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This Muslim people are the big problem Nigeria has.

So I married my wife very well,as a young guy,the problem is that my wife has changed,I called my pastor to help me settle and ask why she changed, and not being happy any more about our love after one kid,she said nothing,untill she finally went back to village to stay with her mom,while am building a lil house on a quarter land to stay and rent a 4 room,my wife was not pls,but.
I just discovered that the reasons we are having misunderstanding is that today I called her to tell her I called through her mom phone ,cos her phone was broken,and her mom called back not knowing it's my new number,she heard my voice and cut ,I immediately called back twice but no avail,later I told my wife about her mom not picking and she said ,did your people not told you my family wants to see you,I said for what na ,I mean I have done all and paid the pride price na ,she said, do you not know I have people that owns me, meaning responsibilities and etc,am like I don't understand,pls I need explanations, because am earnings 50k and I am managing to build and leave the abusive rented house I am currently in,will i now be contributing towards the growth of my wife family mostly or oftenly or when ever I have when I have my dad families,or I should place the mom on salary,her dad is late my own parents are late too.or place their community on a salary,now I see why reginal Daniel will never be happy deep down in her mind.if I don't contribute,they have seize my wife and kid from me .what do I do, should I remarry or keep giving them money and remain in the two room I rented.or bone them and finish my own house .Igbo marriage na wah.pls I need help.

when u are dating an igbo lady,after marriage even with kid,they intend 2 estimate u and your income in compearizm 2 there wants,they want 2 tell u were u should spending ur income on.forgeting u hv your own personal probles,if u neglate their,its problem

[quote author=Graceihotu post=111280429]My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am your problem na small thing,me dat my wife left me nko .wetin i wan do just take my number and call me lets hook up 08130971314

The student i was talking 2 about how one should at list start building or own a house on time and invest in ones kids on a 35yrs job,omo the students told me that oga sir. no b so,flex d money n live a big boy life,later the house ll come.4get tomorow.

Ayinla omowura

Did I hear Igbo amaka,some of the arrogant Igbo people will still insult me and support their fiful���

Igbo amaka,I tut the igbos said north is worster than east ,na the place were dey saver ba

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

. Two students was dating, Yoruba is bf, Edo is gf,so she was pregnant by mistake by the bf,after the parent settle,she went back to see her mom after given birth and baby is 5 months ,she told the mom that this bf has change oo,she don't understand him any more even as both are students,and staying together, the mom said ,is he beating you,she said no,is she taking care of u and the baby,she said yes,even be bought food stuff before he travel to Lagos ,the mother said ,my daughter you are mad,u better thank God,all men are the same ,no man wey no like woman if he is not drinking or smoking, go back and be patience. The daughter when home and was determine to stay no matter what. Pray for him,call a pastor to come talk to him,use that energy and foccus on your own job,pray for him

Waka too,

Pls I have an "L" shape house,on a quarter plot of land,pls in order to minimize cost or make a slant curve roof with blocks at the fronts,on the lintel,,so the rain would pure out from the back of the slant curves roof,can 4 bundled of roof be OK to cover just 3 normal self-contained rooms with a small passage balcony.

Loverofpeace:
Good evening nairalanders I have a little challenge I am facing in my workplace at the moment and I am suspecting my boss to be responsible,I started working in this new company December last year it's a a real estate company,but the office were I work in particular we run a pos there too,so I when I come to work in the morning I first go to my bosses place to collect cash for customers withdrawal.


I am a type of person that barely misplace my money or phone,these two things are very important to me so I am very careful with them,but since I started working in this company it has being a different case,there is no week I don't loose up to 6000 from the pos money I will try all my best to trace the money with the machine transaction history but I will never trace how the money went ,and the most painful part is that I usually pay the depths with my salary so end of the month I usually go with half of my salary as a result of debt.
There are 3 reasons why I suspect my boss,no one the first month I started work a friend of mine told me that he doesn't like my boss,that he looks diabolic to him I laugh and told him to stop being too supersticous because I don't believe such things he told me his instincts don't disappoint him.
Secondly there was a day I borrowed money from my boss I told him I want to buy some stuff that I am broke at the moment ,since I have worked half of the month I need a little change from my salary I only requested 10k,after thinking hard for about 10 minutes he gave me the money,actually I wanted to use the money to pay a loan app I was owing so I payed 5k and kept the remaining 5k to get a t-shirt the following day ,I put the money inside my deep pocket and went to work in the morning even when I was on the road I check my pocket and the money was there,did you know immediately I got to my shop I swept the floor of my shop and tidied the whole place,as I was about to leave for the market to my surprise I deep my hand inside my pocket and the money was gone,I searched evety nook and cranny of the shop i didn't see the money,I just laughed and shook my head.

