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pussyaddict: That makes both of us.

At least you're able to quote a comment that does not refer to you in anyway

pussyaddict: He's just a village boy that's been priviledged to mix with the rich

sweetylicious: Wait o!I suspect that Debbie girl likes Shola
Hmmmmm!lemme catch her first.

tinuolababy: lol. I hope the twin brother won't take advantage of this one day

DickDastardly: No qualms, as long as she will let me practice advanced polygamy too

conyema12: First I want to thank the creators of this wonderful thread. Its like the save haven I have been looking for all day.

I am currently in a 2yr old marriage, quite nascent in the institution. Our marriage is what people emulate and most of my friends and colleagues count me as a lucky man, same goes to my wife from her folks. no kids at the moment as we plan to start that b4 this year runs out for obvious reasons.

I love my wife and I still do with all my life. However I have some issues.

Currently my wife does nt seem to appreciate anything I do.
Take her to Genesis cinema, she will tell you silverbird is her preference. I can help her make dinner, tidy the dishes, when she is tired for example yet she finds it difficult to appreciate it.

Her demands are endless as well as her wahala. Always picking faults in every single thing I do
When we have a little disagreement she talks in a harsh tone. I prefer to show maturity and tolerance.
I often help out with the house chores but whenever she does it alone, she eats herself up. When I talk to her about it, her reply will be that she experiences mood swings!....I tire oooo!!.

Is this what marriage is all about....
taking shiit and keeping quiet cos you don't want to hurt your woman? Even when its obvious she is wrong.
Sacrificing your ego because you want to be known as a gentle man and a good husband. I would really like to know cos that gentle man thing is not working for me!!

slimport: Leave them oo! Those men! Just let him tell me he will marry another wife, I will tell him no wahala.... alaye, jaye ori e. starting from that time, he will knw i'm prettier than ever. Nice make up, sexiest bum shorts! E go be like I just open ma line. Oh my God! Calls go just dey enter ma fone ni! Even wen those calls r just camouflage, that's wen u will knw, Emi won o gbe, men! Dem go wan break their head for wall.... Kia Kia he go tell me say na joke e dey joke. say wetin.... person go just get high BP ni. I cannot come n die

spankyflex: pm me am gonna help u out;am serious

deeobserver209: You a male or female?

lrguru: bullsh!t!!!! When young babes de outside wey fit cook sumptuous meal for me plus gimme massage na im I go look ur face? Any stubborn wife na to just arrange another wife shaperly o! I no get energy to de talk same thing over n over again

Adeoba10: I rememba one day like dis wey I dey follow one Ghanian boy play ball, sometyn happened sha, na so dis guy gimme blow for ear, gbau!!! na so my ear dey hot, water dey drop for my eye like tap water, my mate for dat matter, me jux bite d guy, as I dey bite am, na so e gimme anoda one for ear again, come see how I hold my ear pick race go my house, for gud 2months I no reach dat field again...

nnadychuks: me too

hispinkolo: @diegs
Because my heart is breaking for you,I may sound harsh.

1.One thing I am certain of is that you cannot force someone to love you.
2. I cannot love you more than you love yourself.


Diegs please is it not the same way a woman gave birth to you that a woman gave birth to your husband? Why would you let any man born of a woman make you feel worthless and useless?Even if he was born by aliens,no one should put you in such a condition.The worst part is that the person is busy having fun and enjoying himself while you are becoming a shadow of yourself.

Diegs,depression kills.Worrying gives high bp.I have seen countless patients commit suicide or at least attempt suicide cos they just can't take it any more.They can't take the feeling of worthlessness,the feeling of not having anything to love for,the feeling of rejection.Some just harm themselves as a spur of the moment decision.
Are you telling me that if boko haram sends you a letter that they are coming to bomb that house,that you'll still be there waiting without finding somewhere to go? Your husband and his ex are boko haram for now..they have bokod your emotions and self dignity,they have bokod your sense of self worth.You MUST fight for your sanity!

Diegs are you telling me that you cannot go back to your father,throw yourself at his feet and beg?Are you telling me that you cannot stand at the gate of your fathers house and refuse to leave unless he listens to you?Are you telling me that you cannot sit on your bonnet of your fathers car and hold on tight till he listens to you?You don't know that you can roll on the floor,scream and cry for your father to forgive you and help you?
Are you telling me that if your siblings and mother see all these that they will not fight for you?Are you telling me that your father will see all these,your father will see his child ,a child born of his loins wilting before his eyes and he will stand by doing nothing
DESPERATE TIMES CALL FOR DESPERATE MEASURES!! Look at the prodigal son,see the scope he used..he told his father that he wants to be treated like a servant,that he wasn't worthy to be called his son.His father was filled with compassion for him and took him back.My dear,tell your father that you will not move an inch from that gate if he does not forgive you.

I believe you are not yet serious.Your husband is sleeping with his ex,is in love with his ex,treating you like trash.How much more will you take? You have blamed yourself enough,it's time to take action!Someone like me would simply pack a few things and disappear for a while. In a case like yours,he needs to be shocked into a rethink ie if you still want him.He feels you have no choice and will remain there no matter what he does and that is why he's acting anyhow.

Please go to your mirror and look at yourself.Diegs my dear sister,are you not someone's child? Diegs are you not a future mother? Diegs do you deserve this?Even if you married him out of desperation,is it worth your sanity?Who deserves this sort of wickedness? I don't know why you think so lowly of yourself.

You are someone's daughter,you are someone's future mother,you are someone's sibling.You were not picked up from the bush,you came from somewhere!No one has the right to treat you like a nonentity.

You may not see this now,but you are setting yourself up to be a bitter and frustrated woman.Even if your husband comes back to you and you forgive,what will happen to the scars that have been inflicted on you?Is it not best to remove yourself from this madness and pray from afar instead of traumatising yourself daily?
Please DO NOT even consider bringing a child into this marriage just yet.It will only make things worse especially for you cos if the bad treatment continues,you will now have the excuse of staying for your child.

If you notice,I haven't mentioned the ex.You have no business with her. Your husband is the one who made vows and him sleeping with her is a choice he made.Im sure she doesn't ra pe him.



Diegs please advice yourself o!!!! I care about you but please advice yourself!! You are important,take care of yourself first before worrying about anyother thing.