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Giddymoney:
Finished product

Is this what we have been reduced to? U call girls goals ...I'm afraid for ur future.......

Let's reverse the issue....
Ur gf went to port Harcourt and flew in with two guys that helped her with some things and when you came to pick her up she ordered them into the car without explaining... How will you react?

Oga stop acting manly foolish and go beg ur gf before dem go sell your car to pantakar

jesusson2020:
I didn't inform her, I didn't tell her anything. I just ordered the girls to enter the car, while accusing her of lying about her car been clamped

Letter to the op
Dear op,
Compliment of the season to you,how are you and the well furnished apartment of yours?

My main purpose of writing you this letter is to tell you that your letter reeks of bragging and pride with keywords like 40 inches TV,32 inches in he guest room,fresh yogo,30k for feeding etc...all these are not necessary

Moreover,how old are you? You sound like a condemned overgrown bachelor. In most proper houses games is played in the spare room coa it last for a short period of time..

In conclusion try to discuss issues with ur woman as a real man and stop coming here to ask advice fro. Boys still collecting most things from the house and living off their parents.enjoy being a man full of responsibility......


Yours faithfully
Excessmon

Did you come out of school with first class in analysis
U sided with them without thinking that they actually need to go and marry and face their in-laws too?
Abeg if someone is seriously married they no go remember saybone brother dey somewhere o

They are just lazy people looking for who to pass their frustration to

TonyeBarcanista:
Thank God you married a GREAT GUY
 
 
This is a generic term used by women when their bid to separate in-laws from their husbands failed them.


The older sisters are your own older sisters too. You have to be in their good book at all times as long as it isn't against your legitimate interest. As long as they are not telling you to do overboard


There is no manipulation whatsoever. It is you trying to separate your husband from his sisters. As a wife, you have to accept your in-laws as yours and live in peace with them as long as they aren't perpetuating evil against your interest. Your husband has lived with them for MANY years before he met you. He knows them better than you do. You have to find way to sort it with them than try to make him see reason to separate from them.

   What transpired among you in the 10 years? What is the recurring issue?

   
This is irrelevant to the subject

  
I'd do same if I was your hubby! There is no way you can claim to love hubby without showing same love and respect to his BLOOD!

  
Your mind has always been made up and you are done pretending! His elder siblings are all he has and you must take them.likewise


Go and make peace with your in-laws and stop creating this arrogance.

Do know that you will never enjoy hubby as long as you are warring with his blood!

If you like take the advice of all these frustrated, angry, bitter and aggressive feminists, and male she-men, NA YOU SABI

One bottle of harmattan chilled beer for you brother

flexyrule:
what's wrong with this one?

Modified.
So this baba thought am YORUBA... Lol.
You see, this is one of the problems associated with being poor. You hate everything that sounds like success, looks like success and feels like success. You feel others are responsible for the situation you find yourself in.
Successful igbos are getting married to yorubas and yorubas marrying igbos. But the mentally poor ones are fighting dirty over tribe and religion.
Am not a yoruba, neither am I igbo. But your response has exposed how low IQ-ed your level of reasoning is and your hate towards your fellow country man.

I have just two words for you - HUSTLE OOOOOOO!

What are guys turning to? So the keke to you is poverty alleviation program..... u wey u never balance Dey pay person house rent::: wonders shall never end in this world?

Bye bye to mumc boyfriend...... good night

Have you seen where rel men talk on phone?
No matter who they talk to they always take their time
So learn from people u want to look like?
Do you know y wealthy men use kplasa

SenecaTheYonger:
Talking on phone for 2 hours is your idea of fun?

Let me type the meaning of your statement
It means hustle so you won’t have fun in life
First order poor man advice

SenecaTheYonger:
Hustle so you won't have to spend 2 hours talking on phone.

What is this one typing
Is Ondo state not a Yoruba state?
Cos of fear you change mouth
Please learn to grow enough balls to conquer your fears in life

Throwback:
I never knew you were a steadfast ignoramus who delights in his own ignorance.

By his own words, Sowore is Ijaw from Ondo state, just as Kingsley Kuku of the Amnesty program who Allen Onyema is fronting for.

Good morning
I’m sincerely for the insults I think it came cos of how pained I’ve herd Nigerian youths condemn our own at the expense of the whites when we’ll know stylishly they do the same jobs

Shegzy8:
I don't trade insults. Good day

Will u guys learn at all
Instead of facing reality you are there writing nonsense from your maggot infested brains.
How many billionaires in America has ever been indicted on laundering and wire transfer deals?

