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NwaEzefuNaMba:
How old are you? Your comment sounds childish! Must you make troubles before you can make peace with your "perceived Enemy"?

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I should ask you how old you are cos ur comments reeks of ignorance but then I didn't expect any intelligence from someone with ur mentality.

cococandy:
The other posters have said it all. Even if the law recognizes that xtupid culture that prohibits women from inheriting property, it will never and should never extend to your mom. Is he sick?
Besides he is illegitimate so he belongs with his mother's people. If he's trying to stick to outdated traditions as his justification.

Madam u are wrong ooh. Pls go and educate urself before u spew misinformation and confuse people who need help. The Nigerian supreme court has abolished that silly law the prohibits female children from inheriting properties so no courts in Nigeria will withhold such laws is the man's female children intend to fight for their right.

NwaEzefuNaMba:
@OP go and make peace with your step brother! The day you let outsiders to settle family dispute is the day you split your family.

If it's in Igbo land, no court, no lawyers whatsoever can settle this particular issue; it's all about mutual understanding and co-operation.

Wtf, why would she go to make peace? Was she the one that looked for trouble in the first place? Na wah for.some peeps

Eketem:
https://www.google.com.ng/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.vanguardngr.com/2014/04/inheritance-supreme-court-voids-discrimination-females-igboland/&ved=0ahUKEwj1x5C4ypXOAhXhDpoKHXebBEUQFggZMAA&usg=AFQjCNGZRwxahVm0EusaJs22WABNp1BwgQ&sig2=kNnyYN87oaPZfOoUFmudeQ


The Supreme Court has affirmed the right of women to inheritance don't let anyone tell you different.

Who has his death certificate?

Go to Court and apply for a letter of administration

Who was his next of kin?


Who has the house papers? Women need to stop being emotional in cases like this, in cases like this thr first thing is get the house papers and keep in a safe place instead of screaming and crying. The dead is gone if you have kids you need to protect you have to act fast that is where men get to cheat you guys because they are less emotional.

Anyway you all have a fair right to inheritance go to court if your father died without a will so the property can be shared equally

Yep its now law in Nigeria that female children can inherit properties. You elders brother is looking for his.own downfall if you take him to court. He will loose.

Any probe of ex governors that does not include uchendu then na wash.

olagold79:
You're making sense jaare . it's really terrible the kind of mentality that's been entrenched on nairaland. Now I understand why peeps seems to complain when some stuffs makes front page. So many childish and stereotypical thinking. It's becoming annoying, or just that some of you just like attention


So ,what if you're the richer?,you still must keep collecting instead of spending. I hope you remember the case of Cynthia Osikogwu ( hope I get the spelling correctly), that's how she fashioned her own death. She decided to still collect money from guys she is even rich enough to buy.


I remember this op's response on a particular post. It quite obvious you have a deep seated archaic view, we already have many of your kind n you're unfortunately infecting your ilk. No 2 relationships are the same, so your point is if you spend less on a guy n he leaves you...you'll feel less pain.So childish n Myopic,goes to show how much money means to you. I have lost over 3k euro on investments in just the last 6months, why don't I go n kill my investors or kill myself because of some wrong choices.Many of you shouting will spend less than half on that on your boyfriend in his whole life.

It's really annoying how a lot of Nigerian youth think these days. And the stuffs I see in here scares me. Of all d problems we can solve with our thinking ...we have someone wake up n start giving this kind of advice. Op even said she has a family that works in shell n still pays the wife , "that's a man"....so every1 that can't work in shell n be that rich is half a man?.

My gal can spend anything on me, I have never asked n I am not more broke than she is , I am generally richer.But we both came from a poor background, and we have helped each other thus far. Even when she was doing IT, she'd spend at least 2k of her 10k salary on me every month.I have said it severally , I probably have spent far more on her....but in comparison it's just because I had more.We compete to see who spends more n can suprise the other with d best gifts. I partly sponsored her to Europe and I don't even see myself saying it in a way to brag...I can't just imagine.She in every way worth more than that. And if any1 of us leaves the relationship; which has almost happened a few times it won't be totally d others fault. She has done things for me that I wll never forget even in my grave. And if by any means we part way....walahi the last thing on my mind will be how much money I lost on her, I am sure that's true for her also. Money is totally inconsequential, can't we just reason past this nonesense.

