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Does his wife know it’s a sham marriage? Or she thinks she’s his wife but he’s scamming her. It’s possible he doesn’t like the woman and he will divorce her once he’s settled but would you want to be with a man who will put another lady through all that? What makes you think he won’t scam you too?

Your bf of four years broke up with you, your response was ok and thank you, you didn’t realize you were almost 30. Now you find out he’s married and your age suddenly matters. You are clinging to him by granting him audience but asking why he’s clinging to you.

Let the man go and keep searching. It’s better to never marry than to be with a dishonest fella.

Thank God for cameras these days. In our days we didn’t even know we were bullying. These days big brother is always watching.

Fake. She remarried a man with the same surname as her late husband. Imagine a Yoruba man in 1923 telling his family he’s getting married to a widow and adopting her late husband’s name. He would have been sacrificed to the gods.

It’s one thing to allow the woman keep the name but to adopt it as mine. Na ment?

Looks like Asake was scared of him. Don’t worry Asake, they don’t shoot black people in Canada.

If you are sexually connected to guys you aren’t dating, why would I want to date you? I can be one of those guys you sex(t) without commitment.

He forgave you or he’s not ready to give up the sex? When it’s time to marry he will remember he can’t be with a girl whose nudes is on other guys phone. For your own safety move on to someone who hasn’t caught you.

If churches will not wed couples until they see a genotype test and pregnancy test, the same rules of should be extended of not christening a child until there’s proof of paternity.

The only thing I lack on that list is ‘can pay my bills’. I refuse to be saddled with the responsibilities of an able bodied adult under any guise.

The men who have these qualities are not scarce but they have their own list too, if a man returns this list to you as what he wants in a woman, how many can you strike out?

I’m sure the friend’s fiancé is black.

lol. You spent money you planned to spend initially yet you are this furious but you want us to believe you would have left it alone if you spent more than you planned for by paying his bills.

If that guy was the one with the bounced card, his name, picture and family history will be online by now.

Her accent is slightly foreign, she’s most likely not in Nigeria.

Love and lust has nothing to do with violence. There are violent people and there are non violent people. A guy who fights with the bike man, conductors, strangers during road rages, beats a thief or help set one on fire wouldn’t hold back just because they love.

Hurt people hurt people. People don’t just decide to hurt others, they do it from a place of hurt. So if you are a violent, it’s a matter of time before you hit someone you love. Even if they weren’t the ones who hurt you, you will take out your frustrations on them.

It’s funny how ‘I will drag you’ has now become a threat. I watched a video of an influencer who got attacked by thugs sent by another influencer, the injured guy was making a video of his bloodied face and shouting ‘I will drag you, I swear I will drag you online’

Even though I wonder how effective people think dragging someone online is. I wish it becomes the new normal. Imagine if Iran, Israel, Palestine, Russia and Ukraine were only dragging themselves online.

Parking is 10k, doctors appointment is 110k

Both gender wants sex, both gender needs energy, both gender needs food so both gender needs money. After sex both gender should pay themselves.

Unless I’m intentional about finding a non graduate, I will end up with a graduate. Every girl I’m close to today has atleast a degree.

A good partner is one who’s concerned about their significant other’s physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and financial growth. A good partner is one who knows the basic etiquette of relationships and adheres to them. A good partner places the interest of the relationship above their personal interest.

A relationship needs one good partner to survive but two good partners to flourish. Be a good partner and never tolerate a bad one.

If women tie sex to provision, men should tie provision to sex too. If every married man only provide on the days they have sex, the average man will provide less than 20 days in a year.

That there are women who still believe sex is beneficial solely to a man is bewildering. If only you know the number of wives who are in therapy because their husbands wouldn’t touch them.

One of the only allures of marriage or any other arrangement that would make me share my space with someone is increased income, reduced expenses or both. Double income, single bills is the goal. Keep your knacks.

If I wanted to pay for knacks I know how to go about it. I also reserve the right to change customers at will. Having a live-in call girl negates the entire purpose of such lifestyle.

When a woman cheats you tell us men have been cheating forever and the female gender is catching up. See this as men trying to overtake since it’s a competition.

