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The Relationship Paradox

In relationship,assuming 3 parties are involved; a guy's main babe enjoys the most while a girl's side guy enjoys the most.

This means that a guy "loves" his main babe the most while a woman "loves" her side guy the most.

Thus, It can be concluded that the girl's side guy is in a friends with benefits and the girl's main guy is in a relationship without benefits.

Skepticus:
Men who are highly ignorant of the bolded will often "console" themselves with the lines of "Women are confused". Pure BS.

The truth is that women will always find a way of putting the blame of their own conscious decision to cheat, on their man. Some would blame alcohol or "accidents" etc. It's the basis of the general advices that fellow ignorant simps and women (who are likely aware of what is at play) give like: "You are not giving her much time" (despite all your efforts to make her and the kids, comfortable), "spend more money on her" etc.

This is one truth i came to realise even before the red pill.
Whatever they do, they rationalize it in such a way that they exonerate themselves of any blame.

It is always someone with the fault, never them.

JasperVII:
Same thing I had in mind. If he has to bail anyone, let it be the man, na correct guy im be.

Exactly...

Thats what the Roman Emperor Julius Caesar did when a Young man was frolicking with his wife. He divorced his wife immediately and instead of him to execute the young man he instead promoted him, that same man became loyal to him till his death.


I think it's Wise to learn from this.

I am disappointed by how a quite number of men react when they caught their partner cheating.

Remember women are the gate keepers of sex, thus sex happens with her permission. A woman cheating on you is neither the man's fault nor your fault but solely her fault.

Never forget this.

The way to react is to punish the woman because she is the one you are committed to not the one she cheated with.

Kudos @ Harddon you really did a great job here.

In a relationship,a guy's main babe enjoys the most while a girl's side guy enjoys the most.

TheLionofLasigi:
I just found out that my dad was a beta male with lagos maddness.....and my entry into the world of finance suddenly made me some sort of alpha but really am someone who hates social interactions...nice thread anyways.

Uwc

Happy red pill Christmas to you all

Wish you all a red pill Christmas

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Compliments of the season guys..

Same to you bro

odinson1:
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Pls guys we need you Input on this

Yes.

Its just like you seeing a Ferrari or Lamborghini. It is appealing and will draw your attention and you will like to enter, only for you to enter and find out it can't drive or it drives very slow. You will be dissapointed.

Thats how it is to the ladies. Messi looks like an alpha on the outside but turn out to be weak.

Trust your instinct


During relationships signs are always there to observe inconsistencies in our partner's behavior but being clouded by emotions we never take them too serious that we become blind to see these things staring at you in the face.

Sometimes a woman says she is with a friend, our intuition has observed verbal cues from her tone of voice and has detected she is lying ( she is with a guy) but we mostly assume that we are over reacting and it may be a female friend. 99% that this has happened to me, it has always been correct, it's an subconscious reaction.

Another subconscious action is when they are lying and we are watching them closely, their eye tends to look towards the left. But instead of paying attention we tend to dissuade ourselves into believing them.

On a girl will only shows you messages from guys she doesn't like who are disturbing her but tends to deletes messages of those she likes so you won't find out, only for you to find out she is getting married in few months.

Sharpen your mind
You need to sharpen your mind to pay less attention to the words that people say and greater attention to their tone of voice, the look in their eye, their body language—all signals that might reveal a nervousness or excitement that is not expressed verbally.

If you can get people to become emotional, they will reveal a lot more.

Payying deep attention, you will pick up cues from them that will register with you as feelings or sensations.

Trust these sensations—they are telling you something that you will often tend to ignore because it is not easy to verbalize.

POWER OF INTUITION

The so-called ‘gut feeling’ is something that many of us may have experienced more than once.

It is what we use when we are unknowingly in the face of danger, or when we don’t have the words to express what is truly in our hearts.

It guides us even when the thinking mind can’t make sense of its own thoughts. It’s the feeling (often subtle) beneath the surface that ultimately points us to truth without the need for reason.

