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shizzy7:
The mods knew this news is fake but still pushed it to FP..

I don't think it's fake. The source link appears credible.

Fear Israel. Those guys are bad

Unfortunately, a lot of people are carried away when they hear the word 'pastor'.
The title 'pastor' has been abused so much these days.

If someone walks up to me and tells me that he is a 'pastor', that will not guarantee instant respect from me towards him.
He has to prove by speech and conduct that he is worthy of the title and my respect.

freedom96:
my ancestors are same as Buhari's though

May God still bless them

freedom96:
not many will understand this.I am happy I did

If many people understood it, they would have many fired e-missiles at me by now.
I knew that only a few will understand it.

You are smart. God bless your ancestors!

TippyTop:
This man is only in power for sightseeing.

For 30yrs Bubu was dreaming of first-class flights, he has the opportunity now.

If Baba doesn't travel from place to place like this, one would have to question his ancestry.
But he has proven to be the true son of his fathers.
Carry go baba!

Idris Wada is to blame in some way for all that has happened in Kogi over the past months. The fight over who won the election and the issue of who to appoint as deputy.
If he was a performing governor, people would not have preferred Audu to him. They would have gladly given him a second mandate by voting for him again and so the death of Audu would not have caused any problem as to who the winner would be since he (Wada) would have had majority of the people's votes.
But because he failed to deliver, the people wanted a change and thus decided to go for Audu. Even though Audu wasn't the best choice, Wada was just not an option.
Wada's ineptitude is the root cause of all the hullabaloo.

OK. Seen

This is not good

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zoneros:
I don't do relationships

You are just making comments without reading.
Chai! nairalanders never disappoint.

I stated that this is not just about romantic relationships.
That is why i did not create this topic in the romance section.
The word "relationship" means more than "romance"!

What do you call the connection between you and your brother, sister, friends? It's relationship!
If you don't have any relationships, it means you don't have connection with any human being.

Abagworo:
This man should go and rest as this his shameful charade is becoming disgusting.

Is he the one organising these conferences to promote himself?

He is on his own (minding his own business) and different organisations are calling him for various conferences and you call that a "charade"?

Why don't you spend your time doing something that will make the world recognize you instead of getting worked up over another man's destiny?

Good morning.

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^True

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When exactly are they going to die? Can you be more specific?

I await your reply...
(sipping my tea with legs crossed)

^Yeah

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The blame game is making progress.
It is God's turn.
From blaming GEJ to blaming God.
Keep it up APC.

You guys keep displaying your incompetence everywhere.

Those who try to be what they are not will only get attention for a short time but those who remain real will get lasting respect.

WaffenSS:
I work in IT as senior staff of a large company.

Recently we had a guy come in with his shiny well formatted CV bearing all sorts of CCNAs and MSSCEs and NIITs and all other such nonsense.

We took him to our data center...the guy couldnt tell our firewall from our switches. I pointed out our SIP server and asked him what is was and what it did...he saw all the SIM cards and said...wait for it....3G modem!

kicked him right out the window.

You see what I am saying?

Regardless of how the OP got the job, let me state something that is happening now.
We are in a time when employers look beyond certificate qualification. They are looking for someone who will get the job done.
Just recently, the director of my institution said something.
He said "We are looking for a good individual to work in our proposed information centre but I am yet to find someone capable. All I see is people coming to tell me 'sir I have a degree in mass communication' That is not what I want. I need someone who will do the job well regardless of paper qualification. If he has a good paper qualification, that is a plus"

The point is, it is good to have good paper qualification but make sure you have the necessary skills to get the job done if not, someone will lesser qualification but with better skills will win over you.

Good avenue for corruption.

Alejhandro:
I wish everyone would read dis. I was guilty of some of them especially no. 1 until I read a similar post a few yrs back. Thanks for refreshing my memory and for sharing.

I was also guilty of number 1.
I was always trying to read the minds of my friends and decipher what they were thinking (feeling like a detective). But it usually led me to making wrong assumptions.

I have realised that everyone has a right to think private thoughts the same way I like to have my privacy. If someone is honest with you, he/she will tell you the things you should know. No need to probe too much.

Feel free to leave a comment...

Do you often feel inadequate and “not good enough” to be friends, lovers, or business partners with certain people? You simply can't understand what others see in you. You are very insecure. You end many promising relationships because of insecurity. In your mind, it feels easier for you to end it before they did. Walking away rather than risking the heartbreak of rejection is how you justify this behavior to yourself. I have also been through this in the past. But after awhile, as I grew emotionally, I began to realize that I wanted and needed the comfort and support of long-term relationships (I am not referring to only romantic relationships)

So what did I do, and what can you do if insecurity is damaging your relationships? You need to understand that a good relationship is about sharing ideas and enjoyable moments with another, to help each other grow in healthy ways, both together socially and as individuals. If someone really does treat you poorly or lies and cheats you out of something, feeling insecure is a natural and reasonable response. However, if you’re actually in a generally good relationship with someone, then it’s time to…

1. Stop trying to read minds.
Most relationship problems and associated social anxieties start with bad communication, which in turn leads to attempted mind reading. Mind reading occurs when two people assume that they know what the other is thinking when they don’t. This process of wondering and trying to guess what someone is thinking is a rapid route to feelings of insecurity and stress.
If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they say nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative connotation. Likewise, don’t make the people in your life try to read your mind.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. It’s also important to remember that you aren’t suppose to know every little thing going on in the minds of others, even the people closest to you. When you stop trying to read their minds, you really begin to respect their right to privacy. Everyone deserves the right to think private thoughts. Constantly asking, “What are you thinking?” can provoke a person to withdraw from a relationship to find space.