Anyone who doesn’t want to be cheated on in this social media era should not get into a committed relationship. You can only reduce the degree of cheating by the kind of person you commit to. The only way to eliminate cheating is to stay single.

Most of the time ladies do not shoot their shots at their level. A guy who likes you wouldn’t wait for you to shoot. If a girl has to shoot there are very high chances that the guy isn’t interested.

Does it make a girl look cheap? It depends on the guy she shoots it to. If a girl shoots her shot at me, I will assume she has done same to other guys and that bothers me. I don’t want to be with a girl that toast boys.

Generally, I haven’t dated anyone that took a shot because every girl who has done that weren’t people I would date anyways, their shooting didn’t impact on my decision. Maybe that will change when a girl I actually like shoots first.

The world today works with referrals. Happens with businesses, employment, relationship etc. At my job there’s a $5,000 referral bonus. There’s an open position, they tell the employees before posting online. You bring someone in, you get $1,500 after three months when they pass probation, $1500 after a year, $2,000 after two years.

When someone is referred to you, the referee guarantees their good behaviour. If you hold the referee in high regards, you don’t even need to do your own check, you just know this person wants the best for you. That’s why it’s important we are on our best behaviour at all times. You don’t know where your name comes up in your absence.

Referrals work well because people don’t refer bad eggs and referrals are always on their best behaviours so as not to disappoint their referees.

Is there no possibility, no matter how little that this lady got involved with other guys while in school or serving? Imagine the guys reaction when they see this post.

You can't bank on anyone these days. People will stain your white.

She probably got suspended because she’s a woman. Someone who should belong in the kitchen and oza room shouldn’t dabble into men’s squabbles.

The guy is dancing to entertain his lover like many men of different races do. The guy may be older than that woman, the stature is deceiving you.

Nigerian guys get married to older, ugly, obese, poor, single mother, uneducated Nigerian women too, this doesn’t make the news but getting a white woman in such category is a call for speculation.

The guy isn’t the best looking guy out there, he’s lanky, probably unskilled and poor. Whatever race he chooses to date from he’s definitely not getting the best of women.

The Labour Party crisis is a test of Peter Obi’s leadership qualities. Buhari had the same siddon look approach to crisis, waiting till things became irreparable. We all saw how much of a ‘fine’ president he made. The Lagos state government during end sars reported to Buhari that BRT buses got burnt, the man said ‘’ ennh let them trek’’. Saraki became senate president because of the same aloofness.

The reason NLC and ASUU hasn’t gone on strike in this administration is the swiftness and decisiveness by which the president uses to handle Issues.

It’s not just about women. It’s almost cultural for a Nigerian man to honour, appreciate and love with his resources. If I’m in a public transportation and I see someone younger than me, male or female, I have the responsibility to pay their fares. Same would apply if they were at a restaurant.

Giving money to our parents, aunties, nieces, nephews, friends etc. All these are strange practices in the west. There is an honour that comes with being able to give. Where we draw the line is when entitlement comes in. When you begin to demand or get upset when you aren’t given.

You give to people when you like them, not necessarily because you want them to like you. When you split rent with your parent and restaurant bill with your bf, Someone buying you a plate of food on a random Tuesday is very generous.

A woman who is a bread winner doesn’t want to keep her husband. She doesn’t care if he gets hurt or not. What’s the worst he would do? Leave. That’s answer to her prayers.

A man who is a breadwinner usually doesn’t want to hurt the wife whether or not he still loves her. There’s that empathy of she hasn’t done anything to me to deserve this. Even if the woman catches him, would she leave? It’s just going to be awkward at home.

I love her skin tone, I love her modest dressing - no cleavages or thighs in sight but I won’t judge the most gorgeous woman in Nigeria by the pictures posted online. How does she look like at home on a Saturday morning?

Both successful women with most likely different backgrounds and opportunities that shaped their lives. Kudos to both. They get a like each.

So when she opens the door what happens? If you are going to take her back, why fight? If you won’t take her back, why fight?

You will do all these to land one of the gullible lots?

If a woman has marriage on her mind it’s safer to date older guys. All things being equal a guy who’s 31 today will get married before a guy who’s 23 today.

The 23-25 year old girl you want to marry at 35 is also refusing to date her age mates for you and the cycle continues.