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Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

All these is a sign that you have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) I beg you to make some research about this, you'll see that what I'm saying is true, then, you can find a solution to it. The most obvious one is to see a shrink, you really need therapy

I wish them a quick recovery

Zammzammm:
Please nairalanders i need information about this snake. The snake is very common in eti osa area of Lagos.

This is the second one that I have killed this year in my compound . There are undeveloped plot of land around my compound, I suspect that they come from there I need to know the specie, and if they are venomous and poisonous.

Thanks for anticipated assistance

Its a garter snake, its harmless, it has no fangs or venom, be at peace

Roger3D:
But yet they still lost just like the Germans and Japanese

I love that reply, its awesome

Amberon1:
Ist travel was Europe and it was a very very nice experience. The people loved Africans. They loved that we could speak their language ( even though not fluently). The place was very welcoming and they sometimes gave us free foodstuff at the market and free rides to wherever we were going. I remember one particular woman who welcomed me into her house when my electricity was out. I needed to charge my phone but my charging port wasn't really good. She tried all available sockets just to ensure it was charging. She then began gisting me (in their language) about all her kids who were now married and were in other countries. She gave me nice fruits and even made coffee for me to drink as it was Winter. That was the day I ate the best fruit known to man. That had to be the fruit Adam and Eve ate, it was heavenly.

School was so much fun too, friendly lecturers, friendly secretary. Good learning environment. No stress, no lecturer failing you unjustly. First day of snow we all went out, played in the snow for hours taking lovely pictures.

I remember the first day we went to school without a guide. We all stopped at the wrong train station, got lost, asked for directions but due to the language barrier we were given the wrong directions so we ended up at the American embassy instead. Going back home was even worse. On our way we were already lost not knowing what train station to alight when we met a Nigerian who claimed to have been there for long. He gave us wrong directions again and we ended up lost again. We then decided we trek until we see road signs that show we were going in the right direction. That was when one of my friends sighted a saloon where she had been to a few days earlier. It was owned by a Nigerian and she gave us the proper direction home.

I had many wonderful experiences including signing authographs because some of them had never seen black people before.

My experiences cannot contain even a whole book so I'll just stop here.

Second country was UAE.

It is when you leave this country that you'll realize that Nigeria is worse than hell fire.

you didn't say the country in Europe you visited

She wants you to be assistant boyfriend, the main issue is are you willing to share a girl with another guy? If you are not, let that girl go, personally, I think that girl just want you as back up in case her relationship doesn't work out and she doesn't want you to date another person, she's a selfish person.
Guy, you are the one who would lose at the end of the day in this situation, my advice is let her go, look for your own girlfriend, life is not hard, we just make it hard for ourselves, don't create room for unnecessary drama in your life.

Ayodejioak:
You either indulged in incest

Or you're just another NL 'Lion'

We live on the same planet earth man, co-incidence like there are almost impossible

that's not true, we asked our parents and there's no possibility of us being related, and I don't have any reason to lie, I don't care about anybody's approval here, its just a coincidence, I know the possibility of that happening is very slim but it did.

RedAlert08:
You have same name and surname?
What are the odds?!!

that's very rare, I know, we are even from the same state

She was interesting, kind, loyal, romantic (most girls are not) intelligent, she reads a lot, and so do I, that was what attracted me to her, she was beautiful, so chesty, you could sleep off on her bosom, with an amazing derriere you could die for, she was like a mirror image of me but a bit different, we were so alike, sometimes this was a blessing, sometimes it wasn't, we even had the same name and surname, very stubborn girl we broke up because of genotype, I've dated other girls, had flings but none was as interesting or intelligent as she was, Today is her birthday

DrinkLimca:
Those that died at the hands of boko haram and herdsmen, Did they tell you that they prayed to GOD for protection?

you dimwitted slowpoke, you simpering buffoon, where were you when life passed the memo that death was inevitable? Death does not care if you are child of God or you worship Satan, it always comes eventually..... Grow up!

zolapower:
.get the Bleep out of my mention. Is Google no more ?
Moreso ,who is hating on who here ? I think u need to get ur brain checked okay , because I see nothing like hate here . Majority of the people ( especially black American ) I try to chat with online hate Nigerians like poo ,simply because I'm chatting them up right here in Nigeria . She's in America and the guy in question is also based in America ,why going too far by telling the world who the guy is ?
I beg get ur miserable life out of my mention ,bf thunder fire u there . Knowing igbo culture ,u should have told her avoid the guy ,just like ur normal way of using a tribal remark on the Igbos right. Amadioha hammer u there !

