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Timson01:
We have only been married for three (3) months. February 12 was my husband’s birthday, but being that it fell on a Wednesday, we decided to mark it on Sunday, February 16. We hosted friends to a-get-together in our home. I did a lot to make the day memorable. The last group of friends left around 9:30pm and by the time we were done cleaning up, it was about 11pm.
We had our bath and all I could think of was sleep, but my husband was thinking differently. He wanted sex, but I was just too tired for anything so I said NO and asked him to wait until morning.
My husband angrily left the bedroom and I drifted off to sleep because I was too tired, but I was woken up with a slap in my face. I thought I was dreaming, but I wasn’t. I was startled when I saw that it was my husband who actually dealt me a slap!
As I wanted to ask him what the issue was, he gave me another slap and said I had no right to deny him sex. I was forced to slap him back, but that made him angrier, he hit me back and pinned me down- I struggled with him, but he overpowered me. He tore my nightwear and RAPED me to his satisfaction.
I still do not believe this happened.
I was too tired- was I wrong to ask him to wait until the next day?
Was he right to have slapped me?
Was he right to have raped me?
SEX! Should it have been because of sex? We still had sex a night before- in fact early that morning- three (3) hot rounds.
It’s been three days after the incident, he’s still feeling fly like he was right.

Somebody please advise me on what to do?

All these women way no dey read Bible. The Bible clearly addresses the rules of sex in marriage. The only reason approved by the Bible to deny your husband sex is if either or both of you are fasting and praying. even the bible said the break should be for a short time.

You clearly broke the rule and you want peace in your marriage.

Your husband is wrong like 1000%

But remember no peace for the wicked. so since you no dey follow bible instructions with your wickedness no peace for you.

How can you deny your husband sex are you mad? can't you sleep off and curve the back side for him to play as he likes ...even if you are in coma!

it's vise versa...He has no right to deny you sex too if na you want am.

princejayy:
Thanks for the advice.

His was partial, affecting just one side of the body. He used to go for physiotherapy once in a while but has stopped for a while due to paucity of funds.

He takes his drugs regularly, we have also been fasting and praying.

I dont just know what to say.

What you are calling partial stroke is full stroke. People with partial stroke still drive cars and unless they tell you they have a partial stroke you would never know except it's evident on their lips.

just keep keeping on and be hopeful ...

The most important thing now is to give him good care and attention.

There was a day my dad was limping into the house while my mom was lying on a bench in front of the house ...this was like 2004 or 2005...and suddenly my mom sprung up and caught my dad before his body could hit the ground.

just few days ago I was wondering if someone can still see such a wife that can catch you even before you start falling.

just give him all the care in the world now.

princejayy:
Good day to you all. My father had a stroke attack about 3 years ago. After the attack, the right part of his body was paralysed, he could not walk or talk for a long time. Over the years, several treatments has been given/administered to help the situation including orthodox and tradomedical, over 1 million naira has been spent on this. However, he has not been able to fully overcome the stroke, he still struggles to speaks and limps to walk, with his right hand nearly ineffective. It has been bothering me so much because it has been a while and considering the resources put in and his young age also.

I need advice on what to do immediately and shared experiences.

Doctors in the house, please feel free to recommend anything. Thank you all

Cc lalasticlala seun

For me my dad lived with stroke for 13yrs till his death. yeah he was limping all-over the yard but he regained his speech 100%.

what can I say ...since my dad never fully recovered. I think recovery in full stroke is most likely not possible ...but as a believer I cannot just give up like that so at least let me advice something for you.

adhere to doctors recommendation with respect to his meals and what he drinks...my dad for example loved the idea when the doctors said he could abi na should drink small stout and I remember he drank it now and now once once.

also try and get him physiotherapy sessions if you can afford it...if you cant then buy some of those exercise machines and keep at home...I think we borrowed that bicycle type that time and kept in the house.

buy hand stress relievers ...I don't know their correct name. that hand device that looks like a pair of pliers that he will be squeezing from time to time.

then someone in the house must be committed to giving him his physical therapy ...that kind stuff.

always make sure he takes his BP drugs as pres by the doctor and he must go for regular monthly checkup ...ah I remember those days with my Mitsubishi sigma taking daddy to the physician...do like that too.

last but not the least. there's a place in the Bible where the disciples asked Jesus why they were unable to cast out a particular demon and Jesus told them that this type na only fasting and prayer fit cast am out.

so add fasting and prayer to it...and if you believe it, it will work for you.

I don comot!

He has been whining since afternoon and I have been hearing since too. I just made food this night and gave him in the balcony and closed the door immediately. So that when he finish eating he would realize that he's still under punishment.

I know I would have forgiven him by now and let him in if he hadn't sat on that urine filled area. Now that he has, I have no such plans or ever will till tomorrow.

If under punishment, then why did i feed him...oh get you behind me Satan...I don't want him to die now. I love him.