You are d man, words taken directly outa ma mouth. I feel like superman when I read comments like this on NL. I am so glad that there are men who think just like me on this forum. Sometimes the comments I read from little girls such as the op leaves so bad a taste in my mouth that I can't imagine. Nice one guy.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

Another one if those silly women not spend in men threads. The mentality of some people is really disheartening.

HARDBOI:
yoruba woman married and lev with igbo in southeast?

u kno this is a pure lie

I told u I know not just one but a few. Just cos u don't have any idea of something does not make it false, bros.

iLegend:
[MEN] MUST READ: How to chat with a girl/woman and get her hooked

Part 1

Is your chat boring and mundane?

(No woman is allowed to comment; if you do you might be verbally attacked so KEEP OFF)

PLEASE STOP READING.
This is too long for you, it's not for everyone — it's only for those who want to improve the way they chat with women. PLEASE STOP.

You can never regret the contents of this gibberish, but I'm happy most of you won't read it. Let the knowledge be only for a few.

Psychology of a Woman with a Whatsapp or Any Chat Apps on Her Phone.

The reason why a girl chats dirty with one guy and chats clean with another guy is caused by the guy.
Re-read that line again (slooowly and allooooow it to siiiiiiiiink in youuuuuuuur braiiiiiiin).

When a girl notices you see her as a good girl, she'll act as a good girl towards you, either online or offline.
(If you belong here, you're in trouble. Talking about sex with her will get her angry).

When a girl notices you see her as a bad girl she'll act as a naughty girl towards you, be it online or offline.
(If you belong here, you're in a good shape. Talking about sex with her will get her hot and ho.rny).

So, men are the cause why women chat the way they chat with them online and offline.

Any man who chats clean and nice with a woman is a boring chat(ter). PERIOD.

Any man who chats dirty and humorously with a woman is a fun chat(ter). PERIOD.

Assume every girl is a naughty girl and chat humorously naughty with them and you'll be surprised. I promise.

If you've been chatting a boring chat changing to this style over night will be surprising to her. Some girls will be shocked, while others will be wowed. Start slow and take one step at a time for the boring chatters. If she's a new bae, then fire down. First impression matters.

Are you tired of reading? I heard Nigerians don't like to read. If you're one of them, then quit for your own good.
(C'ya head u wan finish everything - badt baddo baddest).

Listen guys, I'll post some of my chats with women and I'll explain how women select who to chat with. Women don't ignore my messages, they anticipate my replies which I never do and if I try to reply it'll be after some minutes, hours, a day or a month; sometimes a year. The lucky ones, I reply them almost immediately; but only if I'm free.

The games they play on men need to be reversed. When you have a lot of women to chat with and they enjoy your conversation you won't be fixated on a girl's reply. You're too busy to even remember she exist.

Solution to these problems

There are only 3 good girls/women left in this world and they are your mother, your blood sisters and Keyshia Cole.

Despite how Churchistic a girl is, remember she's a naughty girl. Don't EVER be deceived. The only difference is, she's more decent and more reserved, but her heart/mind is naughty; all she needs is a good-bad guy who'll trigger her instinct in secret — as long as nobody knows about it. Your phone and fingers can do the magic.

Starting from today see every girl as a naughty girl waiting for a naughty boy to activate her naughtiness.

When you have these mindsets women will always reply your messages.

Note: You'll come in contact with girls that don't believe this sh!t, but deep down this sh!t is real. Her inhibition is just too much and can be annihilated by a real man.

Boring Chat VS Interesting Chat

The rule here is use sexual+misinterpretation+humors [S+M+H]. Look for a key word in her message or speech to trigger the sexual humor, then turn it upside down. Make no sense out of it, but it'll make sense to her. Men are from Mars and women are from...?

Remember Rule 1. Never give a woman a direct answer, except it's a capital NO.

