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PHATE007:
because d post is a bit funny, I'll try to b as encouraging nd positive as possible........................

















This is one of d most useless post I ve read in a while... Y don't u engage in a meaningful venture than hunting for boyfriend dat will later give u blue nd black eyes?



M sorry for being so positive o! I tried to sound mean but it didn't just work... Today na ur lucky day!



In other news... END TIME post

pls no hate the Player but the message

Naijasinglegirl:
I asked a close single friend to accompany me on one of my boyfriend hunting mission but she said she was tied up and referred another mutual friend of ours.

Let's call the new girl Suzy.

I told my friend I was going to consider going out with Suzy on the condition that she doesn't tell Suzy what my actual intentions were before she goes about telling people that I am always roaming Lagos looking for a man.

So Saturday evening, Suzy met me at home and we set off to The Palms at Lekki with my N4500 vex money tucked in my pocket.
I should have read the signs when we got to Obalende and she said there is no way she is going to arrive The Palms in a danfo or Keke Napep amongst all those rich people. I already had a balance of N4300 and N1500 for a cab from Obalende to The Palms seemed reasonable so I willingly paid since I was the one that dragged her out.

We barely arrived the mall when she grabbed my arm and led me to Coldstone. "I'm craving Icecream like mad," she said.

She ordered four flavours while I watched from the corner. I have had Coldstone Icecream only twice (the best Ice-cream I have ever had in my life and a friend brought it home) but I was scared of ordering since I didn't know the actual price before I end up washing Ice cream cones in the event I am unable to pay.

When she collected her ice-cream, she said, "OMG! This new malt flavour is so nice. *NSG* you need to try it!"

Before I could say the doctor said Coldstone Ice-cream is not good for my kidney, she had already ordered two scoops of malt flavour for me. There were too many people there and I didn't want to cause a scene so I collected the ice cream with a very heavy heart...and paid with my money cos Suzy was already walking away...licking hers greedily.

I have never been so miserable licking ice cream all my life.

I just kept thinking of how many plates of fanice my N1200 could have gotten me at Shoprite!

Once we were done, I told her let's move around and window shop for a boyfriend for me.

She took me inside one boutique and spent close to an hour checking out bags and clothes. She wasted one hour of my life cos she didn't buy anything!

When we got out, she said she didn't have strength to move around except she eats.

Before I could tell her let's go out to the Aboki's Place at Sandfield for indomie&egg, she grabbed my hands and led me to KFC.

She told me to reserve a seat for us & watch her bag while she ordered food. Minutes later, I saw her approaching our table with a tray containing two cartons of KFC!

She said "Ermm... your own food is N1200. I didn't get drink for you cos I didn't know which one you would like."

Then she pushed one of the cartons containing two pieces of chicken and chips to my side of the table.

KFC when I was only hungry for a man?

"What is this? Did I tell you to buy me FOOD! Did I tell you I was hungry! Is this why we are here? Now I don't even have transport to return home!" I shouted.

She said she was very sorry that she thought I was hungry too and she was going to take care of our tp home.

I took out N1200 from my bag and slid it to where she sat. The silly girl quickly took the money and put it inside her purse while I sat frowning. I was too angry to touch my food while she ate hers in relish.

I decided that I can as well eat it since the damage had already been done. I cut big slices of chicken with a handful of chips and swallowed hurriedly cos I was too angry to chew. In the process, bone got stuck in my throat.

The silly Suzy had already finished her drink, I had only N200 in my bag, no ATM card and I was too proud to beg. I couldn't even breathe or speak well cos of the bone and thirst.

I told her we needed to get home ASAP but she said I should chill for thirty mins that she had texted her boyfriend' to come pick us cos a heavy rain had began to fall.

I thought of the major reason I was there and how to make the most of my thirty minutes but the rain had chased all the Lekki bachelors out of the mall. I was almost shedding tears cos I just spent N4,500 for nothing!

Eventually, Suzy's boyfriend showed up! One igbo boy that had permed the life out of his hair.

We all went to sit at the general cafeteria. Both of them were engaging in PDA and discussing relationship people problems.

The silly boy could not even offer to buy me water to flush down the bone in my throat. I took out my phone and started playing candy crush until my phone died.

Time was about 9pm and neither of them said anything about us leaving the mall...and there I was, almost dying of thirst.

He turned to Suzy and said, "Your friend has been so quiet. Why?"

What is an angry single girl supposed to contribute to relationship people discussion?

Why won't I be quiet when a bone was choking my throat?