Because America can’t understand our mindset of making money they turn it to wire deals And money laundering cases:

Let’s ask mark,Ellison,gates and the rest how they made their money

Can you fight for own and not allow America turn our country to shambles because we are making billionaires out of the nothingness left by them and our leaders

Any Nigerian that supports the whites indicting our people cos they made money is a slave of generations

Nigerian youths think so that u don’t end up as slaves to the americans like your fathers did

Shegzy8:
This is beginning to look like a tribal war. I think he is been investigated and if found guilty, he should face bar time. But all this protest and agitation isn't needed from a particular tribe cause it looks indicting and ill-motivated.
These guys are jobless though and just want this man down for a reason best known to them.
Northern oligarchy at work.

Pls try to read and understand
I don’t mean train her through life I mean groom her to ur level
Baba abeg learn to read properly

CAPSLOCKED:
BULLSHĮT.

SAY THAT TO THE UNCONTROLLABLY WAILING MEN WHO CATERED FOR, SPONSORED THROUGH SCHOOL/CAREER, CHERISHED AND PROVIDED FOR THEIR WOMEN.... WHO LATER TURNED AROUND AND ELOPED WITH INSTAGRAM BOYS.

So sorry I am not emotional at all
However my choice is that if you take care of your woman she will take care of you twice......
Don’t train her groom her to ur taste
That’s my word

Martinez39:
Lol. You typed this from a place of emotion instead of reason. So if a man's taste is for his wife to be educated nko? You don't think those men that trained their wives in school had the taste for an educated woman? Beside, why can't the lady improve herself? Why does she need to be spoon-fed like a child in kindergarten? Next time when you are replying, leave your emotions out of it.

When will we have people that can actually read.... he never said you should train them in school he only said you should bring her up to the taste you want In A woman so you [wont be opening your opolo eyes to disturb the ones we have groomed....Biko

Martinez39:
Don't mind the op. Let her tell that to those that trained their girlfriends in school thinking they were going to marry her after everything only to be dumped cold for a higher bidder. Let her tell that to the husbands who trained their wives in school, furthered the education of their wives, got them high paying jobs only for the husband to go broke and reap insults, nagging, and cruelty in return. These husbands get insulted and are constantly reminded by their wives at the slightest provocation that they are worthless and that if not for the wives' money, they wouldn't survive. Any money they borrow from their wives is a loan that must be returned or else they are nagged and fought to repay. It does not matter what good these husbands have done for their wives in the past.

When will we have people that can actually read.... he never said you should train them in school he only said you should bring her up to the taste you want In A woman so you [wont be opening your opolo eyes to disturb the ones we have groomed....Biko
quote author=Martinez39 post=84449889] Don't mind the op. Let her tell that to those that trained their girlfriends in school thinking they were going to marry her after everything only to be dumped cold for a higher bidder. Let her tell that to the husbands who trained their wives in school, furthered the education of their wives, got them high paying jobs only for the husband to go broke and reap insults, nagging, and cruelty in return. These husbands get insulted and are constantly reminded by their wives at the slightest provocation that they are worthless and that if not for the wives' money, they wouldn't survive. Any money they borrow from their wives is a loan that must be returned or else they are nagged and fought to repay. It does not matter what good these husbands have done for their wives in the past.[/quote]

That’s not the reason brother
It’s called low self esteem

makeherscream:
On a normal level

The truth is light skin girls are more attractive than the dark girls that's why almost every girl in Nigeria want to be light skin.
The rate wey our girls take dey buy bleaching creams for market dey very alarming.

But am not attracted to any skin colour the only thing that attract me in a woman is BB not even beauty .if she like ugly like monkey but just get BB you are mine.

Now I see why Buhari went to London to complain about naija youths
Can you imagine the long epistle you wrote about fallacy but I’m sure u can’t write three lines about what you want to be in future......

Mcslize:
Sex bond a girl to a guy. The problem is not about asking for sex. If you are there forming a gentle man by not instigating things to get down with her, trust me, another guy will be helping you in that area while you form a gentle man. Don't be surprised when you call and she busy your calls or switch off her phone. She is simply with another guy being serviced. When she is done she will call you back that she went for a church service and she was just coming back or she went to visit her grandma before when you called and her phone went off. No where to charge it.

