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callmeRichie:
doris4u, they were telling you the truth and you're still tryna justify yourself! Don't be so stupid to still be attached to a guy who literally has nothing for you again and trying to keep you around just to be fvcking you for free!

You shouldn't have his number again in the first place, and if u really want peace of mind, block him and delete his number!

Well if you still enjoy his company and don't mind being fvcked and used and dump again, continue, you should even thank him for unblocking you sef.

Wake up sis!

Am not trying to justify anything because I told him the day he unblockes me that shame would be his own ,and I planned to block him any day he unblockes me but I just didn't find it useful , trying to ignore him and act like I didn't notice.

Maxxim:
Op how old are you??
Just went through ur previous thread smh.

Age has nothing to do with my post so focus on the post

Descortes:
Shey no be you dey come here now dey complain say you can't let go?

Madam if you really want to move on with your life and meet better people who value you, delete his contact.

Besides he kept coming back and that was we're I made a mistake.
Will delete his contact

Descortes:
seriously I don't even understand why she still kept such a guy's contact after how he treated her.
Doris4u you lack self worth

I still have contact because we were friends after the break up before he started with his romantic talks of which I found out he was still with the other gal, but something happened that made us quarrel and stopped talking to each other.
I even realized I still had his contact when I woke up one morning and saw his status to realize he unblocked me, didn't even reason the contact issue.
Having his contact and not having it isn't determined that I move on easily, it's trying to forgive and letting go that matters now

yomi007k:
Good. That's all we need.

Yea true

DenreleDave:
He rather settle for a Virgin coz he is not ur 4th of 5th boyfriend.. Mayb sumwhere 7th..

No guy wants to settle with a borehole

Silence is the best answer for a fool like you, people like you are worse in relationships, it isn't a must you comment

[quote author=paulolee post=90831444]jus try to forget him...no matter how hard it is...i kno it would be more difficult if u both are sexually active for a long time but jus try n forget him asif he traveled or his dead and try find a new guy to love.[/quote
Yea true talk

Samysearch:
He wants u to be his side chick! Very convenient to him. Imaging u have a daughter who is going through same, what would be ur advice to her? I presume u will tell her to leave the lover boy right? Do same! He doesn't love u. U are only a tool in his eyes to satisfy his lust. Such men should be treated as plague. What nonsense. He wants u for a romantic affair and at the same time he is nursing his old relationship. Sister, be bold to delete his number and move on. U will meet somebody wonderful in life InShaAllah. Wish u all the best.

Thanks

Blackmann001:
Doris those are first steps of a comeback... He will later Holla you if you continue to pretend not to see him online......

He is even missing you more... But don't ping him at all... And don't check his status cuz he will know u did..... Just very much ignore him. He will Com around. Trust me!

I will just do dat, will stop viewing his status

yomi007k:
You were in a relationship with a guy that has a gf and you knew.

You were used, thats why it's hard to let go.

You have no reason being around such people and you really need to talk to yourself.

Be a good girl.

Well am not gonna say anything about u saying that I was in a relationship with a guy that has gf because u don't know the whole story but am will try harder to forgive and let go for my own peace of mind

Vyzz:
Okey, sorry...



Toughen up... Block him or mute him.

But it wouldn't solve it unless u accept the reality and truth..... U guys have broken up... Don't try to false ur self to hate him or lie to ur self that he isn't cute no more.... Just accept that it is truly over get over it as he has gotten over it.... Try to chat him up maybe and become normal friends.


Truth wouldn't hurt u if u accept it...

U guys are matured now

Ok thanks

Vyzz:
Why is it painful

Didn't u guys agree to let go...



Just block him back before u arrange boys to kill somebody's son all because he doesn't like u no more

Did u read the post at all, which guys agreed to let go. I can never arrange to kill anyone, no one is worth staining my hands, over what sef.

CokeBar:
Awwn! I can only imagine how you feel.

Let yourself feel and pass through the pain, you'd heal.

Thanks

CokeBar:
Yes, don't think about it. Just do it!

After you heal, you can save his number if at all he calls you but please put no one above your peace of mind.

