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The problem with masturbation and other sexual immoralities is because the pleasure you derive from it is not lasting. Hence, you keep falling for it over and over again. The real lasting solution is to get to an energy level greater than that which sex can give. Once you experience this energy, sex becomes almost useless because you now experience a greater pleasure. That's true lasting freedom. Freedom from discipline is a suffering and there is a tendency that you will still fall in certain situations. There are many ways to attain higher levels greater than that gotten from sex. When the time comes, I'll teach some of these ways.

Revolution2022:
Yes O.I am.

Alright, if you say so

Sex, the fall of great men.
I thank myself that I learnt how to transcend the sexual energy to a higher form of energy. It has saved me from a lot of troubles.

Revolution2022:
I have been hearing of Sammie okposu's infidelity and sexcapade way back in 2000's.The man just dey use gospel music cover face.He Is a confirmed serial cheats.

Pot calling kettle black.
Are you any better?
What he needs now is love and restoration and not condemnation. Pray for him

Drop your WhatsApp number.
You can reach me on 09024387119

The wages of sin is death.
If you want to meet anyone, meet them in a public place. Man is designed to turn his back against you and stab you in the back. Majority of Nigerians out there are mentally unstable and will not hesitate to kill you.

...And the heart of man is desperately wicked, who can know it?

My everything

Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

You're very wrong in putting your mouth in an affair that concerns Father and Son. Face your own business or else, it will turn upon you.

And yes, the character is a red flag but na you wan marry na and nobody is perfect. Keep calm, he will reconcile with his Dad very soon.

Animegirl:
men are confuse chai.

You see better girl, still they talk rubbish. Pls, tell her you were joking and let her leave your sorry ass for a better man, since you don't like her. Don't waste her time.

Men are confuse and some of them don't deserve love from any women

Ladies like you are more confused
The op has a good heart and that's why he is seeking opinion here unlike your Yeye ex boyfriends that dumped your sorry ass after using you. Bingo!

Ife94:
Hi! I'm lonely girl who looking for a boyfriend or maybe more...
I got my profile there -> https://simplydating.site
Text me

Drop your WhatsApp number if e sure for you

DaniWhizbang:
In a bid to sound mature and responsible, you ended up sounding stupid. Do you know what the black pill entails? Smh

Am not referring to the nonsense that was posted online, neither am I referring to "incels" when I talk about my black pill.

The grundnorm of the black pill is this: in the thickest darkness, there is no difference. Whatever interpretation you make out of that statement above is your reality. the black pill is not a fixed phenomenon, it is changing as time changes and that's why many are not even aware or subscribe to it. The black pill is that which you take when you've come to your senses.

Most girls are cheap very cheap!
After they spend their earlier years fucking around, when it's time to settle, they'll start saying no sex till marriage. Lol... Very confused folks

lecturer50:
A 27 year old divorced woman with 3 kids came to me to borrow N20,000 to add and pay house rent.

I told her I would give her money in a few weeks time when I get the money.

Last week, she came back from her nursery school teaching job and right from the door of my room, she started shouting " I cannot sell my body for money"

I asked her what happened and she claimed men wanted to sleep with her to give her the N20,000.

I consoled her and told her that some men like giving women such condition before they can help the women.

She answered that if I am among such men who sleep with women before helping them, I should tell her so she could forget about coming to me.

I said that I am not among such men and that I would give her the money when I get it.

She thanked me and left.

I have a male neighbor whom the woman has been having sex with. It was the male neighbor who advised her to come to me because he is not working.

That my male neighbor started giving me attitude. He answered my greetings grudgingly.

I wanted to stop greeting him.

But then I observed that my next yard female neighbors also did the same. They stopped answering my greetings. That divorced woman is living with/near those female neighbors. Other males around were still friendly with me, except my next door male neighbor whom the woman has been having sex with.

So i asked my male neighbor what the problem was because he and the females around were giving me attitude.

He said nothing at first.

Later, he said in a friendly manner that I should have respected myself and not asked the woman for sex, because when he started having sex with the woman, it was she who initiated the move, and not him.

He opened up to me that the woman has been telling people that I wanted to sleep with her for the money.

I was so shocked and ran to go and meet the woman, but he held me and said that the woman strongly warned him not to confront me if he wanted her to continue visiting him.

I told him the true situation of things and he said I should forget everything because she is "just a woman".

I wasn't having any of this, so I confronted her in the front of her female friends in her room.

She answered that she believed we misunderstood ourselves. She said am I not a man? Why must what I heard bother me.

Some males around said I should forget it because the society has given women weapon against men which is rape/sexual assault allegations, because even if women are lying against men, people would still believe the women.

They said that the best a man should do is to hope he is not falsely accused by a woman because there is nothing he can say that anyone would believe him.

Because the society believes a man always wants to have sex with every woman, therefore every accusation from women would be immediately believed.

I answered them that even if a person is a chronic thief who is well known as a thief, he would not keep quiet and just accept it when he is accused of stealing what he did not steal. He would shout and defend himself.

At least let them accused him of what he stole and not what he didn't steal.

They say I am a man and it is nothing to a man if a woman accused him of wanting to sleep with her. One girl there was telling me that there was nothing wrong in a man wanting to sleep with any woman. That there is nothing to be ashamed of as a man, if you have a desire to sleep with any woman.

Can you imagine that?

I believe the society should form a group to cater for men also.

So many black men were falsely accused by white women and were killed because no one cares for the male gender. You cannot just accept false accusations because you believe it is nothing since you are a man. What if you end up losing your life, freedom or happiness because of it?

