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I'm sure none of you has read the Amnesty International report indicting the Nigerian Army in extra judicial killings and tortue in their so called war on Boko Haram. The report details how Nigerian soldiers carry out executions and retaliate on innocent people when they are attacked. The Nigerian army is spearheading a genocide in the North and I hope one day, the people responsibbble for these crimes and the politicians turning a blind eye to them, will be brought to justice. El-rufai is probably Right

Can i nominate myself?

Ikengawo: so far GEJ. I also think he has faced the most challenges since Gowon so he gets extra credit (Boko Haram, floods, subsidy, PHNC privatization)
He's also been the least powerful of our presidents. Ministries and departments like the CBN are more independent, the Senate is more independent as it as ever been, he's not a big wig in his party and opposition is the strongest it's ever been, so dealing with the problems are harder for him.

Exactly! But then is he respecting the autonomy of the Senate and CBN and the others because he's a true democrat or he's just too weak and unconcerned to know the magnitude of the power his office holds. Its another topic for debate

Brand_new: Here are Two scenarios when it comes to celebrating the union of two people in Nigeria.


There is a low key one which only involves close family and friends. Usually low budget because there are not so many mouths to feed and very little wastage.

There is the other which is the flamboyant one that involves inviting as many friends and acquittance as possible. Such ceremonies involves big budgets and most times the couple and there families get overstretched after the ceremony.
There's a lot of wastage involved and most times the couple bare the brunt of the cost long after the event.


I personally prefer the former because of the type of person i am. I don't like make noise about my personal affair and such an occasion to me is very personal so only very close friends and family would be privy to it.
Besides that, I'm also and entrepreneur and business person and i strongly believe in cutting wastage and feeding unknown people is part of it.


I know most women would prefer the the latter because they believe such a ceremony only comes once and it should be full of memories for them.

So whats your take on this because it's very important to me and I'd love to know your views on this.

That's why we'll forever be a nation of debtors. Someone goes and borrows money he/she doesn't have just to have a wedding that 'People will remember'. Nonsense upon nonsense. If its possible, the only people at my wedding will be the pastor, myself and my bride. I'm definitely not going to include any hungry persons in my wedding budget, they're not my responsibility.

Created a thread just to get people to rate your picture You're nothing but a narcissistic pig

If you're with your so called partner for love, then you'll definitely spill everything no matter how sour or distasteful it is. It builds trust in the relationship and helps the partners understand each other better. Then if you're in the relationship for the sake of getting married on time or probably your partners money or fame or whatever, then its better you don't spill anything at all.

Mistrust is always going to be the bane of such relationships. If she doesn't want intimacy, he'll suspect its a sign she's not that into him. The norm in relationships is for the girl to signify her affection for the guy by accepting to be intimate with him. If she doesn't, then she's not into him.
The only way an intimacy free relationship will work is if there is a strong moral framework behind the both of them, like religion or tough parenting. Aside from that, the norm is to signify compatibility,love or acceptance with intimacy.

Forgive me ladies, but is security the new code word for money?

legacy_systems: I am a 29 year old lady from a north-western part in Nigeria. Sometime in April this year, I started working with a consulting firm; that was after staying unemployed for 7 months since I got laid off with another firm that decided to reduce its staff strength. It was a trying period for me, I had just gotten out of a terrible relationship and then the retrenchment followed. My life was practically falling apart but I muddled through the trauma till April when luck smiled on me again.

Some weeks into my appointment, I met with a couple people and made new friends, this was quite easy because the work environment is an open space. I had begun loving life once more, my colleagues were really friendly people except for one very nosy single mother, but that didn’t bother me a bit because for once in a very long time, every other thing just made a whole lot sense.

Days rolled into weeks and in three months I was having the best time of my life, I was assigned to do a project that would last 9 months along with 5 other people and the project kicked off the moment all the team members came together.

Rick, as he is popularly called, is on the team as our strategy administrator. He is a tall handsome slightly fair-complexioned man in his early 30s. Due to the nature of our work, we talk often and somehow our conversations got much less formal overtime.

I clearly see that he likes me as he occasionally sends in those early morning texts to check up on me and would sometimes ask to have lunch with me at work; he even waits for me after working hours to give me a ride home. Things are really looking good for us but something is wrong, it’s against the company policy for co-workers to date.

This was our discussion the last time we hung out, Rick openly admitted he likes me and would really love to get into a serious relationship with me but he can’t afford to jeopardise his reputation at work especially because we are both new in our respective roles.

This is quite understandable but looking at how much Rick has made my life colourful, I can’t seem to make a single sense out of this. Should I quit my job so we’d be together or just get on with life pretending this never happened? Quitting my job is a risk I can’t take but it’ll be a very hard task acting as a mere co-worker with Rick and we are only 4 months into the project. I’m at crossroads here. He seems like the dream man, how can I keep him and not lose my job too?

My name is Jane and I sincerely need your advice.

I'll just tell you to ignore whatever the guy's throwing at you and be as professional as you can about your job and try igniting your social life outside of work. Its very easy to be both professional and just FRIENDLY to this guy. Rules are rules, they're there for a reason. Stay off him and keep your job, that's my take

Dlyna: That d'banj and Timaya have made more money than you'll ever dream of. Why aint our professors, teachers, and writers so rich and respected.
You think they are good for nothing abi? Because they are musicians. If you don't know those guys that look like nothing good to you have made some westerners not to think that we are all cave men in this country.

