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ThreeSquirrels:
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Hi dear

midehill:
I don't know how much vet will charge me, i heard they charge exobitantly. Any idea how much they charge?

Don't know about rapid but as for dogs in my area, it is around 3k

Mehn!

There could be the possibility of a viral infection. A vet is what you need else it could infect the others.

Next is the The 4 iron rules

BECOMING THE REAL DEAL IS A FAR BETTER GAME PLAN THAN FAKING IT TILL’ YOU MAKE IT.

Let’s be honest here… you can’t fake confidence and self-esteem. Positive affirmations can only take you so far.
You can tell yourself “I’m the shit” or better yet “I don’t give a Bleep. I’m an alpha male and I do what I want” all you want but… if it’s not you, then it’s not you.

If you repeatedly try to tell yourself you are something that you are not, you might be able to briefly fool others. You might even be able to briefly fool yourself. But in the end a lie is a lie. You can’t hide from the truth.

Positive affirmations only have meaning when they are true (or are at least on the way to becoming true).

Again, if you want an example, look no further than the traditional PUA community. PUA coaches and “experts” thrive on selling inexperienced guys hope that you don’t have to become the real deal, you can learn this magical thing called GAME to overcome society’s definitive value system (looks, money, status) and essentially fake it till you make it.

The truth is you can’t. Nothing will ever replace real value. This goes for a lot of things (especially business).
So make it easy on yourself. Don’t try to lie to the world and fake it till’ you make it. Do everything you can to become the real deal… you’ll thank yourself in the long run.

The Way to attraction

YOU CANNOT DO Little THINGS TO BECOME AN ALPHA MALE.

This might be the biggest shocker to some of you but here it goes.
The term “alpha male” is one of the most watered down overused terms in the self-improvement community.
You see countless sources on the Internet giving advice on “how to become an alpha male” and how you should become an alpha male because girls are attracted to alpha males.

The most common advice you see revolves around the idea that “becoming an alpha male is easy… all you have to do is not give a Bleep and do what you want to do.”

Here’s the truth:
You cannot decide one day to become an alpha male.
Status as a legitimate “alpha male” comes from years of conditioning as a guy of universal respect. It’s the result of years of being the top dog (or amongst the top dogs) in nearly every social situation you are involved in.

In other words, an alpha male is a proven winner in the business of people. All of those things that add value (looks, money, status, personality); an alpha male brings more of those things (not necessarily all of them) to the table than other guys. That’s why he is so highly valued and given more respect.

YOU DON’T GET GOOD WITH GIRLS BY TRYING TO GET GOOD WITH GIRLS…

You get good (better) with girls by getting better at yourself aka improving your brand’s value .
The more valuable you become, the more attractive you will be to women. The more attractive you are, the more CONFIDENT you will be. And the more confident you are, the more ENTITLED you will feel (as opposed to faking entitlement).

Most dating companies and pick-up coaches just don’t get this. Part of this is their fault (for perpetuating the PUA scam), part of is the result of them just not knowing any better.

Here’s the reality… I have never met anyone in my entire life who has legitimately gotten good with women (to the point of having whatever kind of dating life they want) by dedicating a significant amount of time to going out during the day/night to hit on chicks. Neither has anyone else in my circle.

Any time I have seen someone completely turn their dating life around, they all had one thing in common-
They significantly improved their personal brand and became better men.

This brings us to our next point.

Men who let their lives revolbe around women will be slaves to ladies.

What you permit will persist — Dpsychologist

While i was reading History of Seduction and came accross PUA when i real The game by Neil Strauss. However i noticed that their weakness is their lives revolves around women. They live their live around girls( some of them quit their jobs in USA and UK just to dedicate time to become pua).

Mystery’s breakdown in Neil Strauss’s famous book ‘The Game’ (pg. 193) is a perfect example of this. He’s traveling around America, seducing women, feeling great, then all of a sudden, a girl he’s interested in goes back to her ex-boyfriend and- “Mystery went quiet. He didn’t speak for ten minutes. Whenever we asked him a question, he responded monosyllabically. It wasn’t that he loved Carly, he just hated rejection” (p.181).

From there, he goes to see his ex-girlfriend. She’s lost 15 pounds, has a great arse and won’t take him back because she’s seeing other guys. He gets worse. He goes from threatening a Reverend with a knife to locking himself in his apartment and spending days masturbating to internet porn. This ‘black hole sucking up attention’ (p.192) was surviving on anti-depressants just so he could sleep.
The roller-coaster he’s riding moves closer and closer to the bottom of its journey. He was thinking about death a lot, thinking about hurting himself and doing something destructive, and suicide - “When I’m awake, life sucks. It’s futile” (p.199).

