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Pukkalolo:
But here's the truth: Giving up the pussy is a big deal only when she's dealing with a beta male. She doesn't want to look cheap in a beta male eyes, so she act like her pussy is some treasure in order to decieve him. She act like holy Mary around beta guys.

Yeah so I agree with some of the things you said most especially this part.

The parts I don't agree with are not really worth arguing about but what I want to know is how do you bleep with a woman's emotion to get her emotional attached.

You might have felt that this post was going to be too long so you didn't explain better what you meant. So please create another post for this and please try to reduce as much ambiguity as possible. Thanks.

I usually don't like to give advice to women because I have learnt not to give advice to them unless they specifically ask you to. That also goes for people in general.

But this is the Internet and I don't know who might need this. So...

There are three types of men or should I say people.
The ones that give you fish
The ones that teach you how to fish
The ones that don't give you fish

Out of these three, the one that gives you value, uplifts you and has your best interest in mind is the one in the middle.

This is all I can say. A word is enough for the wise.

luminouz:
Kai....how do you know which girls dem don useless like this?

Lol I don't think there is any way of knowing. Women are very good at pretending. Even if you don't perform up to the standard of her past lovers as long as she wants something from you she won't show it. She can still get the other one outside.

Your safest bet is to marry a virgin but you know that doesn't guarantee that she won't cheat but the streets is scary bro.

Maybe you should try prayers. I know you don't pray enough lol.

luminouz:
Damn....so they fûck girls with sex enhancement drugs. I imagine them fûcking girls for hours and using them anyhow. Kai!!!

Yeah bro that's actually what's up

turmacs:
Until you try to upload a high resolution video on YouTube. If you think say you get fast internet bro/sis , abeg , just try and upload a 2k or 4k video on YouTube, na that time you'll see the nonsense we're using on this part of the world. God i just hate this country, fûck!!!!!

Why not upload at night after 12am

hucknall:
In my own experience...
As someone who enjoys deep conversations
I get a little frustrated sometimes chatting with nigerian girls.
Our chats usually go like this.

Me: do you have any gists?
Girl : No
Me : What are you usually into? / What do you like talking about ?
Girl : Anything
Me : (3 paragraph talking about something controversial that recently happened)
Girl : okay/interesting

In mind I be like wtf! because I'd actually get more satisfaction talking to an actual rock!

Other times some girls pick up their phones and call me. And then expect me to continue / carry the conversation.

The only time I find success with them. When I start being witty, or saying some dumb silly things.

Is this normal or am I doing something wrong?


Just so you know. I'm asking for a friend.

One useful tip though girls don't really care about what you say just the vibes which is why you find success being witty or saying dumb silly things

So my tip for you is use playful banter. They like that playful vibe with a little sexual innuendo.

Martinez39s:
@ElasmoBranchii

I appreciate your contribution. We agree to a large extent, except in few cases. I see that our disagreement is largely a semantic issue. There are things I would have loved to clarify now, but time is not on my side. Hopefully, this will lead to more red pill discussions and education, and we come to a better conclusion. Cheers!

Of course. I look forward to that.

JESHAL007:
Lol. Hypergamy and sex appeal are different. I will explain.

A woman choosing to sleep with a man who turns her on is also rooted in hypergamy. You neglected one aspect of the duality of women's mating strategy, specifically the alpha fucck part of the equation.

The alpha ensures good genes for long term survival of her offspring, the beta provider ensures resources for long term survival of her offspring.

A man's financial capability is not what makes him alpha but his attitude and mannerism. There are a lot of alpha males in prison which shows you money is not what makes you alpha.

There are rich alphas and poor alphas. There are rich betas and poor betas. If a woman can get a rich alpha to commit to her, she has been able to maximize her hypergamous needs but that kind of achievement is very difficult.

What you call sex appeal is the evolutionary aspect of what I just talked about. And since I am a very lazy texter, I went ahead and copied this text from springer's website

"From an evolutionary perspective, the perception of physical attractiveness is linked to biological and genetic fitness, as it signals the potential ability to produce healthy offspring and pass on advantageous genes to future generations. Attractiveness can vary among different cultures and individuals; however, it is also associated with traits, such as symmetry, clear skin, and physical fitness. Additionally, nonphysical traits, such as social status, confidence, and humor, can also contribute to perceived attractiveness"

In simpler terms, when you see a woman who you find attractive, subconsciously your brain signals to you that this is someone who would be able to give you healthy children.

