₦airaland Forum

Who do we blame exactly for this decadence. The lack of meritious opportunity thanks to godfatherism and imma mmadu or Wat exactly I remember my days in the university community . You mark a students script and tears will fill ur eyes. You see yourself graduating empty skulls armed with second class upper degrees thanks to "let us upgrade them lest they are unemployable" meetings we had then. Maybe I myself was also an educated dunce. Maybe it's a Nigerian affair. But I really disagree that am a dunce. I wrote waec, gce when there were no special centres, I failed jamb many times as expected of a fresh secondary school graduate and even when I finally passed jambjamb and got admission I was surprised as I had no faith in Wat I wrote thanks to frustration of staying at home. I struggled at home till I added enough value to myself that was sufficient to pass jamb or waec. Parents of today gladly pay for special centres, some give their kids sorting money officially as nobody wants to dull himself reading while the sorters are having first class.

Today, Nigerians are good at praising wealth without efforts, nobody has time for the value life. Nobody want to read, learn or create. We have seen how creative Nigerians can be when given the opportunity. In this case opportunity of unemployment. We start becoming entrepreneurs, programmers etc yet could have been very bad students of life

The Nigerian system makes it difficult to be honest, but then our new methods where value is ignored in preference to man no man. Is creating a generation of dummies with good university grades who would never be able to employ or be employed.

We need to consider our value system. If you want to read a joke. Go to a university and scroll through exam scripts and you would jokes that would crack you up greater than basket mouth ever did. Value and class is permanent. Not the selective mediocrity we doing. Tenk

Nubian113:
Oh so interracial gave you black and white Is ok

It's going great our differences make the relationship great. He is a Quarter white, Jamaican, and Chinese so eye Candy was the product made.

I'm East African so I don't look "typical" Black but I am the original source kinda black so its All Eye Candy

nice combo. You both will make cute babies. So how do you handle ideological differences between urself and extended interests without conflict

Nubian113:
I'm trying interracial

really. Well most white guys I know are cool dudes. But I dislike white women. Too emotional. So how is it working for u though

Chidoks:
The success/failure of such marriages is determined by how far/close they live near their extended family members,call it external influences. The less,the better.

agree with the influence thing. But guess even if one is far, things like marriages, burials and other family events will always force the hand of the couple to deal with external family

Loisemm:
Lolz. I am from Akwa ibom and I am proudly married to a Yoruba man. We are going on strong and honestly I am very glad I married Him ( I still told Him this morning). I think it depends on the individual. Is he or she someone you can love or already love? Is he or shr faithful, kind, intelligent, Godly, hard working? Does your family accept him/her and vice versa? We made sure we had our families consent and He was my kind of 'ideal' man ( he had 90% of all the qualities I wanted/ listed in my list- yes, I had a list and the tribe he comes from was not in my list. lolz). So there u go. Like my Hubby will say when I ask him where say a particular Green eagles footballer comes from. He will reply- He is a Nigerian! lolz. We are Nigerians first before Yoruba, Igbo or Hausa etc. The only tribe I could not marry from personally is Hausa cos of the diff in religion. Though if he were a great hausa christian, I MAY not hv minded.

wow. Niceeeeeee

emitope:
For me personally, when I look @ people, I do not see tribes; I only see individuals.

but marriage is a communal affair. You have to deal with customs and diverse views with in laws. Believe u me the differences will be obvious then. Don't u think

ahnie:
Mr op,i see them yoru(bars) coming for your Balls.

I didn't insult them na. I stated facts even they know is true. My balls are safe. Share ur views hon everybody can learn

ifyalways:
I love inter-tribal marriages and it has thus far worked perfectly in my family. It's super cool to have Yoruba, Hausa,Ewe, Fante/ashanti, Itskekiri, Ijaw,Igala etc aunties, uncles and cousins and in-laws. Family reunions are always a blast.

really that's lovely. How did you cope with the different ideologies

Abagworo:
Those spoiling for war shall surely die alone. Ndigbo are too busy with innovations and business to join in a futile effort to turn our land to Sambisa.

thank you. Only true Igbos know this. The others are deluded idle people. Which true igbo man abandons his business and be chasing shadows. Na shadow him pikin go chop?

asha80:
on another note what makes you think Onitsha or aba or nnewi wants to be controlled from Enugu as it is now?

exactly

xtrory:
What made you lots to allocate huge resources with many of you hired propagandists desparately making a living out of the call for self-determination?