Thirdly, there are two workers my boss just employed because we have up to three branches in my area,one is a girl and one is a boy,the girl seem to like me dlso much she always like telling me how the work is going for her she usually tells me about every issue she has with my boss, did you know this girl has lost up to 20k in the pos money in just one month of work?..
One day I went to our head office to check our debt book because we always have a book we all money we borrowed from boss plus or shortages are recorded did you know this two new workers have lost more than their salaries,I went through the boys record I saw ,5k,3k,4k etc there is no day this guy doesn't loose money I usually blame myself for all my mistakes until I saw that I am not the only one.now the girl has stopped work.

Pls nairalanders,I am tired of working for people I want to quit start up my own biz but capital is the problem if I can get up to 100k between now till May I will start up my own biz ,can someone just help me with a good idea on how to make money online because I don't always lack data here in the office you contributions will be appreciated thanks .

. Dear its your boss,a friend of mine also complained betterly but I told her to stop it.,sometimes she cries bitterly, and even go to the shop hungry ,and back hungry,so I told her to quite now she has rest of mind,pls look for another job mbok or biko.

Igbo girls and ambitious and do or die,e dey them blood

Happy new month every one
So I went to visit my people at IMO state at Concord side, and I have been chatting with this Lady for long,fast forward to when she said she would be visiting me over at my aunty place,so I took time to arrange the house,bought fruit's, kept that juicy condom under pillow , were it could be easily reached,and bought vanilla icecream, put it in the fridge, mind you my aunty kids are fair like oyimbo Pepe, so I rushed down to a market called (amahausa) to get some good eskey and weed, ( omo science students) when I came home, called the babe she said she has left home heading towards owerri from aba,I was like OK,there is still time,after getting high ,omo the way I planed to bleep this lady so so hard that day henn,I was even saying she will stay over nighti have big work to do, then sudden I fell asleep and woke up damn,you know that look when you wake up and think today is friend instead of Saturday, I picked my phone, saw 45missed called ,at first I tut I was a celebrity o,only to check who was that ,yeeee pa,yeee pa its amaka,I was like let me call back,suddenly I had a small voice that says I came and I have been calling,you did not pick me I have head back to a ABA ,am like what's gonna happened to my dick now,with all the science students mixture I took, I was trying to console myself with these goodies I bought, only to open the fridge and discovered my aunty kids had licked the ice cream and eat half of the pizza to pieces, na faint just hold me and epilepsy join.Only to wake up in the seating room saw fan Rollin, my eyes was still blurred,when I saw my aunty eating the big fresh bananas and groundnut I placed in the fridge,she then paused and said "edunbrazil" thanks for what you bought for my kids aren't you a dearling since then,I dey fear children if I dey expect any woman....... Fear children o.

Happy new month every one
So I went to visit my people at IMO state at Concord side, and I have been chatting with this Lady for long,fast forward to when she said she would be visiting me over at my aunty place,so I took time to arrange the house,bought fruit's, kept that juicy condom under pillow , were it could be easily reached,and bought vanilla icecream, put it in the fridge, mind you my aunty kids are fair like oyimbo Pepe, so I rushed down to a market called (amahausa) to get some good eskey and weed, ( omo science students) when I came home, called the babe she said she has left home heading towards owerri from aba,I was like OK,there is still time,after getting high ,omo the way I planed to bleep this lady so so hard that day henn,I was even saying she will stay over nighti have big work to do, then sudden I fell asleep and woke up damn,you know that look when you wake up and think today is friend instead of Saturday, I picked my phone, saw 45missed called ,at first I tut I was a celebrity o,only to check who was that ,yeeee pa,yeee pa its amaka,I was like let me call back,suddenly I had a small voice that says I came and I have been calling,you did not pick me I have head back to a ABA ,am like what's gonna happened to my dick now,with all the science students mixture I took, I was trying to console myself with these goodies I bought, only to open the fridge and discovered my aunty kids had licked the ice cream and eat half of the pizza to pieces, na faint just hold me and epilepsy join.Only to wake up in the seating room saw fan Rollin, my eyes was still blurred,when I saw my aunty eating the big fresh bananas and groundnut I placed in the fridge,she then paused and said "edunbrazil" thanks for what you bought for my kids aren't you a dearling since then,I dey fear children if I dey expect any woman....... Fear children o.

[quote author=Southernigbo post=110623707]They turn young good decent girls to spoilt ones and leave them to face the complex world with their already defiled and sex hungry bodies. Every now and then u see sex hungry girls looking at innocent men expecting such men to demand sex from them as if every man is as bad as the ones who spoilt them in the first place!
They grow up believing that men are all the same.[/quote.
Laugh wan kill me

I don't know the mentality of how Igbo ladies were raise ,if money no dey,80% will give problems, now am looking forward to Yoruba ladies ,but Hausa too can stay if money no dey marriage again o,laugh wan kill me,,let's me see how Yoruba ladies will be like first. Before I accepted that Hausa ladies.

efficiencie:
Dude don't be a mumu. You are sending money to a woman that packed out of your house. She has left your jurisdiction. She is accountable and responsible for herself and the children now. Don't sponsor her stupidity by sending her money. If you keep sending the money to her you will plunge into poverty and she will ditch you last last if you do not recover financially. Finish that house. Put it up for rent. Invest in other businesses. The same leg she carry go outside she go carry am come house when she see wetin you don achieve. You be Igbo man na.