Men are so ashamed to rise up and defend the male gender. But women always group together to defend a woman who is abused by a man.

Men would rather defend the female gender.

But know that if you are ashamed to defend a follow man against a woman who wants to destroy him, when your time comes, no one would defend you.

What goes around comes around.

Don't think that you are safe when other men are not safe.

Don't think that if a woman accused a man falsely and the man is being imprisoned or killed, that you cannot be a victim tommorow.

If you like abuse me.

You're still a boy, grow up.
Mind your business and you'll have peace of mind. Truth is people will always talk negatively or positively at your front or your back and people act based on what they hear about you from other people giving them a bias about you. Live your life and enjoy yourself, face your front!

Generally, majority of older ladies are more matured and respectful. They've mastered the art of manipulation whether consciously or unconsciously and because of that, you as a guy may loose your guard and start falling for old cargo. Anyways, if you want to settle with an older lady, it's your choice anyways. Almost every one has an inner demon or dark side to them we only settle down with the person we feel will be the best for us. Truth is our eyes are clouded by experiences and we act based on bias.....

chriskosherbal:
Am sorry you can't be indifferent..it is either you are confirmed Simp or Red piller practitioner...

The red pill works like fire and it's so so potent ...

I never said I was indifferent, I said I belong to another class far above the redpill or the simp. The black pill is the highest level available even higher than the white pill. Black pill is bae!

KingZaddy:
you are probably just bitter and too dark...


And what exactly is the black pill? That women are worthless? Or what? Or that falling in love is a sin? Or women are for only sex? Or you just hate them

You didn't even wait or ask me what the black pill concept entails, you just generalized based on what you think you understand by black. Your definition of black is different from my definition of black and all what you wrote up there is thrash. Calm down and I'll introduce the black pill concept to you. Black is beautiful!

You're just disturbing yourself because of a woman. I don't belong to the redplll or the simp. I create my own and I call it the black pill. Lol

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram


E de PAIN me GA GA




Na WAITING de HAPPEN 4 dis useless CUNTREE self




I SWEAR DOWN



if I COME across does USELESS MANCHIS



Na to BLAST all der left legs wit my old KALA then BLAST der right legs wit my new KALA



I no go STOP der oooo



I go BLAST der BLOKOS from the left angle side, so dat d BLOKOS go SCATTER WELL WELL



PITOTO PILOLO MANTOTO



WTF MAN

Lolz ..... You be Capon or kushman for your past life??

dreyboard:
You mean you haven't enter 100 lvl and you have been writing exams for final year student?..., Continue

Yes, it's funny right.

I remember that year wey I be machinery for EKSU. I never enter university then but I dey write exam for final year student. And na A's I dey get. Those bad-good days Sha ..

hapydaddy:
Dr Akinola dept of Anatomy unilorin
Dr Olawepo dept of Anatomy( walking Keith Moore)
Dis two lecturers will make u understand Anatomy and are very fatherly
Prof Awe dept of physics unibadan.. This man took me classical physics in ui..very good, down to earth and knows how to take d class along.

Also Prof Bruni Girieli..an Italian prof of statistics..
Took me medical statistics..very down to earth..wears short and T-shirt with a canvas or sandal..

Dr. Akinola and Dr. Olawepo are now professors. Those guys are very very good. I respect them!

Jaylynn:
Lolzzz. I'm coming.

Missed you baby girl �

It can be found on WhatsApp

saphiere:
Men are evil. This year I vowed not to collect the least thing as recharge card from Nigerian men.

They always have a way of coming back to get something in return.

Work on your mindset baby girl, grow up
Sorry for all you had to go through in the hands of Nigerian men

This guy is a simp
Your wife dey cheat on you and you don't even know. No lady On earth can try this nonsense with me. Impossicant

Bad man looks good in Dior.

Rita005:
There's no gold digging anywhere as I'm doing well for myself. I earn over 200k monthly and I'm on track in my career path. I also have older siblings that send me as much as my salary every month. I am not in anyway a girl that falls for money.
As a lady, if you meet a man that's smart and ambitious, it is almost normal to like him. The question I raised on this thread was about my concern about his marital status but unfortunately, you guys took it to a different level. I understand you guys don't want me to become a prey but it seems an average Nigerian has a messed up mentality. I don't blame us because it's what we grew up into.
Anyways, he has initiated the divorce process and it's on. Since he noticed I'm skeptical about the whole thing, he suggests we should just be friends until he gets the divorce.
Thanks to you all that adviced on the divorce issue. To those who were concerned about him being a scam, thanks to you too lol.

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Open your eyes well and don't let your emotions cloud your intelligence.
How such are you that he wouldn't divorce you in the future

The reason many people fall into trouble is because they don't think far enough.

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states. Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride). A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind. According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence ,her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation. Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.
I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.
Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet. To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.
Thanks

You're 26years old and you're this dumb??
These are the format irresponsible married men use to get cheap single Ladies. Every married man that is cheating on his wife will always claim that the wife is the one having the bad character! This man just wants to chop you and clean mouth unfortunately you're emotionally attached so I wouldn't be surprised if you fall and get heartbroken. I am too stingy to buy handkerchief for you, enjoy your future pain!

subzeroth:
Secondary infertility actually...
Op, listen to this guy's advise.

Yeah, it's secondary infertility.
In primary infertility, there is no history of pregnancy. Thank you for the correction!