No one can stop an idea whose time has come. And with all your army recruits and millions of volunteers like you cannot stop the tsunamic movement of IP0B.

So keep on whining, weeping and wailing on every media page with thick mucous dripping down your smelly noses as if your whole essence in life is being taken away from you!

that's ur response. Always the same. I must be yoruba. Smh

cheruv:
So your kinsmen seeking a change in their status are now criminals, isn't it
If seeking to take full charge of my destiny is criminal, if seeking to be controlled from Enugwu rather than Abuja is criminal then I've no other choice than to be a criminal!

you keep getting it wrong. It's ur choice to determine how you want to live. But how we go about it is the issue. Tell me Wat justifies the death of those young men. Even the actualization of Biafra doesn't justify it. They were gunned down and even their names we don't know. We can't die for a cause that doesn't require you to die for it. You can be ruled from Enugwu ukwu without the death of young men. Ask us for the methods and we will educate ipob.

cheruv:
Detest when someone who claims to be Igbo rejoices at the spilling of the blood of his brothers
God forbid bad thing

the fly who lacks hearing follows the corpse to the grave. What do u want me to say again. My post pleads for peace yet someone accuses me of being yoruba. Oga u are my brother if u aren't a thief. The moment the police comes for a renowned thief it's that say he will realise he is an orphan

BaddieKay:
From what's on ground,these people ain't protesting for Biafra,bt for tHe release of their IPOB leader.My own is if the Government ignored em and their protests,by now they would've bn tired and no1 will hear of them..But the constant attack on them motivates em...

maybe so. But the government hasn't done so as they intend to force them to submission. Please what justifies their death, their loss to their loved ones? Can they ever get justice or will they be forgotten as casualties of war? When there is no war? The cowards arrives home alive as a veteran While the brave dies a hero and is forgotten in history. There are other ways to make our point. For kanu he should show us his mettle by handling the consequences of his actions

brize:
and who kill those dead bodies, amadioha? My dear you got to condemn the killers and praise the protesters who have so far been so peaceful and armless.... The killing is too much but how they resist and remained resolute is commendable.

I don't praise any side. People are dying and as far as I am concerned dats all that matters. We should drop a dead cause. The country is lawless and I doubt dying for Biafra will bring the seccesion any closer to fruition

BaddieKay:
Those dead bodies can be avoided,Protests are done round the world.When did unarmed protest become a crime?The military just have to stop killing innocent men and women and channel their strength to BH.If they have to scare off the protesters,they cn always use tear gas or shot to the air not gun down men as if they're chickens.

agreed dear. But we are Nigerians. Let's tell ourselves the truth. If you go to a police station would you insist that bail is free? Have you noticed how much u avoid settling a case with someone using the police? The Nigerian situation is one where avoidance saves ones life. Why create room for a group of lawless law enforcement officers to kill Innocent people. This country is not a lawful one. We aren't advanced to the point where people respectfully demonstrate or where police respect the rights of peaceful protesters. Are you of the opinion that the Biafran cause can only be achieved by protests? Are you aware dear that a solidarity rally is different from a protest no matter how peaceful. Truth is that we can't give the lawless more room to demonstrate their lawlessness by killing innocent young men and women

I have seen good ones, I have seen bad ones, I have seen people in hell, I have seen people who hell will be a reprieve due to their experiences in their marriages. The same can be said of marriages involving people from the same village but the difference is clearly the frequency. I have an igbo colleague who is happily married to a yoruba man. If you give her an igbo man, she will spit him out. Yet and yet this scenarios appears a one off as compared to all the negative stories I hear and encountered.

Amara was beaten thoroughly by her in laws simply because she fought her yoruba husband after catching him in the loins of another married woman. She fought him, she felt betrayed, she was the primary bread winner of the home as husband drops 5k most times for food and yet expects to eat three times a day.... She wanted her marriage to work out and decided to fight for it. Her Inlaws saw it that she wanted to kill their son so she inherits their properties alone having not borne children in the two year marriage. They battered her and threw her belongings out.

