₦airaland Forum

israelmao:
My candid advice to all would-be parents is to give birth to children they can cater for so there will not be need to leave your children in the care of others who don't care as long as you live.This is absolutely brutal.

Supposing you die by accident as we're typing this baseless assumption and you already have 3 children. Is it right for anybody to treat any of your child like this? this is pure wickedness and evil, so pls don't shift the lame to the mother or the parents of the girl. sometimes circumstances can lead to the situation where children can be taking to a relative or even friends.

dre11:
https://www.newtelegraphng.com/edo-pdp-guber-ticket-untold-story-of-how-obaseki-emerged/

After this election suffer go kill people for who.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Ok. Good.

Can you knowingly marry a man or a woman who has been exposed to have criminal tendency just because you are not perfect?

nobody is perfect, she made a bad decision or was ill advice.

After 3 year If this is the issue u have against her forgive and forget because nobody is perfect.

shachris02:
I see you are not only d.u.m.b but ignorant id as well.

let me explain how this work. Now matter how well a Husband and wife plan on the number of kids to have, even if they just have 1 kid, whenever the husband who is the primary provider dies albeit immaturely, the widow always suffers. Couples don't go into making children hoping to raise them alone. I see you are still a kid.

For you to blame a widow on the number of kids she has shows how insensitive and immature you are.

Some of these kids are not even being giving out as maid. some people actually even plead for the child to come and live with them, saying they feel lonely and maybe they are childless or have just one child.

Fear any Igbo woman with bear bear, in short run

The devilish and wickedness of this woman deserves very serious punishment.

Top1gun:
While Azikwe Ojukwu Mbadinuju Ekwume Orjis Peter Obi Ikpeazu n Co have been looting your father without you making a comment castigating the looting ?! Yet your shameless soul jump n pass the shithole of Alaigbo to come run your cursed mouth on a person far away from the shithole you call home.

Don't mind the hopeless and useless people that live their state to steal children in the north and western part of Nigeria. Their brothers all over the world committing crime, while their sisters are moving from church to church stealing children. They should go back home and advice their own people and condemn them. Blood money tribe.

freshkpomo:
Idahagbon girl friend will be very happy right now, she go Don throw big party with Egor local government Council money...

I remember how she used cash from the council to fund EPM against Obaseki while she left some staffs unpaid for months, she finally got reported and was suspended for 2months after facing a panel.. But so many people did criticize Obaseki for suspending her, not knowing what transpired..

Obaseki is not a saint, but he still remain one of the best thing to happen to Edo.


Together we can make Nigeria better


Say no to old leaders.


God bless Nigeria.

which part of edo state are u from? Obaseki best tin that edo state? I fear who no fear u.

People of poverty will come here and start talking of Tinubu as if Lagos is their home. Go back to state and cry yourself a river. Aba, Owerri Akwa are all backward places, and even your so called coal city smell like shit. Go back home and protest for development. Tinubu is not your problem, stop taking panadol for another man headache.

Margy:
Sister Gloria... You media team are really working!


What a useless governor

Igbo Made bridge lol
lol everything is in the east

Chidiiro:
Is Mopha or whatever an Igbo?abi Hush na Igbo?It's like your tongue is itching you....

Is Evans your father not Igbo all the women steal children in the north are they not Igbo. I just keep quiet and hide that your big Igbo head.

[quote author=tungamaje post=91199905]I wasn't surprised the man is Igbo. In present day Nigeria, it's only an Igbo person I can vouch for to return lost money. Forget about 'Igbos too like money'[/qu
Llike your uncle Evans the kinapper

Evans brothers pls release the innocent child before God strike with mighty thunder.

The demon of rape now lives in Nigeria.

liltee123:
Miss Maduafokwa Agnes Egoagwuagwu is currently trending following the unveiling of her details after she had the highest JAMB score in 2020 UTME.

Miss Agnes emerged as the candidate with the highest UTME score for the year 2020 after she scored 365 out of 400.

She is the President of the Maths Club, and the 1st Assistant Head Girl of Louisville Girls High School Ijebu-Itele in Ogun State.

