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You remember that scene from Home Alone where Kelvin’s family were dashing through the airport in a rush to get into the airplane for the holiday flight? That’s how some people live every day.
Punctuality is an issue we all deal with in our lives. Friendships and other forms of relationships are all influenced by the decision of how we and other people perceive time. In business deals, strategic meetings and informal hangouts, people (sometimes including you and I) arrive late. Even in religious settings people still look at their watches and stare at the wall clocks as the cleric rambles on in sermon. Sometimes we make jokes about some of our friends who are chronic latecomers being late to their weddings . We all want to get things done on time, but in reality, we don’t usually get this wish fulfilled. I may say that I would be at a meeting by 5 pm but sometimes with a long face and an apologetic smile I turn up at 5.15 pm. That’s for me. Some folks would come in even an hour late and not even utter a simple “I’m sorry for coming in this late.”
This in effect has event organisers in this part of the world factor in what we have popularly known as ‘African time’ into the planning and execution of events. If on the invite a time of 4 pm is indicated as the start up time, they actually mean to start by 6 pm. You wouldn’t totally blame them for this time perspective since they understand the dominant logic of most Nigerians is to procrastinate arrival time by at least thirty minutes because they think the event would not have started, so it becomes a cycle of time loss and ineffectiveness in the society and our culture. But then where do we draw the line to this time madness? Read on to know what I think.
Before I however share on how to deal with late coming, I’d like to outline some of the reasons I suppose that people arrive late. One is upbringing. We are a product of nature and nurture. How our parents have raised us in attending to things on time have a major role to play in time management. In my research for this article, I came across a post by someone who had internalised his late coming as a part of himself and believed that nothing could be done about it. He gave a reason that he had been two weeks late for delivery as a baby. Now that’s an already wrong perception of self that needs changing. Another salient reason is improper planning. Many a time we fail to put in the right measures to get things done until the last moment when we enter rush hour. At this point, adrenaline may be abundant and fun may be plenty, but it gets boring after a while of always rushing though things. In my experience, I have noticed that every time I rushed out of the room to class or a meeting, I most likely would have forgotten something necessary like my mobile phone. You should see the look on my face upon the discovery. A popular reason in my research is that people show up late for appointments because of their optimism bias. They have their heads in the clouds enough to believe that there wouldn’t be traffic on the road, the car would definitely start and the water would be available when they needed it and everything would go just fine...but it never happens as such. Culture too is an explanation for late coming. Europeans are more likely to show up on time than are South Asians. Finally people can be late because they underestimate the time it would take to prepare to leave. They assume that it would take them 30 minutes to prepare and 10 minutes to commute to their destination when it actually takes more time than that.
Without further ado, let’s explore how to deal with late coming. It is popularly said that to change the world, begin with yourself. Here are some tips for improving on your punctuality skills:
• Determine to always be on time. Let punctuality be a top priority for you.
• As simple as it may sound, use a wristwatch. That classical gadget is not basically a fashion accessory but also for keeping you time conscious.
• Set your watch to 15 minutes earlier than the normal time to keep you on your toes.
• Come on! Don’t snooze that alarm again. If Rihanna says Shut up and Drive, I say Get up and Go! Do what you have to do immediately, not later. If you don’t do it now, it might never get done.
• Start to prepare for an appointment at least an hour before the stipulated time (probably two hours for the ladies). Bathing, using make-up, and what not should be factored in when preparing to head out.
• Drop whatever that you are doing and move. Don’t get distracted by the guitar or the new ping on your phone.
In the bid to help that friend of yours with a brand as a chronic late comer, here are also a few tips to help him/her:
• Don’t smile away your irritation; let them know how you feel about this attitude and how much it is ineffective and unproductive for you. But in doing so, use only “I” statements, not “you” statements. “I’m uncomfortable with having to cover for you.” “This makes doing excellent work more difficult.”
• Don’t permanently label them as latecomers because they most likely will want to continue to live up to that image. Rather simply say, “Gee, it’s not like you to be late.” Trust me, it works.
• Reward them each time they make it early. We are bound to repeat behaviours with pleasurable consequences. Say a word of praise or package a small gift for them every time they make it on time.
• Give an earlier arrival time different from everybody else. Fine, this may work for the first two times; you’d have at least tried to correct the chronic state of the behaviour.
• Inform your friend that with or without him, you would move on. You don’t have to stall everything just for one person. It’s not threatening but loving! Your time is valuable too!
With these tips, I am quite assured that your rating of 2 as a perpetual late comer would improve to 9 as a punctual team member on a scale of 0-10, 0 being always late to 10 as never late.
© Oluwatobi Gbemisola 2015.
Thank you for reading through. Please share your thoughts on this. Why are people usually late and how do we deal with it? I would like to hear what you think.

