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PrecisionFx:
Ur not 41 years old, It a 19 year old jambite explaining life the way u think it should be...
Gosh!!!


Meanwhile u sound like a girl.
Child.

Now you are being stupid. xtreemly where did i say I was 41 years Old,quit accessing NL with your Nokia 3210 and buy a laptop mayB you might get a wide angle view

kekakuz:
Having a cool mother in-laws is something most people would like but its turning to something else for me.
When ever she is around, she picks my phone and immediately enters my WhatsApp messages.at first I felt she make a mistake but last night makes it the 5th time it's happening.

yesterday, I slept off in the living room and by the time I woke around 12am, I discovered my phone was not by my side. I searched for it everywhere and when I still could not find it, I proceeded to my wife's room to pick my wife's phone and call my line, to my amazement, I saw my mother in-laws on my phone.

I was angry at first but I had to control myself i collected the phone and I discovered she was in my email and Facebook messaged and she even knows my unlock pattern.

am tired of this but I don't want to disrespect her. how do I deal with this.

My friend sharaaaaaaaap there, i say sharaaaapp why do losers like you claim aor crave attention, don you get enough in your own enclave
who wrote this?
https://www.nairaland.com/3834748/girlfriend-7-years-pregnant

LeJeun3:


Why 7 liters?? What does the manual state?'

Total takes aprox 9 liters when empty but cos u cant empty it 7 fills it to gauge.

PrecisionFx:
Ur mum is busy because she's young n probably living alone. Wen she's older, I guess she should go to a old people's home because u wouldn't want her to stay 1 week in ur home.

U don't sound like a 41 year old too and with this ur mentality I see, Ur the type that chases away ur husbands people because u have concluded that ur house is for u and ur husband, I really laugh at this.


""Your wife is the pillar of your house **Happy wife happy life*""

Ur above phrase is a lie n a black mail, Make my people uncomfortable in my house n watch me erase ur own people from my memory.


I will care for my mother n my mother in law whenever the responsibility cones upon me, I don't care how long they will stay in my house, I will be wit them till the very end, that's my own family culture, it's normal to us and it's not to u.


At the end, Just pray they won't be a reason for ur mother in law to live in ur house cuz wen it happens, u can't chase them away n wen u try such, u will discover that after decades of marriage, that u don't really know ur husband.

Good day.

U seemed pain to the fact that you lost your sense of comprehension, for crying out loud Im a MAN where you got the idea I was a woman is beyond me, mayB when you get married you will be more matured and reason out of the BOX,You are not married and dont lead a family life so you have no idea waht it is like, ,my mum has 3 years to retire why my dad has four so he says, they are 71 and 62, u think thats young right?
Look at the pic posted that arm do not belong to an 80 year old woman definitely belong to someone btw 45 and 60.Im not saying beating ur mother inlaw is being supported here but Im saying there is two sides to every story and I have been proven right cos the OP has not come back to tell us waht happened

Benita27:
Go to mobilevids and download from season 1-6 if you want. That's where I download it. Once 7 is out they'll also have it but they release each episode weekly till episode 10.

ok thanks

Benita27:
I see...I don't want to be a spoiler. Game of thrones is undeniably one of the best movies in the world with impeccable cast. I love Jon Snow though, followed by Arya Stark and Tyrion Lannister my comedian dwarf.

On season 6, you'll fall inlove with a new character called Lyanna mormont. She was 12 when she was used. Very intelligent kid.

well I can buy the seasons 1-6 on Ebay cost £30 as this bloody app is now doing my head in

PrecisionFx:
No man wants to have his mum living in his house, do u think men are fools

Health issues n old age is the main reason why People bring their parents to stay with them.




""If I was a mother and get and perceived evidence that my visit is not welcomed I will stay in my house""

ur above statement is born out of lack of experience n suggests ur very young. A daughter in law in the first place should NEVER make her mother in law perceive that she's not welcomed in her aons home.... Any woman that ever does that is senseless. Wen it happens to u, u will understand that u won't keep away from ur children's houses no matter what their spouse thinks. I pity any woman who will try to make my mother uncomfortable in our house or chase away my own relatives cuz I won't ever speak about that, I will simply erase her family from my memory n ban them from coming to my house...


