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awakmfon03:
So sorry but you are very wrong on this.
Note she was still having her menstruation. And the man's wife was the one buying her the sanitary pads. I've come across more than 3 adults who were pregnant without even knowing until it was about 4-5months and one of them is likely going to put to birth next month. She only discovered she was pregnant when the pregnancy was over 5 months meanwhile she was still seeing her period. She only found out when she started adding weight and feeling abnormal.

Exactly what happened in this case, only God have reasons why it escaped our detection, no signs, no symptoms, the girl was perfect fit and go about her usual duty as before

zcee:
Shits happen...

Treat her the way you will treat your own child if she was the one...

Mind you, nobody died it's just a mistake that may have been avoided at her age if she knows th basic importance of safe sex...
She made a mistake at that age
Very bad!

Thanks

I am sorry for you. You must either be a paedophile or be among those who take advantage of vulnerable women. God have mercy on you.

Ikennaford:
Op de fuuuck that girl too, forget this Long epistle he wrote up there, sweet 16 cuntus deh sweet nah

I am sorry for you. You must be among those who take advantage of vulnerable women. God have mercy on you.

Ikennaford:
Op de fuuuck that girl too, forget this Long epistle he wrote up there, sweet 16 cuntus deh sweet nah

Emaprince:
Wow...if she did this, then she isn't totally bad. She's more grown now and probably starting to have sexual needs and the attention starting to make sense to her. Its life and every one changes and adjusts as they get mature. I won't even crucify her cos many women here disvirgined at 12..13yrs. But its easy to condemn another person that sins. That boy is also Young but more experienced than her.

I will implore you to cool your anger. Even as you are sending that girl back home..you can still assist her with her education so she don't sink into depression. She made a mistake as an inexperienced girl. She don't need to be crucified, she need help.

Thank you for your honest opinion, appreciated

dazzlingd:
Bros, u don give your maid belle, you come dey accuse the 20 year old boy

Chai! I am crying for you!! God have mercy and forgive you. I won't curse because out of the abundance of heart the mouth speaks. I spread love and not hate

Ologbo147:
you shouldn't have gotten her an android phone

There are only 2 reasons we bought her that phone

1) She borrows either my wife's phone or mine to do her assignment that involves researching outside text book.

2) our need for constant communication via WhatsApp video call to know how the kids are doing.

fokudas:
I know how painful it is to have a child under your roof get pregnant without you knowing. Few things I will like to point out here:
1. The girl comes from a family that none of her siblings was able to finish secondary school.
2. The monther was happy that at least a light is about to shine in the family reason why when she came to see her, she pleaded you allow her stay longer with you people
3. The same thing that didn't allow her other siblings finish school has to strike in another way, by getting her lured by the boy to ge into sex which now resulted to pregnancy.........still that siege of no one must be educated.
4. You and your wife are the Deborah and Joshua sent to help this family through the girl to end that siege ans set a new path for the family.
5. To make a good end out of this will not be easy but it is achievable if and only if you and your wife will see this as a divine assignment from God to deliberate a family.
6. Dont change your mind regarding training the girl to university.
7. Get her to the village and take all responsibility regarding the delivery of the baby then ensure that the girl gets back to school and see her through school
8. The new baby should not be neglected, always reach out and get across stuffs for her upkeep (Like I said, this isn't gonna be easy but if you and your wife see it as a service unto God, heaven will sustain you both and make this a great testimony)
9. Pray for God to give you and your wife grace to deliver this project as I know within the next 4yrs to 6yrs when you and your wife look back you will be grateful to God.
10. Draw the girl close and assure her of your commitment to her future but let her know the plan for her to go have the baby in the village after which her education will still be pursued. She must get this assurance so that she doesn't out of no hope end up into another wrong vampire .
God will help you and your wife and this will be a project you will deliver with faith in God and to the shame of the devil.

Thank you sir. Advise appreciated

okoroemeka:
for me I think the idea that the op has that she has sacrificed her future to be in a family way is actually false,I have seen many instances were the girl bounced back better than before,also the opinion of lack of close supervisor is also a naive idea,a matured growing girl is no longer supposed to live in another man's house as house help except in her own mother's house,because growth brings about a rapid spike in hormones that make these girls almost uncontrollable like a dog in heat,I have seen countless examples of such,if they don't get pregnant they will run away at a slight provocation,Bleep the men in the house,Bleep negihbours and co,infact any wise woman cannot keep a girl that is above 16 yrs in her house,good husband or not I don't care,a pair of standing puffy breasts greeting you brother good morning is not a way to test the ridgidity of a man's self control.

All men are different, especially for men with strong moral background.

