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funkee34:
I am getting tired of living with my husband.  we dated for 7 years before we got married but I never knew he had an alcohol problem. We are just married for over a year. He never stays at home. he will prefer to go and sit with other single men and drink, smoke and gist. He wont call t ask how we are doing. he comes home very late and leaves the house as early as possible.

I am an attractive chic,  even after a child, m still slim and can pass for a 16year old. He barely notices me. All he wants is to drink and smoke. I have picked quarrels with him and even threathened to walk out of the marriage. if he is sorry today, he gets worse tomorrow. sometimes he comes home at 2am and he is out again by 7.30am to return late at night. I need attention and someone to talk to most times. I cry at length and I am generally unhappy.

I am contemplating leaving the house for a week or so, if that will get his attention,  then maybe report him to his mum. I have spoken to him countless times and I am just TIRED. HELP ME PLEASE

I quite understand ur plight cos i hav a cousin wif similar issue.My advice is u look for someone he respects (it could be his pastor,mom or dad,uncle or any relative) then report the issue let them talk to him.U've not explored all the options yet so don't opt out of ur marriage.

fstranger6:
Seriously, why do you need attention?

Your husband isnt getting attention and he is not complaining?

What is it with women and attention for di-ckinson sake

HEy, get a job or something and everything would be fine.

This is not that hard to figure out.

Seriously?! Wait till u're grown!

rokiatu:
Hopefully Queen has a brain

Get out of thread.

Simple! ^{follows rokiatu out of thread}

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=599872.msg7677300#msg7677300 date=1297004570]Sure. I have been filing my teeth. Let me put it to a good use.[/quote]Hahahahaha

[quote author=MzD@rkSkin link=topic=599872.msg7677193#msg7677193 date=1297002839][color=#0055bb]All men cheat. It's their nature.[/color][/quote]Speak 4 ur bf n d men u knw!

[quote author=African_queen link=topic=599872.msg7675964#msg7675964 date=1296982767]I was having a chat with a guy about relationships and he said there's not a man alive that doesn't cheat that ladies should wise up to d game cos men are born cheats. He said even his girlfriends know and any man that says he's not a cheat is a liar and pretending. . .
So gentlemen is that true? Are you all cheats?
Ladies do you think your man is a cheat?[/quote]The guy's ignorance is appalling.Although the rate at which unfaithfulness in realtionship is growin is quite alarming.But it doesn't support the fact that there are no faithful guy out there.Some guys have gotten what they are searching for and they don't see any reason or reasons to cheat.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Why must u ave sex?[/color]

The reason is person-related me dear.I hav s.ex cos i like it.Diff strokes 4 diff folks.To som pple it is peer pressure n not cos they like d act.

[quote author=therese-83 link=topic=599821.msg7675378#msg7675378 date=1296962288]Am married to the most randiest of fellas. Truth is I knew ds while we where still dating. Then he wld rather I came to his plc on sunday evenings only for obvious reasons. Now we r married he still cheats on me and I recently discovered that the only way to cure this hurt is 2 cheat on him 2.
Guys pls advice. Say it all wv no restrictions.[/quote]Inasmuch as it hurts so much and the need for revenge coms to mind,it won't change anythin (i can almost promise u dat).U're only gonna be sendin a message dat it is ok to cheat,da wot he's doin is right.In the end,u might even feel terrible bout it.So rather than cheat also,just keep bein the faithful wife that u r n hang in there,he's bound to get tired someday.If u beliv in God,then now's a good time to talk to Him,He changes pple.Goodluck madam!

obowunmi:
Well said ebila.

Fenks man!

@Post,
Huh?!

Welll,in my opinion,it does spice up a relationship.When u hav s.ex wif a person for the first time,there's this level of closeness u feel (except if the s.ex was awful).When u keep havin good s.ex wif one particular person,u tend to feel more closer to the person and also more open.

Arosa:
The Best way is this: pay a hooker to seep with him, after the act she will deliver the message to him. That way he knows he's really fuccked.

Bad guyses! Mehn,dis ur idea ain't bad doh!

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Sometimes its because they really do think the woman is not that pretty.[/color]

Huh?

@Poster,
I guess it's cos women are always unsure of themselves.So even when they look good,they feel other women look better and thus start getting jealoused.

@Poster,
I didn't c d best option dere so i'm gonna jes add it 4 u.

6. Go there personally and shoot him point blank.

Dat's gonna be so awesome.Goodluck wif it doh!

@Poster,
Listen man,jes call her n apologise.U handled d issue quite wrongly,u made her beliv u didn't trust her hence her shouting at u.So call her,apologise to her n make sure u listen wen she's talking to u so u'd know hw u'd iron out ur issue.Goodluck man!

@Topic,
Says who? I've had gurls make passes at me,a few even came point blank to 'toast' me.They're not much,buh we hav a good number of em who r confident.

Chichiange:
Alot of u here are talking bulshit,no girl is single and no girl is unavailable,unless a girl is maried properly she is still single,if some of u guys here met ya girlfriends 100percent single either she is very very ugly or she lied,my man go ahead if the girl responds well,date her if u want cos she won't give u her number if she is commited with someone,I will also advice u not to spend money on her,watch her closely and know when to lay her off if need be,they are always single till they are maried,only fools believe otherwise.

U're on point gurl!

iice:
[color=#9900ff]In cases you know you cannot be friends. . .then there is no use remaining friends [/color]

My point exactly!

cudeh:
Guyz! There's this pretty girl i met, at 1st she was showin green light, so i had to approach ha & i talkd wit ha & she gave me her #. I called ha & told ha that i like ha, dat i'll like us to be frds & she responded by sayin dat she admire me alot but she has a bfrd & dat she cant hv 2 bfrds. Dat we could be frds & see each other, but im not comfortable wit dis. She sounds pretty kool weneva we talk on fon, tells me everytin about ha life. Shd i go on wit this girl?

My good side will tell u to let d gurl be n enjoy her relationship.Buh my naughty side will tell u dis "They've snatched our gfs b4,we've snatched pple's gfs b4,it's no biggie" .Besides,u myt be d ryt person 4 her.So now,it's left 4 u to decided my part u wanna go wif.Gudluck doh!