Same thing happens when a woman sees an attractive male or a male with sex appeal as you say.

Even if she is fuccking for pleasure, this is still what goes on in her subconscious but here is the thing women don't rate physical attractiveness as much as men do because our bodies are not the vessels that carry children.

What ranks high in attractiveness for women and turns them on are usually these three general things:
1. Confidence
2. Charming (Can you make her feel special)
3. Responsibility(Can you lead her)

Note: These traits might come under different names but they all mean the same thing. For example Rollo said

"Women use shit tests to determine men’s authenticity in one or a combination of these factors:
1. Genuine Confidence – First and foremost
2. Sexual Options – Is this guy really into me
because I’m “special,” or am I his only option?
3. Long-Term Security – Is this guy capable of
providing me with long-term security?"

Note: Responsibility and the long-term security he is talking about here are not the same as financial security. If you need me to talk more on this I can.

Physical attractiveness can get a man's interest but it doesn't guarantee his commitment. The same way physical attractiveness can get women to show interest but it doesn't guarantee sex.

And I know this because I have fumbled some girls that chose me because I didn't understand this and any man who has fumbled a girl that chose him will be able to realize this too.

Which is why I made a post here before, advising people to start cold approaching. If you don't have all these traits, start actively gaming women in order to practice them because even for a woman that chooses you, if you show her you don't possess these traits you will turn her off.

She might make excuses for you, if you have 2 out of 3 of these, but if you demonstrate that you have none then she will leave.

It's what goes on in pre-selection. When a woman sees you are wanted by other women, it signals to her that you have the mannerism that women find attractive so she doesn't have to do the work of figuring it out by herself.

And you don't really need to change much about your physical appearance in fact for some men all it takes is putting a ring on their finger and women will start thirsting over them. Which is why men talk about getting more female attention when they get a girl, but they didn't change one thing physically about themselves.

At the end of the day all this translates to this quote by Rollo Tomassi.
"Women want to get with a man who
other women want to bang and other men want to be."

Peace.

imustsaymymindo:
This is why we do need to go back to the books.

I don't think there is any chapter in the 5 books of one of the fav authors you quote that is not backed up by data. Either being a protagonist or an antagonist of the data including all the concepts you just outlined. In fact, all chapters start with demystifying popular data.

SoSuave was typically a data debate hub. That's why we are men. We favor metrics over feelings and value content over context.

To tell you the truth, I really racked my brain to understand what you were trying to say here.

When you said stats I thought you meant numbers and figures like 80% of men... etc for all I know there isn't any statistical study done on any redpill concept.

Everything is based on observation and hypothesis. Which is left for you test out in the field of life. If it works for you, you keep it. If it doesn't work, you leave it.

The redpill is not as strict as the 10 commandments, in the sense that people are always exchanging ideas on how to look at things. It's left for you to test it and see if it works.

Maybe if you had used facts instead of stats, I would have understood you better. Peace

imustsaymymindo:
How did you come about this stats?

Mr statistician. A mad man told me 😂

Alright now, jokes apart: Before I answer your question. I'd like you to tell me who did the statistics for redpill quotes like
"All women are the same"
"Alpha Bleep beta buck - Duality of female mating strategy"
"Women are fundamentally incapable of loving a man in the way
that a man expects to be loved by a woman."
etc.

You already know that many redpill concepts aren't got from statistics but from observations.

I'm not even the one that came up with that. Just a simple search on nairaland will show you multiple threads where people have talked about this. I believe it's true and I just offered my opinion as to why I think it's so.

You can even Google it to see this is not a new topic but if from your observations or experience you haven't noticed this then please you have my permission to take what I said and fling it into the dust bin lol.

Before you do that though, I'd like to know why you beg to differ, my dear statistician.

