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iice:
[color=#9900ff]Of course, at first it's hard because of the feelings like you said, but over time. . .people either find out they make better friends than lovers or are happy/respect that they have kept a friend.[/color]

Yeah,somtyms they realise they make beta friends dan lovers.Buh somtyms too,wen they see each oda,feelins start flyin again.I've bin involved in somfin lyk dis more dan 1ce,so i'm talkin from experience.

Miatha:
Pls house nid your advice; a friend of mine knows this guy who have been asking her out and happens to be a friend of her family 4 a very long time as he is her brother's friend but she had always thought him 2be jokin as they are also very good friends 2, this guy invited her 2his house one day and after normal chattin started actin funny caresing her profesin his undyin luv 4her and when she resisted he applied force almost rapping her . Now she is so confused as she wouldnt want 2hurt his feelings if it true knowin he his an only child raised by a single parent and lacks love, BUT, if he really luvs her as he claims would he have attempted despoiling her even if she was not respondin?

She shud worry bout her feelins not his.He def ain't worth bein considered for tryin to use force on her.Let her simply n blunty tell him off.Period!

It doesn't work in most cases cos feelins get involved.Had one n we ended up dating (d love of my life).

iice:
[color=#9900ff]More often than not, they want more but will settle for platonic friendship if both parties (esp. the interested one) understands the boundaries and what is on the table.[/color]

It doesn't get as platonic as it ought to cos d feelins don't jes die,so the affected one try to avoid d oda in most cases.

@Poster,
Don't go into a relationship cos pple around u r in one.If u know woh lots of em put up wif in their relationship,u'll be glad u're single.Howeva,u shud be in a relationship cos u've sin som1 who is worth bein in ur life,som1 who'd love n respect u,som1 who'd cherish u 4 who u r,som1 who'd appreciat ur presence in his life.Now dose r gud reasons to be in a relationship.

SA Lady:
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@ebila, this is what pains us. Its like opening a box of chocolate only to find rock in it

Trust me,i know xactly hw u feel.I've met guys who r better of considered brainless n felt very embarrassed cos i'm also a guy n such guys make d ladies fink bad of us.Buh we sure do hav dumb-ass babes doh (i know dat ain't d essence of dis thread,jes statin d obvious )!

You ladies should quit this talk of intelligence. Everybody on earth has a brain.

Buh not all of em know how to use it (i bet some don't even know they have it)!

@3Triangle,
Ur story was almost sounding bogus.I'm not here to criticize u or abuse u,nah,u've already gotten a good dose of those.However,i took d liberty of goin tru all ur posts n here's woh i fink.U've already gotten urself in a very big,trashy mess n i'm glad u wanna desperately get out of it.So,if u really wanna end woh u're doin without coming clean to ur family,den u nid to get out of dat house.In 1 of ur posts u said it was out of d question,buh dat's d only remedy.U're in love wif ur sister's husband,d feelin's won't die if u still stay in dsame house wif him where u'd see him on a daily.Get out of d house (u wil if u really wanna,trust me),look 4 somfin to distract urself wif (lyk a boyfriend) n u'll get ova it.It's not gonna happen within a month doh,it's gonna take a wyl,but it's gonna be worth it.Good luck dear,n yeah,we all hav our shortcomings!

It's not about getting married,but really being married to someone u will spend d rest of ur life wif.Many a woman hav bin pressured like u n ended up jumpin into marriages dat they ended up jumpin out from.Marriage is serious business n shud be ventured into wif serious considerations.Pls,wpteva u do,don't get married cos u're under pressure to,get married cos u wanna.I wish u d best of luck dear.Trust me,dere're lots of married women who wishes they were single cos of d kind of marriage they r into.Take it easy!

^^^He jes said it lyk i wud!

@Poster,
Imagine diz; A beautiful wife and an unhappy home and a not so beautiful wif and a very happy home! To me it's always bin character. ^{buh dat one no min say she go worwor o}

If u're ready to let her go,she'll go.Jes make up ur mind on woh u want n take action bro.

I've said it b4 n i'll say it again.Age ain't d issue,d issue is wot's inside.Som guys r young in age buh very matured and reasonable,wyl som r old buh very immature.So woh u shud be askin is; Is he mature enof to be wif me? Trust me,if he's mature pple won't even know he's younger dan u r!