lol, e pain am

zolapower:
.get the Bleep out of my mention. Is Google no more ?
Moreso ,who is hating on who here ? I think u need to get ur brain checked okay , because I see nothing like hate here . Majority of the people ( especially black American ) I try to chat with online hate Nigerians like poo ,simply because I'm chatting them up right here in Nigeria . She's in America and the guy in question is also based in America ,why going too far by telling the world who the guy is ?
I beg get ur miserable life out of my mention ,bf thunder fire u there . Knowing igbo culture ,u should have told her avoid the guy ,just like ur normal way of using a tribal remark on the Igbos right. Amadioha hammer u there !

lol, e pain am �

zolapower:
Why don't you stick to your Caribbean men? U go about trying to know other people's culture because you know the Igbo men spend lavishly on there marriage right ? If u are good yourself the Jamaican men should have married . So quit ,tarnishing our image woman , enough of how ur foreigners soil our names and image on the mud . After all u ain't the first to date a Nigerian man ,so why the hell would u want do an investigation about us here ?
I'm most likely sure the op is known to me . Rubbish ! Gold digger ,u better go get a job . U want to strike gold.
And please no one should quote me or else thunder will fire the person before New year .
You all will say Nigerians are the most corrupt and there u are coming for our men ,why not stick ur dirty ass in your home land and get to look for a Jamaican with igbo version . Rubbish ole buruku .

. Dude, why is there so much hate in your heart? You've got to lighten up and take a chill pill, its no use getting emotional over something that has nothing to do with you, she's just trying to know about the Igbo culture and if you don't have anything informative to say, sit back, relax and read other people's comments, peace

CairoCharles:
I've got one to, an illegal cross breed of a rot wiler and a German shephard, very aggressive to a fault

can we see some pictures? Have you ever seen the cross breed of boerboel and rottweiler?

BigSarah:
You Stalked my posts I likey

Good, So, what's it going to be? Are we gonna talk? Or you were just bluffing? I would like for us to talk or are you even real? because there are many fake people on nairaland

BigSarah:
I'm Ready To Mingle Not Date Or Bang (perverts Stay off ), So Drop Your Best Line and I might send u a PM , Or Better Still PM me.
I'm 18 so age limit is 23 ! Open To All! .

Bash Me At Your Own Peril!

I would like to say that looking at your previous posts, you obviously go for what you want and you are not concerned about public opinion, you have an interesting personality, and I would like to know you better, pm me if you feel like it.

lightblazingnow:
1, Those who in their life time have never acknowledged the supremecy of Christ Jesus the anointed Son of God Almighty who is given authority to control heaven and earth, and that every knees should bow to him both in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, wether they be thrones or dominions or powers, and that every tongues should confess that Jesus Christ is LORD.



Psalms 2:5 Then shall God Almighty speak unto the unbelievers in his wrath, and vex them in his sore displeasure. And he says 2:6 "Yet have I set my King CHRIST JESUS upon my holy hill of Zion.

2:7 Then CHRIST Speaks "I will declare the decree: the LORD God Almighty have said unto me, you are my Son; this day have I begotten thee.

2:8 Ask of me, and I shall give you the heathen for your inheritance, and the uttermost parts of the earth for your possession.

2:9 you shall break them with a rod of iron, authority; you shall dash them in pieces like a potter's vessel. 2:10 Be wise now therefore, O you kings: be instructed, you judges of the earth.

2:11 Serve the LORD God Almighty with fear, and rejoice with trembling.

2:12 Kiss the Son CHRIST JESUS, lest He be angry, and you perish from the way, when His wrath is kindled but a little. Blessed are all they that put their trust in Him.

2. Those who loves the evil ways, there is only one way to get to where you are going, but there is this evil voices which tries to swift you of the rewards of obedience, therefore rubbing you off the Blessing which does not fade away and far from decays. But you know there are folks who just love to disagree, of course they lack understanding and knowledge of the truth, yet they won't admit that they need help. They keep pilling up punishment for not only THEMSELVES but for as many as are in partnership with their evil company. Corrupting good manners, the same way they corrupted your country Nigeria.