My story
When i was in high school, after a test in our final year our class rep was keeping malice with me while i was oblivious it.

Everyday i will talk to him and thought everything was fine, however my subconscious was taking notes of the irregularity and changes in his behavior.

In the night i dreamt that, we had a fight with him and he promised to never talked to me again. The next day i started observing him and i noticed that he was not really comfortable i was around him. Whenever a situation warrants me and him to walk alone he refuses.

After 2 days i had a dream that we reconciled, and to my utmost shock the next day he was very free with me. I was surprised till date at how accurate my dream was.

He then told me that he was angry with me and refuse to talked to me because. We shared answers during test but i ended up getting higher marks than him.

It was then i noticed something new, the power of gut feelng.

observation
You need to understand it doesn't matter what a woman most vociferously babbles about in describing herself for she may be the polar opposite.

Whenever a woman accuses you of something it is very likely it is because she is the one guilty of said crime. She is protecting what she is capable of doing or has already done.

Sometimes she will make you promise her you will never leave her but she will be the one to end up leaving you.

If a man listens objectively to a woman and her inane small talk, it is very easy to discern minute details about her personal life and psychology.

If he sharpen his mind without any bias he can see all the facade she uses to hide her real self.

88.) INTUITION
Trust your instincts: if someone's behavior seems suspicious, it probably is. It may turn out to be benign, but in the meantime it is best to be on your guard. —Robert Greene

Have you ever encountered a situation or person, and despite what was going on or being said, you sensed that there was more to the story than what your eyes could see?

And as time goes on it becomes crystal clear that whatever you were sensing was right? Well of course you have… In fact, we all have.

That my friend is called INTUITION.

We are often familiar with the five senses of sight, touch, hearing, taste and smell. However, what we are not very familiar is a sixth sense which is invisible known as intuition

We get rare glimpses of this elusive sense. Such intuitive perception bypasses the sensory nervous system and the intermediary step of conscious thought.

Just like how Logic lives within the framework of the conscious thought and is linked to the information gathered through the five senses. Intuition is subconscious and is gathered via the six sense.

lecturer50:
I read it in a book that almost all women are always very sexually excited and stimulated when they are watching people being punished.
Also I read that many women are always sexually excited and stimulated when they are undergoing punishment.
I read it yesterday in the library.
The book is called THE RIDDLE OF CRUELTY.
That is why I have come here to ask the ladies here if this is really true.
Of course I know all ladies will either deny it or will not answer, even if it is true.
I also know that the thread will be taken over by hateful males and even females who will be giving hateful comments.
Another thing is that people may not comment much on this thread.
But if I can get one truthful answer,it will be enough.

Its true... But it's not all women.

Thats why BDSM is trending.

If you come across 50 shades of grey you will understand.

Its not only the western women who love this. A quite number of Nigerian women are into it.

Why disturb yourself over someone that doesn't love you

TheUndercover:
I've already told myself I won't participate in that rubbish. Only weak men with low SMV participates in that rubbish.

Nice one Pete! The Man is Redpilled from the onset

This is the way it is suppose to be:

[color=maroon] PETE'S PRINCIPLES
Veteran Nollywood actor Pete Edochie has advised young men against bending the knee to propose to women.
He described this act as an insult to manhood .
Pete's principle states that "any man who gets down on the knees to propose to a girl is not just an idiot but a bloody fool."
Pete Edochie is of the conviction that an African man shouldn’t emulate this western practice and methods of life.

He explained that, it’s the whiteman’s culture and traditions to submit to a woman through the means of kneeling down especially when they wants to propose marriage to them.

What this means to the woman is simply that you’ve surrendered to her instead of she surrendering to you. That’s why whenever there is a marital issue, the wife sacks the man from the house.[/color]

[color=maroon] 87.)ABANDONED CULTURE

Our fore fathers were more masculine than us because of two reasons:

1. Our ancestors took and worked with their sons in the farms, hunted with their sons, took their sons with them to a masculine atmosphere and show them how to be a man.
Back then, it was straight forward for a boy to be a man.

