₦airaland Forum

darlenese:
sir, some men are mummy's boy, this man in question claims he loves his parents and siblings so much that they spent all they had to train him so it's his responsibility to take care of his younger ones.

Well you said Mummies Boy thats his fault,A man should learn how to regulate his house and train himself in father mother wife relationship.We have phones these days, parents cant jst turn up.Plus you have an agenda too,i dont blame the parents its the man i blame

Physicist:
What the OP wrote is true for many Nigerian families. This same thing happened to me in my family. I am not the first born. I am the third born.

However I fully understand what the OP means. I have more money than all of my siblings. I have 9 siblings. I need to provide for my parents, grandparents, 9 siblings, some aunts, some uncles, some cousins, some nephews, some nieces and some other family members. It is really crazy and it affected my health negatively and still affecting me.

I had to give more half of my scholarship funds to my family while I was at the universities. I was a poor student. My scholarship money was enough for me alone. However, I was a poor student because I gave more than half of my scholarships to my family members. What makes me very angry is that my sibling never took their education serious when we were growing up. I tried to advise them to take their studies serious, they never listened. They were more focused on their boyfriends and girlfriends and having indiscriminate sex with multiple partners.

Some of my siblings have children, that they cannot cater for and they except me to continue providing financial assistance for them and their children because I am in abroad. Parents should not have kids, they cannot cater for. One of the major causes of societal problems in the Nigerian society is parents having children they cannot adequately cater for.

How do you k now your uncles and brothers expect you to sort them out financially? and you think having just o ne kid gives you guarantee that you ill be able to train him/her
Did anyone threaten you with who knows waht that you must train them?

uglodoh:
Don't mind them. My dad had an accident at his place of work. My mom could not continue with her business. The last child was taken card of by my elder brother. He has finished his schooling. He is now working. He sends money to his nieces and nephews and he even takes them out to have fun. If any of his elder ones are in financial mess. He sends money. Everything depends on how children are being brought up by parents.

Thank you this is waht upbringing is all about.Life shared is life worth living this is why in Africa when you are young your parents make you all eat together in one plate, that bond is hard to separate. The White people envy our culture of inclusiveness, they which they have this sense of responsibility.

BrightDeGea:
its the first born that wants to die that will allow younger siblings responsibility to kill him, i am the first born in my family of four boys, i already told them to buckle up and that nobody should wait for me or give me unnecessary problems, i told them to go and hustle on their own too, if i have i will support the little they have if i dont have they wont see a dime from my end, i did not come to this earth to come and die for anybody, simple truth.

This is true, but I dont think you should tell them that outright, its not a good thing, Its not matured, you think you younger one cannot be teh governor in teh next ten years? anything can happen thats why as teh eldest you should be watchful of waht you say and control your younger one.
PS Im responding to waht you said.

ivolt:
I usually refrain fro judging family issues because some wives hates to see
their in-laws anywhere their matrimonial home same for some men, so they
paint the in-laws black to justify their intolerance.

That is true this is why the Man of the house should learn how to balance his home if he wants peace.
My parents did it and Im doing it too.No one needs to live with me for me to help them,in this days of mobile and bank transfer life is easy.

kratoss:
From what you wrote above i can clearly see you are not talking from experience, its just your personal opinion..

If you wer brought up in a family that automatically turns your siblings into your full responsibility you will understand..

And if in any way you are one of those men that think in that way better change your mindset right frm nw...

I will never solely hope to bring into dis world kids i will have to be hoping for older ones to grow up n help me out....

Ok i\ take it you have no kids yet,Look God gives and God takes, fine you plan you get 3, whats the sure guarantee you are going to be financially buoyant for all three to finish UNi to be self sustainable?

Jamean:
Lol! I just had this conversation with a friend this evening. I hope our generation learns from it and avoid having many children. In fact anything more than 3 is a crowd, don't stress the older ones to train the younger ones because you became incapable or irresponsible as parents.

The thing dey vex me no be small. Family planning is free in government hospitals.

You truely think having three kids is a sure secured way of future? how about if you lose your Job after the 1st just got fru Uni and get a job and number two and three are in 200 and 300 level?
Life is difficult, no one knows 2morrow, You can never know what it is l ike to bring up a child until you are a parents.Its an xtreemly though work,you are investing without hoping to get anything back and you are demanded from, Life is though

darlenese:
ladies in the house, marry the last born.
guys in the house, marry the last born.


let the parents marry their first children!
problem solved!


I have a family friend who is married to a first child and only son, this man is responsible for sending all his sisters to school. they even live with them are they are so rude and disrespectful all in the name of "my brother's house ". most times his sisters needs are considered before the wife.
no peace of mind. tufiakwa

I think the problem is from the man, he should learn how to put his house in order. Im speaking as first born and I have 5 women and one bro behind me.No one co mes to my house to disrespect my wife.

Nyceguy92:
I had both rural and urban upbringing.
What I have seen happen is that in situations where both parents are no longer financially OK due to old age or ill-health, the eldest takes more responsibilities.

In fact this role is a common theme in majority of Nollywood movies. The eldest not only takes care of the younger ones, they also take care of the parents.

Of course it is sheer wickedness for reasonably well-to-do parents to transfer the duties they owe their young ones to their eldest children by force.

