₦airaland Forum

Oliviaxx:
i keep on saying it...religion has done more harm than good in this world. such a young girl, common stomach ache u couldn't go to the hospital...even chemist.Look how she just wasted her life...since when did pastors become doctors...

I tire. You'll even see where pregnant women in labor are being rushed to the "church" instead of ahospital.

otemanuduno:
Black Africans or Red Africans, the name of that place remained EGYPT. Be deceiving yourself buying into the idea of a false place called Kemet. Kemet ko, Kemet ni.

Civilization is generally accepted to have begun in both EGYPT AND BABYLON. EVEN MEDICINE AND THE USE OF PILLS BEGAN IN ANCIENT EGYPT AND BABYLON. CHECK GOOGLE AND STOP BEING IGNORANT.

Lol @ bolded.

I guess you were the one selling the pills and tablets to them right?

Issshhh... Abeg go away with your half-baked theories. Not everything you read online is true. Thank me later...

What kind of friends do you keep? Show me your friend... Oya parie...

dukie25:
The day NDA and MASSOB/IPOB merge would be the day we kiss our nation goodbye.
I hope it doesn't happen but it seems Buhari is begging both agitators to merge.
With present recession who wants war on 3 fronts?
Boko Haram in the North
NDA in the SS
and MASSOB/IPOB in the East.
The SW may become the battleground, God help us.

And why would the Southwest be the battle ground? Are you OK?

We know you lot are envious of the peace and calm in Yorubaland hence you're always referring to Yoruba Moslems.

We shall see where the battle ground will be when the army throws down the dancing python in your front yard at Enugu or Owerri or Awka.

otemanuduno:
Not only are they the giant of AFRICA, but they are the beginner of world civilization. I REP EGYPT ANYDAY, ANYTIME.

Lol. You really are ignorant aren't you?

Super developed civilizations occurred way before the one you call Egypt.

Besides, some thousands of years back, that place currently inhabited by "Egyptians" was known as Kemet and was totally inhabited by indigenous black Africans.

badejob:
Do you know how many discussions & arguments we have had behind this woman?! And I tell him WHY I feel uncomfortable?! Then he keeps his phone locked & hides conversations he has with her..its ongoing..I've pleaded with his family..reported him to his brothers..I'm tired..

Don't be dear. Don't give up on your marriage just yet. As long as he's not physically abusive towards you, I would like to encourage you to keep trying at least until you're absolutely sure he's no more interested.

There must be that one person he listens to in his family, that one person he respects so much. You might need to approach that person and seek their assistance.

I really don't have much background story about the two of you, whether it was love or an arranged marriage, for how long you courted etc.(can't remember if these were included in your first post. Too lazy to check back )

If you guys were in love before marriage then I'd say you should go back to that period, those times, those activities that brought you close to each other.

If it was an arranged marriage, well you can't appeal to a love that wasn't there in the first place.

And there's also the possibility that he feigned love just to get his green card.

Either way, you have two options

First, you could get out of the marriage and give yourself some peace of mind even as you lick your wounds, or

Second, you could decide to make your husband fall in love with you (an uphill task if you ask me).
Use the advantage of proximity an d get to know what he loves in a woman. The other woman is thousands of kilometers away, you on the other hand stay with him IN THE SAME HOUSE I guess.

Ordinarily I abhore divorce, but your case isn't ordinary now, is it?

All the best though.

2kaybiel:
funny you

did you consider what the transport fare will be subtract the fare from a million naira and tell me if the balance can establish you your dream job in one of the countries mentioned by you?

As a matter of fact you are right in the sense that it'll be better to invest the money here than elsewhere but mainly because of the exchange rate anyway.

Still if you have a million bucks I'm sure any reasonable person will be cautious about what to invest in and how to invest it. Despite the exchange rate a million bucks isn't change.

2kaybiel:
what gives the assurance that the biz will thrive in this current economy downturn?