2 Peter 2:2 And many shall follow their pernicious ways; by reason of whom the way of truth shall be evil spoken of. 2:4 For if God spared not the angels that sinned, but cast them down to hell, and delivered them into chains of darkness, to be reserved unto judgment; 2:5 And spared not the old world, but saved Noah the eighth person, a preacher of righteousness, bringing in the flood upon the world of the ungodly; 2:6 And turning the cities of Sodom and Gomorrha into ashes condemned them with an overthrow, making them an ensample unto those that after should live ungodly; 2:7 And delivered just Lot, vexed with the filthy conversation of the wicked: 2:8 (For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds 2:9 The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:


3. Those who love monies and have an insatiable craving for wealth will never see the face of the righteous one who dwells in the light which no mortal men can see nor have seen, all of their scheming is all about making a business out of you, that means to gain from you, instead of building the Saints, they are caught up in reaping from the Saints. They are not going to make it all the way to heaven, never. Because their God Almighty is their stomach, and the glory they seek is their shame



2 Peter 2:3 And through covetousness shall they with feigned words make merchandise of you: whose judgment now of a long time lingered not, and their damnation slumbered not.



Philippians 3:17 Brethren, be followers together of me, and mark them which walk so as you have us for an ensample. 3:18 (For many walk, of whom I have told you often, and now tell you even weeping, that they are the enemies of the cross of Christ: 3:19 Whose end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things.) 3:20 For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: 3:21 Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself. Amen


4 Foolish women who expose their bodies for pleasures and wicked lust won't be able to see the face of the Glorious God Almighty and CHRIST JESUS who abolished death and brought immortality to light, that means, he gave us the Spirit of God Almighty to realise Eternal life.

This is eternal life, that they might know you, the only true God Almighty and Jesus Christ whom you have sent to declare thus to every believers.



2 Timothy 4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. 4:3 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4:4 And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.



2 Timothy 3:1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 3:4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

3:6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, 3:7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.




5. Those who would not respect the big word "SEX"

They play with it and abuse it, they have no respect for the established authority of the lord God Almighty, they cheat on their partners and law breakers as I rightly pointed out early, the signs and perilous lusts of the pagan.


You can add yours

Mumu, na you be gateman for heaven abi? @ the last point you made

LifeofAirforce:
If you don't want to be banned, stay away from this thread.


And if I must reply you, you've got to be human being.

Mumu, stop dating underage girls, that's paedophilic, oya report me, let the mods ban me, you no fit report everybody na, ode.

sirhot:
That's the uphill task I'm faced with.

How do I start, because one question that will surely pop up will be, are both parents staying together?

People are just talking as if we don't need our families support.

you need family support but at the same time you need to stand firm about your decision to marry this girl, you are a man,they need to know you love her and you don't care about that she comes from a broken home, they will respect your decision. the ball is in your court, it depends on how you handle this matter.

my eyes are f*cked, the image is burned into my brain.......i wish i could unsee that

Na wa oo

PaulIdu:
Is there any assault rifle out there that is pound for pound better than the Ak47 in Pricing ,durability ,ruggedness ,accuracy and killing distance ...I don't think so

M16 is better in accuracy and range, it is lighter, more balanced and less recoil than Ak-47 its bullets are faster than Ak47. But Ak-47 is more rugged, easy to use, its bullets are heavier and it has more penetration power and its easy to maintain while M16 is not easy to maintain, you have to use the kit that comes with it for its maintenance so I think overall they are on the same level

Enybliss:
no problem

sweet November by keanu reeves

'is there no one else? is there no one else? 'and 'beyond that wall is immortality take it, its yours!' brad pitt (troy)

ThumbzTNA:
Dear Colombian lady, You have drug lords, we have politicians

they meant Columbia university in new york, USA not the Columbia the country

CuteMorriz:
that's true but as human when things are tough you need someone to encourage you but when your mentor took the easy way out...it may take more than ordinary for you to remain steadfast

dude whats all these nonsense about the mother 'taking the easy way out' that's a very narrow minded point of view, you are making assumptions that when a marriage fails, its usually because the wife refuse to make it work, you know a marriage is between two people right? the husband also need to put an effort into it. also, your point of view about never marrying a girl from a broken home is foolish at best, don't you think that that girl would have learned one or two things from her parents failed marriage? that's very immature. moreso, are you saying women should stay in their marriages no matter how miserable they are in the marriage? I'm very sure you are not a psychologist so don't make ridiculous speculations here. I also think you are psychologically unstable for having this kind of old world way of thinking ...... .no offense intended.

Aminat508:
I wish to have it big

if that's you on your dp, you already have it big

They should have euthanized you or castrated you if they new that you'll grow up to be a pervert. Perverts everywhere nowadays..........smh

oliver5:
A girl Who am madly in love with for three years now, accepted a marriage proposal from another man without my concept. Even when I confronted her of it she denied it was not true. I have been in love with this girl without sex. We did everything together. Am confused what do I do now?

dude, find a way to confirm that she's engaged, if she is, move on with your life, you'll find somebody

PaulKillerman:
Yes it is Paul Killerman again, the Ashawao champion.....