My new plan is to bath him tomorrow before letting him into the usual indoor arrangement.

That's my final decision; I said to myself.

Then by then he should have learnt his lesson. Next time he won't destroy my stuff because he's upset with his ancestors.

It then occurred to me ...who knows, maybe this is the same way God handles my matter..

Maybe when I offend God he just throws me into his balcony and feed me from the window ...hnmn maybe just like this story ...because he still loves me. And while I'm in this balcony (difficult situation) I continue to do dirt and God leaves me there till next Sunday when He will give me a thorough bath.

And maybe I keep praying and fasting on the balcony and God just allow my prayers fall on deaf ears just like me and Bally story. until next Sunday.

And I keep wondering why my prayers are not being answered immediately. And God keeps waiting for Sunday to bath me.

And I keep doing dirt even inside my difficult situation and

This is what just went through my mind men!

Bally is still out on the balcony but I still love him.

He will get his bath tomorrow by God's grace but I have learnt something from him today.

To always live a righteous life every day of my life and maybe that difficult situation would never come.

Because if I don't throw God's keys to my heart on the floor, He would never throw me out into the balcony.

Bally thank you for yet another life changing inspiration.

The real reason why Bally is in my life is a story for a day that may never come.

Cheers!

Chai I wish I could upload a picture

I was asleep in my room and the dog kept bumping into my room door just outside the room where he was also asleep. When the noise became too much for me I got up and shot the door properly restricting him to the sitting room only.

My action marked the end of his sleep as he kept scratching the door for me to reopen same. I just ignored him; because I needed that sleep so badly and sooner or later he would get tired.
From my sleep, I could here my keys which I had left on a table in the sitting room hit the ground and I couldn't ignore that sound; because I know my car keys were also on that same table, and if the dog was playing ludo with my car keys, it could mean different things for me. I thought about it for a few seconds and decided to go and check what the dog was up to. The idea of having the dog chew my key fob to pieces was enough to erase whatever sleep was still left in my eyes.

As I opened the room door, I saw the house keys on the floor and luckily too the car keys were still on the table; but the slap I had prepared for the dog was still cocked in my mind and I think the dog could sense it. He didn't cower in the corner like he would normally do whenever he did something wrong.
I'm sure he must have sensed the calibre of the slap I walked in with and almost immediately he made his escape through the partially open balcony door I had left Incase he wanted to use the bathroom while I was sleeping.
I still stretched myself in an attempt to slap the living daylight out of his behind as his hips disappeared through the partially open door.
Though I didn't connect, I allowed him escape and shot the balcony door behind him.

I peeped through the window and saw him cowering under the plastic chair on the balcony. I said to myself he would stay there till tomorrow as punishment.

He loves to stay indoors, so restricting him to the balcony for 24hrs... believe it or not was punishment. It wasn't long before I could hear him whining and screaming his lungs out trying to get my attention to allow him indoors.

His whining and shouting fell no doubt, but unfortunately they fell on deaf ears; because in my mind, till tomorrow he (Bally) would be outdoors.

When I finally felt like I had had enough sleep I woke up and made it to the sitting room to look at Bally through the window; he was very agitated and kept his whining and shouting on high gear. He was all over the balcony walking and sometimes sitting on the areas of the balcony with urine. I knew there was no way I would be letting him indoors today even if I forgave him later in the day. I don't think I want him bringing that filt of urine through his feet or his off white coat into my sitting room or even worse rub same on my sofa.

McCoy662:
Good evening my good people. Our result just came out today and my worst imagination has happened. I saw my name in 2:2 division, what I have always tried to avoid since my year 1. I know it's my project supervisor that fvcked me up cause he has been hostile to me for no reason. I feel really bad, but that did has been done.
So, I just want to know how bad is 2:2 in Nigerian market? Is it something to count on or should I just move on like I never went to the university??

I need answers please!!

well if you ask me, from the benefit of hindsight, it's not what you got in school but what you do and the life you live after school. There are a lot of rules in life and laws of Nature including those of the most high. to be honest nobody teaches you this things. this world is a wicked place ...can you imagine nobody teaches you these secrets ...sometimes you keep making the same mistakes for 20yrs after school.

Try and get a life coach or life mentor and be very close to him or her....it can change your 2:2 to $$ but most importantly... understand God.

peace!

Opeyemiebun:
Evening guys, please I will like to seek people's opinion concerning this issue that I have in my home.

I am a married Man with a Kid. Before marriage, my wife has a federal job outside Lagos while I run my business in Lagos. Due to Nigeria's economy, I asked her not to resign as she keeps working while I also keep on with my hustle. I have to be fair to her as she has been giving her all in this marriage and I so envy her strength to make things work despite the distance.

We had our first child last year and she is going to a year.. We both contribute financially and bring something to the table as we run 2 different homes.

I know she goes through a lot taking care of the baby without a car and I know how tedious it is for her to manage.