Why won't I be quiet when his girlfriend would rather use all her strength to 'baby, I love you' her boyfriend rather than help me hunt for my own boyfriend? I just told them I am sleepy and I didn't come here to count stars in the mall.

That was when both of them finally got up. I got home around 10:35pm.

What a stupid weekend!

http://naijasinglegirl.com/my-boyfriend-hunting-experience-in-lekki/

The Problem u Need to Approach by taking the bull by the horn. But Naijagirl, the other Problem there is that Bachelors now have digital Radars on their fones that reads about 3 km around them telling them when a Lady is looking for a boyfriend and where she is. Now if you remember what season we are in and some ladies now have the Habit of not looking for boyfriends till the end of the year. That has make men more cautious cos nobody no matter how comfy he is will want to be placed on high jump by a Lady he just met. So am sure u stood out like a sore thumb cos the Bachelors in that place must have seen u coming from afar and they all vanished out of the vicinity as quickly as they came.

Anyways to end the Long epistle. Eeya take heart. Better luck next time!!

nrdgeek:
Colonialism is one of those things you’re not supposed to discuss in polite company – at least not north of the Mediterranean. Most people feel uncomfortable about it, and would rather pretend it didn’t happen.

In fact, that appears to be the official position. In the mainstream narrative of international development peddled by institutions from the World Bank to the UK’s Department of International Development, the history of colonialism is routinely erased. According to the official story, developing countries are poor because of their own internal problems, while western countries are rich because they worked hard, and upheld the right values and policies. And because the west happens to be further ahead, its countries generously reach out across the chasm to give “aid” to the rest – just a little something to help them along.

If colonialism is ever acknowledged, it’s to say that it was not a crime, but rather a benefit to the colonised – a leg up the development ladder.

But the historical record tells a very different story, and that opens up difficult questions about another topic that Europeans prefer to avoid: reparations. No matter how much they try, however, this topic resurfaces over and over again. Recently, after a debate at the Oxford Union, Indian MP Shashi Tharoor’s powerful case for reparations went viral, attracting more than 3 million views on YouTube. Clearly the issue is hitting a nerve.

The reparations debate is threatening because it completely upends the usual narrative of development. It suggests that poverty in the global south is not a natural phenomenon, but has been actively created. And it casts western countries in the role not of benefactors, but of plunderers.

When it comes to the colonial legacy, some of the facts are almost too shocking to comprehend. When Europeans arrived in what is now Latin America in 1492, the region may have been inhabited by between 50 million and 100 million indigenous people. By the mid 1600s, their population was slashed to about 3.5 million. The vast majority succumbed to foreign disease and many were slaughtered, died of slavery or starved to death after being kicked off their land. It was like the holocaust seven times over.

What were the Europeans after? Silver was a big part of it. Between 1503 and 1660, 16m kilograms of silver were shipped to Europe, amounting to three times the total European reserves of the metal. By the early 1800s, a total of 100m kg of silver had been drained from the veins of Latin America and pumped into the European economy, providing much of the capital for the industrial revolution. To get a sense for the scale of this wealth, consider this thought experiment: if 100m kg of silver was invested in 1800 at 5% interest – the historical average – it would amount to £110trn ($165trn) today. An unimaginable sum.

Europeans slaked their need for labour in the colonies – in the mines and on the plantations – not only by enslaving indigenous Americans but also by shipping slaves across the Atlantic from Africa. Up to 15 million of them. In the North American colonies alone, Europeans extracted an estimated 222,505,049 hours of forced labour from African slaves between 1619 and 1865. Valued at the US minimum wage, with a modest rate of interest, that’s worth $97trn – more than the entire global GDP.

Right now, 14 Caribbean nations are in the process of suing Britain for slavery reparations. They point out that when Britain abolished slavery in 1834 it compensated not the slaves but rather the owners of slaves, to the tune of £20m, the equivalent of £200bn today. Perhaps they will demand reparations equivalent to this figure, but it is conservative: it reflects only the price of the slaves, and tells us nothing of the total value they produced during their lifetimes, nor of the trauma they endured, nor of the hundreds of thousands of slaves who worked and died during the centuries before 1834.

These numbers tell only a small part of the story, but they do help us imagine the scale of the value that flowed from the Americas and Africa into European coffers after 1492.

Then there is India. When the British seized control of India, they completely reorganised the agricultural system, destroying traditional subsistence practices to make way for cash crops for export to Europe. As a result of British interventions, up to 29 million Indians died of famine during the last few decades of the 19th century in what historian Mike Davis calls the “late Victorian holocaust”. Laid head to foot, their corpses would stretch the length of England 85 times over. And this happened while India was exporting an unprecedented amount of food, up to 10m tonnes per year.

