₦airaland Forum

Onegai:
I have to differ. I know someone married inter-tribally to a Yoruba man and she says "oh don't marry Yoruba people, they are so tribal, they don't like me because their son married a non-Yoruba". You know the crazy thing? Her SiL (husband's sister) is married to a Benue man and the family accepts and likes him. She refuses to admit to herself that they have a problem with HER, not her tribe.

When people have issues, it is so much easier to blame inconsequential things like race and tribe rather than get down to the real issues: differences in mindset, upbringing, morals, principles and personality quirks. So instead of saying "my cousin married from Niger and the marriage didn't work out because he and his wife kept fighting and didn't know how to communicate peaceably", they will say "Dont marry Niger girls, they're bad".

Example of this is a lady i met, Igbo, who declared "we can never marry Asaba girls, they don't make good wives" based on what she had seen one relative go through. Yet, she will tell you Asaba people are Igbo (like so many Igbo people on NL will) and her hands were not clean (she was being frisky with a coworker's husband, also Igbo ). She would even say "if an Igbo girl is seen with a married man, everyone would be shocked because Igbo girls are well-brought up and know better". Ignoring all the aristo babes I know (go to Abuja and ask the tribe of yellow girls hanging around NA and come back and testify ). Talk about blindness.

So can I now tell my brothers "don't marry Igbo girls, they're shameless and the marriage won't work"?

(btw, where I come from, they bring up children with the phrase "if you marry an Igbo man, we will not attend that wedding".

don't mind that hypocrite igbo friend of urs, you made a strong point of personalities, maybe every case should be judged on its own merit and not used as a yardstick for generalisations. Though from tonychristopher angle, he speaks more on issues beyond the personality or idiosyncrasies of the couples themselves but rather the broader perspective with respect to external factors the couple face, eg relatives, tradition, identity crisis with children. You both make very strong points in ur perspectives and are both right to me in combination, guess the difference is the conclusion

You all getting emotional aren't seeing the big picture, there are generalisations and of course exceptions, most with successful inter-tribal marriages are exceptions and very blessed, tonychristopher isn't very far from the truth with respect to the majority of cases. It's everybody's opinions and experiences. The challenges poses is why we sought successful experiences from the successful ones

KingRex1:
Was expectin to see a technical appoach to achievin the gains. There might be no gain if we can't tackle the present Naija situation.

a technical approach is very glaring, diversification and economic prudence. It's a solution that involves everybody irrespective of status. The oil sector will never recover it's previous value and we can't continue to hope it does. Our waste culture, poor maintenance philosophy and worse of all, kleptomaniac political class must be done away with. Resources are scarce and we aren't robust enough to accommodate frivolousness

Life is hard, life will be hard, life has been hard, the rich will also cry. These are some prophetic declarations people made. Yet nobody heeded. Look at the current mess the economy is in, if not oarrested soon by a sudden improvement in global oil prices, we can envisage a period of hardship for common Nigerians. Yet it's a wonderful how we got here, how visionless our leaders were and how sheeple the citizens were.

Anyway, stability is a strong deciding factor for mediocrity. Years and years of the oil boom made corruption and inefficiency attractive. The system was robust enough to accommodate them. We brewed a political class fueled and run by the most corrupt of the lot and some judged the performance of an elected official by how much his corruption benefited them, today the oil is almost valueless and recent trend aren't showing signs of recovery.

Is this nation doomed? Will the economic crisis finally bring us all to our knees to face reality? That answer is very dependent on the Nigerian reaction to the current crisis, should we wail, point accusing fingers, politicise our situation etc, we will be doomed, should we learn from the current situation and become adaptive, then yes there will be light at the end of the tunnel. We can't keep importing toothpicks, we can't afford foreign trips to hospitals while our hospitals are in perpetual decay, we can't continue to have a non existent middle class, we can't continue to run an expensive government, we can't continue to give excuses In the power sector, we can't continue to afford failed refineries, we can't continue to undignify honest labour as opposed to sharp practises, in a nut shell, WE CAN'T CONTINUE NOR AFFORD TO BE USUAL NIGERIANS.