I totally understood what you are saying.

A relative of mine made a similar gesture about the sexuality of the girl last year, that he would like to marry the girl as a second wife. That statement alone put an end to whatever blood relationship we shared! Yes! The girl was just like a daughter to me and had always been. I won't accept it if any person no matter how close knit we share tries to take advantage of such nativity

Ecne:
Do these: FIRST AVOID ABORTION.

1. Track the boy and inform his family.
You'll be surprised what support they too can render, especially the potential 'Great-Grand-Ma'...

2. If they refuse, file for 'Statutory Rape' as the girl is still underaged according to our laws. The young man is above 18 and could do time.

3. Support her relocation to her Mom who happens to be the BEST person to guide her with love through this period. You and Wifey can send assistance from time to time.

4. Both you and Wifey should continue to provide 'Parental care' for the child, if you can, even if the family of the boy is non-responsive.

5. Try to see her return to school and live her dream, she has learnt her lesson and will apply the learnings going forward.

6. When she and the boy come of age and wishes to marry her, be the Father that you've always been to her and guide her accordingly.

7. You have the right to be utterly disappointed, but please don't stop showing her love.

Bless you Bro.

Exactly what we are going to do.

Thanks for your corroboration!

I guess you didn't read the write up.
Here is the scan result.
Compare it to the write up

xeratek:
Another fake story by patlex AKA Patrick Enyum and group

iamme1234:
My brother in the lord
You have tried your best to
RIse the girl child from dust to the brim.
In Wasiu Ayinde’s song
He says rora se rora shey ooooo
Anybody to bafe se ore..
My brother with humility of mind
Let that girl go and visit his family
You have done the best
Don’t take her in anymore
because this might affect your future and the future of your kids.
I have done help to a peak in this life that I later Blamed my self woefully.
Listen let that girl go and always support her with anything you can while she is with her parent.
Remember this girl might grow up a bit and developed too much likeness in you hence put your wife’s life in jeopardy..
I won’t say more than this
This life has taught me lesson that I can’t regain back.
Brother this is where God want you to assist the girl child till.
If you proceed
You will remember I told you this tales
Shalom..

The limit is there already as she addresses me as Daddy, my wife as mommy.

I will do the best in my capacity to support her tertiary education. However, the boy that is responsible for this must also take the responsibility of his actions

micflo28:
You mentioned that the boys grandmother just arrived from the US. Its means that the family is well to do. See how they can be of help to help the girl through this stage of pregnancy and cater for the child after its born. You should have taught the girl as much as your kids the implications of sex and its consequences. Brave it into her once you see male kids in the neighbourhood. She is in experimental stage and the boy is in his "Take advantage of her" stage. They both failed to get guided.

Thanks

Joybeau:
First off, it is not uncommon that a- 16 year old young girl should indulge in sex without knowing the repercussion of such indulgence. The blame still fall on the parent or caregiver for failing to protect her on the status of her being a minor. She is still under your care and custody and you failed her. That's why I blame our culture that stiffs reception to Sexuality education. Most African homes shy away or vilify sexuality education, but we must embrace it. I mean home based sexuality education, I said Sexuality education and not sex education because Sexuality education encompasses sex education, knowledge of one's body, sex orientation and behaviour. Sexuality education is taught age-wisely to children right after birth till adulthood. Children are the vulnerable population owing to the fact that their cognitive ability is not fully developed. So, you as the caregiver must live up to the task of protecting them not just physically but also emotionally. Else they will be preyed upon. " Giving information is not giving permission" . At her age she's supposed to have learnt about her body( I mean womanhood) and the consequences of engaging in risky behaviour.
You can mail me at gilbertjoy63@gmail.com or send me a pm here for more information on what parents should know to enable them carry out effective sexuality education
You can also get daily or weekly tip on sexuality education as well as buying a resource book authored by myself

Big lesson already learnt!

Thanks for your honest input

SURElee:
Biko, Dont let her sacrifice her future because of this pregnancy. There are kids who have babies as teenager and still continue with their education. Please continue to sponsor her, she can leave the baby with the mother and continue with the education. Other kids have waxed stronger after teenage pregnancy.

That boy will further his education, so why should she pay for her teenage sexual act by sacrificing her future.

Please sponsor her and let her be the light on her family, I beg of you and your wife.

May God guide you aright. Please I beg of you.

Thank you Sir

Thanks.

She will go back to the village and put to birth, thereafter return back to the city after weaning the child. Whatever arrangements to be made must involves that boy's family too.

Next year UTME, she will register and write it in the village.

benqo01:
First of all i must commend you and your wife for taking good care of that girl trust me it is very rare your good intension towards her is plausible as well.