Mystery’s feelings of confidence and self-worth were based on his ability to achieve external results.

Women are nice addition to your life but are not the source of your happiness. Never let your world revolve around a womans bom bom or fine face.

A word they say is enough for the wise.

Mehn!

How i wish Nigeria was like this

Your Mindsets are very important

Once you start building up a set of traits and changing your life to one of a ladies man you will also have the same success they have.

The mindset is the core of all. The reason is that the way that you believe yourself to be is reflected in a non-verbal way threw your body without you even noticing. So ifyou think you are shy or unattractive that's how you will show off.

Wonder How?

You would bury your hands inside your pocket, do stiff body movements due to all the tension you have accumulated, look down all the time, avoid direct eye contact with others, when you speak it's in a low tone of voice nearly unhearable etc... You will act boring, dress boring, use boring and predictable lines with women, talk about boring things, and as a result women are turned off.
Most guys also are nervous and fearful around women.

They’re scared of approaching, talking to, connecting to, and dealing with women. Scared of rejection, being laughed at, or just fearful in general. And guess what? Women can spot a nervous guy a mile away. He telegraphs fear in everything he does, and then women are forced to reject him. He talks too fast, uses nervous movements when he talks, and he looks scared.

Whatever happens on the outside is a reflection of what happens in the inside. If you see yourself as confident you will act confident, you won't to be scared of approaching, talking to or connecting with women.

When you are shy or have low self esteem. Others will easily get this message subconsciously, and very probably many will take advantage from you and treat you like sh*t.
So by improving the way you view yourself you will automatically better your life because others will see you differently. You will also start doing things which previously you wouldn't and little by little attract more girls into your life. You will go out and start having more fun, you stop noticing less tension in your body, you have stronger opinions, you feel like meeting more people and so on...

Eventually you will believe that you are the prize and not the other way around. In the end it will be much more than meeting women. It will be about changing your whole life.

Making Excuses...
“ -Oh women don't like me because I'm too fat!”
“ -Oh women don't like me because I'm not rich!”
“ -Oh women don't like me because I'm too nerdy!”
and it's a never ending list of bulls**t.

How in the world can you ever know what others actually think about you. Really stop and think for a moment... You can't it's impossible. This are just assumptions that you personally made about yourself or some one else made them for you. Although sure you can't expect if you are treating yourself like crap to have a high quality women. NO! But you can once you start improving yourself.

Like I said before no matter how you look you will always have women feeling attracted to you, for the simple pure fact that you are a man. This is part of nature, men naturally attract women and women naturally attract men.
So why overcomplicate something which happens naturally? I really want you to integrate this thought in your day to day life.

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Lets continue shall we.

WORDWORLD:
EXCELLENT ANALOGY And indeed women are the smoothest criminals when it comes to cheating in relationships. Men can never meet up to their craftiness when it comes to cheating while men get blamed for cheating more is because men are not as crafty. MEN ARE VERY EASILY CAUGHT THAN YOU CAN CATCH A CHEATING WOMAN.

Take time to read this thread https://www.nairaland.com/5872481/world-smartest-cheats-dating-clinic

You will be amazed at all their cunningness

SteelMcqueen:
I hear @Dpsychologist......Money, looks and Status attracts, but just for a while.....the Game or PUA community teaches masculine qualities thats frame a man into a dominant or alpha male...the ones women lust for........

Check out Will Smith, Johnny depp and Brad Pitt.......they got looks, money and status.... yet their wives still cheated on them or created a toxic environment that emasculated them.

There is a masculine frame that comes from been a man, that women can't help been attracted to......the REAL pua community teaches this.......not Ubunja and the 'redpillers' on nairaland.

What the so called PUA teaches are just band aid. They tell you to be confident, create a masculine frame etc. Basically it is faking it till you make it.

The problem is that Confidence cannot be faked, that is why most neophytes or novice end up terribly when they try to inculcate the so called techniques.

Confidence comes from somewhere. You can read a book or thread and get Confidence. You instead get Confidence from yourself. This can be done by improving your lifestyle. When you exercise, testosterone is build up in the body making you more masculine and confident. When you dress well you look and feel good.

You and i will agree that money brings Confidence as well as social status not necessary fame. You being a leader makes you manly. How did you think some Pastors end up Sleeping With their church members. Its mostly the fact that they are leaders and are seen as masculine.