There's no proviso that you must establish the business in Nigeria. Think Ghana or SA

2kaybiel:
I will go for 2, I can get more than that amount after my education if I get a good job.



just my view

That why you shouldn't go for the second. @bolded.

otemanuduno:
All I'm saying is, NO MATTER WHAT SATAN(YAHWEH) DECLARES AGAINST EGYPT THE GIANT OF AFRICA, IT SHALL NOT STAND. RATHER, SATAN(YAHWEH) HIMSELF SHALL BE PUT TO SHAME.

Such a confused entity.

You don dey smoke Egyptian weed abi?

So Egypt is now the giant of Africa ba?

Continue...

otemanuduno:
Atum, the god of Egypt will not allow yahweh(satan) to destroy his land. Rather than Egypt getting ruined, the word of yahweh(bible) will rather lose its value(as it is happening currently already).

What is this one talking?

Just tell them you prayed for everybody. Then ask them if they prayed for you.

ifeomaekol:
Why ll a lady lie abt her height and weight? Abi the person been lied too is blind Men are great liars too, after the most high, fear men.

Lol. You beat me to it.

How can someone lie about their weight and height unless they are dating a blind sombori.

badejob:
His brother "called him to order" once already when I left home..he is the one to have made my husband swear no more contact with her and ban her on all platforms..HIS OWN cousin told me just to "pretend she doesn't exist so I could enjoy my marriage"..like I told her, I can't when my husband is breaking promises!! His senior Aunt & Uncle attended our wedding despite our short notification..his senior Uncle flew out of Boston to Dallas!! Surely, he wouldn't have done that if this was a Green Card marriage, right?!?!

Right. If it was a sham wedding you won't see any of his family members there.

His family's attendance shows they have regard for you. So just follow his cousin's advice, relax, pretend she doesn't exist, enjoy your marriage, use the advantage of proximity and build your home.
Nigerians love kids, so get on with that if it's part of your marriage plans to have kids.

joanana:
Thanks

LALA shey u no go put my own for front page ni

Congratulations. I wish you a happy and fruitful married life.

May God bless your home.

badejob:
Does the color of my skin really MATTER?! And I'm mixed: Mexican/Italian. BOTH parents immigrants but I was born here! Is there a way that I can double-check is marriage status there in Nigeria? Cos the part I read up on, even if they had a church wedding, the law wouldn't even recognize it until they went through all the procedures..basically, that means you can get married as many times you wanted in the church & none of them would be valid before God's eyes..she's never changed her last name, either..as long as I'm the VALID wife in God's eyes, then my prayers are being reached to Hod & He's listening..but if she's the valud one, I have no rights!! One of his cousin's are trying to reassure me that I'm the one with the mandate, right?? That's it's just the bone of contention on her part that I have the mandate..but why can't he just leave her be?!!! Something more gotta be to it is what I'm saying!! So is there a website like here in the US, that you can check for marriage registries so I can be 100% certain?? Cos his own brother won't answer me straight whether they were validly married..

Unfortunately there isn't a website where you can check. All intended couples are required to collect a certificate from the registry which is then taken to the Church.

If he or the lady is Catholic, and they got married legally they probably had a Church wedding. You could get the name of their parishes from your in-laws (I don't know how you're going to do that), then you could search for that parish online and give the priest a call.

If the family members have assured you that he didn't legally marry the girl and you're his legal wife then I think you've got nothing to worry about concerning the legality of your marriage to him.

Move close to his family in the States and develop a good rapport with them. Nigerians are a communal people.

Once you're accepted by his family, they'll be the ones to call their son to order.

But I think you should have a heart-to-heart with your husband. Let him know that his communication with his ex gf bothers you and that it's too soon to start thinking of divorce unless he plans on bringing her to the US. Then watch his reaction.

I wish you the best.

I embraced my truth rather. your definition of truth and how i percieve truth are very different things and its none of your business what i put on my signatory.

You embrace your truth? Truth isn't subjective. It doesn't change with the wind. Are you aware that there is a possibility that what you call truth is actually falsehood? Unless you want to tell me that you aren't human therefore not prone to mistakes and misguidance.

Why make you think what I do is bad and unnatural? Because its isn't the perceived pattern of nature? Or because you chose to live in denial? I'd rather ask you to purge yourself of shallow mindedness so you could see things from not a bigoted point of view.