Source: www.reflexionswithtobi./2015/03/02/the-human-puzzle-of-lateness/

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When the law from the Lagos State House of Assembly came forth for the banning of motorcycles, popularly known as Okada, from accessing major routes and road networks in the city, mixed reactions trailed its passage. Most residents of the city did not take the law to sit well with them as they voiced their complaints about the many disadvantages such a law would begin to create. Many were of the opinion that their ability to reach desired destinations in less time had now become compromised by the new law. A few on the other hand, having witnessed the catastrophe the Okada
riders have wrecked upon themselves, their passengers who often cling to them for their dear lives with the recurrent pleas of ‘abeg small small o’, and upon the other commuters, they could not but feel at peace with the progress made by the state legislature.

Fast forward months later in the city of Lagos where life continued as usual but something had gone terribly wrong somewhere. The law enforcement agents especially the Police had taken to the
horrible habit of turning the still operational Okada riders to human Automated Teller Machines. The police had now used the law as an opportunity
to enrich themselves and oppress the very people they were supposed to serve and protect. Everyday thousands of naira is coerced from the leaking pockets of these struggling Nigerians and their motor bikes carted away never to be seen again, leaving the estranged victims of the law with no alternative source of income to feed the
mouths that await them at home.

In a sudden twist of fate, last week the members of the Lagos state House of Assembly are beginning to look into the amendment of the law that they had birthed months ago. They have come to notice the ill treatment of the citizenry of the state. They made a call to the Lagos state governor, Babatunde Raji
Fashola (SAN), to get the attention of the police commissioner of the state to bring his men to order as regards the enforcement of the traffic law. It was alleged that the enforcement agents go as far as harassing the Okada men in the non-restricted areas as proposed by the law. As expected different forms of feedback have come from Lagosians on
the decision of the legislature to revise the traffic law. Some say it is because of the gradually approaching general elections scheduled to be staged February next year that has aroused them to the unfavorable reality and they now want to cajole Lagosians to fall in love with them again. Others are glad to have the law reviewed and see the step as one in the right direction.

Whatever be the case, it is obvious of the need of a government that is not only about politricks but leadership. Democracy as it has been said before,
although now clichéd is a government of the people, by the people and for the people. Instead we have a government of itself, by itself and for itself. Before the implementation of a law, lawmakers are supposed to ensure that such a law will not bring harm of any sort to the people but peace of mind and serenity. They need to look at the far reaching consequences of such a law to everyone concerned: the working class adult, the student, the rich, middle class, the poor, the mother, the aged and the child. The question that should remain paramount before them is ‘How much good or bad will this law bring?’ If the Lagos lawmakers, knowing the men in black of the police force as they are, would have put stringent measures in ensuring that the law is properly carried out by all and sundry, saving themselves the trouble of amendment of a relatively new law. The nation does not boast of the titanic number of scholars in the social sciences for nothing as they can come in handy to carry out studies on the implication of laws before and after execution and also to recommend
modifications to laws governing the general public. There are always better ways to do things and it does not necessarily have to be five months before elections that politicians begin to notice the suffering of the masses such as the bad roads, hiked school fees and other social ills and to show them the
long due empathy.