I pity young girls of today, They are just out to destroy homes. Both my grannies moved to our house and lived with us till they died, my mother brought them both n took care of dem till the very end.

Wake up all of u, Allow the African mentality, it's better than ur recent European n American mentality u people incorporated n it's presently destroying this society.

Ok I will reply your points
first,Im not a young man at that, I btw 41 and 45, Iam married and my first child is 14,what age bracket are you and from what you wrote you did not give any indication that you are married correct me if Im wrong and if you are not then Im in a perfect position to school you.
2nd.In my house i can chose to do whatever I like, I can chose to make my in-law uncomfortable if I dont like them.I said LIKE.
three My mum can never come spend more than a week in my house cos she is too busy, she has a job and is full of church activities
There is more respect for people you rarely see than people you see everyday
Your wife is the pillar of your house **Happy wife happy life*
If you ever find there is trouble btw your wife and your Mum the best way to play safe is to make your Mum conffy in her Own environment not your's cos your wife is there.Your house is for you and your wife not your Mum.Issues only arise when the Mother inlaw has nothing to do and is Jobless if not the so called *see finish would not happen*
always remember HAPPY WIFE HAPPY LIFE

Benita27:
My nigga!, which season are you?. I'm waiting for 7 to be released oh.

Im stuck at 5 at the moment I think,, Im watching it on an App called Mobdro, this app do not tell you waht season, waht season the white walkers attack that village?the one John snow tried to get accross teh river?

fuckerstard:
As clueless as he was back then, he was still around relating with Nigerians.

PDP is not doing it's job as an opposition to keep this yeye APC on dia feet.

They are Busy decamping to APC,

Benita27:
Look how you're frustrated!. Mtcheew!. I'm just looking at the stupidity you just displayed like this...

Im watching game of thrones right now lol

lilytender:
How much did you get out of the billions of naira looted? If you got some, then congratulations and happy spending. If however you got none, then I think you need brain examination. Mama Piss has $21 million in Skye Bank, Andrew Yakubu kept $9.8 million in his village home, Diezaini does not know how much she owns, Aluko is fuccking American super models and buying houses all over Europe and America with your money and my money while you are trolling the net, yet you love your oppressor. Definitely, your village witches are playing with your medulla.

U also forgot to mention those in power now, this is the stupidity eroding our young men and women, the worm eating us now is right here, instead of us to do something about it we are ranting about people who God already don punish.

dumo1:
The smaller cans are they engine oil too or transmission oil?

All Engine Oil, cos you need 7 liters, the big one is 4 liters and the small ones are 1 liter each

OP are you back plz update the house

babahTee:
i mobilize my cartel

Cartel go meet men for thier base? guy think well.

PrecisionFx:
Any trained woman who has any form of sense upstairs will not fight with her mother in law.

My fathers mother once slapped my mother during Xmas, she didn't react one bit. She smiled n left for her room. My mother is very fierce, never docile n does not take nonsense from any living thing, But she knows this issue is solely for her husband n his mother, she kept her reaction to see what my father will do wen he comes back. My father came back n she was very satisfied with his actions.

Fighting, beating, insulting, engaging ur mother in law is a NO NO.

Imagine ur husband beating ur mother, how would u feel

I have a constructive and functional home there will never be such violence, the Home belongs to the wife, see waht I said HOME not house.So if the mother inlaw is strangling the wife she should not defend herself? or in al sincerity you think this scratch came about as a result of exchange of words?
If I was a mother and get and perceived evidence that my visit is not welcomed I will stay in my house.Why bother, But teh African mentality comes into play, its my Sons house so i can do waht I like.I have to ask my Mum to come spend time with us co I realized its cheaper for me to do that than to travel all the way to meet her as we live in different city.