Yeah. I was waiting for you to use that word, "bigot". The question really is, what makes YOU think that what you do conforms to natural order of things? Like i said, livimg things exist male and female for a reason. I'm sorry sis, but I'm not the one living in denial here. You refuse to ask yourself if your parents were people who preferred homosexual relationships would you be alive today? If yes, what is the probability?

If you have your facts right, I don't see why you don't want to indulge me , and refutes my claims if proven fallible,but rather you get all judgey.

I would indulge you but it's just that I really feel it'll be a waste of time. I'm afraid you are so steeped in this unnatural act that nothing can make you see the error of your way. It wasn't my intention to judge. I was only pointing out facts. No offence meant. Pardon me.

Things are simply right or wrong, just cos you feel been gay is wrong, does make killing, bullying and demeaning right. Your moral standards are different from mine doesnt imply you compel me to your " percieved standards" as Right. the world had evolved and keeps evolving, you'd have to keep up with it or get left behind.

Truth does not evolve or change with time. What is true yesterday has to be true today otherwise human beings will just flounder around without any moral compass to guide them. The world may evolve as fast as it likes but truth remains the same always. That homosexual feelings and acts are unnatural can easily be proven in nature and by nature.
Nature gave you a vagina as a female and gave a penis to your male counterpart. You wanna guess why?
That is the natural order of things. You probably didn't do biology in school or you skipped that part.

There are also reasons why living beings exhibits both male and female sex organs ( intersexed people), gay tendencies and so many other out there which are very much part of natural. But anything outside your "perceived patterns" are tagged unnatural right?

People who are born with the sexual organs of both sexes have a medical condition that can be corrected with surgery.

You don't say because a very insignificantly minute population of humans have this condition so it must be okay after all they didn't create themselves.
Just like some have a condition called kleptomania. They steal without knowing why they do it. It's a medical condition. It'd be crazy to say they have the right to steal because they have a condition.
Ditto psychopaths.
Homosexuality is mainly a medical condition that can be treated. Instead of looking up to Helen Degeneres for inspiration, how about you search for those who have overcome this condition and find out what they think about gay life now that they are out.

When you lot hear same -sex all you picture is the sex and thats the problem. Homosexuality is not about the sex, it is more about the ATTRACTION. Just like some one is heterosexual doesn't mean he is engaged in sexual act with people of the opposite sex. That why you have virgins isnt it? Sex is one thing, while sexual attraction is another. Stop conjuring the both

The attraction you feel for that person of the same or different sex would eventually lead you to want to join your body with that of the other person in intercourse.
While a male and a female can sleep together and achieve something outside of themselves, what does a homosexual couple produce if not selfishly using each other to satisfy their feelings and lust.

A homosexual relationship is barren and produces nothing because nature didn't intend for such. That is why I call it disordered. That is the immutable and unchanging truth from all ages. And until your vagina can start producing sperms to fertilize the ovary of your fellow female lover, then your love for each other is fruitless and won't bear anything. I'm sorry I sound harsh but unfortunately this is the reality.
A mad man doesn't believe he is mad, he thinks others are the ones who need help.

Here sis, ask yourself this very important questions:

1. If all humanity turned homosexual 500 years ago, what would we have now?

2. If all humanity turned heterosexual 500 years ago, what would have changed since then?

The answers should convince you that one is unnatural and detriment to human existence while the other is natural and desirable.

Is that why your sisters are getting married to Ndiofe every Saturday in Nigeria?

Better see the light and join them before you start growing gray hair in your father's compound.

badejob:
So him being 37 & not having his own kids, etc might've not influenced him wanting me & "trying to have a baby"??

Oh Lawd! Not again.

My dear are you white or black?

There are about 7 billion humans on the surface of this planet and a sizeable number of them male of marriageable age. Why would you settle for someone with so much drama surrounding his life?

You should have stopped wedding proceedings until you were absolutely sure of this guy's status.

Well it's done.

You have the advantage of proximity. Show him much love, and since you're legally married to him, make efforts to conceive and bear his child. Maybe that will make him focus on his family instead of an old flame. (Not guaranteed though).