When women start giving you greenlight all those frame the PUA are teaching will be automatic in you. As a man you are born naturally good with women. There are circumstances and conditions that made that implicit.

As for the Celebrities you listed. Being an alpha male doesn’t mean your Wife will never divorce you or have issues with you. Its the way you Handle it afterwards.
After angelina jolie divorced brad pitt he went ahead and was slaying pvssy up and down. Many women were having one night stand with him because he is off the market .

Infact an alpha male to woman A may be a weak man to woman B, dont forget that.

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Mehn!

That baby is cute.

If you know you are ugly try as much as possible to marry someone Beautiful/handsome you won’t regret it

RAGGA40:
Women are their own greatest enemies.

Glad to see a guy say that. Women are their own downfall.

I wonder how they see men as the enemy.

An Average lady sees all men as scum, cheats and not trustworthy. They see men as enemies.
But i am surprised that most men see women as angels what a naive thinking.

There can only be cheap pvssy but never free pvssy

The meaning of the phrase " you are always paying for it" is that women today, unlike men, always expect some form of payment, future payment, or 'return on investment' for sex, that goes beyond the physical pleasure of sex. Which is basically true.

Women know the power of pussy and will do anything to take advantage of it. I laugh my ass off when i see guys say they get free pussy. That is only an illusion, even if you didn't spend anything immediately you will still spend later.

As a guy you one way or the other pay for pussy directly or indirectky. The calls you make, the drinks you buy for her or the food you cook when she comes to your room, the dates you take her to, the to you give after banging her etc are all invenrments for pussy.

Peradventure you succeeded in banging her without paying one way or the other, she will demand money or a favour in no distant time. The woman knows the power of pussy and must getting as many freebees as she can. It might not necessarily be money, it might be job opportunity, promotion, increase in salary, free food, gifts.

Sometimes she can go upfront to try to blackmail you if you can’t give her what she wants.

The two biggest arena where women get enough investment for pussy is relationship and marriage. Once you don't give them what they want they withhold the sex from you. I have seen where a guy starts as friends with benefits with a lady but immediately they start dating, she witholds sex from him. He has to pay for pussy this time around.

The most manipulated man is the married man. Do you know that married men are the most deprived of sex? If he doesn’t give her what she wants then no sex for him. Most men are afraid of committing adultery and thus will give her anything she wants.

In Islam women most times don't get away with this in marriage, for the man can easily add a new wive. She has to start competing with the other woman for his dick.

Ever wonder why players run away after they have their way with a lady? They are smart enough to know that you can’t conquer a city twice. They know that no pussy is special. For the more you keep banging a pussy the more you will end up over investing either with emotions or financially.

Some quotes

"Whether it's a hooker or your wife, you're always paying for it." --David Letterman

"You’re always paying for it darling. The difference is, our costs are fixed and posted right there on the door. --Maeve from the TV show Westworld

"you are always paying for it one way or another"—suqamadiqe

"You are always paying for it as a man. I've never had a single date where the girl paid for everything, then took me in her car, brought me to her apartment and had sex with me." --haxartus

"As blokes we are always paying for it. Be it financially or mentally" --fourEM

"In some way, shape, or form, you are always paying for it." --southernelite

"you are always paying for it. whether it is with your time, sanity, dinner, movies, or just 200 bucks up front and see you next week. either way... you always pay" --Qcanfixit

rottencorpse:
What's the meaning of your personal text? Who wants to DM you? Why do Nigerian women always feel all guys want them.
You're not even fine. Mtchew

Its because they are so egoistic and filled with pride due to attention they get from niceguys/simp

Mehn

All i can say is
#EndSouthernKadunaKillings

Salt3:
Dancing and doing music was never part of what Jesus talked about. Our acts our beliefs was what Christ talked about. What is rap? A fast spoken line or piece of song. What is brake dance? A dance just like your cultural dance. Don't people dance in church? So what's wrong with brake dance? Does it entice anyone to lust? Does it involve shaking of bombom like our cultural dances? Is it illicit or sexually inviting? You people self can be amazing most times

Seconded.

I knew this topic was going to be controversial

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gamyy:
By the grace of God, I am a gospel rapper.

Rap in itself is a form of poetry. This is for those asking the origin of rap. The book of psalms, proverbs, SoS, have poetries in them. Both David and Solomon were singers and poets.

Rap and singing are both music...rap appears as tho u r talking, but rhyme and flowing to a beat...I'm sure you are familiar with spoken words, rap is just like that, but to a beat.