No schools, people marry at an early age and wife was chosen by the father. The young man then builds his own house and is given a pierce of land to fend for his family.
Nowadays, our fathers are constantly working in the office, we were left with our mothers to do the job.

Women raising sons to be men when their knowledge of an ideal man is nothing but pure fantasy is detrimental.

2. A masculine culture: Our culture does not support simping. Men are seen as leaders while women as follows. When a male child is born it is often celebrated that a female child. Our culture encourages polygyny.
My grandfather married 2 wives ran both families.


Globalization: abandoned Culture
Throughout history, female nature was socially controlled through various means, religion, social shaming and jurisprudence are some of them.

For instance, British divorce law from pre-1900 where the husband would automatically gain custody over the children in the event of divorce played on a female being attached to her children to reduce branch swinging, and to police her behavior.

Compared to 21st century, it is safe to say they have abandoned their culture to a more gynocentric culture that promote weak men and strong women. Not only the britain but also around the western world and gradually the eastern world.

In Nigeria the same thing is taking effect. We admire the western lifestyle so much that we are willing to imitate anything making us unafrican.
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May him rest in peace. Too bad.

toscolee:
The balloon payment: Female predatory instincts come into play in this type of relationship, as a woman fakes love for a man until such time as she can “cash in” on him and dispose of him in the court system.








Janet Jackson comes to mind.
She used this tactic on that Arab Prince without pity.
There was a stipulated length of time in their pre-up, that she must remain married to the guy before she can divorce and receive settlement, she did not allow the time to even exceed a year before filing for divorce.

Yea bro.

Another women made sure until she was heavily pregnant which was immediately when her husband got a huge contract then she filed for divorce.

She was demanding for money from the contract, spousal support, child support and half of his property.

There is nothing new under the sun.

[color=maroon] CONCEPT OF LOVE
What is often forgotten is that until quite recently marriage and relationships were a pragmatic decision often made by the families of the couple, not the couple itself.
The concept of love based on emotions is beneficial to women. Man is weak when emotional as such he will be willing to do anything.
Women use sex to get what they want from men… but since sex is often a temporary thing as in a one-on/one-off situation. Women needed a more permanent/ long-term solution.
The reason why women need men to fall in love is because “in the name of love” men will DO THE 3S’ (SHARE, SACRIFICE, SUPPORT).

Men will SHARE their time, wealth, resources and wisdom… voluntarily SACRIFICE their hobbies, friends, opinions and dreams, even their very safety and security and SUPPORT her materialistic lifestyle.

Sure I can list many others but you get the point. When a man falls in love he will beg, borrow, steal and kill for his woman… this is why women push love over sex… because sex is just a physical thing, so after the sex, you’re gone… but love, love is an emotional thing, lasting much, much longer..it’s the thing that makes you stay and pay her way.

At best, women can ONLY love a man conditionally. Unconditional love is only reserved for her child, never the man.

Love is the greatest tool a woman has in her “Trifecta,” to control and manipulate a man (the other two being sex and deception).[/color]

[color=maroon] 86.) SEX AND MARRIAGE

Men that marry because of sex end up being frustrated. It is evident in threads on FP where men cry how their wives do not give them sex.

Marriage is not a sex guarantee.

Most beta males devoid of sex are of the expectation that in marriage, there is freedom to have sex anytime, anywhere and try on new techniques. Must end up getting frustrated at the end. For the marriage end up not being as rosy as it seems.

A man was complaining that his wife do not want him to do doggy style, she only allows him do missionary and he is bored. Another was complaining his wife doesn't give him sex only to find out she was cheating on him.

The best sex a man can have is beyond the confines of marriage for there is no holds barred.