(These replies will sound very childish to some men/women. It works in practical, but looks stupid when teaching them. Whatever works, works. It doesn't matter how it sounds).

Let's Get Started

She: Hi
You: Hi or Hello or Hey. [boring]
You: Sorry, do you mean Hi-tension pole? No I don't sell it any longer. [fun] or
You: No, I'm not Hi(gh), I don't drink. [fun] ) (it doesn't matter if you drink or not).

She: Where are you (now)?
You: I'm in the house or... [boring]
You: I'm in Boko Haram's camp; we're doing a training there. Are you coming? [fun]

She: How was your day?
You: Fine. [boring]
You: Day break? C'mon can't do it till day break na! U want make my strength finish? [fun] or
You: My day has broken. Please help me fix it. Take crew driver. [fun]
You: (My day don break — abeg come patch am for me). [fun]

She: How was your night?
You: Fine or Cool or Wonderful etc. [boring]
You: I'm not wearing any 'night gown.' I'm nakèd. You too like night, u be witch? [fun]
You: Night? My night is wearing a gown [fun].
You: Knight? No nightmare. [fun]

She: What are you doing?
You: I'm sleeping, eating etc. [boring]
You: I'm doing a goat. [fun]
You: I'm doing drugs. [fun]
You: I'm doing it from behind. [fun]
You: I'm doing exactly what I did by this time last week. [fun] Do you remember?

She: What do you do for a living?
You: I'm into business or... [boring]
You: I do hiring and firing squad, and you? [fun]
You: I do Boko Haram's recruitment; I know you want to join. [fun]
You: I do dogs, I do pvssy (I mean that small animal), but most times it depends on my mood. [fun]

She: How's your family?
You: Fine. [boring]
You: Amily? No, she's not my house help. [fun]

She: Where have you been?
You: Sorry, I have not been around. [boring]
You: I've been to hell and back. [fun]
You: Bean? No, I don't like beans gimme rice. [fun]

She: What's your name?
You: My name is iLegend. [boring]
You: I lost my name during Nigerian/Biafran war. I'll soon get a new nam. What's yours? [fun]

She: Are you sleeping?
You: No, I'm not. [boring]
You: No, I'm snoring. [fun]
You: No, I'm dreaming. [fun]
You: No, I'm dancing shoki wanna join? [fun]

Note: After these childish chat techniques, you should chat some boring chats (the matured way), then bring in the childish chat again, especially when she's asking you a question you don't want to answer.

During bed time, ask her if she's alone? If yes, ask: Bae, I khow the color of the pant you're wearing, but I won't tell you before you think I'm a juju priest. She'll insist you tell her, then you say, naughty girl, "you're not wearing any panties." Then, change the topic or ask: Bae, 'morrow bring all your dirty undies I'll wash them for you; though not free. I just bought a new washing machine. Oh! Wait: which is your favorite color? Don't tell me it pink o!? Else I'll spank ya ass.

Send all the questions woman ask you while chatting or during oral conversation and I'll show you how to reply them in a fun way. You already know the boring ways.

The End
Wait for Part 2.

—iLegend.

Modify: Part 2 is far better than part 1, but I won't post it any longer. If you want it I'll send it privately to you. Seems most of y'all don't appreciate the time it takes me to type these life changing techniques. I may start a paid version. People don't like free things. Bye.

Madam, what is good for the gander does not have to be good for the goose. Just cos u yourself like ur chats in one way does.not.mean that it is so for all women.

Udmaster:
Wow, What a Classic write up!
Myself can't understand this hating of Okorocha and 80% of people who hate him are from Anambra.
I just can't understand why.
Cc- Abagworo

There is more to it that meets the eyes. Research it and u will find ur answers.

HARDBUOI:
i dntnkno why they are turning d rable around.
when they are d one hating on igbos...
igf igbs hate dem will our gals marry them?
they marriying our women every week abandoning their own.


but just tell a yoruba dat u wana marry her as igbo. she will tell u her parents will not agree.

d only igbos who they marry are those who live theor life in yoruba land.

a yoruba woman can not accept to marry u and live with u in east..