Btw, what caused the breakup?

He said he was trying to make things work his former gf while I was still with him and I never cheated on him once. He said that after so much pressure on why his attitude changed.
The funny thing is that he still wanted us to continue being romantic while with the other lady

CokeBar:
It is very painful...

Delete his number, have peace of mind!

I will just do that bcoz am suprised he still has my contact and wat for.

Why would an ex unblock one after so much drama then wouldn't speak to the me, then seeing his status annoys me but I just try not to notice that he unblocked me.
Am finding it so hard to let go, it's really painful

Well a guy I chat with on a regular basis stopped replying my chats, he was actually asking me out and I was responding well, then on Easter day I wished him happy Easter , dis guy didn't respond rather he was updating pics of lady I suspect to be the gf which he lied that he had no one dating.
Second day he still ignored, I just blocked the guy, good enough the whatever I thought we had hasn't gone far

Nabiss:
You r so on point, i can Only greet my ex if i spot her anywhere bt will never keep her contact

That is for a man like you that knows what he wants, my ex still has my contact and can still view his status, wondered why he still keeps my contacts pending on how the break up went.

Benitam:
I'm tired of being single and serious guys are not coming forth.. I'm gradually loosing my mind. Somebody should advice me.. I also need prayers. Thanks

Well Benita just be patient ur husband will locate you soon. Everybody will definitely get married.

Well I still have few pics and his contact and realise he also has my contact cos we view each other status on WhatsApp.
I wonder why he still has my contact sef based on how the break up went

Tomide007:
Men can date a lady that they have no plan to marry....

At d end of the day they end of marrying rubbish

I still have my ex number even though we had a very big quarrel and he still has mine cos I can still view his status on WhatsApp, suprising why he still has my contact after all he did.
We still follow each other on Instagram sef.

[quote author=DaddyOpe post=89762140]I got married to my wife 5 years ago. Before we got married, she dated a guy. We all stayed in the same area. I live here because it is close to my place of work. Her ex lives in the area. He does building contractor. While they were dating, I met my wife. I was able to convince her to date me. And since the guy was always travelling, I was able to get close to her. I think I won her finally after we had sex. Because that first day, I scattered her brain. She later left the guy. I proposed, she accepted and we got married.

I will say, at that time I got married to my wife, her ex and I were on the same level financially. But, recently, the guy has turned to something else. He does building for people overseas. People said the guy's work is good and he is always getting contracts. My wife said he had a 2.1 in Civil Engineering. He started selling cement. He is now a dangote cement distributor. He built a duplex at the junction of my street. He has 3 cars in the compound (he recently bought 1 car during this lockdown that people are saying no money oo). I and my wife do not have any car. I am still a tenant. We have to pass front of his house every day.

During this lockdown, my office has being delaying salaries. It has not being easy. I have had quarrels with my wife in the past but yesterday was the worst. During the quarrel, she said she regrets marrying me. That if she had ignored me and married her ex, she would have being living comfortably. I almost beat her up. Then she told me that this her ex paid her school fees in 300 and 400 level when she almost pulled out of school for lack of finance. She regrets paying him back by leaving him to marry me.

Since then, I have not being myself. I just created this account to express myself.[/
Karma is paying back ur wife for leaving someone she would av had a bright future with, she might finally run back to that ex of hers of care is not taking.

Naija246:
the concept of love is a Hollywood phenomenon; it doesn't exist.
Any girl prophesying such to you is a scammer;
She is only after your resources.

Women are incapable of loving a man the way men desire to be loved;they can only love their children, not husbands.

A man loves idealistically while women love opportunistically

It's vice versa

[quote author=Monfeels post=89442424]I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice. [/quote
It's good u realise you have a problem, many people don't realize this thereby they are ok with wat they do to other people without battling an eye.
Avoid sleeping with different women, sure say one never curse you. Playing with people's feelings have consequences.
What you need is serious prayers, seek the face of God to help you.