Smartb0y:
A girl giving you green light,red light,purple light even brown sef(undefined signals)clearly shows that she wants to get you invested emotionally in order to capitalize on it.
Adding to the fact that their State of mind is always on a constant flux.
Understand that if a woman finds you attractive you cannot convince her otherwise . Same applies vise versa.

I agree with everything you said bro except from this.

Fundamentally you can't make anybody like you. It's up to them. Which is why Rollo said "Genuine desire can never be negotiated" but you can influence their decision sometimes.

For example you can see a very pretty girl you might be attracted to but if she has very bad mouth odor, your attraction for her reduces. That's her negatively influencing your decision.

Another example most of your friends before you got to know them, you didn't know if you wanted a relationship with them or not, but you like them now because they show as much interest in you as you show them. They positively influenced your decision.

Same thing with a woman's genuine desire. Understand a woman's genuine desire is also rooted in hypergamy.

She thinks that you are capable of attracting women that are more attractive or as attractive as she is. A woman can't have genuine desire for you if she doesn't think this.

Forget Hollywood script of hot models falling in love with nerds with bad posture.

When a woman figures out that this isn't true, her attraction for you falls. If she finds out that it is true, her attraction for you goes up. This is also what goes on in preselection.

And it also explains why, in this era, most handsome men end up with ugly or average looking women while ugly or average looking men end up with very attractive women.

Those women think because the guy is handsome he can get girls better than her. While the attractive women think the men they are with can attract someone better than them based off his attitude, resources or she has seen him do it before.

dontrulee:
The modern Nigerian girls are bad with communication. They hardly message or call guys because they believe that guys should be the one doing the calling.

I've gone through most girls phone and what I saw was appalling. I mean, different guys sending multiple messages without the girl replying and many unread messages. I use to think before that the natural answers girls gives to guy is usually monosyllabic and all this 'kk' things until I encounter girls who 'claim' to love me and they started bombarding my phone with messages and calls, some became so annoying that I have to ghost some of them because it's looking that they've become desperate. I have understood that girls can also be desperate, and any girl that I reply her message typically replies within two minutes and is trying to book a call appointment with me. Girls can be funny and interesting creatures

I used to get frustrated about Nigerian girls attitude before but I realized something after soaking myself into game content

"Don't wish for the game to be better. Wish to be better"

In a sense, we, Naija guys don't know the blessing Naija girls are to us.

That's why after going through the stress of gaming Nigerian girls when a Naija guy travels outside he becomes a hot cake because he has dealt with the worst of the worst.

Any Nigerian guy that is good at gaming multitudes of Nigerian girls without money. I am very confident to say there is nobody on this earth that he cannot get. Let him just fly out.

So don't complain just try to get better. Gold is not made from passing it through pillows...abi how they take talk am. Anyway you get my point.

My 2 cents tho.

JESHAL007:
@CaveAdullam pls I need your advice, we collect gals number whether from social events, cold approaching, placing ourselves where women are in abundance, yet no genuine desire, the chat is boring, Na we dey find ways to make chat interesting, infact we do our bests no to behave thirsty for sex, so that during the chat we appear as if we are trying to know the gal, we call her more, chat her more, create fun more, but no reciprocation, and it's not just one gal, it's almost all the gals we game, is it because of their abundance of options, is it because of our low status, why?

It might be that she doesn't have genuine desire for you but it's very likely that your chat is boring and you didn't create much spark with her before you collected her number.

Sorry this is coming late.

Fattprince23:
Why haven't you created the thread na

Please exercise some patience bro. There are series of posts I am preparing for the thread that is aimed at helping inexperienced/shy people gain that confidence in as less amount of time as possible.

If I open the thread now, I won't be able to post all of them at once but I will try to finish them as fast as possible.

Philosopher1979:
Cold approach
1. Eliminates scarcity mentality. I mean when you k ow you can get ladies at anytime no lady can do shajara for you. You already have 15 girls on your WhatsApp you sex chat with or say high to.

2. With cold approach, you simply emanate confidence and sexusl energy. Ladies pick up your confidence and easily fall for you. I don't k ow maybe it's psychology or body language but the confidence you get from cold approach is infectious.

3. A lot is simos need cold approach to build up their confidence and end scarcity mentality. Scarcity mentality, lack of confidence and inability to assert themselves is the bane of simps. This is the disease cold approach cures.