The civil war proved that Nigerians are adaptable and creative, this economic crisis must force a rethink of everything Nigerian, there will be light at the tunnel-end, if only we react properly.

#eddygourdo

ckmayoca:
Nigerian politics has turned to football club where chelsea fan will never see anything good in Messi and even compare hazard wit messi.
Anyway if una like make una criticize the past govt and continue condemning the present without putting hands together and condemn bad governance instead of making it a my party thing.

thank you sir

plaetton:
@op

I kinda get your point, but I also see hypocrisy in it.

During the onslaught against OBJ and the GEJ after him, the most vocal critics and mockers were those currently in power right now.
In fact, it pained me greatly that critics and mockers like Wole Soyinka, Tam David West, Tinubu etc, were simply mocking for mocking sake.
Neither of them had or suggested solutions to confront the issues they were criticizing.

And that's the problem.
Nigerians are hypocrites and shifty people. We hardly have any core ideologies or philosophies. Our politics only boils down to "PDP POWER" or "APC POWER". No vision, no ideology needed.

Now, the tables are turned. APC and Buhari are in the hot seat. They have forgotten that Nigerians are beholden to miracles, not Adam Smith's economics.

Its Funny that APC cannot stand mockery and criticism so early in their tenure.

They have better get used to it.

mockery brings no lasting solutions except stagnant economic and political growth. My post didn't exempt or excuse the apc goon. It rather attempts to empower our youths to live up to expectations

7lives:
It will shock you to discover that most of the so called youths attacking the government online are LAZY FREELOADERS, who had imbibed the mentality of stealing is not corruption.
I recently had an encounter with one, who came to Lagos for an industrial attachment, he was hyperventilating and getting mad at Segun Arinze for trying to collect the 50k which he mistakenly paid into wrong account, and I was telling this guy that Arinze had really worked hard for that money and so had every right to ask for his money, this freeloader was like " I can never return such money, Arinze is rich let him free that guy abeg"
The freeloader could not get any reasonable place for his IT program so he had to settle for a factory job and so the cookie crumble, he struggled to work in this factory for one month and left the job, he said the job is too tough for him, his colleagues said this guy was more than lazy.
And this is the bitter reality of our situation in this country, people moving around looking for easy money while laughing and jeering at the hardworking folks.

hahahahahaha you got it spot on. Awon freeloaders. I hope things change for better.

kurlz:
This is partially of the highest order. if it were to be chickens or goats you will not pity them not to talk of setting them free. And people will not be commending you for a job Well done here.
This is racism in the animal kingdom!
Who will set the Chickens and goats free?
*Sobbing *
ahahahahaha this is on a lighter mood o.

naughty you...... Goats aren't intelligent so they should be eaten na

Things like this makes me doubt my masculinity some times, as a child, all doctors and nurses at ikeja medical centre all know me and prepare for my arrival with their running shoes and canes, till they learnt physical restraint. The mere thought of anything chooking me gives me chills, now see me a full grown man always disgracing myself everywhere.

I have had typhoid since November, the only permanent solution is heavy dose of antibiotics intravenously, since I have used gentamicin and ciprotab all to no avail. I have chosen death than to go through the ordeal. But thinking of my loved ones, I don't wanna die.

I am at a lab where I redid another widal with hope God has intervened. I wept profusely to the amazement of the sexy lab attendant as she took my blood. She was stupified. I don't know where this phobia came from, I am sitting in the ward with shame now amongst grinning patients who heard my scream. I need to handle this issue and handle it fast.

Is there anybody who has successfully outgrown this phobia? If yes how did you do it... I have tried looking away but I can't oh.