Tunji marries an igbo woman who has blatantly refused to be welcoming to his people yet her people litter his home with long and short visits. She is divisive about joining his white garment church and insists they travel to her village as is the igbo way during yuletide, without thought of his finances.

Nnedi recently realised after her husband's death that he had six children outside without her knowledge and painfully her in laws insists they must be accepted and will take part in the share of the estate

Plenty plenty tori, in my own experience though I might be wrong. It is not uncommon in yoruba land for a married woman to leave her husband's home to the home of another man and start bearing children there. It's not considered a stigma or an entirely bad thing. If an igbo woman does that, she will be excommunicated and treated like a leper. In yoruba land it not so much a stigma that an unmarried lady has a child out of wedlock (a family came for child dedication in a church with such a circumstance for their daughter) this isn't the case in igbo traditions. No matter how poor an igbo man is, he sees it as his primary duty to provide for his family first before himself I noticed this isn't the case with some other people. The yorubas are a happy people who don't joke with an opportunity to enjoy themselves through parties etc. Apparently my point is that some things that appear bad in one context to a tribe is perfectly acceptable for another tribe. Most times these differences is the major cause of strife between inter-tribal marriages.

I for one does not buy the idea but hey, it's different things for different people. So help those who thinks it's cool. Share experiences and advise to inter-tribal marriages on how to avoid conflict arising from misconceptions and differences

BaddieKay:
You made some valid points but....

seems this could make a reasonable argument. So but Wat exactly. Does it please you that we keep seeing dead bodies littering the streets of Igbo land?

RightBoo:
I didn't come to nairaland to get schooled about literacy.
If I want that I know where to get it.
So save me the bull crap.
My question is with this your myopic reasoning, are you more literate than IPOB ?

Well if only u could read you will see where I answered that question. Why are u wasting time here, don't you have a peaceful protest to attend to? It's easy to make front page once we display ur dead bodies.

Ausbongean:
pls are you Joe igbokwe or related to him because you sound like efulefu. if I may ask you, have you heard that ipob goes violent. kill someone or terrorise somewhere. all there are doing is peaceful protest , there never ask for war but there own nation Nnamdi is asking of freedom of this people. Mr ofe mmanu face your front,don't claim to be an Igbo man we know them by there word or better still ask your mother your real biological father

exactly Wat I described. Illiterates. Lets see you actualize biafra in ur generation. It shall pass you by because you aren't well evolved for such pursuits better left for ur betters

xtrorry:
They boasted it's only the jobless and illiterates that march in the streets in support for IP0B yet after many months the sycophants cannot organise a small rally in SE to counter the protests and prove their lies.

They ranted that those who are for IP0B are barely 5% yet many foes and naysayers are earning a living on pay-per-post basis just to attempt to scuttle the call for self-determination.
Yet these same never-do-wells are disgustingly parading themselves as SE and SS-wannabes on the internet, creating useless threads and ranting carelessly and senselessly on Biaf...

Why don't you support a UN supervised referendum and see if your lies hold water?

Tell your sponsors that your evil message to Igbos is DOA and simply return back whatever you have been mobilised with.

the small minded sees enemies in the empty sky. I put it to you and you can take it to the bank, biafra will never be actualized by kanu, ipob or ur likes. We can even wager a million bucks each on that (if you have the money). Guess the army recruits have willing participants for a shooting practice. Will be good they sharpen their skills.

Tkester:
Nonsense, I am Igbo and myself and the rest of the members of my family are 100% in support of IPOB and Nnamdi Kanu. We will support them till the end of time.

@OP if you don't like IPOB and what they stand for - you can as well open or start your organization and lets see how far you can go. JEALOUSY!!!!

Well you can do well to stand at the parades with ur family members and I will ensure I see ur corpses displayed here after the army has gunned you down.

RightBoo:
You are plain foolish. So for your mind you are more literate than most IPOB members?

Get lost nigga.

being literate goes beyond certificates, though in that department I am well grounded. Literacy is in approach to life issues. You never heard that educated men don't throw fists? You behaviour and response depicts your education. Like in your case, I can see ur literacy level.