I think some of you here commenting and dissing parents are Unmarried young and under 30, most of you do not have kids yet and do not know what it takes to bring one up, cos from the comments I can see myself in same light when I was 20,I termed to think like that.
You father and Mum struggle to send you to school fru Uni and you graduate working, the lost thier Jobs due to no fault of tiers, so you are going to watch your younger ones drop out of school when you can help? realy? Good you parents might issue a command to you but they aint putting a gun in ur head to obey.But if you as the senior can not take care of your household your kids will do same to you its as simple as that cos kama is a bitch.

sooperrescue:
There's no restrictions and the customer is ready to pay but the importers are at the mercy of dollar fluctuations and so are not importing at the moment

Ok I see
This is waht I bought
http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Engine-Oil-and-Filter-Service-Kit-7-LITRES-Castrol-Magnatec-5W-30-C3-7L-/161776978968?fits=Model%3ARange+Rover+Sport%7CCars+Year%3A2012&epid=1748800763&hash=item25aaa8cc18:g:~ysAAOSwMmBVsSPu
in today's money thats N32,200

LeJeun3:



Few people are willing to Spend the money to buy Premium oil!


They prefer using AZ Oil because that is what they use in their Toyota Camry and it has been working fine....

And Emeka their mechanic said oil is oil...

Oil is Oil

jy2kbeyond:
This your name got me laffing

Why is that?
I'm curious

sooperrescue:
You are very correct but the problem is that the oil applicable to use in such vehicles are commonly not available. None of the oil produced locally will work on a Range Rover and that is the dilemma faced by mecs. So they use the available oil and start hoping that nothing happens to the engine. Not many owners of Peugeot 508 knows the kind of oil to use for the engine but Peugeot recommends Total and Total does not have the particular oil recommended for the car. Pan is now advising their customers to use Mobil 1 5w30 esp but the sticker is still on the car recommending Total. Those cars cost money too

Is the importation of original Engine oil prohibited in Nigeria? Cos I'm struggling to understand why we not having premium Oils in Nigeria for super cars . 5w20 cost £60 for a 5 litre can .

Even Bulgaria deport too when thier people dey sleep street for UK Chai

quentin06:
Refinery Road Going To Onne, Uyo Is Bad
Aba Ph Road Passing Thru Oyigbo Is Bad
Are Those Roads Not Major Roads.
Who Cares About East West Rd Its Like The Monorail Track That Leads To No Where

yoy said main rd . Main 4 would be leading to Rivers from East and west.nd the rd that does that is the East West rd . There are bad rds everywhere not just PH . No state governor is doing enough to arrest this situation so there is no need pointing it to Rivers . Try Edo , Anambra , Delta and see what bad roads are . FYI those rds U. mentioned are federal roads .

lofty900:
And you'll still see people queue up at atm machines and don't know how to operate it. Ask for help, they'll refuse, just be wasting people's time

Ahah we queue evry where in the world.

quentin06:
What A Clown, The Major Access Roads To The State Are Not Motorable He Is busy frowning his ugly face at a nursing brothel.

Plz what the name of the major rd ? ??cos last I checked it was the east West rd

OrestesDante:
lol. I hope he does something about it

love or hate this guy him dey suprise us sometimes positive and negative .

The first ATM in the world was lunched at Enfield North London . Another British invention .

Abeg someone should plz tell me what we trade with Mexico . I need educating in that part thanks in advance .

cricifixo:
You forgot to mention teaching, I mean who wants to be a teacher these days

Are you a teacher ?

woodmood:
Answer: Because the OP copied from a foreign journal and pasted on Nairaland.

Somebody should tell him that even with the advent of electronic media, some things ate sent to your door post even in UK.
Taxi driver going extinct in Naija?

Oga OP should learn to modify copied materials to suit his environment.


Too early for nonsense on NL.

copying and pasting would be extinct ahahaha

Postal workers would never stop as goods need too be from A to.B

KOgi people is this true? when me and 5 lanlord bought a transformer i n my street

zombieHUNTER:
Look at these fools
Masturbating over biafran affairs

Meanwhile they have a missing president
Who just allegedly addressed the nation in Hausa language via an audio tape

This country is finished

Well I thought PMB was fulani ! Plz I need educating

Oh well . We all need to know what we feed our cars cos most cars in Nigeria sound way different from what they sound in Europe and America cos of bad oil . Me I'm always coming with my own oil from here .

sooperrescue:
Magnatec is third in line but it is better than the Mobil 1 Egyptian spec, total q9000 synthetic blend and Oando syn aluminum oils

Bro who makes Aluminum oil ? As we don't have that in the EU .

true, well I guess most of the car owners know next to nothing about cars as well, cos a N16m worth car being taken to a road side Kazim sounds a bit silly to me.I w ould have to take with me some 5w20 each year to service mine,I got the magnetic 5w20 thats what I use here.

sooperrescue:
There were no brakes on the car, it was 10% effective. The engine of the 011 dies because the owner allows their Mecs to use any oil and these oils are not capable of holding down the engine temperature and so it either overheats or the crankshaft and the metals sadly give up the ghost

2017 car worth N16m U servicing with wrong oil, its well

hemartins:
You say wah?
Lagos overrated? You have to look up the word overrated again.
Most Cities built in circumstances always face flood. You can't always have your way on nature.
Shove your hate speech bro.

The guy was right, remember this was meant to be built with a ,master plan, now where did the flood path go?.Its not as if VGC has a flood problem like part of the east

sooperrescue:
The brake solution was quoted for 1.3m and we did it for 130k. It is a 2011 and the price for the parts are still off the hook. The naija used engine for the range 011 is 4 m. And it is usually not in the best state. That your civic is not mechanic friendly cos there is nothing to fix in that car

what do U mean by the brake solution?