Remember, don't be too clingy, but show him love and RESPECT.

Wish you the best.

Oh BTW don't give up on your marriage just yet. You're his wife not the other woman. Make your marriage work. Throw everything you've got into it, even the kitchen sink.

kaboninc:
Lol. That's what you tell your baby daughter...that that place is called a hoohaaa. ....

Lol

Hahahaha... Issorite.

Hoohaa lol.

If only I know exactly what the OP is referring to as hoohaaa

A little help here Mizmycoli.

Atiku2019:
Atiku 2019....


FFK should contest for a Senatorial position in his State.

Unless only Atiku's family members are left in this country by 2019, he will never be President of this country.

But it's OK, I know you're just doing the job you were paid for.

JingoOAU:
Actually, it's a greater insult for the likes of FFK to anoint and consecrate the greatest man in Igboland, and some illiterates were jubilating


The same idiot that said he bleeped Bianca without condom....

FFK cannot even win a councillorship position in Ile ife.....but am sure, if he contest in any Igbo states as governor, he will win with a landslide

So pathetic

So true.

Amucha:
This write up didn't make sense to me. It is an insult to the Igbo and FFK. The writer is a hater of the comment of FFK about Nnamdi Kanu. Op just condemned FFK and the Igbo, then went on to say that both will be together if need be in 2019. Op would have made his point without bringing the Igbo and Nnamdi Kanu into it. There is also nothing wrong with peace. If both can make peace and work together in future it is also acceptable by all decent standards

You term as insult, brazen truth that doesn't favor you. In other words you prefer I lie to you just to keep you happy.

What do you define as decent standard?

Enemies coming together to form a bond of friendship just for the sole purpose of raping you?

calliope:
i 'tried' hard to turn a blind eye to all of the preconceived misconceptions you had spewed all over this thread about lgbt persons , not until sekem asked a key question? let me quickly say this it took the earth's population thousands of years from early 1800's to reach one billion people, then astoundingly it took only about hundreds year to double the population to two billion in 1920's. as at recent ranking, global population had grown from one billion in 1800's to 7 billion in 2012 and expected to keep growing. " my point ?"
we are the minorities and can not whatsoever overrun the entire human population have you heard about survive-ship curve? you should know that heterosexuality if we come from your stand of view breeds over population! and do you have any idea the detrimental effects over= population would have on the survival of the human race? " a quintessential" "china" read up !! homosexuality is actually doing humanity a Favor i could go further to explain how but i would leave that to thinking faculty to do

so are you insinuating all human race would have to depend solely on insemination to birth a child?


statistically there are high probability that one out of ten women are homosexual, going by scale how does this affect the posterity of "reproductive" tencity in the society.


how did you draw your conclusions? or are they mere speculations to hits points. however if we site Nigeria as case study where "ordered" family are predominately seen and yet there have been an increasingly unprecedented moral decadence in its societal structure.so the problem isnt family structure more rooted fundamentally.

i m still trying to wrap my head around this, does being homosexual decapitates (gays) from thriving and bettering their life, if yes than my brother i cant help you.


heard about ellen degeneres and her wife who have been together for over 11years and countless others around world. read up man!! or beta still ask (google)

like i said earlier the society should be concerned with the pressing issues which would not only affect it negatively but would accelerate its extinction such as corruption, child marriage, insurgency and so many more.


Admittedly there have been an inconceivably high number of gays living with HIV all thanks to apparent discriminatory laws subduing the well-beings of this individuals.. which fomented the wide spread of aids, had government stretched an helping hand matters wouldn't have "exacerbated" to this point and there would have been less suicidal rate too.

"If you lead me to the truth, I'd follow you with my whole life". Sounds familiar?

Unfortunately you have decided to close your eyes to the truth yourself.

You aren't searching for the truth, you only want to hold up the version of your own reality as standard and call that the truth. You should change your signature.

You have convinced yourself that what you do is good and natural.

I'd answer you point for point but why bother. I can't convince you. Only you can convince yourself of the intrinsic evil that you engage in. Neither will I bother to quote the Bible to you because I know you can't be a Christian.

