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Possibly drunk and high.

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olu4life:
D Law sorry o, but I see loads of loopholes in this woman story. By the way, OP ONLY COMPLAINED ABOUT PAYING SCHOOL FEES BUT NEVER COMPLAINED ABOUT THE CHILDREN BEING WITH THEIR FATHER. Its comments that got her thinking of getting the children back since she will still pay. Abeg make una reason her matter wella. I feel she is not responsible enough to have the children in care and she is comfortable wit it. PLS READ D OPENING POST AGAIN

You know I thought about the point you typed in CAPS ...

Fight for kids custody or Fight for visitation rights?

Is op ready to care for those kids before fighting for them? My friend couldn't and she's a damn great mom. She Flew those kids every midterm and fall long breaks (3 months straight) for holidays. They turned out great so far so good, the girl was a virgin @grd 12 and the boys didn't give them any problem. He did something right I guess.

@OP, Think it through dear, doesn't matter what society think of you. He is responsible for those kids upbringing as you are.

pickabeau1:
LOL... now that is some weird ish
IF (with a big IF) that story is true, I wish that lady d best. However I am really concerned about her life in that home
She could be poisoned by those two.

The likey likey crew... you know them

I saw a broadcast last week about the freak snow in your hood. They called off some NHL game

I wish her well too. Very Pathetic.

Likey likey multimonikers Crew

Yes . snow in summer. What a disaster. Are you a NHL fan?

bukatyne:
You mean female posters just see your moniker and decide they want to hate you or you both clashed as a result of difference in opinions and you both maintain coldness thereafter?

You also mean a lot of females are backstabbers excluding you and your group of friends?

Just seeking clarification

You don't have to respond to every post on a thread because you created it. You know very well we don't gel so why did you quote me? And yes, I can comment on any thread on NL because I can.

So guess what, I owe you/Noone no clarification.

naijababe:
# Ewuro4
Paadi mi, mabinu o but mehn I laughed out loud at this post, na wa o. Wetin you do am?

Hahaha Padi mi , Na so I see am oh. She's pardoned. Na kid.

pickabeau1:
So a thread to discuss a possible generalization on women being their own enemies has been turned by the same women into a male bashfest and of course insult other women

can we now say women are everyone's enemies aside their family members

Well except the ones that sleep with their female relative husbands. And No they aren't crazy.

So, I guess you can say the bold They will laugh with themselves but deep inside them is evil. Gosh I can't deal. 99.99% of hate posts on this thread are liked by women. Go figure

aflyingbird:
did u make that ? thumbs up

Thank you.

Yes , I always make my dessert .

aflyingbird:
yum ! i luv perogies !

Thank you.

It's bacon and cheese filling too. They love it.

TooNoisy:
She is too young for me to notice her. If she is able to graduate with a 2-1, I can offer her a job in my company.

How are you though?

I'm doing great. Got busy at work. Nice weather here. How are you?

Same here. Good luck to you , she sounds like a shait stirrer, I won't grant her an a ordinary phone interview. I dunk her Resume in the trash can like a basketball.

She looks like my tween daughter wetin I wan follow that wan tok biko? She's a freaking teenager??

Emaprince:
now, that's an honest woman. You deserve a kiss on the cheek.

Thanks buddy Truth is bitter.

Ohhh I just licked emaprince's ass

Like I give a fvck

VictoriaBee:
She stated her opinion? Agreed!
Just the way other guy stated his opinion and was attacked by dudes here.

That frustrated soul has an alternate moniker "Toonoisy" that she use to hype herself and insult other women because they are not asslickers like her.

i'm off Nairaland. I have an exam to write.

Toonoisy come see your worst enemy oh.

I don't even know where to start with you, without being called a bully. Girl go and read your books jare.

Emaprince:
wow, that's a good news. Lmfao.

I thought men are the only ones that pays for child support? Good to know that tables can be turned.

It works both way jare, though more prevalent than the other... He didn't work too even when those kids are well off to care for themselves. Gosh is he ever lazy? Well it's over now, no more freeload.

OP, take him to a family court. You have same visitation/custody rights as he does.

SAMBARRY:
of course I didn't read the book but the film na heavy load of disappointment

Out of curiosity, what exactly do you expect?

VictoriaBee:
Offline? I don't know about your life.

Online? Nairaland? No woman keep you as an enemy but you did with numerous women from what i've seen since my "vickyyb" moniker. Reasons been;
-Some are married and living happily with their husband, and still a feminist e.g Cococandy, bukatyne.
-We don't lick men ass like you do.

No one keep you as an enemy but you did, due to your senseless jealousy and buttlicking. You need to re-evaluate your life.

Hehe .. when was your last visit to the dentist?

FriedPlantain:
True, even Iceprince is way richer than Lil Wayne.

Lol. Wetin consain una for lil Wayne palava

Good night.

Beetle:
Ewuro, there've been many debates about telling children where they come from. Even people that have donated sperm or egg feel they have to tell the child. Some people believe in Epigenetics where the child start looking like them as a result of carrying the child even though scientifically it ain't theirs to start with.

With adoption I have to tell the child, the child can't even bear my surname because of religious stand on this. A child is named after the dad not after the adopted dad. So who am I fooling. Some people get away with this but as Africans there's always someone poke nosing somewhere that's the reason there's an influx of people believing they are pregnant from going to one local woman in the village and hereby being given children that was never theirs.

