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Fiscus105:
when what u read online replaced how God made you and now defined ur way of life and character, you are on ur way to destruction.

..........if God from creation, made you a kind and generous man but because of what u read online and u changed to wicked and mean man, dnt you know you are on journey of self destruction? since you know more than God that created you, sorry is ur real name.

Lol... This your post is kinda funny. God made him which way? God made him to be mumu ba and he is following the devil to see the world for what it is? Lol...

Pls, does God make soldiers as well or things (training) practically taught and learned?

Independentgbol:
I'm a man in my mid 20s, a natural critique of everything and a philosopher by mind.
My journey into Redpill started when I came across the term here on nairaland. I've been following Ubunja's miseducation which started opening my eyes to the nature of human being. Then I journeyed into the Redpill through one of the numerous threads.
I further read "The manipulated man" book which made me fully aware of the feminine manipulations and their nature. This coupled with the Redpill knowledge gave me so much confidence in approaching females and in successfully evading their manipulations and getting them to do my bidding.
The con of this awareness is the fact that I lost my meekness and I became so direct with females and everyone in general regardless of whoever I'm talking to in terms of status, age or even position. This direct attitude mesmerize some people, intimidates some, and it also outrightly put some people off that they hate me and will refuse to even help me.
Again, the knowledge of Redpill made it almost impossible for me to have a healthy relationship with females without seeing them as object of sex and sexual satisfaction most especially female peers or matured younger ones. I really wish I perfectly understand true Redpill and also able to have perfect relationship with people

Op, don't worry. It is a stage (anger stage). You will soon pass it and become calmer. That anger stage is necessitated cos of the sudden harsh reality you are now facing which opposes everything you have be told or taught all your life.

Allow yourself to pass through the stage, don't rush it. With time, u will become better and be able to control how u want to feel.

angelEmade:
Nairaland is destroying you already obviously. You are a typical example of how the world of social media can lead to miseducation.
One day you will have a daughter and someone else will objectify her for sex how does that feel?
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You really need to start changing your mentality about the feminine gender and opt for the right orientation and education about relationships.
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Someone like you can't live long obviously with this kind of terrible beast you are becoming and how it is now difficult for you to maintain a healthy relationship.
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Again, people like you are one of those being misinformed by,for example...nairaland anti marriage morons and their jargons.
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Better define the right path for yourself and find a true purpose for your life.
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Right now,you don't even have a life.

Wow! You must be very angry

Kaysalas:
That was the ideology in the 60s, guess what the north did? They first sent a number of battalion(s) to the West to cower us into subjection, securing the west, before launching attack on the East. (Unfortunately I can't remember in which of the civil war memoirs I read this). Sitting on the fence is not always the best option.

You said 60s... But I don't remember that part of civil war history tho.

Kaysalas:
I think we should be wary of this staying neutral position. What if the SE Succeeds, we then latch on to their victory and claim we want our sovereignty too? Why can't we decide what we want once and for all? Are we comfortable being in any union with the north, with or without the SE? Deep down, we know we are not comfortable being in any such union. Let's stand up and do the needful

We don't have to join. Let's them face themselves. By the time we decide to leave, they will be too tired to bother us.

post=102213979:
Future of Yoruba land is in the hands of Igbos

open link and read

https://www.energyvoice.com/oilandgas/africa/pipelines-africa/292147/shell-nigeria-gas-states/

Are you really Igbo? Cos I see you working against them by actions.

LegendHero:
I also share your sentiment bro. However I might be wrong in my assessment but I think it will be really hard to turn our back on them or remain neutral in a war at this stage.

If left to me, I will prefer we seal the border like you said and send any Ibo or Northerner back to their region to do whatever they like in their domain. But it won’t be possible considering the recent realities.

Again, I might be wrong in my assessment.

You are wrong in your assessment. Yoruba stays neutral and Igbo should dare not make same stupid mistake ojukwu made by coming towards Lagos. That is the only trick that helped the north win the east.... Both of them should stay off southwest and face themselves.

TMKsouth:
No, it's not a fact.

Johannesburg is still expanding and has managed to almost complete it's new ultra-modern city Sandton in the time those 2 lonely buildings have been standing in Eko Atlantic. Focus has now shifted to building the new Lanseria city in South Africa.

Cairo too is at an advanced stage building it's new capital.

Below are real pictures of new Sandton, not computer graphics like your Eko.

See what you are comparing to Eko Atlantic. Just appreciate what you have even if it is not in your region.... Comparing thrash to 21st century city. Smh

Kriss216:
Women are naturally dramatic and manipulative... Forget pregnancy.


As you didn't provide the kuli kuli by 2am, did she die?

No, she didn't die and she won't die cos of that.

