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I understand your predicament. But I'm not comfortable with you putting all your eggs in one basket (medicine and surgery). I would have asked you if medicine is the only course you think you can study but you've already stated that you think you'll find fulfilment there. I am not sure what made you say that but I think you should open yourself up to more possibilities of success/fulfilment outside medicine and surgery.
Years back when we were applying for Jamb, most of my mates were bent on going for medicine but only a few got it in the end. I know one of them who later opted for nursing and she did not regret it (from my conversation with her).

You really need to consider some things here.
1. Are you really sure that you won't find fulfilment (whatever you define it as) anywhere else apart from the field of medicine? Must it really be medicine and surgery? No other medical/related course would do? You have not been in the professions before so you should not conclude that you won't find fulfilment in any of them apart from medicine. It may be this mindset that will actually rob you of fulfilment if you later find yourself in any of these other professions. You need to open up your mind to possibilities. Life doesn't usually go one a straight and rigid line.
2. I am praying that you get medicine the next time you try but perhaps you did not get it, are you willing to go on trying knowing that time waits for no man?
You said you want to apply for UNN and from what I know, many persons (thousands actually) apply for the school so the competition is very stiff. I'm not trying to discourage you, just trying to let you know what your decision implies.
3. I advice that you take up the biochemistry and write the jamb next year. If you eventually get it, I believe money will come from somewhere for you to process your admission (it's your dream course we are talking about here!). This will have you covered on both sides so that you won't have to loose both.

gidjah: WOULD love to share this with my america social net work,am i permitted dear ELE?

You may share but don't forget to give credits to Nairaland and Marc Chernoff (of marcandangel.com) who originally compiled them. Thank you.

okotv: thanks ma'am

Sir

MzMariah:

Op permission to put it in my diary.

God I'm so touched

You just made my day op.

Permission granted

okotv: nice write up...seen some before definitely but can't place where. Thanks for bringing this to Nairaland sha.

I used some of them on my last thread and some others are quite common. Thanks for dropping by.

Let me get the ball rolling..
I'm really touched by all of them that's why I shared them. I will just pick one or two.
22. You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren’t busy denying them. This is very true. Living in denial means continually living with your problem.

55. If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. If you lie, it becomes a part of your future. The lies you tell today will haunt you in the future.

Let me stop now before I recopy the entire post all over again.

Modified: You may also want to view this thread Lessons To Learn From Bad Experiences/The Other Side Of The Coin. [ https://www.nairaland.com/1918850/whats-other-side-coinand

Our lives are shaped by what we think about in our quiet moments. I wish to share with you some profound statements that will help you shape your thinking aright.
These statements made by different people at different times were compiled by Marc Chernoff.
For those who may want to ask for summary, I'm sorry there is no other way to summarize these. Just spare a few minutes to read and you may just stumble upon something that will change your life.

In order to make this thread interesting, after reading the post, feel free to pick any statement(s) that really touched you and explain what you understood from it. Here we go...

1.No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.
2. You cannot change what you refuse to confront.
3. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
4. Don’t think of cost. Think of value.
5. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
6. Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know.
7. If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.
8. Making one person smile can change the world – maybe not the whole world, but their world.
9. Saying someone is ugly doesn’t make you any prettier.
10. The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.
11. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.
12. As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.
13. Making a hundred friends is not a miracle. The miracle is to make a single friend who will stand by your side even when hundreds are against you.
14. Giving up doesn’t always mean you’re weak, sometimes it means you are strong enough and smart enough to let go and move on.
15. Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Mother Teresea, Albert Einstein, etc…
16. If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.
17. Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world; choose the one who makes your world beautiful.
18. Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.
19. True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.
20. While you’re busy looking for the perfect person, you’ll probably miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy.
21. Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.
22. You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren’t busy denying them.
23. In life, if you don’t risk anything, you risk everything.
24. When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.
25. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
26. There isn’t anything noble about being superior to another person. True nobility is in being superior to the person you once were.
27. Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.
28. You will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are now.
29. Sometimes people don’t notice the things others do for them until they stop doing them.
30. Don’t listen to what people say, watch what they do.
31. Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.
32. Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.
33. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you. It takes someone really special to stay in your life and show how much they love you.
34. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy clothes. Don’t save it for a special occasion; today is special.
35. Love and appreciate your parents. We are often so busy growing up, we forget they are also growing old.
36. When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you.
37. Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.
38. When someone tells you, “You’ve changed,” it might simply be because you’ve stopped living your life their way.
39. Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.
40. Be happy. Be yourself. If others don’t like it, then let them be. Happiness is a choice. Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.
41. When you’re up, your friends know who you are. When you’re down, you know who your friends are.
42. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
43. If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.
45. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
46. The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.
47. Many people are so poor because the only thing they have is money.
48. Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you appreciate the things you once had.
50. When you choose to see the good in others, you end up finding the good in yourself.
51. You don’t drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
52. It’s better to know and be disappointed than to never know and always wonder.
53. There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.
54. Happiness is not determined by what’s happening around you, but rather what’s happening inside you. Most people depend on others to gain happiness, but the truth is, it always comes from within.
55. If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. If you lie, it becomes a part of your future.
56. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
57. Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out.
58. If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about.
59. Choose a career you love and you will never work a day in your life.
60. I do not fear failure rather I fear succeeding at my wildest dream only to find out that it did not really matter.

