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truthsayer009:
A lot of people giving advises on a thread who have not even experienced this kind of Love before LMAO.

There are percentage levels in falling in Love, whether you accept it or not, there are some people you meet & love but not necessarily crazy about them. A lot of Women haven't met this kind of Men, because the average female list is ridiculous & when they eventually meet someone who tops their list, they become crazy.

I will advise that you don't go ahead with someone you're crazy about, they'll definitely use it against you [If they don't feel same way].
Humans naturally like to take others for granted, this has nothing to do with Wickedness, It's just a natural human trait.

wirinet:
You guys need to engage in some sort of mental exercises to improve your cognitive skills. Maybe learn to play chess.
Where did I ask anyone to support my claims. On the contrary, I am looking for people to dispute it.

MariaLavina:
Love wey dey give someone bp, that one nah love?


Dear Op, there is a thin line between Love and Infatuation.Love in it's natural state is calm, gentle, harmless and a continuous process (it grows) sometimes it is invincible (these are the times we doubt those who love us) Love grows with communication but never relies on it to exist. It puts the other first but does not destroy one's health, love is sacrificial, patient, kind and understanding (it gives the choice for it's feeler to make decisions, I.e it does not becloud one's reasoning) While infatuation on the other hand is the opposite of all I described.

Now, is what you are feeling bad? well, I can't answer that for you but what I know it is dangerous.If you go on with your man this way, believe me Sis you are bargaining for short life. You see in every relationship there will be challenges. Challenges that sometimes only logic can solve. For example how will you handle it if one day your husband is held up in a very tight meeting with the new pretty CEO recently transferred to his company and he is unable to pick his calls? Or what if suddenly your man brings up these strange attitudes you don't understand (men do that a lot sis) Or if your man is being sent on errand or on a course by his company? Sis think. How will you cope will this overflowing feelings of yours?.


Can your Situation be helped? Yes! if I were in your shoes, i will take a step backward and think. My First question will be: Why do I feel this way? If you know the cause, you know the solution.

The next question: Who is my man? Now you have to know who he really is. Is he worth the stress? Even if I love him more than he loves me, is he giving his all?
The most important question:Is he likely to take advantage of my emotions.Ma, if you are certain he won't take advantage of your feelings and emotions then get him involved. Open up your fears and tell him about the effect his love has on you but do it in a matter of fact way (business likely) if you talk to him in a romantic settings believe me lots of things will be swept under the carpet.So be Woman enough .


That said, please whatever you decide, your health first. Only one who is alive can love. I wish you luck.

ibkayee:
Lool and ooh wow violence

ibkayee:
Lol what is single sounding about it?

Nah I’m not single

ibkayee:
Lol I’ve been to Naija before plenty of times, plus a lot of my friendship/acquaintance circles consist of Nigerians, as well as family so the ‘aura’ isn’t new to me. I’m already familiar with the madness

ibkayee:
Lol joker

ibkayee:
Lol you know what?

I am British but I was playing when I said it here, I will always also consider myself Nigerian lol

Lol I have a love hate relationship with Naija so I can never fully disassociate myself

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ibkayee:
Lol

ibkayee:
Lol I’m female

ibkayee:
Lol I’m not home based first of all, I’m Bri’ish

Second of all I’m gay

Preshy561:
Lol. Babe, an average income earner in 9ja lives a very comfortable life here. Those people over there live on credit, lool. Tax don kill them finish. The only difference is that there are basic amenities there which we clearly lack here.
Forget about UK paparazzi, those guys live from hand to mouth.

RandyX:
Hi Nairaland, I'm helping a friend post this.

A good looking 6ft 1 tall, 31 year old friend of mine who lives in the UK wants to come to Nigeria after his 32nd birthday to establish a serious relationship with the girl of his dreams possibly leading to marriage. He would like to meet a young lady of between 22 - 26 years of age who has graduated first degree from a university or would be graduating soon. She would be at least 5ft 5 (170cm) and above. She would be intelligent, smart, good looking and a Christian from a good home. If you fit the description kindly send an email to classicbachelor@yahoo.com with a picture of yourself and the following.