You hit every point bro!!! but there is something else cold approach does to you. There is something else I have been able to unlock about myself.

I don't know if other people have been able to unlock it but that's what I want to share when I create the thread. It's was a total mindset shift. As in you no go even get anxiety about approaching again. (I'm just working on a way to arrange the thread in a structural way)

Also as I said before. I usually get choosing signal like once a year. My guy the rate of choosing signal wey I dey get this days should be more than times 10 of that.

I think women just start sensing the aura.

Perfectskills01:
Cold approach is for newbies to build confidence, nothing more . If you expect to get girls that meets your expectations, then cold approach will ruin you . So I approve your cold approach ideology because you intend to focus on building confidence.

I think I understand where you are coming from but I don't agree with some of the things you said.

For example why do I need invest time to gather information about a girl I don't know is genuinely interested in me?

Why should you be serious about getting her? Isn't that oneitis?

What makes you think a woman you get through this way won't manipulate you? Are aware women are constantly testing your frame even the ones that have genuine interest in you?

Are you aware that social circle is the most popular way people get to know each other yet most relationships fail. What does that tell you?

Maybe you have a different objective like marriage in mind, if so I understand.

I don't really like arguing about game with people. After all, if you understand the basics of the redpill you can devise a form of game that works for you (The fundamentals of Pick Up Artistry is from the redpill). There are different forms of game.

This is why I advice new redpillers to go and read the Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.

I'm not saying cold approach is the best. It just one way to get women. Plus there are other benefits about it that I am going to discuss in my thread (whenever I get the chance to create it).

Thanks for your input.

Okay yeah guys so I have decided to create a thread dedicated to cold approach. The thread will just act as a journal for you to document your cold approaches. Also on the thread we might host challenges like 30-day challenges etc. I feel this will help more people and this will also help me.

Now the thread is not and will not be about game (or who has the most game) or pick-up lines (if you want to use pick-up lines that's fine too)

The goal of the thread is for you to just approach someone (preferably a very attractive girl) and document how it went. That's all.

If you feel you also need to document where you feel you can work on or what went wrong, feel free to do so.

On the thread I'll share some tips/videos that helps me get out of my head and just approach. Other guys can chip in.

I'll create it when I get the time. So wait for my update

Rizzputin:
Yup cold approach is fun but hard for most people.

I enjoy it more. The thrill & adventures are exciting

Yeah I know it is. I struggle with it sometimes especially when I see an attractive girl in the night or I happen to be approaching her from behind but still it is my opinion that everyone here should make it a habit no matter what. Forget about rejection, you are building up your character.

In fact my first cold approach when i was 15 i was vibrating and I'm sure the girl could see it. It is okay to fail it gets better with time.
Once you are good at it to a certain level, approaching girls giving you choosing signal will be a breeze.

Timothykesh13:
Hello
I have been following this thread from the beginning and i have learned immensely from this forum so far so good.. Am greatful
But there is something troubling me recently, there is a girl am into in my uni here, we've met chatted and talked one or one.
Recently our conversation has been so chemical and am intending on asking her out via WhatsApp because i can't get access to her physically for the Time being

Although i don't really fancy out asking girls online as it makes me feel cowardly, but at the same Time i don't wanna snooze and loose this girl to another guy who has more game
Pls gent's what do you advice
Should i go ahead and shoot my shot on-line??

If you feel any sense of urgency about starting a relationship with a woman you have already lost bro. She is meant to feel that way not you.
Same way you don't expect her to have a sense of urgency about sleeping with you.
Because men control commitment, women control sex.

If you give your's away so freely you will look cheap. Same way if she is rushing you for sex she will look cheap.

I feel that you have already lost the game before it started. You have a scarcity mentality. I recommend you read the rational male by Rollo Tomassi.

If I was in your position I would call her and tell I want us to hang out or say there is an interesting place I just found out and I would like us to go there.

Now here is the important part. If she says she is not interested or gives an excuse without an alternative just leave her and approach other girls. If she is interested then half of the work is already done.

Personally my hangout location is in my place. Not every girl will agree but I don't care.

