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Op don't mind them joor.
Have you gotten your Sub?

I know this phase very well.
The stalemate of Love.

Thank you, God bless you

Forgive her and marry her.
She will still cheat on you but she will be more discreet this time, so you may never know

Ikpeabujo:
She was a very loyal girl and I knew that she loved me so much but right now I'm so confused and need some advice on what to do.
Meet her when I was in school and everything was fine. after school she lived with Me at onitsha because of financial issue and she never wanted to stay with her parents.
She was staying with me when I had an opportunity to travel to Ghana and I told her that she needs to go back to her parents because I don't support the idea of her staying alone as a woman and I shared some of my property with her.
I stayed almost two years in Ghana hustling and at a time things was not smooth For me that I don't care about anyone but my hustling even to call her was a problem and she thought that I'm beginning to forget about her and at point she will send me a message on WhatsApp threatening that if I leave her that she will never forgive me though I never took that serious.
Note: somehow or jokely I told her that I will marry her and she at the other hand promise me that I will be the only man in her life thus making me to believe that no man has sex with her all these years I'm in Ghana.
THE PROBLEM: I came back to Nigeria this year to roof my house and set something in order and eventually visit her and plan ourselves, but I was told that after I left for Ghana she never went back home to her parents but rather she stays with a man in onitsha for some months before going back to her family. I confronted her and confirm that it's true but she denied ever having sex with the guy but stayed with he because of finance ...
I'm so confused and I don't know if I'm to believe her or not. A girl that I knew Deep down in my heart that she like sex when we are together.
I just want to know if I cut her off in my life is my decision harsh or she deserves a second chance

If a girl can have sex with you, she will definitely have sex with other guys. If a girl doesn't have sex with you, she is having it with other guys. Don't be confused Op, this one is not for you. You can choose to use her as your sex mate or dump her and move on. Either ways, make sure you're In a winning position.

If a man cheats, it's the woman's fault.
If the woman cheats, it's still her fault.

Hi

I remembered when I was younger how my Dad use to change it for them. Well he is a lawyer and he always outwit or outsmart them

The problem with masturbation and other sexual immoralities is because the pleasure you derive from it is not lasting. Hence, you keep falling for it over and over again. The real lasting solution is to get to an energy level greater than that which sex can give. Once you experience this energy, sex becomes almost useless because you now experience a greater pleasure. That's true lasting freedom. Freedom from discipline is a suffering and there is a tendency that you will still fall in certain situations. There are many ways to attain higher levels greater than that gotten from sex. When the time comes, I'll teach some of these ways.

Revolution2022:
Yes O.I am.

Alright, if you say so

Sex, the fall of great men.
I thank myself that I learnt how to transcend the sexual energy to a higher form of energy. It has saved me from a lot of troubles.

Revolution2022:
I have been hearing of Sammie okposu's infidelity and sexcapade way back in 2000's.The man just dey use gospel music cover face.He Is a confirmed serial cheats.

Pot calling kettle black.
Are you any better?
What he needs now is love and restoration and not condemnation. Pray for him

Drop your WhatsApp number.
You can reach me on 09024387119

The wages of sin is death.
If you want to meet anyone, meet them in a public place. Man is designed to turn his back against you and stab you in the back. Majority of Nigerians out there are mentally unstable and will not hesitate to kill you.

...And the heart of man is desperately wicked, who can know it?

My everything

Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

You're very wrong in putting your mouth in an affair that concerns Father and Son. Face your own business or else, it will turn upon you.

And yes, the character is a red flag but na you wan marry na and nobody is perfect. Keep calm, he will reconcile with his Dad very soon.

Animegirl:
men are confuse chai.

You see better girl, still they talk rubbish. Pls, tell her you were joking and let her leave your sorry ass for a better man, since you don't like her. Don't waste her time.

Men are confuse and some of them don't deserve love from any women

Ladies like you are more confused
The op has a good heart and that's why he is seeking opinion here unlike your Yeye ex boyfriends that dumped your sorry ass after using you. Bingo!

Ife94:
Hi! I'm lonely girl who looking for a boyfriend or maybe more...
I got my profile there -> https://simplydating.site
Text me

Drop your WhatsApp number if e sure for you

DaniWhizbang:
In a bid to sound mature and responsible, you ended up sounding stupid. Do you know what the black pill entails? Smh

Am not referring to the nonsense that was posted online, neither am I referring to "incels" when I talk about my black pill.

The grundnorm of the black pill is this: in the thickest darkness, there is no difference. Whatever interpretation you make out of that statement above is your reality. the black pill is not a fixed phenomenon, it is changing as time changes and that's why many are not even aware or subscribe to it. The black pill is that which you take when you've come to your senses.

Most girls are cheap very cheap!
After they spend their earlier years fucking around, when it's time to settle, they'll start saying no sex till marriage. Lol... Very confused folks

lecturer50:
A 27 year old divorced woman with 3 kids came to me to borrow N20,000 to add and pay house rent.

I told her I would give her money in a few weeks time when I get the money.