This piece is not written to attack the laudable efforts of the Lagos state government but to urge it to put up its best performance not for any party gains and games whatsoever but all for the good people of Lagos state who stood for hours in the African sun to vote them into office. As all Nigerians work as one, together they can build a nation strong and vibrant they can be proud of to call their own and ‘The Giant of Africa’.

Oluwatobi Gbemisola
Nation Builder
Oluwatobi Gbemisola is a final year Psychology student of the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife. He can be reached via social media
@TobiGbemisola or email gbemisolatobi4@gmail.com
Source: www.omojuwa.com/2014/08/lagos-state-okada-riders-and-the-nigerian-police-force-oluwatobi-gbemisola/

For the last three weeks I have been visiting this phone engineer in my area to fix my Nokia C5 phone. I initially had a bit of hesitancy in my decision to visit him for a remedy as I wanted a quick fix since most repairers in that vicinity had an unpleasant habit of delaying repairs. But because of the proximity to my home, with a shrug I decided to try him out, which ended up to be a fatal mistake. Arriving with my brother at his shop, I gave him the phone, he gave a diagnosis of what the problem was and I paid him in part to get the job done. He told me to return in a few hours of which I did but to my mild surprise, he gave me an excuse of needing to buy a part to the phone to finish the job.”Bros, your phone will be ready tomorrow, come and get it then”, was what he told me as I left that evening. Of course I returned on Day 2 to which he repeated the pattern of another ‘tales by moonlight’. “Ah!”, I sighed to myself as I left his shop and headed home, shaking my head and already regretting my decision to transact business with him. I kept making visits for my ‘sick’ phone till the end of the week when he finally gave me a half repaired phone. The unfortunate gist continues with daily visits and wasted airtime on calls with this guy ‘maradonaing’ me for three weeks, ending bitterly with lots of tension and shouting.
For the little time I have been at home in Lagos, I have tasted firsthand how much some Nigerians can get their hands dirty to make money. They lie, cheat, steal and resort to all manners of vile behaviors to achieve their intents. As this engineer guy kept lying to me in form of one excuse or the other, my mind did not need to search far for why things are this bad in the country. Even the ordinary Nigerian has swallowed the astringent pill of desperation to make it fast and big. Honesty and integrity have become alien values that my people live by. I was shocked by how low people can descend to make it. It therefore seems to me that it’s the ‘holy ones’, the small crop of honest Nigerians that are trying to thrive and break even in a system and culture that is counterprogressive.
This deadlier-than-Ebola virus can be traced from the terrible leadership marred with corruption and incompetence that we have in our economic and social systems of government. When the people can see that the very ones they voted into power are not looking out for them but themselves and their pockets, the people then seek their own path by turning on themselves because they know, from that point on, its OYO (Oyo is Your Own). Looking at my situation for instance, I have been at home for more than a month now due to a strike that came about from a showdown between the Student Union Government and the OAU school management. The management had reportedly increased the school fees by over 300 percent because the Federal Government’s funding of the education sector was not forthcoming, so in response they decided to act in haste by getting their money from the barely surviving masses of parents immersed in a horrid web of school fees payment to trying to pacify an angry landlord every other day. So here I sit, unable to secure a temporary job while my mates in other schools are making intellectual advancements. Employees would not employ a student that can take off back to school at any moment once the strike is halted. For many in my shoes, I strongly assume they are probably if not already strategizing for an armed robbery or the next ‘yahoo plus’ deal they would hammer.
Times are tough, things are hard but I firmly believe this is not an intelligible excuse to lose one’s integrity just for the porridge of hard and fast money. Patience is a long gone virtue in our faced paced world these days. While a few may decline to extreme measures to make it like kidnapping and ritual killing, some others take more elusive ways in ripping off their fellow Nigerians. If we keep on this path, we would create deeply pervasive culture of wickedness, venality, killings and subversion for the new generation of Nigerians. We need to ask ourselves, “what kind of future do we want for our children and children’s children?”. We can be better than this, we are more than this, and we are stronger than this. Let us throw aside our selfish aims this once and wear elegantly the raiment of love for one another. Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers all wrongs.* Do make a decision today to stand up for the right thing, eschewing evil out of our nation. Silence is golden, but only when justice is served. It’s time for us as Nigerians to come out of our shells and be counted and as we do this, together we would build a nation strong, pure and holy for our God, ourselves and generations to come.
Oluwatobi O. Gbemisola (@TobiGbemisola)
Nation Builder
*Holy Bible, Prov 10:12 (NIV)
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The last straw is for you to import it from abroad if all else fails.