Not too early n definately not too late.There gasto be a balance; if i know too early,den i'd probably bail,if i know too late,i almost certainly will bail!

sweetmum:
been seeing someone a married man though,the problem is that am falling for him so much that i cant control myself again,i told him to stop coming but he started weeping that he loves me and cant just stop seeing me,he said i should give him sometime.

I do not know u from adam,but as a human,here's my advice for u; Let him go for ur won very good.If u r datin' a married man,then be set to hav ur husband dated by other girls.It must surely happen cos nemesis is real.I hav witness dis fins happen dat's y i'm advicin' u to let him go n pray 4 God's 4giveness n 4 ur own husband.U might not understand now cos u're blinded,but wen u start experiencin' same as a married woman,u'd fink back n understand.Goodluck n pls do wot's right!

sexyLeamon:
because virginity is too overrated. yes I said so some people think people who are not virgins are not decent. some think virgins make better partners statement like that annoyed people. every woman will get disvirgined some time in her life. and a real compatible partner could give a crap less if you are a virgin or not as long as you treat each other with courtesy, love and respect the relationship is good to go.

There's ur answer poster!!!

@Poster,
Except u hav a crush on d sis,it ain't wrong'In fact,gurls love it when u relate well with the pple they love!

betabeta:
Would you?

Nah! From experience,i've learnt not to tell.

[quote author=dark_ link=topic=399408.msg5526634#msg5526634 date=1266350880]Hello everyone!

Can anyone advise me on how to stop thinking of this girl I think I really really love? I'm kinda shy so a month ago, I kinda wrote a note saying I loved her. She didn't say nothing then but I got her number and called a few times. Trouble is I'm really clueless and can't really say much on the phone. Most times, I just say hi and stuff and it really sucks. I've finally decided to give up and haven't called her for a while. I just say hi whenever we see each other in skool. I keep trying to forget everything but I just can't find a way to do it. My mind is filled with thoughts of her. Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of the night and find myself thinking of her. I can't sleep when I think of her. I can't even concentrate on anything anymore. It get's worse when I see her. My heartbeat goes off the charts and I just get breathless. I never felt all these things before. My mind now a strange beautiful place. One that ain't getting familiar. I just wish I understood things clearer. I want to know the best way to FORGET,[/quote]If u can tell her dis fins u posted here,i bet u u'd actually get thru to her.U've already made her know how u feel wif ur lil note,but if u can just tell her wif ur mouth,she beliv u more.Women r moved by wot they hear.No woman wants a 'punk' for a BF or partner.D next time u see her,don't punk out,just tell her how u feel n try to get to know her afterwards! Goodluck!

The Hardest Thing To Do Is Watch The One You Love, Love Someone Else.

Tell me about it!

@post,
Dis is comin' from a guys perspective.These were d fins i did wen i had another gurl;

I called her less.

Made up reasons why we couldn't see as often as we used to.

I became more protective of my fone.

D fins dat she did dat i liked started irritatin' me.

I kissed her less.

I became more aggressive towards her.

I generally became less carin'.



But somtimes,we could be perfect wif u while cheatin',at dat point,u may neva know!

nana:
I want a partner

How can u want a partner wen i'm so very available? I ready,willing & able to be urs 4 d taking![size=4pt]*since pweety4mee no dey gree com sef*[/size][/sup]

denzel2009:
Its the way she carries herself afterwards that matters. There are some girls that will make you look like you've just been used.

Na talk u talk so!

@Adekeade,
Which kain matchmaker u be sef?We no dey see ur break light n pple plenty here wey no get val!

@190,
Abeg giv us recap o jare make we know where we go continue from.Dis Adekeade gurl sef just dey dull us!

@poster,
Beliv me,one year is a very long time when it comes to relationships.Alot can happen within the one year period including breakup.U guys did not breakup within dis period but were facing bouts of his anger.Here's a frank truth; he still has some growing up to do.Fine he has not ever raised his hands on u,but what guarantee do u hav that he wouldn't soon or when u guy get married?One year is so long for him to hav changed his 'bad' temperament,but since he didn't,i'm almost doubting if he will soon.Since u love him so much,my suggestion therefore,is that u giv him a lil time(no marry am o i use God name beg u) and see weda he'll change.If he does,goodluck wif d wedding,else,RUN FOR UR LIFE!!!!

Ujujoan:
Waz d mata? You don't think the gold digger can do a little spending

LMAO!!!

parislomo:
how romantic!! OMG!! you are such a romantic-genius! lwkmd. . .

Fenk u! U're far too kind!^{*takes a bow*}