She wants to study Engineering, where she can apply mathematical concepts in solving societal challenges.

Agnes hails from Ihiala in Anambra State and she wrote her UTME on March 14th 2020 in St Michael Otedola Education Centre in Epe, Lagos State.

Recall that weeks ago, GistReel had published a list of Top 10 candidates with the highest JAMB scores in 2020 UTME.

She scored 72 in Use of English, 99 in Mathematics, 99 in Physics and 95 in Chemistry 95.

Maduafokwa applied to study Industrial Production Engineering at the prestigious University of Ibadan, Oyo State.

Her details were first spilled by All School NG, an online school portal dedicated to helping students with school related information and has continued to go viral since then.

See her picture below;

https://1knews.com/meet-miss-madu-agnes-girl-with-the-highest-2020-jamb-score/

You guys are now fighting over which amaka she belongs but when your criminal brothers are caught abroad. I don't see you people fighting over which amaka they belong. it is only lazy people that fight over another man success.

Something must kill a man

why masturbating, when thee are so many girls around.

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

A married man living with a single mother in-law. How do you expect her to feel when your wife is moaning at night. You have two available women at home and still flirting with another. instead of you to divorce your wife that don't like sex and marry a woman that will satisfy your sexual desire. you are flirting and prostituting with other women and looking for advice Nairaland. I wonder why men that their denies them sex stay married and start crying and looking for sympathy in Nairaland.

Edo State is finish 6 billion just to decamp and contest. How will he spend to win

babyfaceafrica:
Shouldn't obaseki have settled this people.. They will just pour sand to his garri

Binis are not hungry like your people that die of hungry during the civil war and were eating human corpse.

One4me:
You see, the FOOLS here are those Feminnist who have their own agenda and the few spineless and thoughtless Men who follow them just to validate themselevs and get rid of their inferiorrity complex, as a Men.

RAPE is a Crime but every Crime has DEFINITION and BOUNDARIES.
For example, as bad as Stealing or Robbery is, there is a clear boundary and definition!

- If you steal, (Take what does not belong to you) you would end up in jail ............That is the DEFINITION of Stealing
- If you are dying from Hunger and you steal food say from a Store, just what yo need to eat to survive, in most 'sane places', you are warned and then assisted with more food to eat and survive[/b].
You are not sent to Jail, like someone who went to a Store and Stole Jewelry! [b]That is BOUNDARY.

Women generally see Rape Charges as a WEAPON against Men because PUBLIC Rape allegations are against Men, (even though we know that Women also Rape men but as man, all the society would do is ask you if you did not enjoy the rape or did you not have a hard on ).
So, Feminists are hell-bent on ensuring that there is NO BOUDARY to this rape of a thing so that they can have the Flexibility to use it to punish men.......extending it into the institutionof marriage is a a coup, for them.

I dont care too much about the level of punishment that is given out to Rapist, as long as it is a GUILTY PERSON that is being punished and ot some innocent Man roped into a rape allegation. Burn a Rapist, Slaughter the person like Boko Haram, Castrate them, bury them alive, l am happy with all those punishment but just dont do them to an innocent Man.
It has to be PROVEN BEYOND DOUBT, which is the legal standard for all Criminal Convictions and Crimes that carry Capital Punishment.

So, let me touch on the marriage angle.
A marriage is a Union between two individual adults who CONSCIOUSLY and WILLINGLY decide to come together to LIVE TOGETHER, under SAME ROOF, as HUSBAND and WIFE.
In doing so, they have decided to EXCHANGE their INDIVIDUAL RIGHTS for 'JOINT RIGHTS'.
For example, instead of filing INDIVIDUAL TAX at say 41%, they JOINTLY TAX them at a cheaper 21%! That is one of the ADVANTAGES of being in a marriage.

