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Zealoy:
Hello guys pls I will like some advice from mature minds here, there's this girl am dating she's very pretty, sexy and hard working, she loves me so much that each day that she didn't hear my voice it will seems to her as if the world is coming to an end

The problem is I didn't love her equally the same way she loves me, initially I only wanted her for sex but she's getting too attached to me, and there's one certain man of God that warmed me to dump the girl am dating, which is her, my problem is how am I going to let her go without actually hurting her feelings cuz I know quite alright that she might hurt herself if I end the relationship between us. She's dangerously in love with me and I fear it will end in tears for her.

Have u heard of a saying 'What goes around comes around' . So be mindful of how you treat that lady. One can't always eat his cake and have it

Charlex23:
See let me tell you something about Love. I'll rather prefer to be with a lady who loves me more than i love her, rather than to be with a lady i love more. Appreciate what u have bro.
It's difficult to find true love these days and don't let go of her. Those who u tend to love don't always love u back, but those you don't really love tend to love you more. That's one of the mystery of life.

So true , at the end of the day he would end up with a lady he is begging to love.

Good morning Nairalanders, I don't want to bore u guys with long talk , so I will go straight to the point.
I had a dream where I killed someone, but can't remember who the person is, that's all I can remember in the dream when I woke up. Pls do anyone know the meaning of such dream and how effective are dreams.
Note: Am not a violent person that engage in fights.

At times dreams come true or it could be mindset, I have actually dreamt of a particular person I was once close to appear in my dream up to 4 times, he was always friendly while I was the hostile one.
So it's possible the dream would unveil something in the future.
Dreams could come true so just pray about it

Whiteball:
It's a bit lenghty so bear with me.I'm in my late 30's very very eligible for marriage but still single.Alot of friends in my circle are married but up close and personal stories coming out of their camp and experience av had in d past isn't encouraging ,so i just wanna have a baby mama(These lady's arnt loyal).

Pressure from Family n friends to settle but am not giving in. so this particular friend of mine(now a true definition of born again- i wont mention name) changed my mindset and promised to help me get a 'good wife material' through his fiancee.

I yielded and i reluctantly gave him d permission . I'v never met his fiancee one on one bc she stays in a different city and each time she comes visiting her guy am always busy but we speak on phone.She gave my number to her friend (my hookup) we got talking but i told her point blank that am a christian but not a born again like ur friend fiance -i club i drink socially but i dont smoke,to my surprise she told me same here! (hmmm red flag bc i was expecting otherwise since her friend was a born again). I told her no problem.

This week my guy's babe visited town ,i was very busy still but was able to meet them at d park when she was travelling back. she was already inside d bus when i drove in.
she came down from d bus to greet me since passengers were still boarding ,she's beautiful i must confess with nice curves but was wearing all those long born again gown and holding a bible .I told my guy despite leaving 'd world' for us he still got good eyes,we laughed and joked she told me her friend(my hookup) is prettier i said wow cant wait to meet her.

Something strange happened,i noticed an old time friend in d bus which this babe was boarding we shared pleasantries and exchanged number he asked if my babe was travelling with them i told him she's my guy's fiancee not my babe he complimented her beauty also.

A minute later she said she doesn't wanna travel with this bus which they have already paid for again, she will rather wait for d next bus that her spirit isn't in line with d bus ..
I was confused and asked her to explain she said she doesn't want to go wit this one bc she's having a strange feeling concerning d bus but i should allow my friend inside d bus already to travel with them its fine -It didn't make sense to me,if u think this bus will have an accident i should at least alert my friend to come down too she said i shouldn't worry.

My guy waited for her fiancee to catch d next bus while i left for work.

The next day was weekend and i decided to go visit another friend(lets call him guy B) of mine so we could hangout . It's a big compound with plenty room n parlour self contain.when we were about leaving the compound together i saw an eye catching figure come out from another apartment wearing bump short,transparent shirt that was revealing all her breast going to dry clothes on d ropes...Behold it was my friend's fiancee!!!.

I was shocked bc yesterday nite i called my friend to confirm if his fiancee finally got a bus and had arrived her destination he told me yes and thanked me for showing up and for my concern. Someone that was suppose to b in another part of Nigeria was in another part of d city ? . Immediately she turned and saw me,she was shocked n her clothes fell off her hands. I didn't say a word i just walked straight with my guy B to my car .

She ran towards me and drew me privately and said i should keep it privately she will explain on phone .my guyB confirmed to me that she came in last nite and that's her boyfriend apartment i refused to tell him anything tho.

The reason why she left that initial bus begin to make sense to me now.

I need advise please ,ordinarily i will look the other way but the guy in question is my very good guy and a born again christian engaged to her,weeding is two months away. The lady also according to him is supposedly a born again but this dressing stated otherwise... tho i didn't catch dem 'doing' oh.

