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OBJ and lies

Hello Ladies,
What is all these MIL says, and SIL did stories. Common. This is actually the area your hubbys are supposed to handle. It is his family.
If you are married to a "man" and not some boy in the body of a man, he should be able to handle his own side of the family and make sure that they do not interfere in his marriage.
I was taught that, you make a family budget every month or quarterly. This percentage of our income goes to so and so. And when that budget exceeds, then you only have to be firm and tell whoever it is that you can't do it at this time or they should have patient. Though there are some exceptions like emergencies or when a member of your family is sick.
I really don't understand why a man will allow any member of his family to insult his wife (neither will I allow my wife to insult a member of my family).
I simply wonder when I read these stories.

breadplanets:
I'll do just that. Thank you

There won't be anything wrong in asking your dad or uncle how it is done in your side and what is expected of you.

cococandy:
she is required to be present . Because they will call her to ask her if she permits them to accept the wine brought by the in-laws as a symbol that she accepts the marriage proposal.
If she's not there,they won't accept it without her permission. That's how we did mine. That's how Igbo ppl do it.

Breadplanets cook simple jollof rice and egusi soup with ukazi or bitterleaf. You can't go wrong with that.
Fufu or garri if that is what they prefer.
Ugba is necessary too. Garden egg and kolanut you can't do without.

Drinks will be according to what they prefer.

Congratulations

That is why I said it depends on her part of Igbo land. When I went to marry my wife, the Iku Aka visit was attended by her two brothers, and her father. Later their ADA and mother was invited.
I presented Wine and some money to their father, which was accepted by their second son, and I also presented Wine and some money to their mother which was accepted by their Ada.
Her parents then informed us to go, that they will discuss with their daughter. That I will get a feedback soon, and then I will be told when to come and collect list.
It was on our way out that my wife came to greet my people.
I got married this year. 2014.

breadplanets:
Hello fam! My fiance and his people would be coming to our villa next week for 'iku aka' *introduction. Nothing formal just to see my father and tell him their intentions.Im igbo, dont have a sister older or younger. My mum wont be coming back this xmas as she would be saving her trip for the wedding proper so im all alone. I dont have the slightest idea on what to do on that day. Im i supposed to cook for them? If yes what can i prepare. Or im i supposed to ask them what they will eat? *sounds silly* im totally lost cos im not an outgoing sort of person so ive not ever attended anything like this before. Please any ideas? I want my mummy!!!!! *crying*

Don't know your part of Igbo land. Iku Aka is the first visit. I believe your dad will present Afufa, Orji Igbo and drinks which should be okay. If you guys ( I mean your family) is actually feeling them, you can cook soup or rice.
But you are not even required to be present. Maybe after the men have finished talking and they about leaving, then you can just go and greet them.

OBJ, surviving all coup plots and attempted coup plots, also imagined coup plots. Yet, he isn't grateful to God. Comes of as a greedy old man.

Prixus:
I once had a date like that. but before d date I told her jokingly that we weren't going to my place. just an eatery so that she won't need friends to protect her from rape or any sort of thing like that(thats d usual excuse they give when they bring friends. "I can't come to ur place alone". of course she still came with two of her friends. when we were all seated I asked her in front of her friends whether she brought them with the usual mentality of "let us go and eat". of course she replied "no o". I then took her to another table with the excuse that we had to chat in private. I sent them two bottles of coke n 2 meatpies n got her exactly what I had planned earlier. I'm sure her friends would hv bn disappointed cos I made sure she ate well while they ate hungrily. I greeted them properly when I was dropping them off. their last goodbye really said it all...

You are a nice guy, I tell you. cos, I would have bought only coke for them or even nothing. They weren't in my budget, so I don't see how am responsible for their good time because I want to date their friend.

I am wondering why you are still single.

Mogidi:
How can it be propaganda when its obvious the above people were jailed?
His past may be too icky for you but PDP needs to unveil the real Buhari for his past deeds. Details of his bloody and lacklustre regime needs to be showcased for all to see.

And who says Nigerians are not aware of his past?

If PDP, keep up with this useless propaganda..... GEJ will lose.
We need issue based politics.

him be idjiot, Wetin concern am

Jidefido:
http://www.theheraldng.com/apc-yet-pick-buharis-running-mate/

Meanwhile, there's a rumour that Buhari picked Tinubu as his running mate according to Vanguard. Let's keep our fingers crossed though.

Believe me you, if tinubu is not getting anything concrete from Buhari, then GMD should expect a betrayal like 2011.