British colonisers also set out to transform India into a captive market for British goods. To do that, they had to destroy India’s impressive indigenous industries. Before the British arrived, India commanded 27% of the world economy, according to economist Angus Maddison. By the time they left, India’s share had been cut to just 3%. The same thing happened to China. After the Opium Wars, when Britain invaded China and forced open its borders to British goods on unequal terms, China’s share of the world economy dwindled from 35% to an all-time low of 7%.

Meanwhile, Europeans increased their share of global GDP from 20% to 60% during the colonial period. Europe didn’t develop the colonies. The colonies developed Europe.

And we haven’t even begun to touch the scramble for Africa. In the Congo, to cite just one brief example, as historian Adam Hochschild recounts in his haunting book King Leopold’s Ghost, Belgium’s lust for ivory and rubber killed some 10 million Congolese – roughly half the country’s population. The wealth gleaned from that plunder was siphoned back to Belgium to fund beautiful stately architecture and impressive public works, including arches and parks and railway stations – all the markers of development that adorn Brussels today, the bejewelled headquarters of the European Union.

We could go on. It is tempting to see this as just a list of crimes, but it is much more than that. These snippets hint at the contours of a world economic system that was designed over hundreds of years to enrich a small portion of humanity at the expense of the vast majority.

This history makes the narrative of international development seem a bit absurd, and even outright false. Frankie Boyle got it right: “Even our charity is essentially patronising. Give a man a fish and he can eat for a day. Give him a fishing rod and he can feed himself. Alternatively, don’t poison the fishing waters, abduct his great-grandparents into slavery, then turn up 400 years later on your gap year talking a lot of shite about fish.”

We can’t put a price on the suffering wrought by colonialism. And there is not enough money in the world to compensate for the damage it inflicted. We can, however, stop talking about charity, and instead acknowledge the debt that the west owes to the rest of the world. Even more importantly, we can work to quash the colonial instinct whenever it rears its ugly head, as it is doing right now in the form of land grabs, illicit financial extraction, and unfair trade deals.

Shashi Tharoor argued for a reparations payment of only £1 – a token acknowledgement of historical fact. That might not do much to assuage the continued suffering of those whose countries have been ravaged by the colonial encounter. But at least it would set the story straight, and put us on a path towards rebalancing the global economy.

Jason Hickel http://www.theguardian.com/global-development-professionals-network/2015/nov/27/enough-of-aid-lets-talk-reparations#comments

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now this is News. The effects of such moves would be a Tsunami on recovering european economy

Descartes:
Rochas-Okorocha

Governor Rochas Okorocha of Imo State has requested universities in the country and other institutions of higher learning to stop making credit passes in English language and Mathematics compulsory for those seeking admission.

He lamented that the practice of making the two subjects compulsory for admissions has aborted the ambition of many brilliant students who could, for one reason or the other, not credit both subjects, to further their education.

The Governor, who spoke yesterday when the Registrar of the National Examination Council, NECO, Prof. Abdulrashid Garba visited him at the Government House Owerri, with his team, noted that the time has come for all relevant bodies to help the education sector and assist students with the ambition of pursuing higher education.

http://dailypost.ng/2015/11/28/dont-make-english-maths-compulsory-for-students-seeking-admission-okorocha-tells-universities/

Pls they should just make this man education minister so it concludes the incompetence of this present administration

lalasticlala:
I got this mail from a Nairalander. Please read and advise him accordingly. Thanks.

The unedited mail:


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Like u said bros. U are not God so u don't have any business hardening ur heart to 4giveness. All that for God. U on ur part just pray for ur bros, wish him luck and goodness then go ur way. Bros blood is thicker than water.

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AdeMoss:
Your husband is fixated. His situation is similar to a 2 years old baby that is still addicted to breastfeeding. He needs to learn how to stop.

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enstack:
I had to create a new account just to post this as it's quite sensitive. It's quite lengthy too but I'll be brief. I need mature and friendly advice from people here.

When I first met my husband, it was in a library. We talked briefly and we became close. I have had past relationships in my life so I was careful as possible. I realised that he had no past relationship. He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him.

Now it has gotten worse. Everytime he does anything I want without asking questions. At first I enjoyed it but now I'm starting to worry about him as it's getting out of hand. He does not display any act of manliness in the house. He behaves like my puppet or my foot stool. The other day he was watching the soccer game and I just jokingly mentioned how boring it was and I would prefer the faith channel. He changed the channel to the faith channel just like that. Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out.