2. Stop looking for perfect relationships.
You will end up spending your entire life hopelessly seeking the right lover and the right friends if you expect them to be perfect. Even worse, the process of doing so will drive you mad, as you feel more and more insecure with every failed relationship that doesn’t live up to your fantasy of perfection.
We’re all seeking those special relationships that feel perfect for us, but if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to realize that there are no “perfect people” for you, just different flavors of imperfect ones.
That’s because we are all imperfect in some way. You yourself are imperfect in many ways, and you seek out relationships with people who are imperfect in complementary ways. It takes a lot of life experience to grow fully into yourself and realize your own imperfections; and it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest imperfections, your unsolvable flaws – the ones that truly define who you are – that you are able to proficiently select harmonious relationships. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for imperfect people who balance you out – the perfectly imperfect people for you.

3. Stop judging current relationships based on past ones.
Think about those times when you passed an unfair judgment on someone merely because they reminded you of someone from your past who treated you poorly. Sadly, some people pass judgments like these throughout the entire duration of their long-term relationships. Simply because they were once in a relationship with someone who was abusive, dishonest, or who left them, they respond defensively to everyone else who gets close to them, even though these new relationships have been nothing but kind and supportive.
If you carry old bricks from the failed relationships of your past to your present relationships, you will build the same flawed structures that fell apart before. So if you suspect that you have been making unfair comparisons between your present relationships and a negative one from the past, take a moment and consciously reflect on the hurtful qualities of this old, negative relationship, and then think of all the ways your present relationships differ. This small exercise will help you let go of the old bricks and remind you that past pains are not indicative of present possibilities.

4. Stop inventing problems that don’t exist.
Inventing problems in our mind and then believing them is a clear path to self- sabotage. Too often we amuse ourselves with anxious predictions, deceive ourselves with negative thinking, and ultimately live in a state of hallucination about worst-case scenarios. We overlook everything but the plain, downright, simple, honest truth.
When you invent problems in your relationships, your relationships ultimately suffer. Insecurity is often the culprit. If you doubt yourself and you don’t realize your own worth, you will pass on any opportunity to let others care for you, and you will remain stuck with the insecurity issues that weigh you down.
The insecure passenger does not trust anyone else to drive. They feel out of control. They imagine that the driver is not paying attention. Or they may even fantasize that the slight jolting of the driver stepping on the breaks is a sign of doom via an impending collision.
They freak themselves out by assuming that the visions they have invented in their mind represents reality.
What you need to realize is that there are normal idiosyncrasies to any relationship. There are ups and downs and mood changes, moments of affection and closeness and moments of friction. These ups and downs are normal. Wanting to be absolutely close and intimate all the time is like wanting to be a passenger in a car that has no driver.
Next time you feel insecure, and you catch yourself stressing about problems that don’t exist, stop yourself and take a deep breath. Then tell yourself, “This problem I’m concerned with only exists in my mind.” Being able to distinguish between what you imagine and what is actually happening in your life is an important step towards self-confidence.

5. Stop focusing on the negatives.
There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. Even if it seems perfect now, it won’t always be. Imperfection, however, is real and beautiful. The quality of the happiness between two people grows in direct proportion to their acceptance, and in inverse proportion to their intolerance and expectations. It’s how two people accept and deal with the imperfections of their relationship that make it ideal.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to accept everyone into your life even when it is obvious that they are not right for you. But it does mean that if there are occasional difficulties in your relationships, you don’t have to jump to the bold conclusion that the entire relationship is bad, and become so distressed that the relationship ends, or so insecure that the other person questions your intentions.
No meaningful relationship will always work flawlessly all the time. Being too black and white about the quality and health of a relationship spells trouble.
There will always be difficulties present, but you can still focus on the good. Insecure people constantly look for signs of what’s not working in their relationships. What you need to do is look for signs of what is.
Having an appreciation for how remarkable the people in your life are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So notice their strong qualities, cheer for their victories, and encourage their goals and ambitions. Challenge them to be the best they can be. Every day, acknowledge just how amazing they are.

These are things you should apply in your life everyday. Keep on practicing (as I am still practicing) until it becomes part of you.


The floor is yours… Do leave a comment.


Shared from marcandangel.com/2013/06/20/stop-feeling-insecure-in-your-relationships

This guy is failure personified as far as governance is concerned.

This news is both good and bad.

This is not good at all.
And the government does not seem to be taking this incident seriously.
People who have already been diagnosed of the disease are not getting enough doses of Ribavirin because the drug is in short supply.

It wont be funny if this escalates beyond this point.

OP, the only 'food' I see there is number 1 and 2. I don't know what to call the other ones. I see grass (sorry, salad) everywhere on those dishes

The only problem with 1 and 2 is just packaging.

Just last week, someone mistakenly sent airtime to my phone. It was in the night and I was already sleepy. It was the next evening that I remembered that someone mistakenly sent me airtime the previous day so I called the person. He admitted that it was an error and I transfered the money back to him. He was very grateful for what I did.
I personally don't feel comfortable using what is not mine unless the owner gives me permission to use it.