Okay thanks very much... I'll give him this feedback

The Arbiter: I recall a company called air liquide supplies universities and hospitals about 15yrs ago. Not sure if the company still exists now. There is also a local company in the Lagos area but cant recall the name. Most of the Nitrogen gas used in Nigeria is imported and for specialist uses hence the difficulty in getting it.

Hmm, thanks, but are you saying it's not possible to get it?

It reflects one's interests more rather than personality traits.

A friend of mine needs liquid nitrogen for experimental purposes. He's been all over Google to find out where he can get it in Nigeria, but all to no avail. So does anyone have an idea of where to get it?

I went to the place for a geography trip back in my first year in the uni. The place seriously needs a renovation.

I have a dream that one day, Nigeria will be great. I have a dream, that one day, our young people will be recognised for their innovation and creativity and their potential shall become maximised.
God will not come and change Nigeria, we will, one person at a time, one problem at a time. That is, when we are ready. For now, majority of us aren't.

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thanks

Copy, not move.

Unnecessary increase of world population. This can only happen in a third world country. If they were in school with their heads in their books, se won ma raye gbogbo osi yi?

Why the unnecessary beacon on introverts, you people make it look like it was a disease or something. Are introverts the only personality type? What about ambiverts and extroverts? Abeg leave us alone. We do just absolutely fine even as we're more self focused than people focused which has its pluses. I just might concoct an article on 'the power of introverts'. Watch out for it!

