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ojun50:
My dad
Bt he pass on yesterday
May his soul rest in peace

The worst part is I can't leave where I am because of the lock down

Am so sorry about ur loss, May his soul rest in peace

botrix:
Ask God for the grace yo forgive others

Ok Thanks

igbarasdynasty:
Eventually, those bitterness will kill you fast if you don't let go.... So you can't forgive your mom, your dad or your siblings too when they hurt you

How do you plan to cope with your partner because he will always hurt you so hard.... Humans ain't perfect... People will hurt us, but we have to forgive and let go of the pain and never allowing it to hurt the present...

We have the past as memories only to change the present and future, no one goes back in time.....

My dear, see how it keeps disturbing your heart, that's how the torment will continue until you make peace with those that offend you or those you offended too... Anytime you feel that bitterness when you remember them, your body releases dangerous hormones that will affect your health.... You are the one suffering and not them.

Yea I understand ur point , I know am the one suffering that's why i seek for advice and the answer is to let go gradually from ur post

[quote author=MrBrownJay1 post=88784338]just because you forgive someone that doesnt mean you should FORGET what they did... its good that you remember what they did and take measures to makes sure they never do it again...[/quot
Noted
Thanks

Good day guys, hope we are all staying safe during this lockdown.
I have been in a situation when I find it hard to forgive people who were so dear to my heart hurt me, even thou I promised myself that I would forgive wholeheartedly but later on when I remember the pain they caused me thereby I start feeling bad whenever I remember them all over again.
Have anyone been in this kind of situation and how did you overcome it.

She is already showing signs how she behave wen u wife her. She is already denying you sex but gives it out freely to others, imagine that. Bro that's a pre ample of how ur marriage will look like.
It's better you gradually disengage from such a lady because she is definitely gonna repeat it and by then no going back. She has studied u so well knowing u will forgive her wen she cheat, do not tolerate cheating for any reason. Kill that feeling u have for her gradually or she will break your heart soon.
Just an advice cos whatever you wanna do is already in ur mind

southniyikaye:
8 years, 8 solid years of sacrificing my effort, support, care was shattered in just few minutes.
Got her as my girlfriend in 2012 and we got married in 2016.
Have been the one taking care of both of us since then, worked, and sacrificed my all. Almost died because of her 4times not gonna go into details.
She was arrogant, stubborn and disrespectful but I was able to keep those attitudes in check.
We go two kids together and have been doing my best as a man, they never lack anything. But last year things got worst and she have to go stay with her parents this year Feb while I aquat somewhere trying to get my life together and start all over.
Am this type of person that put people above me, I put even strangers needs above mine, am 300% soft and take things to heart, a confirmed simp like ubunja will call it.(I wish the redpill will actually be a tablet to swallow) cos all I read couldn't help me cos I take things to heart too much, have taken this relationship to the heart.
The fact that I gat kids and a understanding wife still kept me going not minding the financial problems I have cos I believe one day things will change for the better.
I don't have friends, right from sec sch days, that's how have been, 1 man squad have been my thing. I can stay indoor for years without going out, I am not gonna feel it a bit. Enough of the stort(but just letting you know the type of person I was.)
2days ago so I was chatting my wife and telling her things gonna be okay soon that I am hopeful and I want us to restrrategise and plan for our future and that of our kids, I said a lot of of things that can shape our future but I was wounded by the answer she gave me like
WHATEVER SUIT YOU
tried to make her smile
And she was like, any problems?
Her answers, her attitude, her behavior was so cold to me, like someone who was already tired but just don't know how to say it.
I know she always want to live a flashy life, a life without stress, worries and pain.
Believe me, I can vouch for her, she is not promiscuous, but the way she spoke was like she already found an alternative or someone was already talking to her and she is almost convinced or sort of.
Have been shattered since then and I just feel like I was gonna have an attack. It really hit me so hard.
Maybe if I had been a bad boy from inception, It won't affect me this much. I can't just think straight, high BP, couldn't eat.
Pls guys advice me am going insane sincerely.
Eight good years and I can swear on my life, I have never cheated not even flirt cos I find it extremely difficult to cheat.

Cc ubunja

And yes I spent almost 10hours going through all ubunja's topics, tried to form the hard guy and just wave everything off and move on and pretend like it never happened but I can't.
Wish REDPILL WAS ACTUALLY A TABLET I COULD USE.

Cc rocktation
Cc farano

She has since stopped replying my messages and chatting me
And I always see her online

Hmmm poster the first mistake u did is marrying that lady, all this red flags were existing before u married her so wat exactly were u expecting.
Things like this can be avoided by being careful when choosing a life partner

The most painful words someone told me came out from d mouth of a loved one. My bf said 'me and my babe want to make things work out 'after so much sacrifices. Didn't say much to him after but i know he isn't my God and have no key to my happiness. Two weeks after he started chatting me up, I know wen he will regret it but then it will be too late for him

angela98:
This apology letter sounds convincingly remorseful. The person sounds truly repentant. I just hope he is genuinely sorry because the heart of guys is very deep. Hmm!

As in seriously deep

Guy why would u be thinking of a future with a girl that is asking a guy out and ur aware of it. You can't enjoy marriage with someone like that so it's her loss not urs.
Let her keep on with her acts

Unless u still have feelings for her why are u considering working with an ex in the same company, there is nothing we are telling you here that u will do, u will still do wats on ur mind.
In between pls I need a good job like urs badly, pls help a sis

When you have bad experience with someone you hold close to ur heart only to find out at the long run you weren't on the same page , fear hits you then pain. Why would I keep such person as a friend.

