems later. he should also plan on hustling more and preparing to be a father. though I think he is already old.

lastly, as someone said above, keep reminding your parents that u are an adult and though u respect them, u are responsible for your life. you ain't too small for marriage. don't be deceive by NL Oldies. lol

I don't do anything less than 9inchs.

Oma307:
Y did u say so because am thinking of getting dis fone

cos of personal experience. my brother first purchased the Innjoo i1s. 2 months of usage, the phone would go hot and keeps restarting. later, the charger got damaged and the charging port needed u to keep adjusting the charger b4 it charges. he called them and they said we had to get the phone to Lagos cos JUMIA wiped its hands off. after some weeks without finding how to, the phone ended up with road side technicians. finally, he sold it as scrap.
For me, I saw the Innjoo fire with sexy specs. I wanted it at all cost despite the terrible reviews I saw on NL and JUMIA. I later took courage and bought it hoping they've repented. but 3 days into usage, I realized I messed up. the phone overheats especially when gaming and charging unlike my P5. plus, battery could drain from 100% to 40 within some 40mins of browsing with opera. a month after, a section of the touchpad stopped responding. then the USB cable stopped charging. had to buy another. the phone would sometimes charge backwards till battery drains except if I noticed quickly and remove the battery. then the touchpad got worst. it was a frustrating experience. I called Customer Care an they said I should get the phone to their Abuja office so that WHENEVER Whenever they get the touchpad, they will replace it. haven't done that yet. I met a lady who told me her touchpad stopped within 3 days of purchase. JUMIA took it back to Lagos and returned it fixed. one month later, the touchpad stopped again. she simply dumped the crap.
it's a matter of choice sha. if u live in Abuja or Lagos where u can get their service center agents easily, u may risk it. who knows, u just myt be lucky.

I can never advice my worst enemy to buy an Innjoo. God forbid.

Not even my enemy should go for innjjoo. my first experience with injoo fire and that of my bros with injoo 1s is terrible.
my bros has dumped the crap of just 6 Month.
for me, within first month, I noticed phone heats like "fire" especially when gaming or using and charging. the charging port sagged and d original USB stopped working. besides, battery drains like rocket. just browsing with 3g and opera and it leaves 100 to 60 within 20minutes.
2nd month, the worst happened. the touchpad stopped functioning properly. a section of the screen don't respond. worst is the customer care is useless. I first called and they said they got no touchpad available. say I should check in 2weeks time. it was 2weeks Friday and after calling, they said I should check in 2weeks again, like say them don program the lady. that was when I know I entered one chance. I prefer techno cause with all the falling, you just dust it and use. injjoo is scam. their office is only know Lagos and Abuja. unlike techno and gionee.

I found a solution online. booted into Chinese recovery. eemc option. that was the magic. thanks