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luminouz:
Hmmmm...see riches!!!

A lot came from plundering African collective wealth under colonial occupation.
But I guess,its ok to forget... When Africans refuse to even wake up to challenge their own useless leaders

I love Africa with all my heart. Wild,untamed,natural and exotic, the birthplace of the gods.
Africa only has a soul,her heart was lost long ago by her leaders

Stop deluding yourself. How many whites have you seen. Go get educated and improve or rather change your misery

Okay

Ok

bukatyne:
I opened a thread on over emphasis of the girl child.

Hopefully, the world doesn't become too gynocentric that it tilts towards pre-feminism days again.

Hate to tell you were there already

I'll follow

bukatyne:
If you want to open a thread, I will contribute my thoughts on it.

I'm wondering where can be private. Matured adults private Congo on a public forum
I don't care much about peoples comments cause I almost learn nothing from this site. I've been saying this for sometime now

bukatyne:
There is a thread on that here: https://www.nairaland.com/4436386/transactional-vs-validational-sex

I also believe that anyone intending to marry must realize they cannot hoard sex or hold their partners to ransolm via consent or not.

People don't listen objectivity and are quick to pick a stone than listen. Been listening to the marital rape saga since the term was coined and have been following this debate for as long as possible. One thing I find consistent in most cases, is one party hordes it weaponizes it which then creates the atmosphere for forceful getting. To all those pro women 100% queen treatment stand against pro family life values which is both parties are important in the union. This makes me state with boldness that over 90% of marital rape cases the ladies horded intimacy but before marriage they could be sexually free as possible. I think somewhere along the line their passions eroded with their libido in the process of their experimentation leaving their partners to bear the consequence of their actions in marriages. This is besides hoarding sex so I don't see how I'll purely support anyone that is quick to condemn a man in a marriage if he wants sex because marriage itself is consent, and there shouldn't be secondary consent as marital laws places responsibility on both parties to perform their roles as expected in a marriage

Hmm


Are you in Lagos?

bukatyne:
I agree with you.

Thanks

I was going to ask this evening jare. Wanted matured female to discuss with especially around the subject of how females quickly transit from sexually expressive pre marriage to sexual repressed after marriage. This issues are pusing me towards publishing oh. Considering there's no pro Christin life magazine anymore. Its private jets they are pushing upandan. What do you think?

Prices or catalog?

stag:
Lol! Really desperate...

Pls..

There this awkward moment when you’re walking along a corridor and someone is coming directly opposite you. To avoid collision, you step to the right. To also avoid colliding with you, the person steps to one side too. Incidentally, to the right too.
To give way, you step to the left. Almost at the same time, he also innocently steps to the left.

Then the confusion sets in and both of you start going left and right

What’s the English term for it? If you know, quote.

Modified:
Update...

The above is known as ‘Sidewalk Dance’ or ‘Sidewalk Shuffle’

Thanks to nicepoker101

Burst my balls bro

Excessive feminine sympathy is spoiling our ladies rotten worldwide. I'll start the process of leaving this shit hope forum from now.

I've always said it too much knowledge will run this generation mad,everything is reduced to the battle of wits,win the debate and your position stands supreme no matter how crazy your logic and standpoint maybe. Tueh

bukatyne:
This is only a part.

These same women are very sexually expressive before marriage and suddenly feel suppressed in marriage.

I agree that some men also feel their wives shouldn't be expressive, some are selfish, etc.

And a man ejaculating is not same as orgasm.

Now I've been thinking of this lately, sexually expressive and crazy ladies before marriage automatically becoming sexual repressed and suppressed for no justifiable cause. The excessive hype of the value of women whereas the combined value of both parties not been taught empowers this lifestyle I choose to say and believe. I find it very very ddisturbing that due to too much indoctrination, ladies are setting themselves up with prize tags for almost anything even in marriage. What's consent in marriage,if consent is to be sought, then marriage shouldn't be necessary. Marital rights enshrined within the roles and responsibility in marriages should guide the roles of both gender with tolerance and consideration for one another. I find it very disturbing when people want to dictate how couples should ibtimiate. What's more disturbing is 90% of the so called marital rape many times. Started from the position of one party weaponizing their value or hurting the others psychological person hood than otherwise. People are hypocrites. If my daughter doesn't want to have sex in future, then marriage isn't for her. You f she wants to be married she and her husband should choose what works best for them, which is why the choice of who one marries is by far one of the most important choice to make in life when building ones destiny



Cc Missjoy29

LilMissFavvy:
My dear, I try to share my little contributions from time to time, send down down the kunu, cheers.