PrecisionFx:
:::This was my previous post:::




No human can beat my mother n go free. No animal can bite my mother n go free. No plant can scratch my mother n go free. No alien can beat my mother n go free. No inanimate object can touch my mother n go free. No evil spirit can touch my mother n go free. God cannot save anyone the does anything to my mother. If the Satan or devil exists, he can't mess with my mother n go free. My wife can never beat my mother and go free.
My brother, Just beat the hell out of that woman n upload the pinshures here. rubbish





In fact my father cannot beat my mother n go free.

Ok chey we dey wait 4 update from Op, let us watch nahhh and see waht happens

PrecisionFx:
ur questions are so senseless n pls don't try to ask this question wen this kind of thing happen in ur house. Even if his mother is the devil herself, the sister in-law has no right to beat her.

Even if her mother slapped the sister in-law for whatever reason, she has no right to beat her, the sister in-law should first tell her husband before she takes any action.


U that is talking I'm sure u won't ask these questions if ur mum comes home n u saw scars all over her body that he daughter in law beat her up.

I think you are jumping I. To conclusions here . How about if the said wife has a broken head ?

Selfdesign:
No matter what the mother in law did, the wife has no right whatsoever to lift her hands on her. Can she beat her own mother Ni

Even if she receives two hot slap from mama ? ?

babahTee:
Ode dey beat ur mum nd d first tin u did was 2run 2 nairaland... i repeat ODE!!!!
me; i for rush go bash d yeye woman as e dey hot!!!
quit dis rubbish nd go restore ur mums honour.
i ll withdraw my words if only i see result. Since u still av time for pictures, dsame way u took pic of ur mum do d same 2d fool nd bring it here.

How about when U get there the wife three younger brother are there and one of them look like Anthony Joshua ? ?

Wiretransfer:
And beating her is the solution? Has she beaten her own mother before?

There was a fight me and you don't know who started the fight pictures shown is that of mum what about of wife has a broken head , leg and arm ?

Greenbullet:
Look At What My Elder Brothers Wife Did To My Mum ( Picture)

As I am speaking right now, I am fuming, my elder brothers wife has always hated my mum, and yesterday she showed it, she Beat my mum because she could, she injured my mom all over her body, I swear to God I will beat the shit out of this woman , I am on my way to my brothers house, my mother is not her house girl that she can beat like she owns and my stupid weakling brother will also feel my wrath , I swear to God

Why is the Mum living there in the 1st place ? Since ur mum knows the wife don't like her why go there ? Your brother's wife owns the house yoyr mum owns ur dad house.why the evasion of d pace? I'm not promoting violence but sometimes some mothers take things to the next level . Your mum is probably going to check her clothes shoes cooking money etc . Wives do not like that

akaahs:
Bro to be honest to u, am d first born my family if contributing any thing in d house, I divide it
into number of my siblings what I get is what I give . I can't kill myself

Thank you,you can't give what you do not have .In the African home you parents ha e to pay your fees until you start working . Cloth you,feed you . Pay medical bills house you even after uni then such father will ask for just school fees for your younger ones you have the money U wan gap mouth .

gokuu:
Oga, saving does not mean keeping 500k under a pillow since 1998. Any decently managed portfolio with AuM of NGN500,000 in 1998 would be worth hundreds of millions right now.
We have two forms of Capital: Human Capital and Financial Capital. At the younger stages of our lives, we have more Human Capital that gradually converts to Financial Capital as we age till retirement. The main problem with Nigerian parents is that they consume the entirety of their Human capital instead of converting a portion to Financial capital in the form of a strong investment portfolio; that is recipe for future perpetual dependence on others.

