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Politics / Re: Sculpture Of Aisha Yesufu By Emmanuel Omoregie, UNIBEN Final Year Student by Ethannathan(m): 10:12pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
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Politics / Re: Cleaner Lagos: Sanwo-olu Launches 102 Locally Assembled Compactor Trucks by Ethannathan(m): 11:21pm On Aug 04, 2021 |
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Family / Parents Who Raise Confident, Mentally Strong Kids Always Do These 3 Things by Ethannathan(m): 8:02am On Jul 16, 2021 |
As parents, we want our kids to feel good about themselves, so we try to praise them as much as possible. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Research shows that there are benefits to praising kids. A simple compliment can generate self-worth and pride. However, it depends on what kind of praise we give, as well as when and how frequently. As a psychotherapist who works with parents and children, I’ve seen over and over again the negative effects of overpraising a child’s talent or outcome (“This looks amazing!” “You’re so handsome!” “Good job!”). But these short, exaggerated reactions can cause kids to only focus on things that may harm their self-esteem. They might feel performance anxiety (“If I get this answer wrong, I am dumb”), for example, or believe that they are only appreciated for their appearance (“What if people think I look weird in this shirt? Then they won’t love me”). So should you praise your kids at all? Of course. But there are right and wrong ways to give praise. Here’s what parents of confident, self-motivated and mentally strong kids always do: 1. They praise the process When you praise the process (e.g., the kid putting effort into a math assignment), instead of the talent or outcome (e.g., the kid’s natural ability to solve math problems quickly), kids are more likely to develop a positive attitude toward future challenges. In the 1990s, Carol S. Dweck, a professor of psychology at Stanford’s Graduate School of Education, studied the effects of these types of praises. In one experiment, a group of children was told they were successful because they were smart, while the second group was told they were successful because they worked hard. When the two groups were given a variety of puzzles, children in the second group were more likely to choose a harder puzzle. Dweck also found that praising the process made them more likely to feel confident in a task even if they made a mistake. 2. They never make it a competition Parents love to compare — we can’t help it! And sometimes, we’ll even tell our kids that they’re better than others (“You scored more goals than all your teammates combined!”). Often, it’s done with good intentions. We want them to feel as proud as we do, and to be motivated to do even better the next time ... but for all the wrong reasons. It’s not healthy to be trapped in a vicious cycle of competition. Social comparisons can teach kids to always measure success based on the outcomes of other people. Even worse, according to research, giving kids praise in terms of comparison, in some cases, can cultivate narcissism, attention-seeking behavior and a lack of teamwork values. The better approach? Encourage them to compare their past efforts with their present efforts, rather than with other people. This gets them into the habit of shifting their goals away from being better than everyone else and toward self-improvement. 3. They use observational language Instead of saying, “That’s so good!”, you may want to say, “I love the colors in your painting. Tell me more about why you chose them.” (This is what it means to praise the process.) Another example: Instead of saying, “You looked like a pro riding that bike!,” parents of motivated kids might say something like, “You were so careful and focused while riding your bike. Even when you wobbled a bit and almost fell off, you kept going! That was cool to watch.” These simple language tweaks can help your kids feel proud of themselves for putting effort into something. It can also make them more excited to take on more challenging things in the future. Lastly, it’s important to create an environment of emotional safety. If your child failed a spelling test, refrain from telling them they should have studied harder. Instead, ask them what they think they can do to improve next time. Kids need to know that they can come to their parents not just when they’ve done something well, but also when they are struggling with a specific task or challenge. 1 Like |
Travel / Re: Construction Linking Bonny Island By Road (Photos) by Ethannathan(m): 4:32pm On Jul 13, 2021 |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Ex-colombian Soldiers, US Bodyguard Involved In Moise's Assassination by Ethannathan(m): 6:00pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