Until our views change as Africans then there will also be people cutting corners. Oyibbo go tell you wherethe child came from, will also tell u say na in husband dey suffer from MF sef in front of husband but are we ready as blacks to do same? No I don't think so.

Hmm back to bed to some round 2 sleep.

Have a nice day everyone!

My dear , I perfectly understand the adverse implication of hiding such vital info from an adopted child. Absolutely, hiding such info is setting a child up for future psychological dilemma.

The bone of contention here is the nosy society . The crucial need to convince some random neighbours/ nobodies about the child's genuine conception. I owe no one no explanation whatsoever. That's where the hesitation to Adopt always began, esp in African society.

I agree with you,oyinbo man will announce their newly adopted child's arrival from China , can a Nigerian do same and Why? Yes we need to eradicate and change people's perception Blah blah but as it stands right now.. That's how our society works. We have a long way to go.

Beetle, If I may ask , why can't a legally adopted child bear adopters Family name? I'm keen to know the biblical take on this.


Have a great day jare ( Bedtime here)

Firstimer:
mtcheeeeeeewww

hehe

Kids..

Perogies, onions, peppers, hot pepper

babyosisi:
Because babies are stolen and sold
Adoption should not be a hidden thing
Making it clandestine leaves room for the shady business of baby trafficking

Funny, so adopters usually announce the legally adoptees paperwork to the world?

We can only hope it's legal. So that concludes same point I've been trying to make; why poke your nose atall?

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I will never tell a soul if I adopt a child . not because I'm scared, but because I don't want to. Leave them hanging. They are too intrusive. They should get a life.

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My advice to TTCing moms ... Do what makes you happy.. Fvck side talks. Your life choices /decisions shouldn't revolve around public opinion. Do what makes YOU happy. People will always talk.

Yes. They leave early for abroad/ another state and return with babies.

Anyway.. My point is , why do we want to know how they got the baby?

This Africa. Situations are perceived differently compared to abroad. Ofcourse they're ashamed.

Adopters do that too. And it should be nobody's business.

Societal Judgement ..... Until people change their judgemental ways toward Adoption. Many TTCing recipients will be stagnant and scared for life.

I perfectly remembered Mrs.Chima on TTCing thread advice them to look into adoption. You should read thousands of tonguelashing and accursed posts against this poster. I weak. This is exactly what is happening in real life.

See.....

breadplanets:
I have a banker on my street that adopted a baby girl then a boy 2yrs after. Her husband left her after a while with the kids but this woman is still shinning till date. According to her atleast she has her kids. Infact nobody remembers that they were adopted. Another one a magistrate got pregnant 2months after she adopted a baby girl. Now her daughters look like twins. But the style i hate is the ones that pretend to be pregnant then travel to another state to give birth. Like hello hospital don finish for this town? Then every jack n jill will know that those kids where bought as in wth? Anyway to each his own. The long and short of my rant is that adoption is the way to go after ttcing for a while. Heck i will probably adopt after having my kids. Go to motherless babies and see babies longing to be loved. Abeg make i stop here before i start crying....

Why do you hate them? Why do you want to know? What's your business with their family secrets?

Anyone can choose any style to bring a child into this world.. As long as they're legal. They can go to Cambodia & back with a mulato baby and tell it to Nigerians . Who cares?? The norm answer should be NOBODY but NO , we must poke nose into everyone's business.

This is a typical example of societal judgement these women are wary and scared of... Many women came on social media to seek validation & thank God for a 'miracle' and what did people do? condemn them and question their stories.

Same with divorce. But that's just another topic for another day.

naijababe:
Onigbese

Emi lonkesi yen

SAMBARRY:
The film is not sweet o jare. Very dry thing.after 2 scenes i just remove the cd put am for table till I know what to do with it



I even thought the film will be interesting going by the cd cover that showed young couple about kissing. The thing just dey make me sleep jare.no action no suspense no form of amusement na film be that abi sinima


everything is just over hyped

Hian.., see another buzz killer

I conclude Yall didn't read the book hence the high expectation.

I sha liked it... I'm watching it again tonight.

Yes. My worst enemies are women. On & offline.

Reason I pick my friends carefully. They're always out to either backstab you as a result of their senseless jealousies or just beef for the sake of beefing. even when I couldn't boast of an ordinary MasterCard to my name, They still hate. That's just women. I don't really care how men roll. Not my business.

I believe this topic is about a gender scale to determine how many enemy a typical woman can boast of , no? It's not far fetched atall.

I teach my children to hold on to their sisterhood friendship coz that's the only best & reliable female friendship that can never be broken.

I'm a woman. I don't mince my words and what you see is what you get..many women don't like that , well too bad.

donodion:
A compelling read i say.In a situation such as this, could the saying ," Happy wife Happy life" be applicable?

Oh yes.

Believe it or not . a woman's overall psychology determines the happiness in a home.

You better push her right buttons buddy or you're in for a very long haul.

@Topic. Yes. Some women misuse their power.

Don't you have a legal visitation agreement?

Ofcourse you should have access to your kids, exept you aren't available during your "pick up days" which can be rescheduled mutually as well.

Otherwise, Drag his ass back to court, not NL.

Oh, and yes you get to pay child support since they aren't living with you.

*my friend paid her lazy ass ex for 11 freaking years.. Phew!*

Beautiful

Acquisition

jnrbayano:
Vellums is 6letters

Shoot again

I'll add a S to it.

Rice, mixed veggies, egusi soup, and Believe it or not that's Bison ( Buffalo meat) right there. Meh not bad.