Come get it in person. Cause each time I see your moniker, I quickly rush down to read ya comment. And . Ah it flows out

Ranchhoddas:
I think there's a cabal on Nairaland especially on this section. Once the cabal is against you you stand no chance. The validity of your arguments nothwisthanding.
Once the cabal is "offended" you are toast.

Yes. Spot on 100%. Once the cabal is against you forget it.

bukatyne:
True change can never happen until we understand what was wrong with the old system and teach people better.

While I understand the emotions of the thread (wives were maltreated etc. etc.), we are going to create another set of problems tilting overboard.

Instead of teaching women that they are not bound to have sex with their husbands or have autonomy over their bodies (which is not true especially in a religious marriage), teach the men to be sensitive, selfless, loving and considerate.

Any other way will create people who will come out to vehemently 'campaign' against it while more men will physically abuse their wives or as 'cool' husbands cheat and ruin the family.

Same problem with women's rights.

Preach. You see why I follow your comments. Objectivity. Note people who think through their emotions and wear their hearts on their slvees. The roap map to change and development starts with doing things differently, and for this to be done differently there has to be an examination of what's not right within a faulty system and then make corrections and improvement. Make no mistake, Africa is stuck in mediocrity, even Nigeria as a result of a laxity to follow through with this learning process.

crackhaus:
Wrong.

The thread was addressing the subject of 'marital rape'. More accurately, what it did was to eliminate the idea that there was even such a thing as marital rape in the first place based on the premise of marriage.
It was a perfect template for a discussion.

In Nigeria, rape is a crime, marital rape isn't.
What rules were broken?

How do we get it to be recognized as a crime as much as 'rape' is, if we don't talk about it?

How can they think objectively when they think through their emotions, that's for the few that even think.

crackhaus:
Lmao.. I tell ya.

Some of them can be so petty, it's hilarious.

My brother all the mods. I've watched them from the sidelines well enough to know the power they arrogate themselves with. Its why the country needs a referendum as soon as possible. Let forward thinking people have their republic and not nr yoked with dimwits.

bukatyne:
If you read the thread, you would note that it did not advocate rape which is sex without consent.

I infact pointed some scenarios in marriage which would have been rape outside of it.

None of my posts have supported barbaric practices against women however, I will continue to highlight their responsibilities.

Husbands are also expected not to deny their wives sex which is not 'rape'.

You think that one you tried so hard to explain to reasons better than an ape. Bully start taking note of comments here and their posters. Coco is drenched in her delusional thinking that one day all men would die living the world with just females alone

cococandy:
It’s obviously against the rules of NL because it’s a statement and not a question or a call to debate.

it just plainly advocates rape (being married doesn’t make it any less rape) even though that was your point. But it still just blatantly said rape was okay.

That being said, I wish the MOD who deleted it would do same for many posts all over NL that support barbaric practices against women. Setting us back thousands of years.

Shut up. I pity young galsbwho pay attention to your rubbish. Nonsense, always extremist with her myopic reasoning.

LilMissFavvy:
Hmm.....it seems you are still convinced there is nothing like marital rape. I think the best advice you can read so far, is that ''you should have paraphrased the Topic as a question, not a statement'', I can recall you even told me it was a statement. Too bad that after I wasted so much time and followed the thread, it's wiped off. Tho am still trying to understand if that thread was worse off than the miseducation threads which I don't even follow, but which I think is much more offensive.

Our very own lil favvy with those juicy advice. Hmm, seems we have promising materials here. Sips kunu

crackhaus:
Someone with an undiagnosed psychological problem reported it to 'her' supermod buddy. The supermod feeling invincible because he/she possesses imaginary powers & relevance otherwise lacking in the real world, deleted it as requested.

Welcome to NL where free speech is not actually free speech if it hurts the feelings of a moderator, or the feelings of someone who's close to a moderator. You're even lucky you were not banned.

And these are the same people that complain about government abusing their powers.

You almost made me crack my ribs with laughter from reading this. You're actually spot on. Once a mods feelings or the feelings of people close to the mods are touched, you'll be more than lucky not to have your bank akkant broken . If its the popular one, you're dead, they'll twist things to fit their narrative. No matter what goes down,you'll take the fall

OK.

BarrElChapo:
Small small the truth don dey come out

Very funny. You dig some serious digging to reach this his comment before you made this comment. Lolz. You no trust the guy one bit

I've been in your shoes more than ten times on the forum