-In doing so (being married), they have decided BY MAKING A VOW before GOD (CHURCH/MOSQUE/TRADITIONAL or whatever religion) and MAN (REGISTRY/LAW COURT) that:
* TWO have become ONE.
*MY BODY is no longer just my BODY but YOUR BODY
*YOUR BODY is no longer just YOUR BODY but MY BODY
* IN LIFE and DEATH
*Till DEATH DO US APART!

These are VOWS BINDING on both partys because you SWORE to them.
So, whatever is from your body, including Sexual Parts, BELONG TO YOUR SPOUSE. FINITO!
By Right, a Wife has the authority to DEMAND and GET SEX from her Husband and by the same token, a Husband has the authority to DEMAND and GET SEX from his WIFE ebacuse each persons body belongs to the other, as indicated by THE VOW they took under GOD and MAN.

Your Body is no longer yours, if you decide to get married, but belongs to YOUR SPOUSE.
Some people dont like this and they have decided they wont get married, which is fine.
Even the Property of your Husband (something women have openly fought for!) belongs to you when he dies, irrespective whether he was the one who paid for such property out of his personal sweat/money...and not his family, because the Husband and WIfe has become just one Body.
Women insist on sharing the property of their Husband INTO HALF when the marriage breaks up, relying on the same concept of marriage where everything BELONGS TO ONE ANOTHER (they never say 'it is his property, he can go with it).

So, whenit comes to his J.T or her Kpekus, it belongs to the Other and he is AUTHORISED BY VOWS OF MARRIAGE, to demand and use it as he/she deems fit.
YOU CANNOT SUE YOUR HUSBAND FOR RAPE BECAUSE HE DEMANDED AND TOOK SEX WITH YOU, EVEN IF YOU DONT FEEL LIKE HAVING SEX THAT DAY. IT BELONGED TO HIM AND HE TOOK WHAT BELONGED TO HIM.
If you dont like that arrangement, please BY ALL MEANS, DONT GET MARRIED! THAT DECISON IS ODNE ON FREEWILL AND YOU CAN REFUSE TO PARTAKE IN SUCH 'STUPID' VOWS/ARRANGEMENT.
BUT YOU CANT EAT YOUR CAKE AND STILL WANT TO HAVE IT.

Now, to the ISSUE of where one of the PARTNERS in a MARRIAGE, for genuine reasons (as opposed to trying to use sex as a weapon of blackmail or entrapment in a marriage), cannot engage is sex with their LAWFUL SEX PARTNER, it calls for for ENGAGEMENT, DISCUSSION and UNDERSTANDING!

ENGAGEMENT - You cannot just say "No is No", to your Spouse, just like you cant say 'No" to the owner of a Car, for whatever reason, when he or she wants to drive it. You will have to engage in a discussion with them.

DISCUSSION: As the owner of your body, including the sexual part of it, (you are just the physical custodian of it), you must have an OPEN, CANDID, CONVINCING and HONEST discussion with "the owner" as to why you want them to deny themselves of the use of what belongs to them.
It is not only Men/Husband that demand for Sex in a marriage and the Wife is unwilling/unable to give it.
Many Wives also demand for Sex when the Husband is DOG-TIRED, unwilling to give it, does not consent to it but the Wives still insist on having it.and still have their way, anyway

We have heard stories of women who 'assualt' their Husband because he would not get a hard-on, when they demand to have sex!
Its not strange! if you are not married, you may not know what goes on in a marriage.
Some Wives would Climb the Husband forcefully , suck his JT, roll it around it until it begins to respond and gets hard and they will climb him like Okada and have their way, no matter his protestations (dont think just because a Husband has a hard-on, he must be enjoying the sex, NO!
He is just participating in the act with his physical body because IT BELONGS TO HIS WIFE who is using what belongs to her.
But Husbands dont shout Rape on such things because they know the person involves is the owner of the J.T...their wives!
I wonder what will be the reaction of Women, if such act is termed as Rape and all a man needs to do, to send his wife to the gallows, castration or death penalty is to say:"My Wife climed me yesterday night against my Will" and that is it!
His word is enough and she is killed? Nice uhh?

