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sauer:

Wetin u no understand? Say engagements dey break or say people no dey dey meant for each other?!

@Poster,
It's actually advisable not to get involved with your younger sister's friend,the resultant effect is that your sister won't accord you the deserved respect,after all you're dating her friend so she's going to feel equal.I'm sure of this because i've witnessed it happen with a friend of mine.

@Poster,
I wonder where you got your idea from,but trust me you've been misguided.Allowing your husband see other women won't strengthen your marriage,whatever happens to "Love is jealous"? You think the person who said that was high?! Let me tell you how that reasoning would be interpreted;

1. She's seeing someone else.

2. She's planning to see someone else.

3. She's tired of the marriage.

4. She doesn't love me enough so she doesn't care.

5. She doesn't love me.

I could actually go on and on.It's only a slow guy that would think you're a cool wife!

@Poster,
It's obvious you're quite nervous about the whole thing.But i've got news for you,the gurl in question might have also been nursing a crush on you also.Man up and make use of the mobile number you have and throw away the fears and doubts you're having.You have an edge here man,you went to thesame secondary school with her,what this means is she won't scold you but would be happy to hear from an old school mate (except of course you were a jerk in secondary school).

@190,
That's quite harsh na oga.He didn't say he wants to take the lady away from her fiance.

@Poster,
My advice is you just let her be,if she's yours the marriage won't hold.However,if it does then it means she's with the person she was meant to be with.I was in this kind of situation before but i didn't let her know anything about my feelings,rather i encouraged her.The interesting thing is things didn't work out between her and her fiance and she ended up being in my life after almost 10 whole years.Another interesting thing is right now she's married and nope,i'm not her husband.Let things run their normal course.

kpolli:
I hit a stone

Kingsleyinfo:
1. when did the said relationship happen,
2. how long did it last
3. what happened, maybe your brother/sister was a jerk
4. present location,
5. maturity of both persons involved,

the most important thing is to be sincere and truthful to yourself,

i grew up in a small community, where we all knew who dated who and who later married who,

so if you meet a nice girl you actually had a connection with, you would stop yourself from being happy simply because your brother (had an affair with her that ended many years ago,

things change and people make choices that don't turn out too well,

so what?

life will go on, and if you are genuinely convinced about the both of you i will say pursue your heart desire and forget about the past.

In ur opinion,answers to dose questions would influence d answer?

kpolli:
emmmm,

no its not

Oga why u come dey stammer na?

rokiatu:
If I find my self tripping for him [size=5pt](which will never ever happen. My attraction just do not go in such direction)[/size] I will slap myself back into reality and stand up properly.

I like the sound of that.

Kingsleyinfo:
i don't really think it is a matter of right or wrong,

different scenarios exist that could make that possible

that is why i said earlier that so many things would have to be considered,

Do u mind highlighting some of the things that could happen that would allow it?

iyatrustee:
i used "dont think its right" cos its possible dat someone somewhere is doing it. but personally i cannot

Now it's clearer!

madoba:
Chaaaiii Ebila, does that even sound right to your ears, no offence meant. But like Rokiatu said not in our (africans/nigerians) book of rules Let me just generalize and extend her comment to include "decent and right thinking Nigerian men and women".

Something about it is not just morally right especially if they (your brother and his ex) have been intimate. I hope this answers your question.

It doesn't matter how it sounds in my ear,what matters is how it is considered by most folks.It could sound ok in my ears but not ok in most peeps ears and vice versa.The idea is to get how folks feel about it.

iyatrustee:
dont think its right.

U dn't think it's right so u might do it?

rokiatu:
Not in my book of rules.

Hahahahaha! Even if u find urself trippin 4 him?

Nayah:
AK47mann it depends on what you call "submissive" if you talk about respect my husband and not embarassing him in public yes, but following you even though you make mistakes NO, I'll always say what I have in mind if I disagree you'll know

Now dat's d kind of woman i'm talking bout!

Even though it might not be the intention,this is a rather derogatory post.Tribe and ethnicity is the bane of success in this country and also the bases pf the serious calamities committed in this country.I will marry from wherever i find love,whether from the North,South,East or West, I definitely don't give a Bleep what is said about the tribe or ethnic group! QED!

Is it ok to get married to your brother's/sister's ex even when you know they dated for a while?

Young man,even though it's hard and it's might not be what you want to hear,LET HER GO.If you go ahead and marry this Helen of a gurl,you would have a big issue in your hands that might tear you apart.Having a baby together isn't a trivial issue,it's serious and that's the reason she's having the rethinks.

Not all men want such women.Personally i get turned off by a woman who can't speak up or tell me when i'm doin wrong.I like a woman who can challenge me but dat doesn't mean i want a disrespectful woman.

@poster,
N u're still in d relationship? I'm a guy n i knw it's effed up hittin a woman.A guy who does dat has confidence issues,stay away from such guys.REAL MEN DON'T HIT WOMEN!

It's always bin talkin.We jes talk n d talk ends evryfin.

@Topic,
It almost impossible to find anyfin dat works a certain way always when it coms to life.Annoyingly!

@Post,
The problem is that sometimes it is lust at first sight that disguises as love.

@Poster,
My advice to u is dat u let ur boobs be d way it is.I'm sure some guys complain bout it hence ur discomfort,but there r a million guys out dere who won't boda.U hv to be comfortable wif woh u hv b4 odas wud appreciate it.

@Post,
Quite degrading!

@Topic,
I'd feel very terrible.It really is very wrong because she has no business contacting them.They are exes,not just friends and so that'd only give room for doubt.Pretty bad idea,really!

desholah:
OP.
What kind question be this one nau

The ''Broken Heart'' is [size=15pt]metaphorical [/size] for God sake

My tot xactly!

@Topic,
By all means yes.What do you call a guy who dates women cos of their money? CHEAP a.s.s motherf.ucker!

@Topic,
Anyone who'd rather have you be fake isn't worth having you at all,and for those who fake to keep someone,they are blantantly abusing themselves.No matter how effed up,stand up,stupid,senseless,blunt,stubborn,confident,annoying,talkative,playful,childish,quite,loud etc you are,there's someone who'd love and appreciate you that way and all you need do is locate such one.However,it doesn't mean cos you are yourself you shouldn't try to adjust your 'bad' self to unveil a better you.