Bobskylo:
i cnt read tru because ur post sounds n xplens more of unpaid sycophant


BIAFRA IS REAL N MUST SUCCEED FROM NIGERIA

my post clearly described your type. If only you all could read. It will help your sense of judgement

Any Igbo man who is true to himself knows that as a tribe we are never subservient to a leader. We could appreciate leadership efforts but never is it law. Our highest form of leaders how is the communal congregation called the umuada and umunna. We believe at all times that two or more heads are better than one irrespective of judgement. The ipob agenda has been a one man agenda who luckily had access to mass media aa was able to rope in the idle uneducated class of igbos. The civil war was a war crime on hapless igbo victims. The pogroms was a war crime on hapless igbo victims. The Igbos suffered the Jew effect and a coup was declared an igbo agenda, when clearly it was nationalistic with nationalist views prepertrated by a combination of tribes (history can school you).

The igbo man is the most peaceful Nigerian who due to his migratory nature ensures a seamless integration with alien host communities. To understand the hospitality of the Igbos, you need to take a trip to the south East as a visitor and realise how they welcome you with open arms and even treat you better than they would an indigene. This new image the ipob are giving the Igbos is really disheartening. Today we appear to be troublemakers, secessionist and hateful people simply because a noble act of self determination, which is the right of any group of people is bring handled by illiterates and forgetful children.

To all ipob recruits, do you know why u give empty threats and dead weight ultimatum? You talk of retribution if kanu isn't released, yet he has been incarcerated and nothing dey happen. The fact is that an igbo man isn't a foolish man. Never has been and never will be. We may be morally bankrupt that u can catch an igbo man selling bombs to boko haram, but you can never catch him wearing it to kill himself and others no matter the cajoling. We are not violent people, our problem is that we aren't politically wise, nnamdi kanu is facing the laws of the land or zoo. He knew his actions must have consequences. Because even zoos have laws. The idea that young igbo youths are giving the army room to snuff out their lives by carrying on a zombiefied show of allegiance is truly disheartening.

Ndi igbo. We are economic people, we aren't political juggernauts, we have educated people, we don't want war as nobody ever gains from one (look at Syria, Iraq, Yemen, Burundi). Leave this ill planned and thought out agenda and return to your economic life. We will approach our self determination with dialogue, methodology and rule of law. We are good people and despite the show of shame illiterates display on social forums like this which paints the igbo man in a bad light. We are Nigerians. Tomorrow we have plans to be Biafrans. And we will get that through objective and subjective ways as obtained in other parts of the world.

Stop the show of shame, lest we keep seeing gory pictures of young vibrant men cut down in their prime, and nothing will happen.

#SAY NO TO STEALTH PROGROM OF IGBO LIVES

I met a pretty lady at am after party a year ago. After that initial chat and exchange of contacts, which was after a pleasant convo. I noticed her behaviour towards me was very withdrawn after three dates. She gave excuses regularly for not keeping to appointments and unashamedly tells me she visited a friend, hung out with a friend, went shopping with a friend etc you see I happen to be a reactive lover. I dey play the game any which way the babe want am. You come off as unserious and a hot "many men wanna have me babe" I simply chop my turn and leave you for the many men. Please why should other men eat and clean mouth but you intend I should marry their remnant. Of course am not particular about a Virgin or ones past. But I start counting the men from the day I said hello and you accepted my advances.

Long story short, since she was beautiful and I truly had serious intentions for her Initially till she proved to be an "our wife" material. I waiting on the wings patiently for my turn of her public part. After six months or thereabouts after treating me unfairly. The jungle matured and I joined the party. I realises that she was becoming too serious, she drooped her numerous bfs and wanted to be monogamous. But yours truly wanted that earlier and she was too hot to notice. Yes I know I should have slept with her maybe only ten times just as management before leaving so it doesn't look as if I used her, especially as I no longer had any long term intentions for her. But when I withdrew and stopped the calls etc she took offence. Bad mouthing me to our common friends as a man who led her on. Blah blah blah. The day she started treating me well. I was surprised as I had stopped complaining from my friendzoned hell. I accepted her bulls hit since I replaced her with other babes during that period. Thus didn't feel it.