E383:
Eddy! No be you when dey fear turkey(tolotolo) be this?

hahahahahaha you sef no dey forget something.......

Flexherbal:
I prefer a situation where intelligent Nigerians will continue to suggest ways to improve this great Country to our leaders.

They can only do that via constructive criticism, not the current method of taking partisan sides, thus all we hear are complaints and no solution is proffered

Redoil:
by sharing gellof redoil rice which was concoted with aisha spittle and urine to blooges who are supposed to be watchdogs to the common man.

really? Bloggers are watch dogs of the common man in Nigeria..... Very educative..... . Please bro sound intellectual

Redoil:
Hypocrate is when you pray gej downfall and and ask us not to condem boohary.
What sayest thou about the foolishenss and kworuption going on about the budget? Should we praise them?
What do you have to say about aisha sharing redoil rice to bloggers as to sing theis praises?

I rightly mentioned the apc goons in my post. Can you tell me how aisha behaviour hinders or encourages the dividends of democracy from getting to you. As a citizen those dividends should be your concern, the development of the nation for our future should be our concern, not the shameless behaviour of people who should know better, we should concern ourselves with issues that affect our growth and not gossip columns.

The check and balance used in accounting and economics can be likened to the opinion of critics in a democracy. Very important set of people. These are the people who keep government on its toes and whose criticisms acts as external unpaid advice for a wise leader, thus it must be admitted that, a biased, partisan or unknowledgeable critic is a loud gong. It produces noise and affects our sanity. Nigeria has the rights to good leaders and good critics for it survival. It hurts me to see that the only control /steering mechanism the populace should possess in airing our view to government policies has been hijacked by tribalists, no do gooders and criminals. It's really unfortunate.

The youths of today must prove they are in the jet age, we must be faster in reasoning and demonstrate sound judgement. Sometimes I wonder if the sufferings of unemployment and job unsatisfaction is a deliberate ploy to enslave the mind of our youths to stomach infrastructure solutions. We must rise up as the leaders of tomorrow by demonstrating capacity for sound judgement and ideological discourse.

I was talking with a wailer and he kept hammering on the Presidents lack of a certificate, I refused to respond to that and rather tackled him on the economy, every point raised was met with, am an engineer, I don't understand economics, I tackled him on issues on our legislation and it's inefficiency, I was met with same response, I am an engineer I don't understand law, I made It clear that anybody can be a president and it's a temporary position. The development of a nation is never the sole responsibility of who is in charge, but as US president J F Kennedy pointed out " every citizen must do his or her duty towards the fatherland" therefore a critic should not only be about pointing out faults, attributing blames but should be competent enough to proffer likely solutions as well. This is the unpaid advice part.

Look at lai Muhammed, fayose, wailing wailers, ipob, apc goons during Gej........ All you see are noise makers, blame agents and no do gooders. They can pin point errors but are unable to proffer solutions or advise. If we come to the agreement that our president is limited academically, I believe the educational expectations of a Presidential candidate as define by law is a high school certificate, yet we have graduates in the category described above who can't differentiate capital and recurrent in a budget, nor can they explain our current economic situation to the market woman, yet they are critics of the same ignorance displayed by the so-called certificate - less president.

Criticism should generate accountability, generate true change, generate a brainstorming of possible solutions to help the current government lead us aright. Buhari was wrong to point out the obvious truth to the global public because his actions can never be justified by what he stands to gain in the long run or big picture, same accusations I am pointing out to the unfair critics, what do you hope to gain from ur constant biased criticism, from your unfair judgements..... Are your actions aimed at destroying the nation or building it in hope for better service to Nigerians. Change is needed in the Nigerian personality and not just Nigeria's economy.

Mr Fayose, just as the President is saddled with finding our economic solutions as the sole head of the nation, So also are you saddles with same responsibility of finding economic solutions to your failing state as it's soke head,. If you can't find means to augument the short fall in your federal allocations, then your not fit to rule the state just as buhari isn't fit to rule the country. Sheath all swords and let's make Nigeria great.
# eddygourdo/unbiased

Vivly:
Just.Don't.call.me.young.lady.again.

