6pack:
I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. I have not been able to get her out of my mind.

She moved on got dumped by the guy in less than one month and she contacted me 5 days ago and I responded today. I tried settling it out and she said I responded late. That it can't work now. She even said she was going to see another guy . Like wtf.

What type of useless mind game is this please.
The fact is I love her so much. She is not the type that is after money or material things.
And I don't believe in double dating. We have been moving alone for 5 years now. I don't know how to get her off my mind. I have watch countless YouTube videos on how to get an ex off your mind but non is working. I have tried having sex with different girls just to get her thoughts off but its not working. This thing is affecting my hustle seriously.

Damn, let me drink some beer.
Life has been unfair to me relationship wise

You broke up with her, why are u now concerned

Daddybright1986:
This is what happens when you have good friends

My own friends cannot even give me a boxer on my birthday

All they do is post my picture with caption "Today , a scholar was born"

Emeka , did I tell you I am Chinua Achebe ??

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EdoFirstBorn:
Here are my thoughts

Learn to mind your business

Use your time and thoughts in something more beneficial

How can you sit and start to ponder on such a useless meaningless topic?

Focus on your life and build yourself up
Useless thread

my chest o

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Skillsnigeria:
Which skills/Handwork are you planning to learn

Fashion designer, the problem is that it has to be everyday training so therefore am planning to leave the meagre salary job.

Hi guys, I have been thinking of leaving my present job to learning a skill and seeing how I will try to establish myself.
Is it wise to leave a job and learn a skill at the present state of Nigeria.
Note : The salary of my present job is quite small . Pls I need advice on what to do.

Why would I have a good story about someone that intentionally broke my heart.

I won't say relationship is a scam totally, it becomes scam wen people date each for the wrong reasons. Las Las it still backfires

Heard this morning he is dead from a close friend

Bouz:
Come o!, how old are you? are you not over 30yrs and you are still reasoning like a small girl. you better grow up and start reasoning like an adult, which one is you cannot love again. respect ya sef o!

am not saying I cannot love again, I get scared once someone is getting close to me for love relationship.

Yusufisraelj:



It's has to with a fear or psychologically trauma, you may not be willing to admit, but subconsciously affecting you.

A hidden fear, check what made you fall out of love since 2019, did it left you scarred?

Are there things you are afraid of happening again or afraid of happening to you from growing up or experience? Check carefully.

Equally don't rush yourself, however examine yourself and understand yourself first and love yourself, you cannot love someone well when you don't understand yourself. Even in essence is knowing what you want in a man and spotting that in a potential partner before getting to know the guy.

I had a bad break up from someone I confided in, he was more than a lover to me. Yes I was in love with him, he knew but along the line stories entered

Nonyeadamu:


have you tried a man from the north before? I'm talking from experience.

Lolz no I have not

Oluromantic:
When you grow up, you won't have such feelings again. You're having it because you don't know love when you see one and you don't know how to love but you think you do. When you channel all your emotions to a guy and call it love, you've missed it from the beginning already. You're the one with the issue, not the guy. Real love does not cost much emotional energy. When you girls get it wrongly, you'll then harm yourself by locking up. If you're asked, you'll say because one guy broke your heart.

Most of you young girls are devoid of advice from mature men and women who are married, All you have are age mate female friends who add up advices from their immature minds to your own to worsen your mindset. You want to live like you'll remain young forever and want to get great results, some of you don't even want to leave your comfort zones and you want great results.

To even swindle from the extreme of intense love to feeling nothing means you're not emotionally balanced and that's not only dangerous for love but also for child training. You have a lot to learn before you love properly. The problem is with you not the guys. If you like lock up your mind for 15yrs, if you don't open your mind to learning, you'll still fall into wrong hands.

Thanks noted

Introvertmemer:
Do you feel numb and emotionless,and know that you're supposed to feel something but still cant ?

Nah not numb, wen I try to love the person, I just get scared and pull away from the person.

Good evening guys, hope our weekend went well cos my did even though I was full of thoughts.
Have you ever have feeling that you can't love again or your finding it difficult to love.
I am in this situation , even though I have been out of relationship since 2019.
I have a lot of admirers but I don't feel like trying to love anyone to start up something. Even when a guy tries to get close to me, I feel scared and push him
away. Have anyone been in my shoes before?

Sixfeetbelle:


That's the one thing I don't encourage from guys. Once I cut you off, I ain't getting cozy with you no more. In fact, with how rude I'd be towards you, you'd find your square root sharply.

He is a confused fellow, at times he apologizes over and over again and I remind him that I have forgiven him.
He has no reason to be rude toward me because he did the breaking up, rather am the one that has the tendency of being rude to him which I don't, no need for that. Life goes on

The guy said he wanted to go back to his former gal, I let him go even thou it was very painful. Relationship no be by force .
Till date he acts so friendly towards me like he got a motive.
Chat me up sometimes to fool himself

BUSHYANUS:
My fiancee made me take loan with my teacher salary. Big money for her which I am going to repay in five years. Just after I gave her the money, she has blocked my number.

Please help me

When I hear fiancee did this and that on nairaland I begin to wonder how guys dated such ladies to the point of engagement. God just helped you my brother , you were going to marry a dangerous gold digger.