If she wanted to debe for me and saw me as husband material, when I came with innocent intentions why she rubbish am. As she had no feelings for me then and later had feelings, don't I also exercise the right to lose the earlier feelings I had for her? At least I walked away early to give her other men room to return and continue from where they stopped. Many ladies should understand there are men Like me whose love is conditional. Reactionary love. With a thin line of interest or disinterest. I know u will read this. Stop the slander and leave me alone. Double standards

I need quarrel topics, things that can bring out quarrels between me and my numerous women. I need them streamlined as valentine is coming. Please follow this guidelines in proposing a possible suggestion I can implement on these ladies to have us quarrel this period. I need to cut costs and it's better if I and most of them are keeping malice till after the 14th of this month.

(1) the quarrel must not lead to break up oh. Just malice till after the 14th
(2) it must be innovative as I have used some quarrell moves on some of them recently and they all came back to reconcile knowing 14th is coming
(3) these expectant babes consists of three permanent members, 4 FWB, 4 once in a while we do am and most painfully 7 Exes. Please be innovative
(4) I intend to pick just one from each group and different times of the day hoping to end shift by 10pm latest
(5) most importantly have it in mind that none of this is a distance or online relationship ( all distance relationship are automatically on voice mail this season).

Thank you dearies

Times are really changing. No longer is the mantra she cheated or he cheated been sung everywhere you go by cheaters themselves. It's now an almost acceptable fact that women and men in relationships would always find reasons to play away matches. There are still a select group of people like yours truly who abhors the thought of being with a cheater, yet I am a cheater. Hypocritical isn't it?

Jesus knows why he made the golden rule "love thy neighbour as thy self" or "do unto others as to be done unto you" that bros knew the people he created. That we so selfish and hypocritic that we will never keep to that word. Yet we expect the best. We never make concise efforts to be what we expect of people, yet we cut them no slack. We want and desire angels, yet our coats are scarlet. Hypocritical isn't it?

A friend recently confided in me that she wants a divorce from her marriage of barely two years because she suspects foul play of infidelity from her husband, all efforts to make her see reasons to work it out fell on deaf ears, she tells me she can never forgive a cheater as it's not in her character, yet I secretly confronted the husband and to my shocker, he produced naked pictures, WhatsApp and Facebook chats and even a sex tape which indicts his wife of infidelity, and has been awaiting her to confront him on his cheating so he gives her a beating of the century. Guess in that family it's all about the tits for all tats. I hope I don't read up a battery or murder story here on that couple as I have left them to their madness. Yet I wonder who is the criminal and who is victim.

I rather want to come to the conclusion that in reality, the 21st century marriage and relationship is a communal affair, albeit secretly. Many boos have a boo. Many baes have secret baes. The valentine coming will expose the status of many of us to our boo. Yet it's a phenomenon that permeates. If truth will be told and hypocrisy buried.

IS IT AN ACCEPTABLE FACT THAT OUR BOO HAS A BOO?

Is she rather our girlfriend or my girlfriend........... Thinking hard

misspicy:
end of FWB

exactly what am afraid of. Na Wa oh

ladyF:
Lol lock your room and everywhere else before going out and let her stay in the sitting room.

Then install something that looks like a camera in your sitting room, it doesn't have to be functioning. Let her know that things have been disappearing and you got someone to install CCTV just to catch the thief, she won't lift anything from your house again.

You're always welcome.

this ruffian will steal the camera. I will simply tear that nylon next time, hopefully as the contents empty on the floor. I will pick up Wat is mine.

CaroLyner:
Seriously, hide a camera in your room (if she hasn't stolen that too)
and record her stealing.just to show her you know.
and then get a lock for your room.

funny you. If I catch her and prove it and she tries emotional blackmail. By accusing me of complaining cos of small small things. I might look childish. Haven't brushed today cos of my missing toothpaste.

hopeforcharles:
Hide ur most personal stuff from her with key and lock, but those ones u can afford to lose just let her have them, or romantically tell her that what so ever she needs from your house she should tell u before she takes them infact lie to her that that phone she took was a police case phone that u were asked to keep for evidence sake, she should return it. I think this will do the trick. Some girls can do that shii too much
A girl that visited me took my bangle right from my hands, see as a come dey drag am with her ohh, next she say if I no give her it means I no like her and that she will be remembering me each time she wears it on, Girls sometimes eh SMH

God bless bro. Let me try this. And see how it goes