XhosaNostra:
The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. So when someone is hateful towards another person, there could still be some unresolved feelings there.

I feel indifferent towards exes. So indifferent, in fact, I don't care whether they're homeless, doing well, dead or alive. I don't keep them as friends either, not because I'm bitter or anything like that. I just don't see the point in doing so. I'd be so uninterested in their lives after the fact, TBH.

Yes babe exactly, where there is unresolved feelings.

Never to trust or love too much, being a good lady doesn't matter to some guys even when they tell u that you are a good woman. Forget those words, it's simple deceit

proclinician:
What's the worst case scenario here?

I think u know the answer

lavylilly:
Hello ROMACELANDER is been a while I posted here.

So this dude has been disturbing me since 2018 and I refuse to show him interest and even to consider his request. He didn't give up, he kept disturbing me like am the only lady in this planet earth and I was irritated by all this. He kills my battery with his call every blessed day, but i won't still take his calls, I kept treating him like a piece of trash.

At times he will buy stuffs for me and bring them to my house and I will shout at him and will reject them. I don't know why I was treating him like his not human being.

Earlier this year he confronted me wit one of his friend, asking me why am so.full of myself so I think he can't take care of me or what?? I felt guilty but didn't say anything to him. He still didn't GIVE UP. Am so scared to love again, my past relationships made me so.
COULD THIS BE TRUE LOVE?

Be wise in ur decisions, forget the fact that he has been trying to date you for long, human beings are evil, majority have bad intentions, talking from experience.

These qualities are for very few of them, most Yoruba guys are promiscuous and deceitful in nature. They don't value marriage, having affair while in marriage seem to acceptable in Yoruba culture

If u dare marry that girl, you will see hell o. Just imagine the way she is responding after being caught in d act.
Gradually dis engage from her and look for another good girl

Godwinsamson15:
Interested applicants should send an email and full picture to : hr@selcouthgroup.com

I have applied, hope I will be invited

jackals:
Why is that when you people see a good girl who is ready to stay by you, you try to frustrate all her efforts?

I'm sorry if I have gone too much ;but I can relate with what happened to this girl. it's painful

Good things are expensive to keep for the blind

My dear , Benin and Igbo people no dey too tally o, if it's a Yoruba guy no problem and again with the kind of response he gave, he is on the fence" . Don't wait for him to climb down that fence, try and have a proper conversation with him.
To get married in a family u are not liked is a very big problem, so be wise.

donstan18:
Nobody is irreplaceable or special to anyone.

Quit deceiving yourself!!

You people just go out lavish your money, fvck day break and useless your lives. Nothing else.

Abeg no even quote me again! Just dey go.

On point , it's a day some people deceive themselves

Next2Bezee:
Not everyone is the same; keep that in mind. If you become a shut-in, you'll be denying yourself the opportunity to meet someone trustworthy.

Keep an open mind, but be very cautious and don't repeat your past mistakes. Good luck!

Thanks

TeleboiZ005:
Are u a christian? Trust god.
ARE u a moslem?
trust allah...
are u a traditionalist
trust amadi or ogun
Are u none of the above?
Trust odogwu dike like me!

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[quote author=MYSTIC19 post=86511763][/quote]Exactly

Shibaraba:
Nobody go tell you.... .Continue.
I went through all your topics.... Omo mehn your case ehn

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Good day guys, hope we're enjoying your weekend. I have been in a situation where people I really trust tend to betray for their own selfish reasons. How can one trust again because I find out that maybe I trust the wrong people that comes my way thereby learning the hard way.
I know this might affect the new people that will come into my life because am finding it so hard to forgive.
So how can one really trust again.

tiredoflife:
U are a woman
And u are telling this entitled beast he did nothing wrong
Cant u see he married her job and not her
Is it not clear for u to see
Tomorrow she loses the job
Problem begins
He begins to call her useless woman
Why.
Cos she is useless without the job

In case u don't know, that's what most Nigerian men check before marrying a lady, thereby marriages doesn't last

Dee9977:
give him back his car and let him know he has been replaced.

Exactly bcoz he is having this mindset that you can't do without him

Rachael30:
Hi guys , hope ur having a lovely day. Guys help me solve this scenario, A babe and a guy have been having an affair then things went sour, the guy doesn't seem to be interested anymore. The babe has started catching feelings but can't let go, the babe wants to contact the gf of the guy, she is suspecting the guy to have been engaged to the gf and wants to share the chats and the guy's nudes to the gf.
if u were the gf , would you believe the chats and everything the babes tells u, I personally advised her to leave karma to do it's work , I don't totally believe in revenging.

Na wa o , the want to eat his cake and have it, she should ignore the guy and let go.
He would still be cheating with other babes

Thiwalade:
Most men are promiscuous, but i respect the igbos because they hide it from their home. That's the difference.

Yes dats the point am trying to make

MrHeff:
truth is, you are right.

But the hidden secret is that we observe, but won't tell you. Especially the little things.

A yoruba man usually knows if he will marry you or not, but he won't tell you. If he has noticed a trait he doesn't want in a wife, he may not talk but he will continue to string you along until he has found a replacement.

But if he really likes you and has seen you as what he is looking for in a wife, he will love you to a fault and will willingly give you all of him and everything he has.

I won't lie. We are very cunning and can be ruthless when it comes to matters of the heart, and yet also be angels on earth to the right person.

Just imagine how ur making an unreasonable point with so courage, why should one be deceiving a lady in name of wanting to replace her, it's rubbish na.
If don't want someone u open , this is this , this is dat, babe it can't work.
Pls don't make these u realistic point in a gathering, it's crap na