. God bless u bro,na why I say nothing for her this months, Yoruba girl loading

A lady we had been chatting for long came to visit me,when I went to IMO state,that day I smoke a good eskay and weed ,slept off only to wake up and discovered 45 missed calle,at first I tut I was a celebrity with those kind of calls only to check and its the lady after I done determine to Bleep her hard ,omo I called back she told me she was now heading towards aba I was like what's gonna happened to my dick now ,lololo hahahahhah.

Winneygirl:
There is nothing wrong in building a house. But you have to be smart.
2 incomes are better than 1.
She wants to either work, or do business so that she will not depend solely on your income.
Instead of encouraging that, you put all your money into building a house that wont start generating any revenue in the first year, and will not yield profit until after many years. During this period, your kids are starving, you probably have not paid their school fees and you are not able to keep up with home maintenance or catering to your childrens needs.
She left with the kids so she can be with her family who will support her in raising her kids and financial independence.
And here you are, talking about bringing in another woman. Someone that cannot take care of his family thinks he can take care of side chick.
Mtchhheeewww!

patience they say is a virtue, I understand you ,but a good wife should have endurance no,if things NAD,should a wife spoil it more,I have a good plans for her ,but just to be lil patience is all I need ,no man wants a house wife these days

Mariangeles:
Have you called her people to inform them that she left your house with the children?
Just in case…

I mean, for all you know, she could’ve gone anywhere but to her family.

yes her family knows ,radda they said I should come to explain why I did not take care of her daughter, laugh wan kill me,cos I won't go,I hv my reasons

Skullano:
That will make things more easier self..e be like say children never cry for head well well.

. Laugh wan kill me lol

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
Am I the only one that read that bolded side and went blank , he went from being a victim to subtly threatening his marriage in half a second , like because you wash your hand by yourself you want to cry , she even took the two children and she's taking care of them , how much are you even sending that is making you talk , and you're here about another opportunity for another woman , you don't mean it?

everybody and his own opinion, thanks

Ho God,or did I hear one igbo lady here that keeps insulting me that igbo amaka,they say east is safer than west or north chia ,brothers killing not even brother but disgracing and inhumaning a corps....kia ,one igbo man problems is his own brother, just like Bollywood.yet one igbo person will still insult me for saying the truth as if every east is safer ,why una no wait and tell those cut boys say east safe ooo.

yinkeys:
Relationships are dead.
Don’t bring in kids to this life if you don’t have at least $1 million to properly finance children’s sports, formal, martial, creative education etc.
Nigerian economy has gone to the dogs.
It’s bad times for blacks in the global political space.
Just pump and dump.
Have fun

“What most menuniquely deceive themselves of is that they will ultimately be appreciated by women for their sacrifices. Learn this now, you won’t”

You’re a utility
Honour is not a feminine trait
If you like be deceived by society
If you like waste your life trying to understand them.
Lesson & advice to singles without kids

and I tut bible says go into the world and multiple, if u no pregnant that woman she will leave you for another man ,stay there dey speak big English

donbachi:
Pikin wey grow,go ask for him papa

na wetin I dey always talk dear

dawnomike:
leave her for now and face how to make money and complete your house... She will come back to her senses later.

NB: Ensure you take care of your kids

you try thanks .

Wazobia2216:
Your family's happiness will open doors for you!

Take care of them and still build your house!

Thats what a wise young man will do!

himm its very hard to be a wish man especially in the mist of a woman who concluded before seeing result

ChiefSosa:
I choose option 1. But, you still have to send some money over, in order to cater for the kids. I'm sure she'll understand your plans later, and how important it is to own YOUR own building/house. I sure say belle go sweet am when you finish the house, and people start dey call am 'landlady'. Some money gotten from rent can also be used to help her business. You both just need to sit down and get your priorities in order; the most important things before the least important things. But, don't forget to take care of your family in everything you're doing.
Also, what kinda business did/does she want to do, if such business will bring in good profit that will help in completing the house you're building, then give her some money for business. We just hope she's not the squandering type of individual.
Shalom!

. Its well,OK brother thanks

immortalcrown:
If what you said is truly the problem in your marriage and you are asking for third-party opinions, I am sorry to tell you that you are not mentally mature enough for marriage. I said if because I do not know if you are being honest here.

If you abandon the building to please her, what do you think she will do to you when you are unable to pay rent?

Mumu, complete your building so that even if she divorces you, you and your next wife will have a shelter without insults from any landlord.

. Hahahaha I talk am nairaland go fire we hahaha