That is wat happens wen a guy decides to wife a wayward lady that pretends to be born again. Tell ur friend, it's left for him to go ahead with the wedding. Na wa o things dey happen o

Wen Karma will catch up with the lady she will be running to prayer house.
U reap wat u sow

chocolateme:
Have you ever felt too burdened that you just don't know how to unburden your heart?
Like that moment that you don't have or know exactly who to talk to on very pressing matter.

I am so heavy with load of life and its occurrences that I don't know where to drop it a little. Sometimes, I tried to type things here to offload my pains and sorrows but when I remember that encouragements no longer come from here mostly instead its mockery and jests that comes out of one's story, I just restrict myself from typing.
It keeps getting HARDER by the day for me like I am going to explode soon, I feel chest pains so much now due to constant thinking, I pray my blood pressure do not rise with the rate I feel embittered.

In all, I come here often to read some stuffs and smile to feel better.
I know that I have not stated any particular issue here but I feel a bit relieved right now to have written this. I know someone will read it and truly understand my plight even without knowing any particular thing.
All I need now is words of encouragements and a little push to be ok.
Thanks kind reader.

I was in ur shoes months ago , think am getting out of d situation, I was always lost in thought. I cried every moment I felt bad.
I talked to a few friends , dey really helped a lot by helping me see reasons why wat was bothering me wasn't worth it.
Dey engaged with chats and calls, with time I felt better even thou at times i still remember wat made me sad. Time heals all wounds.

Try and get busy to avoid overthinking, it would help a lot especially for things u can't change. You will have peace of mind wen u let things go for your own sanity.

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

Well my own happened in a funny way, whenever I thought if him I started feeling bad for no reason.
During that time a colleague of mine dreamt of someone trying to deceive me and warned me to be mindful of who I called loved ones and that I wouldn't get anything meaningful from that place am in, she told me to reconsider the people in my life. Funny enough the ex was behaving funny , giving excuses and all sorts.
Well las Las he broke up with me after so much stuffs dat went on and realized he still had my number views my status like we are friends even though I made decision not ever talk to such a person, I avoid him like a plague.

davedy:
Good evening Nairalanders

I'm sorry for bringing up to this platform but is of necessity for me to bring it . I've been hearing it from people but I don't know how they do feel about it. I've heard stories about how a lady cheating on her guy and a man cheating, but all these stories I do see them as fantasy or something that is not real. I've heard about a lady killing herself because of her boyfriend and I've heard about a boy taking sniper because of a lady.
Recently, I was in love with a lady in my office and this lady she is 35 years of age, I am 37 years of age and I asked out, we started dating after a period of time, she told me about herself, after all in the place of her work, she has dated about three different persons that she had sex with them. People in the office do gossip about her because of how waryward life. They do call her prositute. With all that, I still love her. Before I came on board, she told me about her neighbour and all what they've done like touching and kissing was the highest they have done and I said ok. We started dating and working towards marriage. At a time, we got intimate. I never knew that she was still seen her neighbor. She do go to his room to charge her phone. I never knew that they were having sex and she was having sex with me. she always claim that I'm the only person she is having sex with but I have this kind of feeling that she is cheating on me. I do always argue and challenged her faithfulness and at the end , she will put her.a defensive mode accusing me that I didn't trust her. Some days ago, when i challenged her with evidence if cheating. she confessed to me about how she and her neighbour been having sex and I was heartbroken, that night, I slept in a house I couldn't get it, I never knew that I love her so much, that was a period I knew that I was deeply in love with her. I feel like dying, I feel like everything is over. I love her so much, I want to marry her. Few days ago, I travelled to meet with my parents and discussed my marriage issues with then. I told my girl about it but she didn't blive. With all these, she didn't feel remorseful. I wish I had never met her. I am in pain.. What should I do? I am a confused man now.


Please Seun move to front-page. I will appreciate it. Thanks.

I wonder why some guys love a lady that is wayward, uv seen the signs already yet you are considering marrying her.
U better reconsider ur relationship with that lady so u will have piece of mind

From ur story ur fiancee is not over his ex, why does he still have her contact in the first place let alone still have close communication.
Don't be surprised they are sleeping with each other, marriage doesn't change anyone.

If the relationship ended well on a mutual ground you can wish her a happy birthday but if it's the other way round, abeg just ignore, no need of faking happiness with someone u ain't happy with.

Karma is a bitch , dats wat happened to her. Leave her to predicament, she chose her path

No matter how good you are, people will still betray you.

Maybe she left u for someone else and wen it didn't work out between she and the person anger has taken over her.

Lisabi01:
Good morning family. I need your advice. This post might be long. Kindly ignore my jargons.