Which of them resonates with you?

This is serious!

This is what you get when everybody begins to claim 'rights'. Anyone can come up with anything and just refer to fundamental human rights. Oh yeah, it's a free world they say. #crazyworld#

Maybe after a year or two or three... It's hard to give a straight answer to this because it's a subjective issue.

I think I need some rest

philips70: So, if you are asked in an exam if EFCC is or was synonymous with credibility in Nigeria you will answer yes?

I'm not sure what my answer would be right now considering the fact that I don't have enough information to make conclusions. By the way, the credibility I mean is 'the quality of being trusted or believed in' I hope that's the meaning you're working with too?

The EFCC should be careful not to lose any credibility they have left in the eyes of the public.
If not, they may become 'one of those government commission that became irrelevant'

Orikinla: OP, what of the other side of poverty or prosperity?

That can be your own contribution

Mynd44: Too late for that

Ok. Thank you.

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Hello mynd, Thank you.

Interesting...

More inputs thank you.

11. Never think you will always be happy.

The reason some people borrow money is to have a grand or lavish wedding maybe because someone they know had that type of wedding.

My advice:
If they think that having a 'mega' wedding will guarantee a blissful marital life and keep the marriage strong till death do them part, then let them go ahead and borrow for the occasion.
But if they know that this is just a ceremony and that the real deal begins after the ceremony, then let them use whatever resources they have.

A grand wedding is not a passport to a great marital life.

It's not bad news. They only deal in bad news about Africa. Anything outside that is not news.

I imagine them saying:

"Since they cannot tell their own story, we will help them but on the condition that we will determine and adjust the content to serve our own purpose.

Nigeria is winning the war on BH. So what? No more bomb blasts and bloodshed?
That's no news! We need something that will align with the image of the country that we have been painting all this time. We need more dark colour to complete the picture. We need something that will evoke emotion (pity and a sense of helplessness and despair towards the country).

Since they cannot tell their own story, we will help them..."

Really?

prettyboi1989: Yea, it brings out whatever u think to life, but its short lived as when the device is turned off, the whole thing disappears.

Disappear? Argh! I don't want it then 'cos it will make one live a 'fake' life. And also the fear that it could be turned off at anytime.... I hate that, unless I can decide when to turn the switch on/off.

Let me give the first answer that comes to mind- Education.

But I'll say more...
Education is not a guarantee for success but it increases the chance especially in our world today where there is emphasis on academic qualification.

We can also look at education away from the 'school' perspective.
There is another definition of education that applies to the parents and can be given in the home environment. It is defined thus:

"The act or process of imparting or acquiring general knowledge, developing the powers of reasoning and judgment, and generally of preparing oneself or others intellectually/emotionally for mature life."

This is a more comprehensive definition.

prettyboi1989: Its available but hidden. They call it psychotronic device

Really?! It would be nice to have one

One who can put up with your flaws and help you overcome them. He brings out the best in you.

I think there are a lot of factors.

Assuming that the cause is due to the fact that the person concerned is busy searching for the perfect guy/girl, I'll like to quote a statement that I used in one of my latest posts.

"While you’re busy looking for the
perfect person, you’ll probably miss
the imperfect person who could make
you perfectly happy."

This is my own contribution.

I guess it's a season of male vs female threads.
I foresee...
Over to those concerned...

There should at least be a penalty for their misdeed. Giving them instant pardon will breed the notion that one can get away with crimes when they become repentant.
There is a consequence for every action.

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Not even a single worry?

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