You don't 5H ink yoyr parents who suffered gave up groving . Gave up driving a good car , spent all his salary to make sure you got a good education is not worth helping in times of needs ? Is this what you are saying ? Cos this is what I'm asking

pansophist:
I only feel responsible to my parents, to cater for them if needed, giving the pensionless society Nigeria is. It is the moral thing to do and perfectly justified. They have paid their price to make you the person you've become, it's unethical to turn your back on them. But if my siblings, who contributed nothing in my life, have no enduring sickness, are not physically challenged, are mentally stable, healthy, but think because I am the eldest, or I am the most successful, then chose to depend on me for his future subsistence, they will be in for a rude awakening.

The reason why many people keep enduring the pain of raising their siblings is that they do not want to be alienated or tagged the bad one but again, I have learned that in life you can't satisfy people, including your immediate families. If truly blood is thicker than water, then they should go hustle and stop depending on me if they truly love me. If you called yourself a sibling, then choose to be lazy and depend on milking me through the sibling angle, then you do not love me and consequently do not deserve my assistance.

Well said you will be suprised that it's even those who are still fed by thier parents are the ones drumming 4ward this school of thought cos for those of us who are at the stage of life where commitment can ne er finish we know different

gokuu:
Oga, saving does not mean keeping 500k under a pillow since 1998. Any decently managed portfolio with AuM of NGN500,000 in 1998 would be worth hundreds of millions right now.
We have two forms of Capital: Human Capital and Financial Capital. At the younger stages of our lives, we have more Human Capital that gradually converts to Financial Capital as we age till retirement. The main problem with Nigerian parents is that they consume the entirety of their Human capital instead of converting a portion to Financial capital in the form of a strong investment portfolio; that is recipe for future perpetual dependence on others.

Ok Bross suprise me . How much human savings and capital savings ha e you done ?

Electroweb:
This is very true. A funny one is when a nephew tells you that you have to train him because his father or mother put you through school.

Bro leave that thing it's not by force

gokuu:
Oga, that's why you have what is called "SAVINGS"
Even if you need help from the working child, it'll be highly limited since only two kids are involved. OP is not saying there should not be any help, it just should not be totally consuming and unbearable.

I was not talking about the OP I was talking about you and it is very evident that you failed to read btw the lines . I'm a parent to three . You are not . The university of life is a wonderful school of though and it's free . But there is no repeat . My advice plan well . Your savings of 10 years ago is worth a basket of tomatoes only mi et made during the times of needs make sense . Imagine if your Dad saved 500k 1998 and thought that's you sorted for Uni . What is it worth now ? U get where I'm coming from that ur savings might just mean nothing . You can only sustain yoyr commitment only if you are in employment or in Biz at said time.

DatLagboi:
na una op they talk about

kratoss:
I know i dont have a kid yet, but i knw i have a plan for my life as i am not a teenager or a young kid... One fact i knw is u only get a kid wen u want it... U can stop with d number u have nw also n take proper care of them.... Their is no award for most kids,then why do dem plenty

I never said that but all Im saying is be prepared and put your money where your mouth is, dont forget you might be saving N50m for your kids mayB by the time you have them N50 can only pay for 200 level in Uni,this is waht I meant

Physicist:
They always asked for money. Barack Obama (former American President) had the same problem with his family members from Kenya. He wrote about it in a book. I understand not every Nigerian will fully understand the issue the OP raised. The problem is real for many people.

people who feel you are well of than them will always ask, its up to you to give.Nor B by force

[quote author=kratoss post=57903631][/quote]Well I was thinking the same way you are now thinking when I was 19,now that I am a parent, my thinking is way past that, dont worry you shall remember this and laugh just like i am doing now.You can never be prepared when it comes to kids, you just try your best trust me.
The only sure thing is moral upbringing and thats the key plus its priceless.

BrightDeGea:
you are right bro but dont get me wrong i am not trying to push them away, i gave them an advice and motivated them to be real men, i am not wicked i just dont want them to be good for nothing besides its my advice that will make them to fight for the office of the governor tomorrow

I get yah but if you said waht you typed out in ur previous post then thats is disrespectful to be honest.,If I ever had an elder bro who spoke to me like that i will never speak to them again.