What's your own contribution to this country with all the books you have read?

LOL..comparing d'banj and Timaya with professors and writers? Is this how our young people think? OMG! We're in serious trouble!

Charles. E:
Amazingly, the controversial pint sized former minister of the FCT and now chieftain of the Congress for Progressive Change (CPC), Malam Nasir Elrufai, has accused Nigerian youths of being lazy and quick to judge.

Elrufai made the accusation today on the Social networking site, Twitter (see twits below)


Elrufai was apparently reacting to the youths who regularly accuse him of corruption and high handedness when he was in office. Elrufai is currently facing a corruption charge at an Abuja court bordering on the lands he seized from legitimate owners and reallocated to friends and his wives and Underaged son.

Amazingly the same Elrufai who is so sensitive to criticism regularly insults the person of the President of Nigeria on his facebook and twitter profile, using foul words to describe President Jonathan.

It may be recalled that Elrufai had asked Nigerians not to vote for Muhammadu Buhari in October of 2010 alleging that Buhari was too old to be president and that he was primordial having chosen his military vice, Tunde Idiagbon, from the same region (North) as himself. However, just two months after making that statement, Elrufai became one of Buhari's chief campaigners asking Nigerians to vote for the man he had condemned only weeks ago!

Totally agree! The likes of abiL and shollypopz have never opened books before and always find it difficult to construct sentences without throwing bombs. Shame on our youth! So many Illiterate young people out there, its just shameful.

$tunna:
girl see guy, like guy...everything the guy says is then funny(ie word is good); girl see guy but dont like guy and everything guy says is not funny - actually guy is annoying to her!
same guy that girl dont like have money and suddenly girl like money but still not the guy, so girl is with guy but girl secretly like another guy and takes the cash from the money guy to raise her kids and love the man she really likes till she dies! simple!

"COULD LOVE BE ACQUIRED BY PRACTICE OR DESIRE?" "LOVE IS BORN OF THE EYES AND OF THE HEART - A NOBLE HEART; BECAUSE TRUE LOVE MUST COME WITH SOME PAIN!!
(JOSEPH CAMPBEL)

LOL

Smartie gurl: Long life, success in life nd protection of my fwends nd family members.

Nice topic

Abujafood: These are 5 of Nigeria's most handsome and sexy male Celebrities. Your take on which order they should take?

Lynnx

Tu Face Idibia

Davido

Banky W

D'Prince

Vote Now!

:oIf these guys are 'sexy' then Nigeria is in serious trouble!

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Onila.

I perfectly understand that you have a social disorder and you can't help but commit any thought in your head into writing, but the amount of senselessness that emanates from you is rather unbecoming. . .

An advice from a brother to a sister: Get a what? Get a LIFE!
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LMAO!

oluface: can u?

Na wa o...see question

vivian chinaza: When it feels right, your instinct tells you (tho sometimes we shut our instincts out cos we want that thing so badly, most people even see it as being negative), and he or she brings undiluted peace to your life and the love stands the test of time.

Trusting your instincts totally is very dangerous,so is trusting totally in faith or religion in relationships. Its just a game of luck and chance. If you're very lucky, you'll meet that one person that'll never disappoint you or treat you bad. At the same time, if your instincts are totally for someone, they may still end up treating you bad.

BoboYekini: yes o. even from the title

LMAO!

impetus:
Hello Readers,

I am Pregnant for my young sister's husband. I travelled to Lagos to buy clothes for my shop about two months ago and had to spend a few days in my sister’s place.


I called her but her number wasn’t going so when I got to Lagos I contacted her husband who told me that she went to Ogun State on official assignment.



He agreed that I should come over and do my transaction from their house.It was raining when I got there so I got socked, especially while trying to get their keys from a neighbour.


They live in a one-bedroom apartment, so I had to go inside the room to change. I was really cold and was already wishing I had a man I could visit in Lagos when the unexpected happened.

Due to the rain my sister’s husband came in through a back door from the kitchen straight into the bedroom and I was completely nudé; I couldn’t even bend down to pick my clothes.




I was just standing there motionless until he grabbed me and, yes, we did it.


We didn’t feel any guilt, just laughed about it and I prepared food. We both ate, slept together and had séx all night with each other. The sequence continued for the three days I spent in Lagos but after the first time we agreed he shouldn't release his sperm inside me.


Am now back to Enugu where I do my business, but unfortunately I am six weeks pregnant. No man friend, no boyfriend, no séx mate…. So who will I give this pregnancy to?

My sister’s marriage is less than a year and I just cant mention this to her husband.

The options I have thought of is either to kill myself or have an abortion. Is there any other way out of this mess I have gotten myself into?

Please I need HELP, and I need it fast! What should I do
http://www.talkofnaija.com/news_details.aspx?NewsId=93BD4BA5-3C2D-4003-88DD-39C14E4E8EFB






House I read the above story and decided to bring it here for comments. For me, the lady is a home destroyer. The incident was avoidable but due to her mischievous act, she did it. Let her bear the consequences.

Funny story