About a week ago, a close buddy of mine
tied the nuptial knot. It was a colourful
ceremony and my friend was overjoyed that
the day had finally come. As one of his
groom's men, it was natural that I had to
donate efforts to ensure that the day was
a success.
One of the tasks I was saddled with was to
give the toast at the reception. Given that
we both shared apathy for the opposite sex
for a reasonable while, I was thus in the
know when the relationship started. What
was shut out of my knowledge was the blow
by blow account of how the relationship was
initiated. By the time I debriefed him of
the genesis of the relationship to prepare
me for the toast, it was apparently a union
activated by the tools that have come to
define our time.
It was a relationship primarily cooked in the
crucible of the social media. The 'business'
of transacting relationships have changed in
a great deal. For both the timid and the
brave, the platform has been levelled -
because of the relative ease with which
contacts are now made and such contacts
are sustained on social media. For the timid
ones, social networks are a huge relief. And
for the bold, social media means providing
more options to exercise the gallantry that
comes with wooing a lady, especially when
the overtures are not hitting the right
chord with her.
My friend, decent and brainy, met a lady on
one of Nigeria's most prominent fora -
nairaland.com about three years ago. Their
mutual interests would see them sustain
the friendship till date. They took it off
nairaland.com and exchanged Blackberry's
Personal Identification Number (PIN) and,
with that, it was easier to say 'Hello'
every now and then. Somewhere along the
line, the lady who would later say 'I do' to
my friend was used as a digital profile (DP)
by my friend's friend.
Curiosity would lead my friend to inquire
about the identity of the 'DPed lady.' It
turned out that both of them work in the
same organisation in Lagos. My friend,
apparently disposed to being in a
relationship, was willing to strike
acquaintance with her. The introduction was
made; of course, still using the instant
messaging facility of Blackberry. Gradually,
they were finding common grounds after
intense pings and were becoming enamoured
of each other.
They agreed to meet and see each other
physically. My bet is that they both loved
what they saw and the new media form of
mobile phone communication took over,
given the little time that work pressure
and demands permitted. On a number of
instances whenever I'm at his place, my
friend would come in with his phone glued to
his ears, say a brief 'Hello' and continue
the discussion for hours with the lady, who
later became his wife two weekends ago.
After giving me the gist, I teased him
about his method. But it also struck an
adventurous note in me. Research today
holds that the third most common way to
find a partner next to meeting through
friends and in public places is the use of
communication technologies. Before now, it
strictly took having a network of friends in
various social groups to meet someone one
would eventually consider dating. Way
before then, at least in this part of the
world, it was parents who bore the task of
using their social networks to seek for
someone befitting for their daughters or
sons.
The false sense of intimacy that a network
like Facebook will allow for with a total
stranger is an ideal solution for an
introvert. The only challenge will be how to
sustain such when eventually it's time to
transit to a face to face status. There are
instances of very humorous people on
Facebook, turning humourless when one
meets them in the real world. Meaning the
online personality is different from the
offline capacity! This is the part anyone
willing to have a relationship on the social
media wings would have to sort out - letting
the potential partner know the real you
before meeting so that hopes are not
dashed.
When it comes to the formation,
sustenance and even dissolution of
relationships, the role of social networks is
a central one. We find a potential mate and
we stalk the person online by checking his
or her comments and when last a status
was updated. There is also that public
display of affection on Twitter et al that
some prefer while others will prefer to
keep their relationship off social networks.
The digital togetherness these platforms
provide for couples, especially those in
long-distance relationships, is rich enough
to lubricate the relationship. Those days
when long-distance relationships were
endangered are gone.
There are instant messaging options – live
video chats with Skype is possible; there is
also free phone chat using Viber; pictures
can also be shared with each other as post
cards using Postagram. The couple can also
play video games like star war and chess
together while online, they can also use
Google hangout to watch live Youtube
content together on different screen,
amongst others.
Yes, we find love in strange places and
social networks are now one of such. And
when relationships are broken, we block,
'unfriend' or 'unfollow' one another other
even though the entanglement makes it
nearly impossible to totally part ways
because of our mutual friends.
There will soon be a new generation that
will know nothing of how difficult it once
was to woo a lady, given the social media
assistance there are now.
It was an elated me that went ahead to
deliver the toast to the friends and family
members present at the ceremony. I recall
toasting to friendship and to the connecting
power of the social media. The verdict by
another mischievous mutual friend of ours
present at the event was that I had
offered a power point presentation in lieu
of a toast! I am not sure of what to think
until I see the video! Meanwhile, here's
wishing the couple a blissful married life.
Source: http://www.punchng.com/i-punch/dear-
facebook-i-am-in-love/

Thanks Elegale, Valboy et al. I finally did it after 3 trails and factory reset. But there's one thing now, my phone lags a lot. I can't even enjoy WhatsApp, talkess of games which I have not installed because of this slow speed. If I can't play games then what's the point of using the phone. What can I do to reduce the lagging and increase speed as this low internal memory ish has been solved thanks to you. Expecting your reply in earnest. Thanks again.

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See, all this interference to stop the strike should be halted. Me I want to use this time to make money wella, or else na Garri boys go dey drink again oh. Catfish farming on point!

The thing I dislike about this strike is its uncertainty, so you don't want to start what you wouldn't be able to finish. I would have started my fish farm but that'll have to wait until I graduate of which is now being delayed. Anyway I am working in a fish farm to learn more.

Excelboi: ^^ which of the front page do you mean? And OP, advise well received but there are things on the article that don't count. So because u're an undergraduate accountant now means bank will hire even if its free? On which aspect? Except u wan be a security or u wan work for CoOperative banks.. An alternative option will be to learn a vocational skill and or u go for an IT.Learn web designing,graphics designing,start a backyard poultry etc. Just my little cent

Yes it might be difficult but I know if you are serious about it, a good organisation that offers people who have your career work in their place will allow you to do the same for free. What's in it for them to lose?
Btw, what are you doing yourself?

chess guru: Or hoping that fabian actually succeeds in his diabolical plot against Diego and paloma
#teambadguy

Ha! When you are mine and passion on AIT back in the days! Mehn, times have changed.