So yes, I have another story as usual, this time, still to reiterate and reaffirm my stand point that girls are all bitches who deserved to be forked like the hoes they are are discarded when you tired, being all lovey dovey, for a guy is foolishness....

So this time around, I was chilling at one of the joint around my area when I sighted a couple, a sweet chick (my spec) holding hand and all loved up with a nigga , with their hugging n all, no one need tell u they are coupled ..... so in my adventurous and observatory manner, I calmed down keenly observing, and I let it fly...
Incidentally I saw that same chick, a couple of days later, at my joint, and I asked a waiter to tap her for me, eventually she came and we got talking, after the initial chickful behaviour , I asked her for us to lodge , she resisted, then I made her a good cash offer, immediately I started seeing glimmers of smile... so we lodged for the night.....
I quickly took some portion of my vega 100, and embarked on the missionary position (sorry, journey rather) my brother I forked this girl like mad, she was just moaning want deaf my ear.... After the first round, I then asked her of her BF, she denied, I insisted and describe the guy I saw the day I first saw her, she was so Shocked! ! ! And I reassured her I didn't know her guy and there was no ties, that I was only observing them from my vantage point, as that is my joint and I was good at obbserving.... so she calmed down and we continued our gist and she told me about the guy, they have been together for about a year and six months and all the foolish and seem less love stories.... I smiled and felt like a God I felt so cool....

I then asked her, if she's the adventurous type, she nodded in the affirmative, then I told her ill like an adventure , told her what I wanted, she refused vehemently , but after much persuasion and luring with incentives, she gave in (persistence is the key to a woman's brain) ....
My people an so we start..... I made her call her BF while I was blasting her furiously , my people, I was seriously firing the girl, while they were gisting, she tried hiding the moans and all , but that was giving me more hard on, and I was going in deep....
May people, (u know Everly u no fit hide am finish) the BF had to ask why she was sounding somehow, she quickly replied "babe I went out to buy something, and I'm walking back home" I want burst laugh my niggeez , I just gets hold myself, cos I was enjoying the playyout ...

My people, and brothers in this business, na so the thing use go ooh, I finally dash the chick 20k , (she was happy) , while I was super happy .... I have further reasserted my stance , that chicks are only instrument for fucking , nothing more..... just fork them and pay them...

For the niggaz acting lover boy, na you sabbi, I go still catch your woman, fork am well well, tell am to call you (just know say when she answer you , "I'm walking down the road" Paul killerman is actually on the other side "walking down that road with her"

For your own good, u better behave and be like Paul Killerman , treat these bitches like who they are.... as for my awon brothers, abbeg make una try this my kind of parole, E dey sweet die, ull feel like you are on top of the world....



E be like right now sef, only chick when get BF I go dey find.... choi! ! E sweet no be small

I'm paulkillerman and I'm just making common sense....

I salute una my people.....heheheheheheheheheheh

dude, karma is a b*tch, you'll have a daughter one day and your daughter will be treated the way you treat women, and its your type that will become an overprotective dad because of what you have done in your youth, don't worry, guys will bleep her to the extent you can fit a bowling ball in her kittykat

BoiledHead:
If only your head wasn't in between your legs. The total number of women in my workplace are 36 and I asked each. The total number of women in my place of abode at which I queried are 15 and I asked each. The total number of women in the workplace of my friend whom I asked and he also asked all women there are 22 . The wives and friends of the wives of my friends and colleagues are a total estimate of 25

As such, my research was an average of 100 women.

You won't be paid to comment but however, you can at least apply some maturity and understanding so when you read, you would have some wisdom in your feedback.

dude STFU and dont display your stupidity, you are giving the result of your findings and your sample population is 100 women so you cannot draw a reasonable conclusion because of the meagre number of women you interviewed for 75% of Nigerian women. Its simple logic, or weren't you taught research in school? (I'm assuming you have university education) Please don't come here and spill garbage about what you don't clearly understand

BoiledHead:
I made an in depth research. I even asked questions from all ladies in my work place and all ladies in my area. I even still asked ladies online. And also asked lots of my friends as they asked their wives and gfs as their wife and gf also asked their friends.

So yeah it was a research

Poppycock!!! you said 75% of Nigerian women, that means you interviewed all the women who are sexually active in Nigeria which is not possible, do not generalize the findings of your 'research' on a sample population of not more than 10 women. 'Research' indeed.....