Many above have answered you @Op, believe me when I say IT IS NOT A SIN. Many only criticise what they dont understand, just like your old pastor and older generations, since they (rap and break dance) are not part of our African culture. But we have adopted it, just like we adopted dressing and many other things.


If you are SURE, what you do glorifies God...Then continue, God is proud of you, because you were made to glorify him.

"I don't live for the world, I live for the king"
-Nf

Succinct.
This was what i was waiting to here

alBHAGDADI:
It enhances dance. Since you want to enhance your dance in church to the level of break dancing, you can install a stripper poll.

You didn't address the issue, rather you are comparing it with something worst.
What you are implying is if someone says there is nothing wrong with having bible on phone, your response is they should stop bring bible.

No body is talking about stripper polls stop deviating

Omokowa:
Any dance at all..that does not glorify God is not for God. You don't dance any kind of dance in churches if you are not glorifying God with it.


Mind you, we dance to even circular songs at home. Does that mean we have sinned? No.
Now worshiping the father in churches should be orderly, hence we don't abuse the privilege.

Those dance steps (rap and so on) in churches, some of the youths are emulating these from unbelievers and make them their role model. How can light and darkness come together?


In summary, no kind of dance is chosen for worship except it glorifies God and you cannot worship God with dance steps you copy from an unbeliever because you not only copy dance steps but other things, as they are a role model to you..

You are supporting Hypocrisy.
So we can break dance at home but not church.
Just like women should wear trousers at home but not church.
We should do anyhow at home but then act different in church.
Thats Hypocrisy to me

oranget:
What fellowship hath darkness with light?
Why should it be Christians that emulate worldly things and not the other way round?
Rock n roll, Christian rock, rap and break dance are ungodly and should be discouraged among Christians

I see that you are ignorant
Black music is specific to black Americans. Whites invent Rock n roll. It is preposterous to seperate them from gospel. Its just life saying calling God "Allah" "Oluwa"or chi is wrong and the name " God" is the only correct one

ElasmoBranchii:
There are pros and cons of PMO. Denying the negative symptoms is bias.

The article contains both pros and cons. Which negative symptoms are you taking about.

illicit:
Books are powerful
Because most people don't read it

Very true

Kalatium:
The Bible is the most misunderstood book ever written. Anyone can form a doctrine and back it up with the Bible. Due to man's imperfection the bible is translated and interpreted differently.

This has been a serious challenge to Christianity. In fact it is the reason why Christianity is divided and our churches with many denomination.

In the 4th century, the Greek orthodox church separated from the Latin Roman church which later forms the
Roman Catholic Church.

The major break in Christianity is the Protestant Reformation leading to separation from Roman Catholics in 16th century.

After this,many denominations broke out from the Protestants all is due to ones interpretation of the bible(since the Bible is the most misunderstood book ever written)
Forming denominations like

Lutheranism

Calvinism

Jehovah's Witness

Latter day saints(Mormon)

Christ scientists

Quaker

In the 18th century,
Evangelicalism, Fundamentalism,Liberalism, Unitarianism, and Pentecostalism emerged.
Today there are about 41,000 Denominations.

Quite true

AgentNairaland:
Op, Do you need help?

Help with what? How do you want to help him

MsAllison:
bloody sinful.

But unfortunately the church is not what it's used to be before.

There are supposed to be morals and decorum in the house of God yet these business centers called churches do anything they like and term it radical for Jesus
the next thing is they'll tell you how David danced in the bible as if they were there.

These new generations have made the church so carnal that they now entertain their members with worldly musicians that sang anything they want and insert God's name in it calling it Christian music.

Very soon Naira Marley will sing a song and insert God in it and watch out as one church invites him to perform on Sunday.


Rubbish business centers
that's why I'm so indifferent in this CAMA stuff

I disagree with you

Kalatium:
While growing up i only knew of secular rappers and break dancers. Until the emergence of gospel rappers like Lecrae, Trip Lee, Da truth, Flame etc. Afterwards my Neighborhood was saturated with gospel rappers.

Now in churches anytime there is concert break dancers and gospel rappers are invited especially in youth programs. However i noticed only youths were interested in it but the older generation were kicking against it including our former pastor.

Our former pastor vehemently comdemn rapping and break dancing, he doesn’t give us the liberty to dance in church.

With the coming of our new pastor, gospel rappers and break dancers are being encouraged.

I am perplexed, why did our former pastor and older generation condemn it? is it a sin?

Its Old generation thinking

Mehn

This boy is going places