Of course, you will believe everything she tells you. There is nothing like when you love a girl you will not ask for sex. In this era? Form a gentle man to a girl and she will use you to play a Table tenis while another guy is shining her Congo. So one of the agenda when you meet a girl you like ,after a couple of meetings is to have her bleep you. It is very necessary because we have heard so many stories when a guy will be forming a gentle man by not getting down with a girl, and trust me she starts bleeping in his back cuz more like she sees the guy as the gentle man type that just want tonplay the gentle man role. You are now the husband material she will keep for marriage because you do not ask for sex but you are spending on her while she is frolicking around being bleeped by another guy. You will truly be a husband material. But don't be heartbroken when you find out she has been fvcking with another guy in your back. Shine your eye if you are a guy. These kinda loyalty doesn't exist in the world of a woman. If you like do not have sex with her she will still be bleeping another guy. Las las you will still think she is a good girl after all as far she do things codedly. If a guy wants to form a gentle man it's not for sex aspect. To act impotent to a girl is not hard o but she will be fvcking with other guys during that period you are forming a gentle man who doesn't want to bleep. If you don't bleep her, another sharp guy will do the job and she will start loving that guy that bleep her. Thats when you will know you've fvcked up for not bleeping with her. Fear ladies bro.

Please read your English again

Enemyofpeace:
I'm sure the girl's father is very very reach

I’m sorry to ask this. Do you read at all?
Pls know that a lady stimulations varies and same with their expansion
Some are naturally tight no matter how many times and size of the dick it goes back to original size within a short period that’s y they always have bruises whenever they go back to sex after sometime off
Some are naturally wide and it was not caused by sex
That’s what also explain why some ladies bleed during first sex and some don’t
Thanks op I think I’ve been able to enlighten you
A lady that opens up to you is trustworthy and will last with you for a lifetime

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT GIBBERISH NONSENSE!!!!!

A) a supposed virgin would NOT rush her man's dikc to enter her honeypot
B) a woman who claims to have been only once with a man SHOULD be tight
C) whether the above babe was married or not is irrelevant to the issue at hand

Please stop confusing your marriage and answer this question.
Will you feel comfortable if your husband does open flirting with other ladies the way you do it.

Stop justifying rubbish and face ur marriage cos I have this feeling that u want to do that which I didn’t do before.....

JaneKenedy:
Thanks, I always tell him everything. Like I have been in the midst of my friends females, someone bought drinks and pepper soup for us, I didn't accept. When he came back, I still told him. The only thing I don't tell him, is the one that he was present and witness. I tell him from the beginning till the end of my daily happenings, even where I know I am wrong.
As a single, I didn't accept gifts from my male friends except the ones I can afford. Otherwise I wouldn't. Reason, you can use what you gifted me to have a better hold of me. I would replace it immediately. I hardly send my account for someone to give me money...no...I didn't, except family members, male friends, No.
So I have always been contented with the little I have and don't accept gifts any how.
Even him as my husband knows I don't totally expect things I cannot afford from him, he knows that about me and still act like someone who married a prostitute.

Once I told his brother, he was shouting and telling me he would talk to him.

I do apologise but it's becoming irritating to me that I can't talk to anybody have a discussion and part ways in and discuss my "chykers" with him.
Some people comes with a good proposal that I know if I follow up something good would come out of it...like jobs and contract even though might be small.

The problem usually starts when I tell him later of how my day went and who I spoke with or met for the day.

He saw a guy talking to me one day like that, we didn't talk long but somehow he mentioned a business I have had interest in, I also noticed the guy is civil engineer, same school with my brother, and from my side too, I quickly collected the guy's number so that I would know more through phone instead of standing there discussing with him. I even waved at him and smiled to come and see my brother oo when I saw him. It became an issue, that I was talking with anybody I see. That day he also said I should have brought the strange person home and stay at home to discuss with him. I just met him once, don't know him much? Should have brought him home? Like....I don't understand

I’m sorry how old are you brother?
U really look underage to act manlike

Biggest cause....,,,,,,,
Stress

Pls don’t answer this advice o...some of these things written will scatter ur marriage finally....please only take advice that sounds practical not the ones gotten from boos and seminars

bukatyne:
Your husband has lost what he hung his self-esteem on which is his ability to earn.

Like you said, he was born with a silver spoon so he is used to a lifestyle and feels like a failure. That also reflects in his 'I can't lower my standards' statement.

I however do not like his inconsiderate attitude. If he is not going to hold the fort, he should let you at least hire professional cleaning services.

Since you say he loves and cares for you, engage him as a lover. Keep aside his mom and pastor.

Point out to him that you can't keep up with the chores and ask him to point out his reservations with the live in/professional help so you can work around his concerns.

Also stop him for drinking. Remove all the alcoholic drinks from your home, constantly remind him of his achievements and encourage him that he can rise again. Be a little more tender with him, let your embraces provide warmth and hope.

Depending on the financial structure and resources, just send something to him regularly so he doesn't think of how to have an haircut because he is broke.

Also proactively assist in job hunting. Are his skills obsolete? Does he need updated certifications? Is his CV updated? Does he need to start from smaller jobs before growing?

Also be emotionally intelligent. When he agreed to something, it might not be from his 'church' mind.