NobleDeSage001:
I am still wondering how you got to the level of fiancée with a woman who treats you like a nobody.
Bros, tarry a bit, you may have to look somewhere else.
Marriage is too long a time for you to live with a disrespectful and unruly wife.
She has little or no feelings for you. She doesn't care about you. She does not love you.
A woman who respects and cares about you will always be on your matter every now and then. If she misses your call, she will get back to you the moment she is available to call.

That is wat happens wen a guy decides to wife someone that isn't meant for them then ignore the reasonable ones for silly reasons. Am sure she has been possessing some bad attitudes before this call stuff.
Am a lady and I know how I treat a guy I cherish with so much importance.
Abeg ignore her too, imagine d nonsense reply

Tajbol4splend:
You want to hustle to make someone regret they didn't choose you?

Being successful is the best form of revenge bro

Must the cloning be done with a computer

Tajbol4splend:
Maybe he didn't kpekus you during your time together and he's tryna get into your head so he can explore the road he didn't travel, just saying

Explore indeed, he is an unsincere person

My ex is in a serious relationship and is still telling me how special I am and how he is missing me and missing the time we spent together.
Imagine someone that pushed me away is saying all these. Guys are something else

ignis:
The robot president has been handed a 3 paged written speech that he knows nothing about. He is currently going through the written speech to get familiar with the words. The recorded speech will be taken to the studio for editing. Which will then be played to Nigerians by 8 pm.

Stay tuned.

This lady will not make heaven �������

TheOdumodu:
Before I start, I'm actually an old member of Nairaland but had to create a new account for privacy's sake.

From the very start, I knew something was coming but what I did not know was that it will be of such profound magnitude. I’ll have to admit I never really saw such deceit coming, not even in my wildest imagination. Left to me, she was the most perfect girl I’ve ever come across but like they do say, when it’s too good to be true, then it definitely is. If there is one thing I so much detest in a relationship, it’s infidelity.

One thing infidelity does is that it messes with the affected person psychologically to the point it becomes improbable to trust again. I believe we all have a choice to abstain from infidelity, if not for our self-esteem then for the respect we have for our partner and if both reasons can’t keep oneself from it then I’d say such a person doesn’t deserve to be loved. Cheating on a partner makes one look cheap and that’s how I saw it when I fell a victim of infidelity. I saw my partner as a cheap, deceitful person who simply wants to get down with any guy that comes around (That’s literally how I felt and still do).

Before I became a victim of infidelity, I initially had my fears due to rumors I heard about my partner sleeping around though that was before we started dating or so I thought. When we started dating, I held her in high esteem because I believed she valued her dignity, was matured, or at least so I thought and would not indulge in such but guess I was wrong. She lost the respect I had for her the moment her game was up. Now all I see when I look at her is a “loose girl” and it pains me a lot cause deep down I’m still in love with her and at the same time, I’m angry and bitter for the way I was deceived and emotionally traumatized.

The suspicion

Okay, there was this guy (Buchi) I knew was always calling her and all but she said he was her classmate right from primary school and that’s all. Though it was difficult to swallow, I did let it slide and put it behind me until I noticed something different. Anytime he called, they no longer speak English but Igbo and though I’m Igbo, it’s embarrassing that I can’t speak or hear most things so that was the advantage she had. It got to a point where she’ll go outside to answer his call and anytime they finish talking on the phone, she’ll become moody and this really got my attention big time. Whenever I ask her why does she become moody whenever she talks to him, she claims it’s nothing that she’s just like that although she gets moody a times, this was beyond normal.

From everything that was happening, I did not need a prophet to tell me that there was something wrong so I decided to find out what was really happening.

I feel ur pain bro, av been there and am healing gradually. My ex suddenly started becoming friendly but I put I bluntly reminded him of his gf. Inasmuch that I do miss him at times i av disciplined myself that I deserve better . The thoughts of being with her will surely crop up in ur mind but you have to let go for your own sanity.
She has studied you well to know ur kind of person and know that she will be forgiven for her stupidity, never go back to the arms of those that don't deserve you for the fear of loneliness.
She is gonna regret it then wish to come back but it will be too late for her to do so.
There is a saying that what goes around comes around