BTW WHO NEEDS CHEATS AND HOME BREAKERS AS WIFE.

Not true. I know many Yoruba sons and daugthers who not just reside in the east but are married to igbos

stupidity:
Ok, so I was driving down to festac town from oshodi, I was bored as hell inside the car being alone. So I met this wonderfully blessed lady front-wise and back-wise. I stopped the car infront of her and ask where's upto, it happened she was going to second rainbow not far from my destination. We chatted a little while driving, On getting to second rainbow, I peacefully, amicably and jejely requested for her contact. Can you all imagine this lady refused. I thought it was a joking stuff, I asked again, she said the same thing and even added "I have a man already"..

I wound up the glass, and put on my shade then looked for the nearest "turn" back to oshodi. She was asking me "what are you doing?? I just form deaf for her. We got to oshodi and dropped her off. She stood there cursing her self,(not me).


Orishirishi, common phone number, what if I had asked for her pvnny??


I just dey vex this evening.

And u think that u are doing us. U are doing yasef ooh. How much fuel u burn when u dey do cabu cabu? Stay there dey deceive yasef just because of punny. If say u just bone collect fuel money in for beta.

bonechamberlain:
I see the hands of those anti Islam and anti immigrant personalities in all these bomb blasts in Europe. Though let them suffer, I have no pity for them, they support the u.s in fighting Assad using Isis and all other terrorists calling them moderates, thereby creating humanitarian crisis and anger. This is just the beginning.

We warned them that we didn't support letting those syrians comr in but they refused to listen.

Read full story here:
[url]http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/07/24/one-dead-and-ten-injured-after-restaurant-blast-in-german-city-o/ [/url]

At least 12 people have been injured after an explosion struck a bar in the southern German city of Ansbach, Bavaria. Authorities believe the act was ‘deliberate’ and the perpetrator died in the blast after setting off an improvised device.

More details later.

Op, I feel your pain... I read your post from beginning to end and it can be scary for someone like you. You mentioned studying and training. seems you are furthering your education so I can imagine hw you would fee. But this is it. Also I like how you broke it in paragraphs so it won't look so long a messy. Nice. Many people would misunderstand the op.

Edit: The op is not saying her husband is too loving! Neither is she selfish or wicked. She is even a good person. From her writeup,if she says "Kill yourself" to her husband he would do it. It's not right so those silly comments below should be edited by the silly posters. The man is obsessed. It's dangerous for her very soon it would become obvious in public and you know the society would start accusing her of using metaphysical powers on him. So she wants to fix it now before it advances.

Back to the topic:

In your first/second paragraph you said it all. You were his first love. He was new to romance. And now you are married so he is carried away with it. He wants to make you happy that's all. And I can bet that he has been crushing on you before two of you met one on one. So for him To finally get you, he wants to keep you but he got it all wrong. It's normal in life.. something you have always desired finally comes your way of course you would protect it. So he is acting silly and idolizing you because he wants to keep you around.

I advice you talk to him. Sit him down and explain things to him let him know you love him for the man he is that he does not have to do silly things to please you. He knows it's nt right. I'm sure but he has no choice. So let him knw there is a choice. Give him the assurance you are his forever. That's all
Its just communication. And as for intimacy, he likes you, but you need to let him know that you value your study time and once in a while make the move too. Let him know you too can make the move not him alone so he does not have to do it always. And also there might be something about you that drives hm crazy which he does not want to depart from him.. ask him he will tell you. It could be your eyes, your accent, your voice, or even your fingers or your hair or skin or legs.. talk to him that's my point.

#TeamNoDivorce

Edit: Hmmmmm FTC

Mr Nobody, what a befitting name for someone with such ignorance. Ur post screams it. Read the post of the guy after u. Its women like the OP that make men like me wish to go back to being an asshole. See I am married too and I idolize my wife to infinity. She met me when I was an asshole and always begs me not to return to that craziness cos she still remembers what she had to go through, which by the way I am not proud of. She is my best friend but u will never see her act like the op just so she could bring to nothing my great respect for her.