So unfortunate,it has happened you just have pressure that boy he has to take responsibility of the pregnancy even if he likes it or not.

Thank you

lebron7:
Perfect way to handle this
Cc DSS1335

Noted.
Thanks

Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.

I have discussed your recommendations with my wife and we have agreed to implement it that way. However, this must come after meeting the boy's family. Thank you

ecolime:
Chaiii

Few months ago, our 19 year old live-in maid ran off with a 20 years old boy. She packed and moved to a ghetto here in PH because of love

Thank God we were able to track her, got her arrested and bundled her back to her family in Lagos where we took her from.

Once they turn teenagers, it's very easy for boys to deceive them.

This is a girl that had a big room, A.C, quality clothes and latest gadgets to herself. She wrote WAEC last year and was only awaiting admission.

My wife loved her so much and took her like a daughter. You will never know she isn't our blood. She flew and travel everywhere with us but Penis derailed her life.

I was so grateful she didn't get pregnant else it would have been a different case.

Now, we don't do live-in maids. It's cash and carry. Our new maid comes to clean up the house once we are back from work at 4pm.. (works 5pm to 7pm). Then work on Saturdays too (8am to 5pm) Once you are done, go back to your house. While she's fully off on Sunday.

You always want the best of life for them but they don't love their lives enough.

It is well with you bro

I have come to realize that live-in maids who were discriminated and ill-treated will not have the gut to misbehave this way. This girl enjoy all loves bestowed on her by my wife. She dress the way my wife does and use good perfumes.

My tenants all thought she was my first child.
I loved her the way i would loved my child.i took compassion on her due to her mother and wanted her to be light to her family. I guess God have good reasons for the twist in her fate! Honestly i wouldn't have given it a second thought to have her abort the foetus had we discovered this pregnancy earlier.

Nemesis0147:
Please whatever you decide on doing.
Don’t blackmail that boy...don’t accuse him of rape when he didn’t do it!!
Let him and your ward take responsible for their actions!!
Not by blackmailing him,,,two wrongs doesn’t make a right.

A minor according to our constitution is any child below the statutory age of 18. They are still going through the adolescent phase of maturity. They are incapable of making rational decisions. Sleeping with such a child despite her consent is called a statutory rape within the context of our legal frame work. He risks 14 years imprisonment. That is the only hope i have now to hold the boy and his family on their jugular. That young girl must not suffer alone. So i don't care whatever method i deploy to ensure that they take responsibilities

zed7:
In your case, track down the boy and force him to take responsibility, if the family refuses, please sue for rape. He raped a minor. You cannot come and derail someone's life and then go about enjoying yours.

Thank you for your honest advise.

We have been able to trace through the help of the estate caretaker and contacted her aunty who was their grandmother's point of contact in PH through out their 3 months stay. She has accepted to help us mediate in the case, she will inform her Mother (the boy's grandma) and her sister(the boy's mother) about all that transpired. That the boy lives with his parents in Obigbo before ABA. If all efforts to resolve this case peacefully fails, i will file for statutory rape charge.

ValCon888:
My advice is not for the girl, but for the boy.

That 20 year old boy should make sure a DNA test is carried out before anyone pins a pregnancy on his head.

Just like the OP was shocked that a "naive" 16 year old girl is pregnant under his roof, he'll be further shocked that child doesn't belong to the young man in question, but one of her multiple sex partners.

This doesn't make any sense!
What will she gain for withholding such a very sensitive information from us?

When she was in SS1, i was forced to change her school after 3rd term, she confided in my wife that one of her male teacher was giving her undue attention to the point of inviting her to his house coupled with the fact that senior boys in her school were also disturbing her.

This girl doesn't lack anything, whatever she needs or payment that comes, we clear it.
We live comfortably in my 3 bedroom flat. She has her own room, i don't allow her to watch any kind of indecent movie or music by ensuring that such channels are under lock filtering out only cartoon, starlife, zeeworld, and other children friendly channels. my wife has her room but we sleep together with our 2 kids.

Sometimes in June, my wife went through her phone call history, she receives call only from the guy constantly and other female friends whom we assumed were her classmates. we inquired what association she has with this boy that calls her all time even at odd hours of the night. we knew something wasnt ok as WhatsApp chat and sms were deleted. She wasn't allowed to use Facebook as we tried our best to keep her under close watch. On weekends, in our presence, she isn't allowed to use phone as my wife always hold it.
What else could we have done. Our best wasn't enough i guess! And yes, my wife taught her sex education, i guess she was just too stupid, gullible, naive to fall for whatever the boy said. This a big lesson to all parents. We have learnt ours in a very hard way

I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

Blessedmercy8:
Go get an eye drop and increase your vit A intake via food. If symptoms persist after three days, go see an ENT doctor.