So, both spouses are expected to have this honest and candid DISCUSSION about how they feel, why they dont want to have sex at that moment, why they want to deny the owner his conjugal RIGHTS, in the most convincing manner such that the owner can say, okay, l will not drive my car today but will walk to work or take public transport! I will make this sacrifice, this time.

But we all know how ((most) women see and use sex in a marriage!
It is seen a s a reward for doing something they want or as bait to do what they want or a trap to snag the Husband.

Yet the same Husband would be accused of infidelity, if he decide to get his sexual satisfaction outside.
Let us be honest, one of the reasons for putting one's self in that thing called marriage, whether yo uare male or Female, is because you dont want to have sex with any other person or strangers, you want exclusive sex with your spouse.
Sex is part of adult life, it is a necessity of married life.

UNDERSTANDING:
Marriages should be governed by love, not threats, Violence or Conflicts. Where there is conflict, the "approach" should be CONFLICT RESOLUTION, MOT CRIMINALISATION.
If your Spouse is genuinely unable to give you what belongs to you (having sex with him or her) at that moment, as long as it does not become "a pattern of behaviour" OR BEING USED AS BLACKMAIL/PUNISHMENT", it is expected that such Spouse should show UNDERSTANDING.
The key element here is that you are convinced that your spouse is not just acting-up or trying to bait you or punish you or entrap you.
The convincing is to be done by the spouse that is doing the denial and the onus falls on such partner to convince the other spouse to the point of understanding.
If you love your spouse, you would understand that one night of denial of sex will not kill you, "Tomorrow" is always there.
As a married man, my wife at some time, had an Operation and we could not have sex for five good Months! Even when she was 'pitying me' and says 'honey come and try it gently', l will say 'Dont worry dear, let we still wait, your health is more important tome than this sex, when you are okay, we will make up for it (And l never strayed to another woman).
I could do that because l knew that 'the body l was protecting, belongs to me' and sensible people will normally protect their own body!

Where issues arise in when the spouse makes it a pattern of regular denial and the other spouse feels his/her right is been denied.
Under such situation, the Spouse has the RIGHT to take what belongs to her or him. You MUST surrender his/her body to him/her for sexual pleasure.
Its not your body because "Two have become ONE". In Health and even in Sickness! That is what the Vows you took says, right?

So, dont take that Vow, if you are the "My Body, My decision" type!
You have FULL RIGHT over your body and yoru DECISION of what to do with it.
Dont WILLINGLY throw away that RIGHT to use your body as you desire and decide, just for marriage or the benefits of marriage.
marriage is a SERIOUS CONTRACT and it is enforceable in Court as we all know.

What we must NOT ALLOW to happen is Women taking advantage of Marriage while at the same time, trying to not fulfill their Role in the marriage, according tio the Vows they took.
Nobody has the RIGHT over another's body (Woman or Man), until they WILLINGLY and CONCIOSLY GIVE UP that RIGHT by entering into a Marriage Contract.
Marriage has a lot of benefits as we all know but it also has a few SURRENDER OF RIGHTS, most important is the Right over my Body.
There is NOTHING LIKE RAPE IN A MARRIAGE, going by the DEFINITION and BOUNDARIES of Rape[/b].

"Feminist and Angry Wives" want to use Rape to cow Husbands (Men is general) and hang it as a threat on their neck in the Marriage but l am also certain that [b]they will not want it coded in law that once your Husband says "he did not consent to the sex you had last night, you the Wife is guilty of Rape and should be sentenced to death, castrated or buried alive.
If they allow such coding for Husbands as well, in the law, then we are good to go!
Source the Geese, Source the Gander.

Common Sense is not Common.

Na man you be and your experience and knowledge no be child play.

abobote:
Seriously Oshiomhole ruled 8years without certificate, like Buhari is currently ruling a nation without one. But here Obaseki whom UI even testified for was disqualified

I hope this show you that Osho Baba and your father are not mate.

ednut1:
Why is this Aisha behaving like a witch self.

Don't mind the stupid woman, is it her duty to send anybody to isolation centre. All fool women are in all doing more than themselves. And some woman wrapper will come here to defend them.

