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LadyBeee:
Admin please approve my post. I'm seriously troubled these days because all I'm meeting are broke guys asking for my hand in marriage. I don't really know what gives them the impression that I have money. I met one who told me bluntly that I should take care of him and if I want us to get married today, I should go ahead and do the necessary things that he knows I'm very capable. I met another one who started showing me his account balance on our first date and what he had was just 7k in his account, So I asked him why he was showing me , then he said he just wanted to let me know his financial status. I didn't have a problem with that because I'm not after his money until I caught him going through my account statements on my phone, that was the day I ended the relationship. I met another guy who said he works with FAAN, I was so glad that my misery has come to an end. At least, this one has a good job and would be buoyant, but it wasn't for long as not up to 3 weeks, the guy asked me to borrow him 50k that he wanted to pay his school fees. I was confused and I asked him to explain things to me. He said he isn't a graduate and he's just working as a driver with FAAN and studying part time. I said it's fine but I don't have any money to borrow him. He changed his attitude towards me. What could be wrong? I'm really troubled

Lolzzzz.. Is this meant to be a joke?

Celebrityblog:
See all her sexy braless and cleavage photos HERE

Joblessness everywhere.

Lexusgs430:
You have a friend that is into fraudulent activities, he approaches you to open an account or series of accounts at your address...... Would you allow him?

But the guy said that he never knew his friend was into such... Guy shit happens

Lexusgs430:
Or are you saying he does not know his friend was a fraudster?

The friend got no job, but spending money like water........ Was it blood money or his father is a magician?

And what makes you feel that all fraudsters spend money recklessly?

My dear some are very very smart not to follow the usual lifestyle of fraudsters.... Moreover what happens to victim of circumstance?

Pope22:
Yes sir

Pls mind the advice you take.. Why ll money attract a good girl?

My dear it ll simply attract very fake people around you...I ll advise you pray that God brings a good girl your way now while you are still hussling... Cos when that money comes getting a good girl wldnt be that easy cos it ll take only God to save you from fake ladies forming good girls

SmellySperm:
Go and hustle my friend, ur money will attract dem

So sorry you are wrong...it ll still attract the fake ones

Pope22:
Bro, God will provide

GOD ALREADY PROVIDED BUT YOU TOOK THEM FOR GRANTED.. SO WAIT FOR THE NEXT AVAILABLE ONE WHENEVER SHE APPEARS

famouscargo4u:
I HAD TO GO BACK TO A GIRL I LEFT IN THE UNIVERSITY. ALL THESE SLAY QUEENS ARE JUST GOOD FOR GIRLFRIENDS.

And she accepted?

revolt:
She Wil never respect u. Simple

Not true

Saffi:
The reason why it works for him is because he is stinkingly rich, the submission will always be there. This can’t work for the average joe, just saying.

Not correct

haladadon:
it's better to marry a woman who's closer to menopause so that she won't be able to have children for you and watch her desperate to please you while you keep going for younger girls.

YOU SHALL BE SURPRISED

MGab25:
Being in the friend zone means you've screwed up, probably right from the beginning or just along the line. It really hurts and might go the extra mile to give you sleepless nights that you wonder why exactly you've gone wrong — while still going wrong.

In the friend zone, she’s feeling absolutely no attraction for you and she’s thinking of you only as a friend and NOTHING MORE.
It's widely believed that once you get yourself in that hell hole called friend zone, you're forever in the friend zone and that nothing you do can get you away from there.

This sucks but I know where you’re at and how you’re feeling about it; I'm here not just to prove you wrong but to also help you get yourself out of there.

Trying to talk your way out of the friend zone, attempting to convince her of what a great guy you are, why you’re better than that “jerk” she likes, and what a big mistake she’s making by not seeing how “good” of a guy you are is something that won’t work and won’t get you anywhere closer to dating her.

The phrase “actions speak louder than words” comes into play big time when you’re trapped in the friend zone because your ACTIONS are what put you in the friend zone in the first place.