I and my fiancée have been dating for years now (childhood love). 4 years ago, we broke up for like a year due to her infidelity. During that time, I was with different girls who are worse, except a girl (Bisi) who was a friend then, and was in a relationship as at then (I'll come back to this).

Back to 4 years ago, after we (i and my fiancée)broke up, things starts falling in its place, and I started living large. It all ended after we got back together, and I was back to square one. I thought it was because I was still in school, but it continued after school.

I met another girl last year, we were just friends, no strings attached. This girl told me that I have a problem, and that I'm not bothered about it. My response was that we all have different problem and that this was my trying times. She responded saying "is this how your life was few years ago?" She asked me to go out to a pastor and make my own findings. I've never seen this girl prior to this, we just talk on phone.

As per her advice, I went out to seek for a divine solution (I never believed in seeking spiritual solution from a pastor, Alfa or a traditional worshiper, but I did this time around). I was told that when things was good for me, I had a girl that I dated throughout that time, and that I should try and connect her again. I thought about it, and they were actually right. It was when I stopped calling this girl that things went south for me. I told them I don't have any connection with her again and that i can't connect her. I was later told to be observant, and that I'll meet another girl, and that thing will change for me.

Back to my friend, Bisi..... She was in an open relationship. I envied their relationship then, and I was crushing on her secretly ( I and my fiancée wasn't together then). I met Bisi recently and she told me she broke up with her boyfriend. We became friends again, and we started getting closer. She doesn't live in my town, and we don't see at all because I don't have the time. But I noticed she's all I want in a woman, and since I met her, my pocket never runs dry. I don't have that intention of dating her at first until I noticed my pocket.

Now that I'm engaged, my introduction is coming up soon, and my extended family members and my fiancée's are all aware of the date. I should have done the introduction months ago before this pandemic, but my fiancée said some hurtful and hateful words to me which I still remember and I'm still keeping it to myself. She also have some attitudes I've been correcting but never takes to correction.

I know you'll say when I noticed all the above, why can't i bail out? There's a saying : the devil you've known for long is better than an angel you just met. She's that devil I've known for long and she's been known and has the support of family and friends.
You'll also ask: will they live together with us? My answer is so dumb cos I thought I can't find anybody better than her, even though my pocket runs dry. And one of the pastors said things will get better with her.

The dilemma I'm in now is should I put the introduction on hold, or I should go ahead with it for further observation on Bisi, or I should just carry my cross and work things out with my fiancée.... A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, so they say.

Insults are welcomed, just for me to be a better me.

NB: I'm not in a relationship with Bisi (not her real name)

Ur fiancee said hurtful and hateful words, do u realize u will hear more of that when u marry her. They say a leaopard never changes his/ her colours, that lady will not change. When you marry her she don gain ground o so no room for changing, I wonder why most guys make obvious mistakes before getting married.

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

Babe the new guy will definitely have good qualities because he is still new to u, wat makes you think he is even better than ur boyfriend.
They come like Angels at first then later u will realize their only demons that are waiting to devour you.
Think before you act !!!

Frankcallys:
She broke up with me while I was in the hospital. I was shot by armed robbers, stayed 4 months at the hospital, walked with crutches for almost a year and she thought am not gonna be normal again.

So she went and slept with one of my friends while I was still in hospital and unfortunately for her she got pregnant in the act. She dropped out of school, had the baby hoping that she's gonna be with the guy since I've got an injured leg. The same goat... sorry I mean guy got another girl pregnant, he stopped giving her attention and only cares about the child. The guy started dating her friends too lol

Now I am in better shape, no sign of defect but only a mild scar to show for the injury. And I thank God Almighty for the highly rated Nigerian and South African doctors that operated on me.

Now whenever she sees me, she always cry and kept trying to apologize for me to take her back. Can you imagine that? I always step away from her as if she's a plague. Oh... My business is in her area and she sees more of me

Karma is a bitch dats wat hit her. Continue avoiding her like plague

[quote author=vivsravine post=91936305]If you are not in his future they can't function in your life.

If they want you in their future they will do whatsoever it takes to keep you there.

You see those ones who don't want you in their future, they are full of laws, full of excuses and most annoyingly they are habitual time wasters

They will never lift a finger to help you no matter how good or urgent it could be, the ghosts always expect you to check up on them and give them your time, selfish beings.

What I wonder about men and women who indulge in this attitude is that, on the long run they will eventually make big mistakes and live the rest of their lives in absolute regrets and are always looking for who to talk to.

Open your eyes to see, the signs are always there, they don't pretend, they act their real self because they simply know what they are doing with you..

They are always quick to take sides and act like all is well between you two but funny how these things play out..