Maryjane001:

I v been there before my dear. Experiences I v had made me run far from anything relationships. I see them as hardwork that requires me to be vulnerable to the other person. This vulnerability scares the hell out of me

Yes Exactly

Bobmaintain:
Hello Fam.
Please, I'm trying to gather enough information about the emotional and psychological makeup of individuals based on their own perception of events that have occurred in their lives.

Now, I picked one aspect of this matter - heartbreaks. I believe that most people in the world have experienced this at one point in their lives or another...Either in a relationship (like being dumped), business deal (like being cheated), family decision (like being excluded in a Will), etc.

I see heartbreaks taking a lot of emotional and psycho-biological toll on both teenagers and adults (especially those you think are big enough and have the well-withal to come off it easily, and I ask why? I have seen people sink into depression, commit suicide and even murder due to heartbreaks. We see all these things around us and we either condemn, berate, chastise, encourage or sympathize with the victims going through such.

Now to you as an individual, what is it that really made a heartbreak so painful to you that it weighed you down? Please lend me a piece of your mind. I don't mind a sneak peek into your thoughts and what you've been through in live...Please share with me...(((smiles)))
Thank you!



Please Lalasticlala, Dominique, Mynd44, this post is for educational and research purposes, thus I will highly appreciate if it gets a slot at the front page for wider views and opinions.
Thank you once more!

The heartbreak I experienced is wat I wouldn't wish for my enemy but it happened. The moment u confided in that person, the person knows your pain and still did worse things to make you remember of the past pain, that's betrayal.
I almost fell into depression but I had to control myself that it wasn't worth it all.
Those memories are difficult to forget

Kuns84:
Both your ex and this new babe are cut from the same cloth. Leeches. Ex was outrightly doubledating, while this one doesn't "bill" you because she's been financed by someone else (whom you think is just a friend)

In case you haven't gave it much thought, your ex was having the same mind-blowing sex with the other guy as she was with you; you were going down on her slurping the juices from that other guy's prick and yet you are here wailing because of some filthy sex with your ex.

Nigerian guys are some of the most desperate and weakest dudes I've ever seen in my life!
Nonsense

Wow coming from a guy

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

Ur fiancee seems a smart type, a male bestie is a bit dangerous. Be cautious before you marry her

Serene123:


Have u hacked someone WhatsApp chat b4?


If u haven't, then keep calm bro.
Whenever she is online, I get notified and read everything she is typing

I am yet to see any evidence between her and that guy.

Sorry for derailing , how do u hack one's WhatsApp without having access to the phone

My new resolution is to be a better version of myself, having a more forgiving spirit towards my ex even though we are still on talking terms and lastly have a family of my own soonest.

durasome:
.sorry but what sort of human are you? For three good yrs you still find it difficult to forget a particular girl,like what exactly was she to you while the relationship lasted, or are you just being a low self esteem ed fellow that you can't get yourself another human to continue with your life?I mean like why would it take you fucking good 4 years to forget an ordinary pussy that another man somewhere is using as we speak now to play football, am just pist by this now!

Well he can't be blamed totally, there's a certain kind of betrayal one would experience from an ex, it would be difficult to forget especially wen uv not gotten a replacement. The 3years is quite long, he needs to pray to forget totally.
No human being ,I repeat no human being is worth stressing over.

I have lost in interest in relationships

Confuzedman:
That is the only reason she gave me. she said I expect too much from her in a relationship and she wonders what will happen when we marry

I believe God is trying to save you from a failed marriage, pray about it before tieing the knot.

Confuzedman:
This is not a fiction, i had to create a new acct for advise. I have been dating my fiancee for over a year, tho it was a long distance stuff. Trouble began when she started visiting regularly. I noticed that whenever she comes, she’ll be reluctant to do certain things. When I get back from work, she will start acting like she is sick, somebody that was online all day. Later she said she doesn't know market,i got someone to buy foodstuffs for her, she still didn’t cook it. Whenever she visits, same story.I decided to have a talk with her over it, can you believe she said I am complaining too much. She asked if I haven’t been eating before she visited. I was heartbroken to hear that from her. As if that wasn’t enough, she said she is not marrying again and she isn’t a housegurl

I called her to talk after work today and she was still giving me attitude. Her friend is saying I was too harsh

Lalasticlala, plz help

If that is the only reason she called off the wedding, that means she wasn't really interested in getting married to you.

Well moving it a bit difficult especially if u expected so much from the person. I have been there am still there, also trying to move on.
Worst part is dat we still have each other's contact, views status.
U can pray to have a heart of forgiveness just like i am praying to forgive me ex, it's indeed difficult.

I saw the signs but love beclouded my judgement, finally he broke up with me.
I trusted him too much that he betrayed me even after confiding in him about pasts which I never opened up to anyone.
I realized some people can be demons in human form.
Later tried to be friendly, just kept to myself for my own peace of mind and sanity.
Unfortunately he was one of the guys I had genuine love and feelings for in a long while.

When my last ex left me, the experience thought me not to trust people's words. The ones you trusted will let u down.

Being betrayed by someone u really love can be heartbreaking, ask urself one thing is he even worth it.
It will definitely hurt but u will be fine in d end

TheCork:


Please can I chop kiss?

Oya chop small