₦airaland Forum

obowunmi:
Hi everyone,

I've been on the platform for a while and still tragically single.

I recently started meeting with a therapist who let me know that I have difficulty finding someone because I am yet to forgive my parents.

I grew up in a home where:
My parents were very, very abusive towards each other.
My dad sometimes took on the traits of a sadist when he disciplined us.
My mom is the most passive aggressive human being I know.

No one is perfect but my therapist has helped me to understand that I need to forgive them first before I cam commit myself to finding a loving partner.

Most of my girlfriends, only stay with me for the money and leave me.

How do I go about forgiving my parents? Please help.

HungerBAD:
Nigerians are a difficult people to please.

So I can understand where the President is coming from,it is even difficult to explain to the Spirits on Nairaland ,that Buhari means good.

Lai Mohammed,just keep doing your good job.

Pyno30:
You just said it. It shouldn't have been a question to me, i'm not your student. Hehehehehehe.

Pyno30:
There're no clear difference between the headlines of
1983/4 & 2016. This could have been avoided

sunnydayasaba:
What is wrong wit affluence Nigerians, even with the economy downturn, They still carry d money they need to spend in this country to help the economy grow outside.

christejames:
the hostel issue should only be tagged to the boys, as for the female hostels, the school have the best and conducive female hostels in the country with functional WIFI and constant water supply (running taps). As for bike, commercial riders don't ply the campus, the ones you saw are privates and mainly for students... Hmmm, you are even underrating new Jimbaz laboratory? Maybe you visited when they haven't refurbished the lab.

...in all the den (UNN) is a massive construction site now with masterpiece architectural designs springing up at every nooks and crany.

OBAFEMIawolowo:
trust me, i have been to unb, I really enjoyed eating in your chitis. Buy you will agree with me that UNN has a bad hostel, water issues, and no well fucntional intracampus shuttle (u see bikes flying everywhere in the campus). I don't know about other labs, but the biochemistry labs in UNN is nawa ooo. I must stay that I love your library and free wireless

JohnQueen:
OP I understand your frustration as a Nigerian but those courses are not limited. Zoology for instance... There's Hydrobiology, Physiology, Parasitology, Entomology, Ecology, Histology to name a few. The latter has to do with bones. Can even be combined with Anthropology and you find yourself as an autopsy specialist. Thing is, you don't have to limit yourself to your first degree. Hope dey!

Rapmoney:
Shut up ur mouth and hide those shameful fingers of urs!!! Parasitology and Entomology is a seperate department in the faculty of Natural Sciences! When I was sitting for my degree exams, I don't think you were done with primary school then! If you want to claim ITK, there are territories you go to, don't play close to me

OgundeleT:
odunlade adekola is from otun in ekiti state.. modify that op

funnynation:
Good morning Nairaland Nation. As you all know, my name is funnynation. I need advise towards my present challenge am facing with my ex. I met this girl early 2012 and we started as friends because I helped her when she was looking for shop to rent. Around the month of March that same year we started dating and everything started going down well, we share thesame dream by then to end up as husband and wife. At a long we started having issue, she get zero chill (hot temper na her second name). She can pick offence even when you laugh at a wrong time and the most annoying aspect of it that she keep threatening me that she will break up with me. She just believed that I don't have option in life because by then I was doing little job. I even introduced her to my family members and she did thesame.. Around 2014 when both us couldn't hold our head again, we decided to give the relationship a break.

*Fast forwarded to 2016*

She started calling me again that we need to make peace and I have moved on with my life. When she saw my first comedy skit online and she watched my program on TV then she changed her plan, she told me that she have calculated all the money she spent on me and the ones she borrowed me that all the money is #73,000 and I should pay her with immediate effect or I will see the other side of her.

Yesterday she gave sombody phone to talk to me and the man claimed to be a police man started shouting on me that I should pay the money on or before end of the month. The only money that I know she gave me was #15,000 and I wanted paying her but when she said 73k I decided to change my mind. She claimed to spend on me but I know she contributed to my problem last two years because of the way I spend on her. I do buy her cloth on weekly basis, I do buy her mother cloths, I do buy cloths and baby food for her elder sister. I do give her maintenance fee. As she keep threatening me because she believe that entertainment have started paying me big and she want to extort cash from me.

Please should I report to police or should I just wait for her next action or should I back it up with my lawyer? Please good people what will I do because I don't want her case to affect my career because am still coming up in the industry.
*Advice please*

This is what happens when you move about with a broke ass girl



@Nairaland official comedian

Fmartin:
Hmmm..... My dear nairalanders, my bae just told me that she has not seen her period.

The moment she told me this news, i started sweating profusely.

How on earth will i address unintended pregnancy issue

Right now am waiting for 4 weeks to carry out pregnancy test. This is because, the hormone, 'human chorionic gornadotrophine' which indicate positive result for pregnancy test is present in urine only after 4 weeks of fertilization.


Chai! i think am going to emaciate as a result of this issue.

A second thought, is it because of the postinor she took that has cause a delay in her menstrual circle

My heart is pounding right now. Am worried this is how it will continue for next couple of weeks.

If after the test, the result is positive, what do i do

I don't really have any intention of getting married now.

This news has really change my mood right now. I can't believe am angry at people over some little jokes.

Pls ! I need help. My thoughts are going off.

Naughtysite:
Seen something similar

iflywithbuhari:
Rubbish. They will only raise our hopes, cause us to starve and then collect egunje, and put the price at 110naira. After which they will demand an applause. But as long as it troubles this APc govt, then carry on