They very moment they realise that the games they are playing with you is up, you will hear them saying things like this :

* I was only taking my time with you.
*I was testing you to know the stuff you are made of
* I had bad relationship in the past, so I need to be sure about you
* I wanted the best for you and that was why I didn't come out plain with you
*Can I get another time with you to prove to you am here to stay.

How interesting, these people could be, they try to play god in your life and keep you suspended and still want to take your sanity and peace, but when you refute them, they feel real bad but they forget how they have treated you all along.

Recall also, they have no sense of commitment to you and most annoyingly they take you as an option, funny enough, when their games packs up, they come looking for you and wants a piece of the cake.

Give them all the space in the world, it hurts them like sulphur,, make them insignificant and infact tag them "" NEVER EXISTED "" and when they come around as usual, give them cold shivers play their cards for them and give them a wild chase, they will respect yoo and value the next person they will ever meet by defining their mission.

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People that possess this attitude always live to regret it, no two ways about it.

There is power in spoken words, so it's better you remove pride, humble yourself and apologize to that lady.
Ur friends are just deceiving you , when bad things start happening to you they won't be there to help you.
Even if she didn't curse u , karma will catch up with you so do the needful.

Olamila:
This is 5 yrs of being together

Yes 5 yrs of being together , not easy to let go but it's better u quit that relationship on time, she is showing how she will behave when you marry her, it's her type that will abandon you when u don't have money.
Guys see handwriting of a future bad wife before getting married but still go ahead marry because of love, Bros do the needful she ain't worth it.

Moving on isn't an easy thing to do especially when you genuinely loved your partner. Time heals all wounds so it's not a gender thing.

Most marriages crash nowadays because people marry for the wrong reasons.
Some will say is he my class , is she my class , how much does she earn, how much does he earn and sort of beclouded judgements. At the end of the day when dey marry they find out they can't get wat they are looking for.
One just have to realise if he or she can cope with his or her partners lifestyle.
So many things are just lacking in today's marriage

Millenniumlady:
Imagine my boyfriend slap me because of money I'll make sure i slap his existence out of this earth and that hand must stop working....Instead of you to be greatful is your money not her money all men playing lotto are potential thieves.....I can't wait to date an alpha male lemme see what will happen if i provoke him because men are starting to feel like they own women why they ain't worth sh*t. And as for you op pray not to meet someone like me because I'll sell your house join

���� Babe on point

landforeast:
What about the people they broke their heart
There you will see me. Poor me, I gave her everything, I mean everything any Lady will dream of. I was not bouyant yet comfrocomfo and doing all my possible best to make her happy. I never knew I was dealing with the devil's first daughter, I never knew all the smiles was fake, I never knew that deep inside her heart I am the Maga on whose back she climb for sustainance while she secretly keep dating another guy in Warri. She always told me she want to visit her elder sister in Warri then not knowing he was visiting a guy. We were all together in Benin, Ikpoba Hill to be precise. Can you imagine that I heard from a friend of mine who happen to come from her village that she got married in December that year. I was like "what are you talking about" but to convince me that he is telling nothing but the truth, he showed me the pictures he took at the traditional marriage. He was like "didn't she tell me". Instantly I started having running stomach, You need to see me, my eye balls was turning and my hands was fidgeting. My nerves was quivered and bitterness and agony engulfed me, how can Ebube do such an evil to me. I reached out to her Sister and she was surprised that she did not tell me. I called her and till today she have never picked my call, one day I called with another line and she picked and I was like "so you are now avoiding my calls" I sent her a powerful message and look for a way to heal from the wound. It was really very hard for me, I can't believe the whole drama was not a dream but a reality. Ever since then I started seeing women as evil creature, I will slightly get provoked at the sight of a lady. Till today I am still living with that scar, recently I heard she is having serious marital issues which I will not like to disclose here. I don't know Why women always think so weirdly. This is a girl I am ready to make her a happy all though her life. I posted a picture on Facebook the other day with my latest ride and she was wowed.
Maybe she taught I will never be rich
Fear women
Fear women
Fear women
If not for Children
I don't think I have any business with any b**ch any more in my life.

Well it's vice versa , sometimes one can never know he or she is dining with the devil till they show their true colors.
She is already facing her karma so let her deal with it.

I have never broken anyone's heart, funny enough mine has been broken from the guy I least expected.

Talk is cheap , never believe anyone 100% even if they sound so convincing and lastly follow your instincts.
There is nothing like unconditional love in Nigeria.

Salewa95:
The School is just like a secondary school!

He who does not know and does not know dat he does not know is a ........

[quote author=bogdaddy post=90848118]Maybe you ugly [/quote
LMAO am so attractive, am not boasting. just dat av not been so lucky with relationships, so that's far from it.

mrsteel:
@bold have u done that now?

Yes I have