Ariza:
Forcing your wife may not violate any law, (not sure of religion because Christianity does not and will never support rape). But forcing your wife violate her. You don't see your wife as a being like you with flesh, blood and feelings that is why you can force/rape her. And if you can force/rape her you can do it to another woman. If you can't respect the bone of your own bone , you can't respect any lady. And that makes you Sir a potential rapist.

You know it's now getting clearer why we have so many rapists around. Most Men don't see their wives humane enough to respect their wants or desires and we expect such Men to respect other females' No. As usual like every other societal problem it's runs from the home outside. One is left to wonder how many wives get raped by their husbands?

Well, that's by the way. On the grounds that like you have the right to reject sexual request, like you have right to reject financial request, or reject compromising some things, Your wife has the same right too. She's not a Slave, Marriage isn't a bondage then you don't be an Oppressor! . Learn to Love and Respect your woman.

when your wife force u to sex her is it rape? even when u are tired she will sometimes insist u sex. Only married men knows what I am talking about and guys that have permit girlfriend. not gay guys. lol

anslem04:
i didnt make an exceptions,right !! buh we all know women are emotionally being ... a wife can misinterprete one night of not in the mood into 101tinz, because every hate rejection hence why women/wives hardly make the move
I quiet understand your point of view, which is why i said, understanding & fairness will sort such situation. But with all sense of fairness men are highly @ disadvantage because women are raised to weaponize sex, a woman will only ask 4 sex when its a means to an end love dey one side.

I have wake up so many times to see my big dickk in my girl friend mouth.

Davash222:
But what if the woman is not in the mood for sex or tired and the husband forces himself on her by taking it by force, is it not marital rape?



Yes it's rape, we know, but going to report to police or other agencies is what I don't understand.

Imagine the scenario you walk into any Nigeria police station and you start telling the officer in charge, I was not in the mood, was weak and tired yet my husband had sex with me. The officer will first ask you, what happened to your mood?

If your wife start sucking your dickk while you are asleep is it rape? Fool men always defend women in everything.

Obaseki if you live in a glass house don't throw stone. You are now a condemn candidate. If the loser party aka Pdp decides to take you. they are on their own.

fergie006:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2020/06/edo-2020-apc-appeal-committee-upholds-obasekis-disqualification/amp/

Oshomoele no dey kill person remain. he must make sure u die finish. Rest in peace Obaseki politically.

SpecialAdviser:
There is one thing people really have to pick about this Obaseki which is why we keep on saying he is MAN and can never be compared to Ambode.

Ambode could not have this courage and tried one yeye press conference at the time he realised it was over.
And to those of you saying Obaseki was not loyal. Lol. I laugh in swahili. A lot of kids all over nairaland.

Who told you begging or pleading with a god father is all that you need to get him offer you support?? Was Ambode not loyal to the core?
He spent all the time glorifying Tinubu and even went out with him to rally some weeks before he realised his coup.
god fathers come with a mountain of demands and it takes only God to fulfil them. They keep on demanding them until you get exhausted.

Who ever watched the world war 2? German Hitler army invaded USSR, killed and destroyed many cities. It took courage and great fight before the USSR red army fought them and turned the table around. This is what I call fighting like a man.

There has been peace meetings in the past. What do you want Obaseki to do?? Oshiomole demand will never be mentioned to your knowledge.
But the baseline is that the demand is not for the interest of the people but for his interest. So I do not really care.
Even if Obaseki loses out, I duff my cap for him. He is really a man. Enough said.

Are you from Edo State? Obaseki did not only disrespect Osho Baba, he also disrespected the national assembly.
In politics fair is foul and foul is fair.
Obaseki have beat the drums of war. Now he must dance to it.
I think now APC can even obey his executive order and go for indirect primary. Lol

Obaseki have been corner and caged, nobody can help him not even Mr president. Is now like a virus and of no value to the party.
Shakespeare said a coward is always right in his own eyes and a fool die many times before his death. Obaseki thought being a Governor makes him untouchable.