I am not in the mood for quarrels, thus will let that slide. Cheers

Vivly:
I am not in touch with my humanity because I don't break and enter people's compound and destroy the businesses? Or wait........ because I don't own a dog and carry a look of superiority on me as a dog lover while looking down on other animal lovers??
I don't understand.

no humane human will accept the I'll treatment of animals. They are living things. Dogs should not be eaten. I have always wanted to do this for a long time. It's only the moral angle that I fault my actions as it's not my business plus it's his livelihood as I pointed out. But not everything is meant for our mouths.. Eating a dog is synonymous with human flesh in my opinion. So young lady if you have empathy you will understand my position at least then criticise instead of ur attacks on my person

jeff1607:
bro it depends on how much the man wants to sell it, give him something above the price of each dog to compensate for the trauma you caused him.

since you had the courage to BREAK--INTO another man's premises then you should be bold enough to ask him how much a dog cost, when people get angry over something they tend to tell anyone everything about anything that happened. come and tell us everything dat happened oooooo

please don't forget to take a photo with him or else I go table your matter for baba table oooo

God forbid, I can't dare admit to the crime oh. My reputation will be toast, I will pay back as a samaritan that's why I hope I can get real info on the cost of those dogs. They were so malnourished..... Chai....... I hate this world

herald9:
Cows has no brains,
Chickens are senseless.
Goats has no brains,
Sheep are senseless.

But a dog is one of the most intelligent animals on planet earth, an animal with feelings and a man's best friend. The OP had good intentions but the action is worthy of condemnation....

How's the man going to feed his family? What if his children are in school? Or what if he bought those dogs on credit?

I think there should be a law that bans people from eating certain intelligent animals such as dogs... You can slaughter, garnish, brandish and munch other animals as much as you want, but never touch a dog!

OP... Carry your cross... We dey come.

bros the cross is really heavy. I wish I had more money and dropped the total cost. Do you believe I almost dropped 5k, it was when I saw they were 9dogs dat I added an additional 2k. It makes sense to find the cost of the whole ish and pay the man. I pointed out he was a middle man, so clearly was in it for the business side. Dat was wrong on my part. Will pay him month end but won't admit my crimes. I am very well respected in the area

Oxcar:
So na u even release my dogs, ok i dy cum

hmmmmm mm. Tell all these ladies attacking me to leave me alone. We go settle the matter amicably

Vivly:
So says a wicked man.
I don't know who that man is but where I come from, your case will already be on one village altar. Dog lover ko! Dog activist ni!
And you sound like you're even doing the man a favour by offering to pay at the end of month. His own money kwa?? Do you know if he had plans for the money? Why should people be deprived of their next plate of dog meat peppersoup because of you??
And I won't watch my utterance since you couldn't watch your own goddamm business.
SMH.

carry on the ramblings. Too bad ur not in touch with ur humanity and I am. Yes I will pay him complete because that's the amount I should have dropped Initially but I didnt have more than Wat I dropped. I won't pay him cos I feel bad, really I don't feel bad though might not do that move again

How much does a local dog go for. On the average. From the attacks here I believe dog meat eaters are here. I wanna know how much I owe. Seriously you all should have more empathy to animals especially dogs. Killing a dog, if you have lived with one before is almost synonymous with killing a human. Eating the flesh is just plain wrong. .... My view though guess u have urs

Vivly:
OP, you sound very foolish. Did you do this to have a heroic story to share amongst friends and other online animal lovers?
I love hens. I have a pet hen. I bought her a little collar. It pains me that people all over the world eats chicken. Stuff them with artificial feeds so they could lay plenty eggs. I hate KFC. I hate that people eat chicken. Does that give me any justification to attack a poultry farmer's business? You are a criminal. What you did is deviant. When you get satisfied of the empty nothing that is the praises thrown to you here, find a way to pay that man the sum for each of those dogs.
If you weren't a hypocrite, you'd have bought those dogs. But No, you decided to release them to the streets where they have no home, could be run over by cars, could catch a disease or be used to satisfy a native doctor's demand of a male black dog.
If a kid had done this, It'd have made small sense. But for an adult to proudly admit doing this, it borders on the line of psycopath and retardation.