Vin Diesel, Tom Cruise, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Bruce Willis are always forming 'touch not my anointed'. It only makes me laugh. Even though the story line is usually predictable (except Oblivion which I was catch unawares in), I love other things like the tight production.

This should be front page material.

Hmm ,this guy makes a lot of sense to me !He never wrote it any better .A lot of young people are just using the period to waste precious time in which they could have used to add value to themselves like internships as he suggested or acquiring a skill .

ASUU Strike: What are you doing at home?
I felt really concerned about this issue and
decided to make use of my pen. Perhaps this
might help someone. This strike has gone
beyond a month now and most undergraduate
have been doing nothing at home. Well, I am
not writting this to the government neither
am I writting it to ASUU or the youths out
there. This lines are directed to YOU. I mean
the YOU that is reading this piece at the
moment.
Let me tell you a blunt truth. If you are at
home doing nothing now because of ASUU
strike, it is most likely that you will also be
doing nothing after you graduation. That simply
means you are not valuable enough to be
hooked by a company for employment. Well,
lets leave that for another day.
Lets consider for a while those things that are
taking people's time at home: seasonal films,
soccer manager, play station, 2go,
facebook . . . Which of these is holding you
down from being valuable? After serious
consideration, you will discover that all these
are products of great minds and busy hands.
What are you busy doing? ASUU strike should
be a blessing for you. Why cant you take
advantage of this period and also put your
name in the hearts of people.
As an accounting student, what will it cost you
to walk up to a bank close to your house and
tell the branch manager you are willing to work
with them for free? Irrespective of you level
at school. Go to as many banks as possible. Go
back as many times as you hear a NO. I dont
thing this would cost you anything. Dont you
know this would add a bullet of experience to
your CV as a graduate?
As an English or art student, have you checked
al the radio stations in Ibadan, Lagos, Akure or
Abeokuta and they told you they dont need
you? There is no harm in trying. All you do at
home is to listen to music on Splash FM and
you are happy? Really funny!
Listen, you can be great in life without having
a degree. So dont let ASUU vs FG hold you
down. Dont be deceived. You have everything
you need already. You can read. You can write.
You can speak good English. Oh! You can even
use the internet. And funny enough you also
have a phone that can be used to surf the
internet. What else do you need? Tell me. You
think you need a degree to get busy? I laugh.
Make use of google to see how many Nigerian
graduates are jobbless. Some are even at
home now waiting for NYSC. That is their own
excuse for not getting busy.
My dear, you dont have an excuse. Dont wait
for FG. They are doing nothing and they wont.
Make you moment count. Dont waste you like.
Get up and find something to do. Go out now.
You are already educated. A degree wont make
you educated. You have it already.
Go and ask how much pepper sellers are making
per day. Go check how much tailors are making.
Bricklayers, Akara sellers, bukaterias,
barbers, salons, mechanics etc. These are
people you will regard as 'uneducated'. What
about you that knows the laws of physics,
knows why water is colourless and why calculus
can not be used in literature? It is a pity that
are you using all that on soccer manager and
vampire diaries. You use your laptop as a toy
instead as a tool.
Why cant you apply those things you have
learnt in school to everyday trade in your
neighborhood?
Why cant you call your friends around to form
a team and form a company?
Why cant you learn something? Fashion
designing, programming, craft etc.
Why cant you develop your selling and
negotiation skill?
Why cant you buy and read a book today?
Why cant you volunteer to work in a company
around you for free?
Why cant you think about you life for once and
forget degree, ASUU or FG?
Why not NOW?
Olaoluwa Balogun
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Lagos State
penultimate university year (still an undergraduate )
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please as a suggestion ,make a WhatsApp group also .