Buhari & Amaechi........ I will rather Vote Buhari & Fashola (islamization or not).
Moreover, the Northern elites will never trust a man like Amaechi.
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Now, where is Tinubu going to fit in? We have not forgotten about Odili who brought Amaechi into politics ( is just like someone choosing Ngige) the Godfathers are not stupid to fall for this.
Buhari cannot be controlled by anyone, we all know that, and he is choosing a man (Amaechi) who has the potential of not being controlled by anyone also.......No No. Nigerian politics is still about Godfatherism and King making, I can bet it that this combo will not fly.
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Anyways, 2015 is not far. Even this shall come to pass.

bumeks:
u ar a muslim no wonder dis is coming 4rm u

this has got nothing to do with being a Muslim. the speaks the truth.
Why will you threaten someone with hell fire? That is being manipulative.

We may all see Seun Kuti, as ranting. But, I can relate with his story.
Where I used to stay at Ago Palace way, there's this church that formed a habit then of always disturbing our sleep from Wednesday to Saturday. They will always conduct midnight prayers on those days, starting from 10 pm to 5am.
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But the irony is that the church has now grown, and they have stopped the midnight prayers..... their pastor is one of these prosperity preaching MOG.
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Judgement will start from the house of God.

Kai!!! politicians can do anything.
Tufia

TheRealMrStan, AKA Seun

One thing I like about this thread is that is not about argument or name calling. At the start of the thread I read one account of in-law hubby wahala and I wanted to cuss out the DH of that lady, but others quickly pointed out that cussing or heaping blame is not the goal of the thread. I took note and has quietly been reading comments.
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@Nwababy, you can sieve the responses others gave.
Peace.

Maybe that's why he wishes to come back, so that Nigeria can make him rich like the others.
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GEJ wasn't rich, but I guess the story has changed.
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Yaradua, wasn't rich but I guess his family is not lacking and I wonder if they will ever lack.
OBJ, was taken from prison straight to Aso Rock, but today I believe that the reason he is able to insult Nigerians is because he super duper rich.
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Abeg, Buhari should come and try his luck.

I dey shame for you OP.....
Those living and working Abia are tired of correcting this errorneous propaganda of Ochendo. We are all waiting for May 2015, do that he will leave that seat. If Ikpeazu or Otii or Ufomba or any other person who becomes governor decides not to do anything, then so be it.
But one thing is sure, come May 29, 2015 T.A will cease to be governor of Abia State

R I P, sir. It's Well.

We always thrilled when we hear Millions and Billions..... But some of these mega rich guys, did things you wouldn't normally do. Whether good or bad.
Be Content, doesn't mean be poor.

Abia will be making another huge mistake if Ikpeazu, were to be voted in..........Let all Abians think.

We have descended so low and have suffered so long, that we can't even voice out in the face of injustice.The story stated that the inner light was on, so why was the police officer still flashing his torch light on the couple?
It's now a crime for me to tell my fellow human being to stop flashing light directly at my face because he is a police officer?
If the couple were driving one powerful SUV, will he have the gut to do that?
If the couple were in a government issued vehicle, will he have the gut to do that?
ANYONE WHO REMAINS SILENT IN THE FACE OF INJUSTICE IS ALREADY DEAD.

When will Nigeria suspend their leaders......?

I don't know what to believe..... but fear UNILAG girls

stonebridge:
Yes...

how do you market your cars without a price?

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sorry I have seen the price.

asha80:
I am sure dead ohafia,abiriba warriors and aba women involved in the 1929 riot would be turning in their graves on how their descendants have turned into millipedes not capable of fighting tyranny and corruption.

asha80, where are you based?

MumZ:
[/quote]what of gripe water? Is it not for stomach pain? [quote author=MumZ post=28711817]

what of gripe water? Is it not for stomach pain?

Collynzo9:
Ebele and Otti have absolutely nothing in common.
Alex has proven himself in the private sector as a great manager of people and resources.
You were the one talking about evil, tell me one thing Alex has done to warrant being branded with such a word.

okay. Alex is a the messiah Abia has been waiting for. Udo.

Collynzo9:
If you like be looking for evil that doesn't exist and end up voting another T.A Orji in disguise.
You couldn't make any valid point against Alex Oti, yet you ended up branding him evil.

Alex is not a Saint...... that's how everybody was shouting Ebele, today see where Nigeria is.
I am not for any party, I am for track record. Give me cogent reasons why otii is a better candidate?