For you, you can set up a date. Don't pick a location where you guys will just sit and talk, like a restaurant. No, pick a location where you guys can do an activity and also talk. You are in school so there are plenty of places like that but preferably close to your house because you have to bring her to your place later on.

In fact you shouldn't even bring up relationship talk unless she brings it up herself which she will do after you guys kiss or hookup.

Let's talk about cold approaching. I know it has been brought up on this thread in the past and it's not everyone's cup of tea but I don't believe you can be the most confident version of yourself without doing it.

I'm trying to form this habit of always putting myself in uncomfortable situations because like exercising, you won't be the best version of yourself if you don't stress your muscles. Not only with cold approaching, I'm trying to apply this in other areas too.

And just like exercising, you need to make cold approaching a habit. You don't need to be perfect at it. Just make it a habit.
Even if you feel you are confident enough or you have a lot of girls on your plate. You can only get better.

You don't even have to link up with the girls afterward just make it a habit to approach and please only very attractive girls.

I used to think when you are cold approaching, you are stroking their ego but the truth is, it's about strengthening your own because she doesn't have the balls to do what you just did. Building confidence in this area will also transfer to other areas of your life.

Everybody should be doing it even if you are on Monk Mode. Like I said you don't need to link up with the girls afterward which means you don't need to spend a lot of time talking to her.

Also some people will tell you wait for choosing signals and all that but ignore that and just approach. You can do cold approach and warm approach at the same time. If you know it's someone you will still see around then you can use warm approach but I'll pick cold approach in most situation.

I started getting a lot of choosing signals when I started cold approaching. It's crazy. Not that I didn't use to get choosing signals but it could be like once in a year but the week i started cold approaching, i got 3 choosing signals. I feel women can sense the aura.

And yes most of the girls I have linked up with are the ones that gave me choosing signals but I think that's because I am not yet very confident in my cold approach but I know I'll get better with time.

I hope this helps. Keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and watch your confidence soar.

😂😂 but what I don't understand is why some girls feel it's okay to confront someone on Whatsapp. Face to face communication is more genuine.

What we were telling those propagandists on Nairaland now they don see am with their eyes.

As we have been saying just sit back and watch the drama unfold. The other detainee will soon be quietly released. They didn't even have a case in the first place.

Anyone expecting anything more from our corrupt officials is sleeping on a bicycle.

AlabiKILLER2021:
Basketball live wey I for chop

Over 215

Before e load finish

Na over 223 I dey see

I rush carry am


Game ended 219


MTN useless!!!!!

Not only you bro. I lost an opportunity to make money today because of this rubbish. Honestly they should find a way to put an end to this issue. We cannot be battling NEPA and this one at the same time.

Pennywise2:
USA again if USA never control anything earning billions, they will not rest. They said tiktok should sell off it's USA business to them. Same thing they want this man to do but codedly. B4 d current rise of Bitcoin, 4 Bitcoin billionaire were killed in different parts of the world.

They have already done that there is Binance US. One of the reasons binance was fined $4billion was because they allowed some US users access to the main binance platform instead of binance US and also CZ lied to them he wasn't overseeing the operations of binance US. No be US again

hedonido:
I swear. I got some btc in a different wallet dedicated to btc alone. But I'm kind of regretting dabbling into these alt coins in the hope of rapid 10x. I agree I got in late but then, ah ah. Maybe it's a good idea to just exit and focus on btc.

Me sef I don learn. Money preservation is better than hope for imaginary gains but I think the best time to buy all this alt is in bull season. During bear season just focus on Bitcoin.

Looks like BTC will touch 75k today

It is well...Premium tears loading

Looks like we have CPI data today.

politicoNG:
The Cable index

Do you mean per meal or for the whole day? If it is per meal then I believe you.

Enyinne:
How will I dash uniswap a whole $12 . It's painful. I pray it comes down to $5 fee so I can share it with them .

Try early in the morning. I wanted to transfer eth from my metamask to binance I saw $3 as the gas fee this morning. It might not be everyday sha. I don't know if it applies to uniswap tho.

All that is left now is for CBN to get tired of pegging dollars at 1300 when they can't keep up with the market's hunger. Then naira will continue its journey to its real value.