Take the case of campus marriage. A lady will stay in a room with a guy and bang the dude everyday for a month despite lectures but will complain to her husband that he wants too much sex. She is very tired and can't handle his sexual urge.

80% of Men are sexually attracted to women they marry but 80% of women are not sexually attracted to men they marry.

When the desirable is not available the available become desirable.

Many Women marry one who is ready not whom they love. They love the fvck boys, the bad guys, the guy that can bang her well but because her parents as well as society will not like a guy with a mohawk or dreadlocks hairstyle she will go for a guy that dress responsibly and is ready for marriage.

Women date who they love and marry who love them.
The guys they love are who they end up fvcking while the ones they don't love are the one's they end up marrying.
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[color=maroon] THE VOW AND THE WEDDING
In a vow, a man promises to give his wife all that he has in exchange for her anatomy.

If you’re ever in doubt about the veracity of this claim, cut off resources from your wife or girlfriend and see how long she sticks around.

The realm of relationship is a different ball game. Those who mostly enter relationship are those who find it difficult to get sex and those who most have constant sex find it difficult to enter a relationship.

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
Women barter for material things and consumer items, and men barter for sex.

The symbolism at weddings helps reveal the reality of marriage

The entire concept of marriage has been more about barter than love for at least 5,000 years.

Let’s analyze the typical wedding. A bride dresses in white gown – which is supposed to reflect her virginity at the wedding – and offers herself to a groom in exchange for a diamond ring, a promise of financial stability, and all the other trappings of marriage.

Marriage is for women the commonest mode of livelihood, and the total amount of undesired sex endured by women is probably greater in marriage than when single

Additionally, the history of marriage has shown us the arrangement has been more about practicalities, i.e. sexual and reproductive barter, than the concept of “love” for at least 5,000 years.

Almost always, across every society that has instituted it worldwide, marriage has been about land and property deals between families, aggrandizing wealth, and creating offspring rather than the silly idea of spending a lifetime chasing a fleeting emotion. Men trade labor and resources for female sex and fertility.

Hypergamy is as innate a behavior in females as looking for sexy legs, asses, and boobs are for men.[/color]

[color=maroon] THE BARTER

The long and short relationship of the human mating game is that a woman has her price. You pay either prepaid or postpaid.

Countless of time, women trade their sexuality for money in society.

Whether for selling pop records. Whether it is paying for movie roles, car, promotion etc. women use sex to get what they want.

Most men never get a ride for free, except "the masters" who successfully and temporarily short circuit women’s natural predatory instincts towards men by either being naturals at seduction or by using PUA.

Some women demand more than others. Some are more up front about the human sexual interchange. Most try to be coy and pretend a man’s wallet or social status isn’t what interests them using the natural female talent for what Schopenhauer called dissimulation.

THE 3 CATEGORIES

Generally, female sexual relationships with men break down into these 3 categories:

The short-lived freebie: A woman develops a temporary infatuation with a new man(Alpha) , but her lust for him short circuits her predatory instincts. The male is disposed of as his novelty value wears off and she gets “bored” with the relationship.

The pay as you go: Beta males rely on this tactic to keep women in their lives; women tolerate men who provide dependable financial resources while often enjoying the company (and sperm) of Alpha bad boys on the side.

The balloon payment: Female predatory instincts come into play in this type of relationship, as a woman fakes love for a man until such time as she can “cash in” on him and dispose of him in the court system.

Women with jobs or those in high class have higher hypergamic intincts. Since she takes care of her basic needs on her own, she won’t be forced out of need to give sex to men who don’t provide her with the hypergamous socioeconomic status she desires.
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[color=maroon] THE TRANSACTION

Men desire sex from women and women desire resources from men

Men do care about sex, youth, submissiveness and beauty and not really on women carriers, social status etc.

If you want to monopolise a pussy then you have to pay for it.

If your encounters with women is to the realm of fun and pleasure. You can get pussy for free or almost free.