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Politics / Re: Yoruba Nation Agitators Give FG 7-day Ultimatum To Release Arrested Igboho Aides by Ethannathan(m): 9:23am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Career / Re: What Money-Making Skill Do You Have Or Wish To Learn? by Ethannathan(m): 9:17am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Web design 1 Like 1 Share |
Phones / Re: Let's See Your Phone Home-screen (screenshot) by Ethannathan(m): 11:56am On Jun 29, 2021 |
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Travel / Re: Several feared dead as Explosion Rocks Benue by Ethannathan(m): 7:54am On Jun 29, 2021 |
Politics / Re: Ijelespeaks Who Exposes Nnamdi Kanu Got This In 24hours - PHOTOS by Ethannathan(m): 7:50am On Jun 29, 2021 |
Politics / Re: FG Extends NIN-SIM Verification Deadline Till July 26 by Ethannathan(m): 7:47am On Jun 29, 2021 |
Politics / Re: 2023: INEC Launches Online Portal For Voters To Register by Ethannathan(m): 6:32am On Jun 25, 2021 |
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Phones / Re: Leaked Image Of The First Infinix Device With Wireless Charging by Ethannathan(m): 6:31am On Jun 25, 2021 |
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Investment / Re: Chaka Receives SEC License For Stock Trading In Nigeria by Ethannathan(m): 9:17pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Health / Re: Man Commits Suicide In Delta State, Says 'I Will Die Today, I Hate Family' by Ethannathan(m): 12:22pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
eTen94:true talk,no money no love |
Family / Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Ethannathan(m): 5:10pm On Jun 20, 2021 |
If you brother cannot pay his bride price with his hustle, he is not ready for marriage 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Please Which Song Can You Recommend For Someone With Fresh Heartbreak? by Ethannathan(m): 11:37pm On Jun 01, 2021 |
Toni braxton - Unbreak my heart. Heartbreak Anniversary - Giveon We Belong Together - Mariah Carey Since U Been Gone - Kelly Clarkson 3 Likes |
Sports / Re: Liverpool Join Sevilla, Others In Race For Onuachu by Ethannathan(m): 6:28pm On May 25, 2021 |
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Crime / Re: Gunmen Burn Iwollo-Oghe Police Station In Enugu, 5 Dead by Ethannathan(m): 3:12pm On May 25, 2021 |
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Sports / Re: Onauchu Wins Belgian Pro League Player Of The Year Award by Ethannathan(m): 5:50am On May 25, 2021 |
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Family / Re: What Is That Thing Your Neighbour Does You Don't Like? by Ethannathan(m): 8:53pm On May 17, 2021 |
My neighbor na CNN and home wrecker. She fit use 2hrs walk 5 poles spreading both fake and real news, infact her nickname plenty e.g Glo,CNN,NTA etc. Just come a mile close to our Avenue ask of Any of the above names, them go take u come her house. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Sports / Re: Man City Players Celebrate First Champions League Final In Dressing Room by Ethannathan(m): 6:51am On May 05, 2021 |
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Family / Re: Help My Drunk Dad Before He Kills Himself..!!! by Ethannathan(m): 3:58pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Can you flog your dad cos he is a drunk and he misbehaves? If you can,I've gat no word for you MrOjay1: |
Forum Games / Re: Solve This If You Can by Ethannathan(m): 3:21pm On Jun 24, 2020 |
1 shoe =5 + man and pair of shoes =15 * 1 popcorn = 2(5+15*2)=40 |
Politics / Re: The Full List Of All The 371 Tribes In Nigeria by Ethannathan(m): 10:44am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Okpe delta state, okpe is similar to urhobo just like isoko is similar to urhobo |
Sports / Re: Nigerian Striker Dele Bashiru Leaves Man City To Join Watford by Ethannathan(m): 6:36am On Jul 25, 2019 |
Good move bro 1 Like |
Sports / Re: AFCON 2019: Who Faces Who In Round Of 16? by Ethannathan(m): 10:02am On Jul 04, 2019 |
We are going thru |
Celebrities / Re: 5 Nigerian Artistes Who Were Once Popular And Why They Left by Ethannathan(m): 12:15pm On Jun 27, 2019 |
sharpwriter:Yahooze is 2007 1 Like |
Science/Technology / Re: Common Snake In Eti-Osa Area Of Lagos: Is It Venomous Or Poisonous? by Ethannathan(m): 3:20pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
Garter or Ribbon snake - Garter snakes were long thought to be nonvenomous, but discoveries in the early 2000s revealed they do, in fact, produce a neurotoxic venom.[6] Despite this, garter snakes cannot kill humans with the small amounts of comparatively mild venom they produce, and they also lack an effective means of delivering it 1 Like |
Education / Re: "Ant" Trends Among Nigerians On Social Media And It's Hilarious by Ethannathan(m): 8:43am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Ant wen don change from bad to good - repentant |
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