This part one of the ways to get the hell out of that shit hole called "friend zone", seem to have in common (behaviorally speaking) how you can change your behaviour towards that girl so as to leave that dark and lonely room.

1. Accept That You’re In the Friend Zone – Don’t Lie To Yourself

– Accept the reality of the situation.
– Accept that YOUR ACTIONS put you there.
– Accept that you won’t EVER escape the friend zone unless you change your thinking, actions, and habits.
– Accept that, for one reason or another, she doesn’t want the type of guy you’re being and something about it doesn’t make her “feel” attraction for you.
– Accept that the only way you’ll ever escape the friend zone is to change your thoughts, behavior, and habits around her and all other women.
– The problem isn’t women and that they don’t appreciate a “great” guy like you.
– The problem isn’t the other guys who are “jerks” and “bad boys"
– The problem isn’t that the world doesn’t work the way it’s “supposed to”.

In any situation, acceptance is the first step to overcoming that situation.

2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
She doesn’t want a guy who has a “poor me” attitude and she’s definitely not going to let you out of the friend zone because she feels sorry for you.

– Don’t feel sorry for yourself.
– Don’t be mad at yourself.
– Don’t feel like you’re a loser.
– Don’t feel like women will never like you as more than a friend.

You’ll only make your mental state worse and getting out of the friend zone will become that much harder.
So when you accept where you’re at, just tell yourself, “Ok it’s cool. I’m not upset and I’m not going to beat myself up. I got myself into this and I’ll get myself out of it.”


3. Stop obsessing over her
If she’s on your mind the second you wake up, every minute of every hour of every day, and you’re constantly staring at her pictures on Facebook, it’s too much.
It’s kind of creepy and, over time, not healthy.

– Get a life and become so busy that the last thing you have time for is to think about her.
– Get rid of her photos from the “downloads” section of your phone that you stole off of Facebook.
– Stop stalking her on Facebook to see what she’s doing, where she’s at, what she’s posted, or who she’s talking to.
– Stop talking about her and asking about her when you’re around mutual friends.


4. Reduce the frequency at which you call her
If you want the level of attraction she feels for you to change drastically, you have to stop calling and texting so much.

You have to give her a break.
You have to chill out.
She’s not going anywhere.
You’re not going to die if you don’t talk to her for a while.
She’s not going to be worried sick that something happened to you.
You need to create what I’ve heard Frank Kern call a “pattern interrupt”.
If the pattern is that you call and text every damn day, you need to interrupt the pattern by not calling and texting her every day.
You need to interrupt the pattern of her only seeing you as a friend by disappearing and making her go, “Whoa. Where did he go? I haven’t heard a peep from him for a week.”

Not calling and texting so much will GET HER ATTENTION and interrupt that pattern she has of you in her mind.
When you catch her attention, she’s now paying attention to you more than she normally does.


5. Become More of A Challenge – Make Her Work For It
She’s automatically going to throw you in the friend zone when you’re WAY too easy.
She doesn’t want way too easy.
She doesn’t want you to lay down and say, “I’m all yours! Come and get it!”
It’s not worth her time if it’s not a challenge for her.


Have you ever noticed that she seems to be way more interested in the guys who talk to other women, have a girlfriend, or even a WIFE way more than a guy who’s throwing himself at her?
You ever notice she’s way more interested in the guy who has more female options and won’t settle for just any woman?

Well, that's because women are VERY competitive by nature.
They want the guy that all the other women want.
They want the guy who won’t just let her have him so easily.
You think women put on all that make-up and dress real sexy when they go out only for the guys?

They’re also doing it so no other “bitches” look better than them. Don’t believe me? Ask a very attractive woman who gets a lot of male attention. Women want to win and they don’t want other “bitches” getting what they can’t have.

So when you stop calling and texting so much, that’s your first step to becoming harder to get.
That’s showing her you’re no longer “in her back pocket” and you’re not so easy anymore.