See an ENT?ear nose and Throat Dr?

LMAO �����

Namdeenero:
Could be cataract. But check with an optometrist

Good idea

9jahotblog:
Either Atiku or Okowa pictures isn’t in Campaign vehicles, that will never change the mind of the good people of Rivers State electorates to cast their votes for Atiku/Okowa candidacy. Wike remain empty chest beater and clueless loser in Nigeria politics.

You can't speak for us in Rivers state. Wether Wike campaign for ATIKU or not, we are #OBIDIENT, in APC, we are part of the agent who will work to ensure that APC fail woefully

seunmsg:
Oops! Sorry bro.

Thanks and God bless you

seunmsg:
You’re lucky to have salvaged sometime at N1.50/share. Those who held on to the shares can’t salvage anything. They’ve lost every single kobo they invested in the bank. Bank shares should be a no no to all small investors.

I think you got it wrong. I didn't say i liquidated that specific skybank shares, rather i counted my loss because soon afterwards, the shares spiralled further to N0.5 and stokebroker told me it was no longer a tradable asset. Because the huge lost thought me a bitter lesson, i began liquidating my other assets in banking and insurance sectors that were red indications

seunmsg:
Who are the owners of SCIL? How long would it take SCIL to repay the N1.305 trillion injected into the bank?

In all of these, I pity the small small shareholders of the old Skye Bank. All their investments has been completely wiped out with this 100% transfer of ownership to SCIL. If you’re not among the big shareholders that can appoint directors to the board of the bank, don’t waste your money buying the shares of a bank. When shit like this happens, you’re going to lose every single kobo you invested in the bank.

I was among the shareholders of the Skye bank. I invested my over N200k for about 20,000 units @ N11/share in 2010 with the hope of a brighter future, it all turned out to the most horrendous nightmares when the value began to nosedive to N1.50/ share. I counted my lost and liquidated all my other asset from banking secrors

RingRoadMafia:
@ochejoseph even before reading this, I already know where you're headed. I know you well, you're a lackey for Atiku and PDP, even if if PDP presents a lump of shi*t as it's Presidential candidate, you and your ilk will still come here to give us a million reasons why that lump of shi*t is better than everyone else. The earlier you accept Atikus defeat, the better for you. Because Kwankwaso and Tinubu will cancel the northern bloc votes he's hoping to get. I wonder how some of you sleep at night. You can sell your own mother for money, bro! This same Atiku you're supporting walked out on GEJ in 2015 because he believes that it was the turn of the north to produce a president since Yar'adua died without completing his tenure. He left the PDP after they "refused to zone the party's ticket to the North" and went to slug it out in APC where he eventually lost to Buhari. Today, Buhari has completed that 8 years for the north, and Atiku has suddenly ditched the zoning agreement he so much believed in and is now preaching "competence", as if there are no competent people in the south. Guy shame on you!

A very big thank you for giving that guy a well and befitting response. I sometimes wonder if people like Ochejoseph and Reno Mockery are suffering from Chronic amnesia so much that they can't recall the past anymore! I have not forgotten the book "under my watch" by Obj, the mass scale corrupt practice by ATIKU was well exposed.

agadez007:
Before the end of the year 2022,may APC blow to smithereens and take all its supporters along with




Iseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Amen

Throwback:
Na so you talk about the APC presidential primaries.

We know how that turned out.


As for the Jagaban, I bear him witness.

His statement will judge him. Which great yesterday is his stupid party banking on that will warrant right thinking Nigerian to vote for his party? He has indirectly prophesied that he is not going to win and so shall it be

Sonyboom765:
Pls fools should not compare Obi with Umahi they are not mate n will never ever be mate.

Umahi didn't loot money into his daughter Pandora account account nor was his convoy caught red-handed looting over N250 million in cash.

Umahidis not invest in kaikai that went down the drain. Umahi built over 10 flyovers, built malls airport hospitals etc n dis keep money in bank like Obi like a failure to later claim he left the money so someone else can build all he can not accomplished.

Umahi handlers should take not cos few years from now when Umahi as to compete with Obi for the presidency ObiDaft want to start demarketing him to hype the failire Peter Obi





But if it was Obi you will host a carnival for the Pandora kleptomaniac criminal for doing exactly the same.

Cry cry baby....
Go and take snipper and end it all because Peter obi is the incoming president. We the hard working youths who are desirable of a prosperous Nigeria will make it happen