I read your comment this morning and sincerely u made my day
I pray God will settle whatever you request in this year
And to you op I beg you to disregard all other senseless posts from children that doesn’t know what it means to be married..... take the advice of this young man
Ur husband needs love and most importantly greater respect than before
Go to God on his behalf,intercede for him cos you are his weapon for warfare.......
Accept his behavior and keep this in mind that as soon as he gets his feet back on ground he will apologize for all wrongs done.......

I really respect your strength and courage
Finally please don’t bring ur family’s case up here again take it up there and you will see tremendous results

farady:
OP, thank God for using you to keep the home running, still loving you husband etc. Your husband really need some time to chill off and some bit of counseling preferably from someone he greatly respects to give him new "factory settings".

His behavour which is normal with men that have experienced job loss can be really traumatic. To him, he has lost that his economic power (which defines his masculinity) to provide for the family and in fact lost it to you................Look whether you bring in a cleaning company or not, his attitude will not change for the better, it will grow worse. At this moment, he need the support and encouragement of everyone, friends and family.

Get someone he truly respect to talk to him. On your part, go on kneels and commit him to God in prayers. Next, as you run the affairs of the home, please be kiafu make you no go mis-yarn. For instance you come dey hala like "I think you people have finished this milk that i bought just 2 days ago" or "I don't understand what you people are boiling with gas oh, that cylinder I just filled it with N4k last week and the way the cooker is burning, its like the cylinder is getting empty"...............When we men hear things like that, some of us get very upset, cause he would start thinking all these years he has been spending, nobody heard anything.

I pray God will visit your home and He who sees your sincere heart will restore joy and happiness to your home by settling your husband in Jesus name, Amen!

Pls answer me!
This thing you typed
Did it come from ur spirit,mind,soul,body,heart or did it just get to you from a dream... bottom line it makes no sense

drnoel:
U guy take urselves too high. U forget as the world is changing so does many norms in Nigeria. Nothing can go against a good discussion. Did u not see OP say he is taking her for medicals?
Let me educate u guys, gone are those days when men are the all and all. Many women who are earning their keep and not in a serious relationship would prefer to have a child outside wedlock. That girl in question may be one of such. The idea of pinning another man's pregnancy on a single man is so outdated, only jobless low-lives do that. If she is working she won't need to.
I have met many ladies Who only want children and not the hassles of a man who would complicate their lives.
It's as easy as that since Nigerian men are no longer forth coming as regards commitment.

This is the basic thinking of an average Nigerian youth.......
When will we start thinking aright......
If you continue wasting one year for five times that’s five years......
remember there’s a time for everything
There’s a time ur graduation from school isn’t useful anymore cos workplace only want people between 24 and 27 and you graduated at 29
Secondly service is not for you cos u graduated at 30 plus....
Ur story will now be government is not helping matters....abeg you help urself first?

demoBaba:
Nothing spoil not up to a year in that skool just go home check for others institutions for admission

Bros with all due respect learn to read and understand
You guys are saying the same thing in different context
He wasn’t justifying their attitude he only meant that our parents did it with dignity and not the hotdogs given birth to now

Chidorx60:
bros shut up...u hear shut ur mouth....you are not making any sense....we are talking about illicit sexual activity within the properties of a learning environment and you are mentioning the noble sexual activity our parents performed to bring us into the world.... Do they correlate in anyway...or maybe u were born out of wedlock(no offense).....

Nigerian youths should go to school face their books and make themselves useful to the country and not to transforms them selves to sex peddlers..petty

Interesting write up
However life is a five and Take assignment
You can earn 1m and still struggle without being able to provide 3 square meals and you can earn 50k and give ur family the best.... the only thing is that before you start ask from wisdom from God

If this news is what is on your blog...your blog is about closing down cos the content is foolish......

U gave a valid point however your uncultured attitude gave you away and people will not understand how valid your point is
However learn to pass ur message properly in future

YorubaPrince:
Zeenaman, the problem is... you're from a 3rd world nation where ignorance is celebrated, gullibility & illiteracy are rampant while superstitions & taboo are worshipped. If you've done your homework (according to your faith) about her and, indeed love this chic... go for it!

Let me even reveal the very bitter truth perhaps, an unknown fact to the 200 million fools of Nigeia... this truth is such a bitter pill to swallow to majority of gullible Nigerians...

Realistically and statistically, Of all the people getting married at any given point in time, some would end up as widows and widowers in the near future!

It's not a curse but, a known fact. Of all the fools on here condemning widows and stuff, few or several of them have either lost one of their parents or both? So, were their parents cursed or are the living better than them? OK... of all the deaths that occur on a daily basis in Nigeria, how many couples are rendered widows and widowers?