When relationships come into play, financial responsibility comes in.

They want money out of their dealings with men, since money is the source of status and power.

This pay for play behavior is not only seen in humans, but throughout the animal kingdom. It seems a vagina really is nature’s credit card.

It is supreme irony that women claim they’re exploited for sex, when the very basis of human sexual relationships revolves around the fact women exploit men for material gain on a daily basis.

Yet, modern society’s “protect the pvssy and exploit the dick” position

Who really has the power here? The female or the male?
The female of course even as she feigns victim status.

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[color=maroon] 85.) OBJECTIFICATION
Objectifying someone is when you see them only for a specific purpose. You can objectify people as sex objects, sucess objects, social objects, or none of the above.

Who are those who twerk on music videos?

Who are those showing their butt and boobs online?

The answer will be women.

The truth is that women will dress provocatively, display their unclothedness online etc and then turn back to complain they are seen as sex objects.

In essence, they act as sex object but get upset when they are treated as sex object but also seee men as success object.
Go to social media, forums, blogs etc and see how women shame broke men, unpopular guys and gus with low status.

A Question by Patrice O Neil

“Ladies, how would you keep your man if you lost your vagina?” the late comedian Patrice O’Neal used to ask audiences. When women in the audience would invariably respond with oral and anal sex, O’Neal would respond, “See, I gave you the chance to talk and you qualified yourself as a series of holes. I’m supposed to treat you special but you’re just a bunch of holes to yourself.”

This happened every time O’Neal popped the question on an audience. Hilarious as O’Neal was, the awakened man knows how right he is.

Women innately know how right he is, too, even if they vehemently deny it.

Given the chance to bring something else to the table other than sex, women automatically turn themselves into sex objects.

This is why men are always asking “ why is she so clingy, why does she nag so much, why does she become so dramatic and overbearing at times?“

whilst women are asking “ why is it that all men think about is sex, why can’t they look past that and see women [as people] and not mere sex objects?“

The difference in male to female perspective is simple, women don’t need to use men for their bodies to fulfill their gender imperative and thus it is not their psychological inclination to do so.

They are wired to use men for their resources and commitment and a one-sided friendship where a woman has a man in the friend zone which fulfills the needs of the woman to some or all ends whilst not being mutually beneficial for the man in any similarly equitable capacity.
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Sixfeetbelle:
Not willingly being in the same private spot as the guy.

This statement is too ambiguous, i will prefer you go further.

Bizideas25:
As a black man myself, I'm against racism and I'm no supporter of racism of any form. But this doesn't stop me from saying the truth. And the truth is that black people are responsible for the racial discrimination that they are getting.

First let me start with the black people abroad, specifically those that call themselves African Americans. These people don't know anything about African, the place they claim their ancestors originated from and most of them don't care to know. They don't even want to be associated with Africa. Ask these fools to name an artiste, city or language spoken in Sub Saharan Africa and they can't answer. They actually think themselves as being smarter, more informed and better individuals in general than people living in sub-saharan Africa. Anyone who doesn't value his place of origin deserves to be discriminated by people from places that he regards above his.

Secondly, let's talk about black people in general, home and abroad. I honestly don't give a Bleep about how many adverts you make trying to push the notion that Africa is great and black is beautiful into the ears of everyone. I don't give a Bleep about how many music videos you make to celebrate blackness or brown skin, all this is utter bullshit. The only way black people will be celebrated is if black people actually become great. And greatness isn't by making stupid noise, it's by actually working hard to become people others admire. It's by making your countries centers of attraction. It's by making strides scientifically and technologically. No one can be racist towards someone that they respect. How often do you hear that white people are racist towards the Chinese or other east Asians? It's because these people have attained greatness, the kind that inspires fear and respect.