6. Become more unpredictable
Telling her your life story IS NOT what makes her feel attraction for you.

– It’s not what makes her think you’re an amazing man.
– It’s not what makes her want to hop in bed with you.
– It’s not what makes her want you as “more than a friend”.

Telling her your life story takes all of the mystery, excitement, and wonder out of the equation and just leaves her with you – a guy who told her everything there is to know and now she’s bored.
Think about what makes someone so fun, exciting, and cool when you meet them and makes you want to hang out with them all of the time – it’s because you’re getting to know them!

If they told you everything there is to know within the first day of meeting them, you wouldn’t be as excited anymore to hang out with them and you probably wouldn’t have as much fun with them.

When you’re not mysterious, she’ll find you boring, dull, unexciting, she’ll have nothing left to “wonder” about, and she’ll automatically stick you in the friend zone.
SHE WANTS the fun and excitement of not knowing everything about you.
So stop opening your mouth about the details of your life.

Logical thinking convinces you that the less she knows about you, the less she’ll want to hang around you but the opposite is actually true.
The less she knows, the more “fun” she’ll have getting to know you.


7. Give a room to miss you
So when you disappear for a while and you quit calling and texting so much, you are giving her the opportunity to miss you, think about you, and wonder about you.
You’re interrupting the pattern in her mind and she’s feeling a void in her life because your behavior is changing.
Her mind switches from what she was doing to “What happened to...?”
And before you know it, she’s missing you and wants to talk to you to know how you’re doing, what you’re doing, and who you’re doing it with.
Women are very curious by nature and you must use her curiosity to your advantage in order to start pulling yourself out of that friend zone. You must stand out by being absent.


To be continued...


READ MORE HERE:https://www.yugo.com.ng/2018/10/calculated-ways-to-leave-friend-zone.html

Ladies could also be friend-zoned too

RTSC:
Have you ever noticed that ladies don't friend zone rich guys,.

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Some ladies do...

LordIsaac:
Hmmm...we shall have peace 20years after Obasanjo and his generation phases off. God will keep us till then.

'The gods' (God) cannot do for man what man can do for himself..


TAKE CHARGE

Nicklaus619:
Have u heard about
Cervical cancer, Anal warts, Respiratory papillomatosis, Carcinoma of the anus to mention but a few, those are the infection you risk contacting when you do wat your About to do. Ask ya self dose one day enjoyment really wort it.

Lolzzzz. Very funny but blunt and true.


I ll go with you

arabbunkum:
Mr Abegunde from Western Nigeria must have committed the crime because that's what they are good at.

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How? Pls read again

Lexusgs430:
The friend and associate of a fraudster, is equally a fraudster.....

When his friend(s) used his address for wire - wire, why did he not grass him up?

Simply answer...... He was also due a commission.........

He might not know...His friend used his address to open an account so he said... So it's possible he wasn't aware of the purpose of the account..

Pls do not be too quick to judge

Waksdabos:
Reading all these comments is so touching. What more can l say. May God favour every one next year. A graduate, jobless, frustrated & will be 30 next year with NOTHING to show. Got great ideas to make money but constrained by finance! ONLY GOD CAN SAVE ME FROM THIS MESS.

He sure ll....That's why He is GOD

Shalom

ominilongest:
Wish I could fast forward the days left and jump to 2019,lost my dad lost my mom lost everything, every month whip my ass in different ways that I start to wonder if there's a God somewhere.. Not celebrating shit can't just wait till hear happy new year and start a new life, a year I wil never forget

IT IS WELL WITH YOUR SOUL...MAY THE PEACE OF GOD THAT PASSES ALL UNDERSTANDING BE WITH YOU NOW AND EVERMORE

Donpenny:
I missed Germany visa, miss an uncle phone call who want to help get an FG work after missing the visa I called him back to explain my reason he was furious on phone told am not serious the slot has been given to someone else. I felt useless and frustrated for months still got tormented at times by all these thought look for comfort in formication to wipe away depression and ill feeling got entangle to a Yoruba girl now she is claiming pregnancy she vowed never to abort and am not ready to settle down in this shit hole and raise my children. Am bitter

Hmmmmmm......She must not abort...but explain to her that you are nt ready to settle down yet.... I believe she ll get to understand that ... Seek help from your family

papyskinsy:
bro as an IT guy.. web developer python..