I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in. On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there. I try to talk to him but he would feel so sad like I have taken smething away. I don't understand.

If I'm studying at night, he would suddenly begin to romance me and strip me of my clothing without saying anything first when he can see I'm studying. If I rebuke him, he would be very sad. Every time he must have one intimate relation with me everyday and life does not work that way. I don't know if it's immaturity or he is sick mentally. The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ.

I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting.

I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk?

Please Nairalanders what is happening? I love him still and divorce would be my last resort. I need your advice and help on how to fix this because I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you all.

This girl you are a child. It's so sad what our women have turned to. So ur husband gave u his ATM and u over spent just to see if he would talk and u come here to speak of how weak u think he is. I hope ur husband will see what u have posted so far so that he sees for himself what kind of a child he married. God help women like u to falls into the hands of hard men.

datigbogirl:
Sai chanters gradually becoming d wailers.

Silliness becomes u if u don't find anything wrong with the information on this thread

falls out of sit and cries for Nigeria

uzolexis:
This is not love this is obsession and it's very unhealthy not to mention dangerous as well.

They need to see a marriage counsellor and he needs professional help.

the day married men take advice from single unmarried People without experience will be he day.

Strahovski:
Op, I feel your pain... I read your post from beginning to end and it can be scary for someone like you. You mentioned studying and training. seems you are furthering your education so I can imagine hw you would fee. But this is it. Also I like how you broke it in paragraphs so it won't look so long a messy. Nice. Many people would misunderstand the op.

Edit: The op is not saying her husband is too loving! Neither is she selfish or wicked. She is even a good person. From her writeup,if she says "Kill yourself" to her husband he would do it. It's not right so those silly comments below should be edited by the silly posters. The man is obsessed. It's dangerous for her very soon it would become obvious in public and you know the society would start accusing her of using metaphysical powers on him. So she wants to fix it now before it advances.

Back to the topic:

In your first/second paragraph you said it all. You were his first love. He was new to romance. And now you are married so he is carried away with it. He wants to make you happy that's all. And I can bet that he has been crushing on you before two of you met one on one. So for him To finally get you, he wants to keep you but he got it all wrong. It's normal in life.. something you have always desired finally comes your way of course you would protect it. So he is acting silly and idolizing you because he wants to keep you around.

I advice you talk to him. Sit him down and explain things to him let him know you love him for the man he is that he does not have to do silly things to please you. He knows it's nt right. I'm sure but he has no choice. So let him knw there is a choice. Give him the assurance you are his forever. That's all
Its just communication. And as for intimacy, he likes you, but you need to let him know that you value your study time and once in a while make the move too. Let him know you too can make the move not him alone so he does not have to do it always. And also there might be something about you that drives hm crazy which he does not want to depart from him.. ask him he will tell you. It could be your eyes, your accent, your voice, or even your fingers or your hair or skin or legs.. talk to him that's my point.

#TeamNoDivorce

Edit: Hmmmmm FTC

shame on u for encouraging something wrong. A man Shows enough care around his woman, follows her around and is extra careful of her and u call him weak, u call him not manly, obsessed. If u were a woman am sure u would have called him gay. If i swear for u now am sure u will say I am wicked, infact I will swear for u. May women write about u and call u the same thing u called that poor innocent man,...please say Amen.
The poor man is in love. Am sure you don´t know what that means. As it is that his Kind of love is suffocating his wife. Men should know no matter how much u love ur woman u should also give her space to do her own thing, that way she appreciates you better.

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Aufbauh:
I insisted that we have no regret voting this man of integrity PMB, who by common sense have nothing ill against anyone or any section of the country.
By his age and previous placement he has virtually seen and tested all.
By his dispositions, he personally detest corrupt personalities, greed and indiscipline.
A man of his age by psychology will seek to reconcile with all men, make amends for the past, and not to create new enemies.
He will always strive to do good to all men of good standing so that his memory will be blessed when he is no longer in position.
Thus we should learn to be patient with him and support his course which is probably against the stupendous ill gotten riches and not the common man who is struggling with a two square meal, for the sake of equality in our society.

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did u write something?

jonhemma11:
Ahead of the presidential elections earlier this year, President Buhari tweeted in response to the biting fuel scarcity that plagued the later days of former President Jonathan’s government. The people loved the message. Many who were frustrated by that government felt it was time for CHANGE. Sai Baba! 

That tweet has come back to bite. It also appears that CHANGE can be pretty expensive.

pls someone should retweet it at his Handle