We are both young (I am 30 while she is 28)
We got our first few properties this January and we planning to do other things as we both bring money together to get things done.

We have plans of getting our first car within a month and my wife suddenly demanded that she also needs a car where she is due to the stress she goes through daily picking my child from creche and managing that with her own job. I asked that I employ a helper for her but she doesn't want.

She plans on getting the car within the next 2months with her own money. My issue is that I am business oriented and see it as a waste of money buying 2 cars when we can buy one and invest the money for the other one.

I am a Civil Engineer and my Job requires I get a car for mobility.
I feel guilty by trying to stop her from getting the car while I get mine and at the same time, if she get one I will also need to get.

I have been cracking my head up trying to see how we can go about it without hurting her and be fair to her as she is the best woman I can ever ask for.

What should I do, should we both get cars and let other stuffs take it course?

bro I won't even allow my wife go anywhere in public transport when she's pregnant talk less of when the child is already born. my prayer is God keep me capable. Civil Engineer my eye.

*Modified*

I just feel like slapping this guy honestly you deserve some kind of physical abuse.

if you know what some people have to endure in the name of a terrible wife you will use that your own money and buy the car for her and ask her to keep her Money for herself.

to sound you just dey hungry me!

with a population of 1.3 billion people they even tried by not eating their own faeces....

bnmbv:
This was my plan, but with this HIgh Blood pressure ...

I can relate with this too.

just a week ago I felt myself dying so I went and checked my blood pressure and it was saying 144/95...

I called her and said let go back to how we were before...in love. she said we can't go back. I ended the marriage immediately.

stroke killed my father...it can't kill me.

at this point I dont know what would work for you but I will suggest you start going for sport fishing and extreme water parks and meeting new people till your kids are in college.

if you stay the way you are now ...YOU WILL DIE

yeah

DankemzI:
1ft plate? How sustainable and practical is that? Considering the weight of the boatlift and the boat itself, what if it sinks or slide?

There are other design considerations in terms of how I welded the cross bracing ...that ensures the 1ft x 1ft plates don't sink into the mud.

it worked!

EgunMogaji2:
Bumper hitch, not tow bar.

thanks

Asquare84:
You left an important part of when you installed what you constructed inside the water

Nothing is inside the water. the boatlift is just standing inside the water like a table. I used a 1ft x 1ft plate on each leg so that it doesn't sink inside the mud.

PEACE BE UNTO YALL.
Thanks for watching

NEXT TIME

....on WHEN FAILURE ISNT AN OPTION.

Building a boat lift that can lift 2 Jetskies at the same time and can also be used to lift a boat when the Jetskies are not around.

THE END

This is the face of a happy guy. And the face of a guy way just escape gbese

After some time whining the thing...I come shift back go look under the boat. I see say the thing don suspend.

And this is highest tide o! so the lift worked. at low tide the boat you see here would be almost 1m above the water level. so I took more pictures from different angles

Asquare84:
The water is so deity,how come

Na so o! during rainy season all the tributaries from the mainland empty into the rivers and they come with a lot of sediments so that's why the water is murky.

The more they turned the winch, the boat started moving upwards ...which was a big relief for me. Then I noticed the handle of the winch needs to be converted to a big wheel so the turning would be much easier.

That's what I did next time I visited the site.

It was high tide so the ...

So I told the boys to dey whine am

As we dey go, I tell the boat driver to allow me drive small.

At least if I die if the thing no work ...make I use this trill enjoy my remaining life. I can't come I kill myself before them kill me

I just remembered this boat carry 2 massive 200hp engine for back. each of them about 220kg if i remember correctly.

depression just set in. I regretted coming to Lagos immediately

Said a little prayer. and thinking what could go wrong? I have crossed all my T's and dotted all my I's . I just had to submit to my God jare...no be me Sabi pass...

if I eff up. I'm dead.

even the man way sublet to me didn't come for the testing. fear no gree am. his staff sef no come.

My brother and sisters, for this life na only God you get o! and your mama. My mother dey on top this matter too o! she knows the meaning if e no work.

Here with only 20% liver left, I just hanged on. as long as I'm breathing ...let me just stand here.

I can't come and kill myself

My self confidence continued to fade with every passing minute.
Here only half of my liver still dey work. Had to put on a straight face though.

Had to park at the jetty, so I can join the boat to the test site.

Don't try this with a Toyota Hilux.

if not na 2 boats you go lunch that day.

When the jetty personnel said salt water will destroy my car I didn't answer him. me I know say I won't allow the salt water to even touch my tyre talk less of my chassis

I paid for a jetty the previous day ...from where I planned to lunch the boat into the water.

Here's me practicing how to drive an articulated rig in reverse. I give kudos to our trailer drivers who do this everyday.

Again! don't try this at home.

Hooked the rig up and ready to move.

please don't try this at home.