1. A brief introduction of yourself
2. Age and month of birth
3. What you want to achieve within the next 5 years
4. If you would prefer to relocate to UK or remain in Nigeria.
5. Your social media handle (if any).

Please don't send me a private message as I do not have access to the email I registered on nairaland. Send to classicbachelor@yahoo.com, when he sees it he will respond. Meanwhile if you have any questions feel free to comment here and ask.

stupidity:
Why not include his picture here. To know if he’s flat headed or with everlasting marks on the face

Paperwhite:
The tyranny of the 1983-1985 era is back.God help Nigeria as it help itself.

Antoeni:
The Commission’s monitoring reports on AIT/Raypower indicate the use of divisive comments accredited to the segment of “Kakaaki”, tagged, “Kakaaki Social”, where inciting comments like, “Nigeria is cursed, we declare independent state of Niger Delta”, “Nigeria irritates me”, “this country is gradually Islamizing” and other similar slogans are used without editorial control in breach of the broadcast.
Nice one NBC It’s in Order

Kenfil:
Nah home cooking o. I usually cook and freeze stuffs like soups and stew, make a life easier

bukatyne:
Men and women are supposed to be humble.

Humility is one very important virtue every Christian must have, but you need to possess it in a way that glorifies God. Here are 10 times the bible talked about being humble.

1. Philippians 2: 3-11 : Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men...

2. James 4:6 : But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

3. Luke 14: 11 : For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.

4. Proverbs 22:4 : The reward for humility and fear of the Lord is riches and honor and life.

5. 1 Peter 5:6 : Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you...

6. Romans 12:3 : For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.

7. Colossians 3:12 : Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.

8. Proverbs 11:12 : When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.

9. 1 Peter 5:5 : Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."

10. Jeremiah 9:23 : Thus says the Lord: “Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches
https://www.pulse.ng/communities/religion/lesson-time-10-things-the-bible-say-about-humility/tk4p83s


Leave the average Nigerian man alone and you will know peace.

kenzosky:
What's this Dogorara guy inhaling.

mrsthang:
@uyaiincomparabl

Dictionary meaning: Submission is the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.

Some people are born and are naturally able to accept husband as authority,others are born and question it.

There are men who naturally do not want to be head of anything,they are happy to hand over that role to their woman and simply let her lead the home.

There are women who naturally take charge and seamlessly manage their home and others who want to sit back and let all the decisions be made by their man.

There are also men who are born to lead,who make decisions without being questioned about it and their homes are still great.

Again,there's another couple who live as the wind blows,take charge in doing and making decisions based on what you're good at

There is no shame in any of the above scenarios.None is better than the other,I think the key is finding what works for you and finding a partner that fits into your ideology.

Personally,I have never agreed with the word simply because I do not believe people should lead based on genit alia..

When 2 people come together and learn to acknowledge their different strengths,headship, neckship or tailship won't really matter I think.

I was raised by a very submissive mother,she spent her time teaching me that it is the acceptable way.My father is the typical you must be submissive male,his own method of leading, interesting.He was good at making decisions,but he left the people under his authority seething with resentment.

I didn't understand how despite having such a submissive wife,they were and still are at complete logger heads. Perhaps this colored my view.

I struggled all my life to fit into this acceptable mould,was labelled stubborn by male counterparts and told I would never be able to live "under" a man.


Eventually,i learned to accept and do me and then went on to marry a man who isn't concerned about submission but is more interested in peace and quiet at home. Almost at 10 years of marriage.



I have learned that we all have different capabilities and once we identify those, whomever is better at one role takes charge when it's time to execute it,that way I contribute my best when it's my turn and the husband contributes his when it's his turn.

My husband sometimes struggles with his own indoctrination that a man should lead,it's all he's known since birth but within himself,nature has made him more of a mellow personality who would rather sit back and let someone else crack their heads while he gets on with other things.


We are all so beautifully made, similar but with so many differences.

Whatever choice you make, however you live, it is fine as long as you are happy.

No matter how submissive or dominant you are,marriage will always have it's own niggles.

Forget what people say or think, work out what is best for you and your partner.

In my opinion,that's all that matters.

If we all learn to respect other people's choices and not see our way as the wrong or right way,there would be more cohesion and this conversation wouldn't even happen.

Cheers!