Last week, she came back from her nursery school teaching job and right from the door of my room, she started shouting " I cannot sell my body for money"

I asked her what happened and she claimed men wanted to sleep with her to give her the N20,000.

I consoled her and told her that some men like giving women such condition before they can help the women.

She answered that if I am among such men who sleep with women before helping them, I should tell her so she could forget about coming to me.

I said that I am not among such men and that I would give her the money when I get it.

She thanked me and left.

I have a male neighbor whom the woman has been having sex with. It was the male neighbor who advised her to come to me because he is not working.

That my male neighbor started giving me attitude. He answered my greetings grudgingly.

I wanted to stop greeting him.

But then I observed that my next yard female neighbors also did the same. They stopped answering my greetings. That divorced woman is living with/near those female neighbors. Other males around were still friendly with me, except my next door male neighbor whom the woman has been having sex with.

So i asked my male neighbor what the problem was because he and the females around were giving me attitude.

He said nothing at first.

Later, he said in a friendly manner that I should have respected myself and not asked the woman for sex, because when he started having sex with the woman, it was she who initiated the move, and not him.

He opened up to me that the woman has been telling people that I wanted to sleep with her for the money.

I was so shocked and ran to go and meet the woman, but he held me and said that the woman strongly warned him not to confront me if he wanted her to continue visiting him.

I told him the true situation of things and he said I should forget everything because she is "just a woman".

I wasn't having any of this, so I confronted her in the front of her female friends in her room.

She answered that she believed we misunderstood ourselves. She said am I not a man? Why must what I heard bother me.

Some males around said I should forget it because the society has given women weapon against men which is rape/sexual assault allegations, because even if women are lying against men, people would still believe the women.

They said that the best a man should do is to hope he is not falsely accused by a woman because there is nothing he can say that anyone would believe him.

Because the society believes a man always wants to have sex with every woman, therefore every accusation from women would be immediately believed.

I answered them that even if a person is a chronic thief who is well known as a thief, he would not keep quiet and just accept it when he is accused of stealing what he did not steal. He would shout and defend himself.

At least let them accused him of what he stole and not what he didn't steal.

They say I am a man and it is nothing to a man if a woman accused him of wanting to sleep with her. One girl there was telling me that there was nothing wrong in a man wanting to sleep with any woman. That there is nothing to be ashamed of as a man, if you have a desire to sleep with any woman.

Can you imagine that?

I believe the society should form a group to cater for men also.

So many black men were falsely accused by white women and were killed because no one cares for the male gender. You cannot just accept false accusations because you believe it is nothing since you are a man. What if you end up losing your life, freedom or happiness because of it?

Men are so ashamed to rise up and defend the male gender. But women always group together to defend a woman who is abused by a man.

Men would rather defend the female gender.

But know that if you are ashamed to defend a follow man against a woman who wants to destroy him, when your time comes, no one would defend you.

What goes around comes around.

Don't think that you are safe when other men are not safe.

Don't think that if a woman accused a man falsely and the man is being imprisoned or killed, that you cannot be a victim tommorow.

If you like abuse me.

You're still a boy, grow up.
Mind your business and you'll have peace of mind. Truth is people will always talk negatively or positively at your front or your back and people act based on what they hear about you from other people giving them a bias about you. Live your life and enjoy yourself, face your front!

Generally, majority of older ladies are more matured and respectful. They've mastered the art of manipulation whether consciously or unconsciously and because of that, you as a guy may loose your guard and start falling for old cargo. Anyways, if you want to settle with an older lady, it's your choice anyways. Almost every one has an inner demon or dark side to them we only settle down with the person we feel will be the best for us. Truth is our eyes are clouded by experiences and we act based on bias.....

chriskosherbal:
Am sorry you can't be indifferent..it is either you are confirmed Simp or Red piller practitioner...

The red pill works like fire and it's so so potent ...

I never said I was indifferent, I said I belong to another class far above the redpill or the simp. The black pill is the highest level available even higher than the white pill. Black pill is bae!

KingZaddy:
you are probably just bitter and too dark...


And what exactly is the black pill? That women are worthless? Or what? Or that falling in love is a sin? Or women are for only sex? Or you just hate them

You didn't even wait or ask me what the black pill concept entails, you just generalized based on what you think you understand by black. Your definition of black is different from my definition of black and all what you wrote up there is thrash. Calm down and I'll introduce the black pill concept to you. Black is beautiful!

You're just disturbing yourself because of a woman. I don't belong to the redplll or the simp. I create my own and I call it the black pill. Lol

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram


E de PAIN me GA GA




Na WAITING de HAPPEN 4 dis useless CUNTREE self




I SWEAR DOWN



if I COME across does USELESS MANCHIS



Na to BLAST all der left legs wit my old KALA then BLAST der right legs wit my new KALA



I no go STOP der oooo



I go BLAST der BLOKOS from the left angle side, so dat d BLOKOS go SCATTER WELL WELL



PITOTO PILOLO MANTOTO



WTF MAN

Lolz ..... You be Capon or kushman for your past life??

dreyboard:
You mean you haven't enter 100 lvl and you have been writing exams for final year student?..., Continue

Yes, it's funny right.