To mak it worse am. bin shouted at and threatened that I might lose the job.. am not even given time to do anything else.. as I work. Saturday and Sundays..

The company Location is in Lagos

May God epp me..

He sure ll .Just hold on

papyskinsy:
Earning 10k as a Graduate

Pls don't give up...Just your humble beginning..
Better years ahead...Cheer up

Paruz1015:
I Resigned from my job with the hope of getting an employment letter from a company I had done and passed the assessment exam,interview,medicals and documentation with. The company business is actually in line with my career and the pay was good. I was told by a staff of the company that immediately medical and documentation is done, employment is sure. The next day I sent my resignation letter and that turned out to be the worse decision I have ever made in my Life. After I sent the mail, the HR came to my office to promise an increase pay but i was determined to go. After the expiration of my resignation notice, I was yet to get a call from the company. I called them and was told they are having some internal issues and once it's resolved I would be called. I am still waiting up to this day.

IT IS WELL

Awonla:
No job after Nysc 2years now, I just want to venture into IT, need an expertise to nurture me into becoming a real IT guru. No place to stay in Lagos, just not feeling good about life. 2nd interview didn’t come in since we went for the first at Alexander Forbes and I was sent success email, heard from a former employee there that they have taken some applicant same thing with fidelity, Just feed up with life, May God help me.

Keep keeping on...it's well

PrettyCrystal:
The young man who became an online sensation after after pictures of himself and several ladies surfaced on the internet, has been identified and has also spoken out. 

The 21-year-old man named Moses Brave Pempelani Sakala who comes from Chipata, Zambia, has reportedly broken a record of the most polygamous young man in Zambia, with about 23 sexual partners he currently has, all from Facebook.

According to Zambian Observer, the young man is currently sleeping with 23 girlfriends, most of them are from university students, especially University of Zambia (UNZA). " I also enjoy student nurses from APEX" he added.

"I am a student at UNZA, and just here, i have slept with 46. I am currently screwing 23", he said.

"I have so far slept with 147 girls since I was 14", he reportedly said happily.

"I love girls...and they love me too. My target is 500 before I reach 30", he said.

See more; https://www.nationalhelm.co/2018/12/moses-brave-pempelani-sakala-zambian-man-who-has-23-girlfriends.html

Never mind..we ll read the end of this

reicherMan:
Source: https://www.mediahelm.com.ng/2018/12/hijab-9-year-old-pupil-drags-ogun.html

I just wonder why these schools bother themselves with these unnecessary issues...

'NO ADMISSION FOR MUSLIMS STUDENTS' solves the issue here..

Jonathan:
Christians are the most intolerant set of people in Nigeria

Go build your own schools and set your rules...isn't that better?

Decryptor:
Girl...it's a man's world okay? That's why we do what we do! If ya don't like it, go for a sex change

Too bad

Awoo88:
Get well soon

IS YOUR 'OTAPIAPIA ' NOT EFFECTIVE ENOUGH?

WaffenSS:
Because idiots do exist

And you're proof

OF COURSE I M A PROOF BUT AFTER YOU ON THE QUEUE...STUPID

mikejj:
good evening have you eaten.

Yes of course ... Only waiting to see who ll feed you... Skinny bone

IamD18:
And one idiotic olosho disguising as girlfriend will want to reap where she did not sow.

PLS LEAVE WOMEN ALONE...FACE YOUR LIFE...IS HE COMPLAINING TO YOU?