That the entire world is doing it or approves of it doesn't make it right. 50 years ago this conversation wouldn't have made any kind of sense. But here we are now. I shudder to think of the world my kids will grow up in.

Like I said, you have started believing your own lies so the truth I'm offering will unfortunately only serve to harden your heart.

Just one point though, there's a reason why all living beings are created male and female.

Anything outside of that is unnatural and when it comes to we humans who have a spark of God-likeness within us, it's not just unnatural, it's intrinsically and morally evil.

Not everything pleasurable to the physical senses is ultimately beneficial to the organism.

That something feels good doesn't make it good.

So if you're judging the rightness or wrongness of you manipulating your same-sex partner's private parts or vice versa by the pleasure you derive from it, then you've missed your way.

Ikun' je ogede, o'n redi, ko mo pe oun to dun ma n pani.

Sorry I couldn't help but insert that Yoruba adage. Wish I could translate...

I pray you realise the great chasm ahead of you before you fall in.

Masikay:
Oh.. I know. I just like the word "gnashing"

Oh, OK.

The gutter is proving to be too clean for Femi Fani-Kayode and Jimoh Ibrahim.

That FFK can multi-task sha. Only last week, he was busy coronating a new hero for the Igbo. He said he met Nnamdi Kanu in prison and became convinced that Nnamdi Kanu was Nnamdi Azikiwe and Odumegwu Ojukwu combined. I looked at that statement with the corner of one eye and muttered to myself: "the Igbo have truly suffered o. So, it is now within the remit of a Yoruba drug addict to name heroes for them?"

I also grinned and thought it was poetic justice for some of my Igbo friends who ganged up with many Yoruba human derelicts to rubbish Wole Soyinka at the time. Poetic justice because if you pile gratuitously on the best that a neighbouring ethnic nationality has to offer humanity (Soyinka), the very worst that the same ethnic nationality has to offer humanity (FFK) may be the one sending his mouth on useless and unsolicited errands to anoint heroes for you.

Now, after having ordained who is greater than Zik and Ojukwu in Igboland, FFK is back in the gutter with Jimoh Ibrahim. That fight is messy, very messy. They are accusing each other of the things common to Nigerian politicians. They are telling us who is a pig, who dances and eats jollof rice when paid, who is sleeping with dead bodies, who is into sodomy, etc.

Warning to the impressionable millennials who fight for politicians and tear at each other for the sake of the oppressor. Should the calculus of 2019 require them to kiss and make up, these two agbayas will unite to eat jollof rice together, sleep ritualistically with dead bodies together, while you are on social media ruining your lives in support of one against the other...

-Pius Adesanmi.

Hmmmm... Op just be prepared as com enters flood this thread and call you Afonja.

I'm sure it's what you've noticed that you're revealing here.

Unfortunately, these boys will grow to adulthood and become criminals and then we wonder why the society is degrading so fast.

I always tell people, if you aren't ready to train a child, don't bring him into this world, because other people will have to bear the brunt of his lack of home training.

So sad. Wake up call to all young parents here.

I totally disagree. Man isn't superior in anyway to a woman.

They both are built differently, physically, emotionally etc. So because of this difference they are wired to play different roles in the society.

The inability of so-called feminists to acknowledge and play their own role has turned society Topsy-Turvy.

Man isn't superior to a woman, he is completed by a woman and vice versa. No need for unhealthy competition.

As you asserted that a woman's intellect is somewhere between an adolescent and an adult is complete hogwash.

Haven't you seen a 22 year old "woman" manage deftly and with expertise her 40-something year-old husband, who for all intent and purposes "still behaves like a baby" according to his wife?

Interesting and intelligent submission. I think this overdependence on emotional feelings instead of empirical facts accounts for the reason why most women when confronted with evidences of their significant other's philandering acts choose rather to listen to their emotions and not their intellects, thereby reacting in a manner that looks stupid to an observer.

Lest we forget, not all women fall in this category though. Maybe most, but not all.

Masikay:
That's it. I've read one shit post too many.. *I Av died*

Hmmm... The children's teeth are not gnashing, they are set on edge actually.