Beyonce, LeBron James, Aliko Dangote. No white person can racially discriminate these people. Rather the reverse is the case. White people admire them. They have posters of them in their rooms and they follow them on social media. If black people around the world can try to attain greatness and stop crying like children about everything and blaming white people for their problems and get their shit together, as individuals and as a nation, then there will be a global change in perception of blacks and then we will gain respect as a race and racism will end.

The arguments you made does not hold water.

Not caring about their origins or going back to africa is not an audacity for whiteman to be racist towards them.


Who told you is only black man that suffered racism? Racism doesn't only involves blacks, chinese, indians etc were also segregated.

Sixfeetbelle:
"Can a lady not be raped even though she went willingly to a hotel room with a guy?"

I kept asking this question last night when that topic about the singer and that doctor made front page but no one could give me a logical answer and it shocked me to realise how sick and depraved our morality is in this country. Most of the response I kept getting was "She's a paid LovePeddler" the instant dismissal clear in their reply and it worried me how low our empathy is.

There was even comments that concluded she was chasing clout because she wasn't paid full amount (even though the guy didn't pay anything), citing examples of how loose ladies can be, as if it's enough justification for one getting raped.

So I wondered, is the possibility that impossible? Is it so hard to conjecture such a claim being true? Can a prostitute be invited to a hotel room by a client and not get raped or do we only judge these rape cases by the 'uprightness' of the victim? We know some ladies have been raped this way, lured to a place with a promise of money or fun and raped, so how much more a prostitute? Or is a prostitute not a human being that her claims are being dropped like hot coals? Are we this judgemental and heartless?

Some even became judge, jury and executioner, using the chats as evidence for their conviction with silly comments like: "There's no evidence she was raped in the chat, so therefore, it didn't happen." Have you ever heard of a murder case being convicted using only chats so how do expect a rape charge to be convicted in such manner? Are rape cases verbal exchanges that ordinary chats can prove or disprove it? Seriously!

To incite the accusation flame, the mods brought up the second part of the claim with a very controversial topic: "She asked me to pay $1000." and that seemed to seal the deal for the rest of you. Which makes me wonder: "Does being paid high mean you deserve anything that comes to you? Can a prostitute not be invited to a hotel for $100 and still get raped?


This situation leaves a bad taste in my mouth when I think of me ever being in this scenario and getting asked this annoying question: "Did you not go there willingly?" I ask: does my willingness to spend the night with a guy in his room cover getting raped and being dismissed so cruelly? Is that what Nigerians understand 'consent' to mean?

I won't be surprised to receive responses that goes along the lines of: "What were you expecting when you went to his hotel room?" Not rape, obviously, but Nigerians don't reason past their noses and it's becoming evident as the days go by. As far you went into a secluded spot with a guy, getting raped is on all you, no matter what.

And yet we wonder why rape victims don't say anything until years later.

First, I learnt that visiting a guy in his house means you are there for sex even when you aren't, so getting raped is your fault. Pulling my armour on, I cancelled that because apparently when guys claim not all of them are after sex from every lady they meet, that's not really true. Given the right circumstances, they can do and undo. So, a lady has to put up defences.

Now, I have come up to another thing to scratch off my to-do list while adding more armour to my defense.

Never go on a date with a guy at a hotel restaurant. Why? I'll give you a possible scenario my mind has managed to devise between last night's travesty and this morning.

Despite what it seems like, drugging someone on a date is actually quite easy. Getting them up to your room, easier. So invariably, you can't imagine how easy it is to rape them when they're inebriated/knocked out. Do you know the worst part about all of this? No one would believe a rape claim because: "She willingly went to the hotel restaurant with you!"

At the end, the question remains unanswered.

Does willingness to go to a private spot with a guy mean consent?

I will like i ask you a Question.

How do you explain consent?

Dpsychologist:
Now that we have establish that women do not understand loyalty...

Lets go back and discuss Power dynamics.

Power dynamics is out. Kindly go back to page 49.

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Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I hope you listen to that advice when depression falls on you

I do not give advice that is not from experience.
That same advice was what i used to Overcome depression some times ago.