And why the bloody f^ck does the opening post reads '' I really did something wrong" when the OP is shamefully glad he acted wrong

young lady you are very abusive. I had my reasons and paid Wat I had. It makes sense to pay the balance to the man which I intend to do. But please watch ur utterances

vickylala239:
What are u saying 7k for how many dogs...

To me you are heartless....if u claim to be too good y did u Nt get food for those dogs??

Why did u not suggest a proper way to the owners...better still get a more better place for those dogs...

To me u r very heartless... u Jst made sumone lost his or her money...

Let's say u Dnt eat dogs some Ppl do..u Dnt eat snakes some Ppl do..u eat goat meat sum Ppl Dnt..

To eat dogs,goats,cow,snake, lizard n rats is not by force...y Hv a wicked heart over someone's property.....

Jst imagine 7k for how mny dogs... if u were so good y Nt go confuse to the owner n pay the right fees for those dogs..n suggest a better way....

Stop wicked activities n claim is good....

I gave Wat I had. But I see ur point. I kinda meddled since it wasn't mine. I still feel treatment of dogs I that way is very very wrong. I intend to pay back the balance once I know what they are worth. Thanks for the insults though. But I get ur point. Cheers

vivaciousvivi:
Dude, believe me if u had opened up the thread to talk about your neighbour and ended it with "you decided to mind your own business, respect a man's livelihood and leave the dogs to their fate since - we all pretty much eat animals", NLs will still shower u with insults. Learn to ignore people. By all means, pay te man some more at month end ifyou want but let it because it's what your conscience is asking of you and not the ignoramuses here.
Cheers.

kk. Thanks

faites:
10 this keeps getting weirder.

yes oh. Ten dogs. My entire family are dog people.

uchwar1:
u messed up. That was somebody's business for Bleep sake. Dog is an animal and meant to be eaten. For the fact u dnt eat dog doesn't mean another can not eat. Pls go and confess ur sins and pay for the 9 dogs. Thank u!

ok Bro. Will try to pay back

vivaciousvivi:
Kudos to you dude. That was quite courageous of you. I am even more impressed you saw it fit to drop some money in the cage. Don't discuss this deed with anyone though.

thanks dear. But with all the insults I have gotten here and that of the man. I wanna pay the balance on the dogs. Hopefully will pay him this month end. I got too emotional, though I really hate when dogs are maltreated, eaten but maybe like they all said, I was wrong..... Maybe

KanwuliaExtra:
You have to learn to choose. . . a big 'kini' with small brains or BIG BRAINS with small kinis!
I am not a USELESS 'black' kini freak!
Mba o! I kon 'fingerer' myself to satisfaSHUNNN!

u eh eh......

KanwuliaExtra:
You have to learn to choose. . . a big 'kini' with small brains or a BIG BRAIN with small kini!
I am not a USELESS 'black' kini freak!

Well am with u on the big brain thing. Kini no be food. Thank God ur still alive, guess I will soon be killed thanks to those attacking me on a thread of mine on front page. Simply cos I confessed my sins on this forum

KanwuliaExtra:
Emotional to the core! They don't know how to TELL LIES!




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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FHECqCZqxSU

This is my SOLE INSPIRATION right here!

really? Guess you will have to learn to pet a crying man. The white friends I have are really cool guys though. Very mature. Though I heard their kini is on the micro level. Manage despite all na cross