When next they start demanding those weird stuff at the middle of the night, tell them point blank, those things are not available at the moment. List the things available in the house, let them choose from what you have.

Don't risk your life trying to get them outside by the middle of the night. If anything happens to you, she will still remarry 8 months after your burial.

You get sense my brother.

Pick yourself and go another room. Do that twice on a roll and she will get sense. If pregnancy brings stupidity, I wonder why single mothers are not so dramatic during pregnancy. The point is that these women wanted to be dramatic cos maybe they heard one of their friends did it.

The best formula is to ignore her and watch her borrow senses.

Obviously, maybe some men enjoys it as well. Reasons women does this is to make you reassure your love for her despite being in a bad shape. There are other ways to reassure her without necessarily stressing yourself out over nothing.

Thegeneralqueen:
Shortup lier

Another ill raised girl. Sorry, I am not here to throw banters with girls.

brownemmanuel43:
I never knew that we still have some godamn men again in this SIMPs generation and Una bi few of them
I can't sit any godamn bitch Dow to talk heart to heart or soul to soul useless talk, whenever she is ready she should fuckingly come to me
A lady I dated back, we had misunderstanding and the lady told me that we should give ourselves a break and I accepted the break, after like a week or so it was the same lady I started begging me to come back.
Never u dance to their emotional tone

@bolded. Big words my brother.

Kaymicheal852:
Personally I think there is no point talking woman into her senses unless she comes to you herself and wats to figure things out, anytime you try to settle things with her woman without her willingness to do so ,you will just be like a mumu in her eyes and I can promise you she will only grow wings


Woman don't have any loyalty , commitment or
boundaries unless you set the boundaries for her yourself or she loves you so much and have make lots of sacrifices for the relationship to work (which is rear) or at least ,the boundaries have been set for her before leaving her father house( she has been traditionally or religiously conserved) and she knows any hiccups in her marriage will bring a shame to her and will be rebucked

@bolded. I love it when I see men on same pedestal with me. It shows there are still real men who can handle women effortlessly.

Until she opens communication channel herself, you are just wasting your time and it will give her more edge to misbehave cos she sees you re trying to make things work, which means you really do value her than she does for you.

I look at men whenever they are saying "sit her down and have an heart to heart talk".... I see them as clowns who doesn't understand women at basic level.... And they will later run to the internet to say "what do women want?"... She wants you to be a man and stop being a sissy who instead of correcting her will rather nag about it. She wants a man who will never take bullshit without registering his displeasure strongly. But most men are wimps and this make their women frustrated.

When u hate something, register ur displeasure strongly either in words or actions as the case may be. She will be the one to call for truce and negotiation..... Only through this way, will you have your peace and have what u want from her.

igwebest23:
Ur my guy
Correct
She wants to cash out before dumping u. Folks don't know ladies and their manipulative tendencies. They are d real scammers( Yahoo

My OT that I shouldn't put my money where I don't have a control especially with woman I am not married to, helped me to scale her traps. She painted it so well that even the most stingiest guy would have bought it.

I told her to her face that she is not my responsibility until marriage. The look on her face was so priceless.

LadySarah:
Mechilata Onu,you talk too much yen yen yen.Go and marry the jobless girl and let her remain submissive to you.Children havent even entered and you are fuming.It is your type that quarrells for Omugwo monetary gifts.Redpill choke you there.Anumanu!

As for your selfish wife,o dibeghi ready for marriage.Let her mother school her on how there should be a synergy between both of you and how her support includes finances too.How she should stop listening to what friends are telling her cos most times they are lies.Alot of women earn more and are running their homes without making noise.

If you guys arent ready,scatter this marriage before babies start coming.We dont want more foolish selfish ppl birthing .

It seems you have a very big issue with redpill. I see that you also understood that the wife is a bad wife. So, I won't say you are like her... You just have issues with redpill.

Redpill is not that bad if you are calm about it. It is all about seeing the world for what it is and looking out for your own interests. Even u women, are more redpilled than men.

chatinent:
It all started after he refused to open the shop, and now is expecting proceeds from the shop.

He has every rights to refused to open shop for her before marriage. Personally, I have one girl that pressured me into such until I told her off (she is never my responsibilities until marriage).... Unknown to me, aunty is already planning on a breakup and just looking for pension from me. If not for street smartness, I would have fallen mugun cos she painted a very good business.

And op is not asking for proceeds from her business. All he is asking for is for her to pay her own bills and maybe support in the house without waiting on him for everything (wife is to support not being a liability).

You need to understand women. I have seen a real-life experience like this.

Only a mumu man submits to every shananigans from a woman.

Bro, cool down and don't take sides till you hear from the wife.

You do have a point in not taking sides as we don't know his wife's story.

She believes she is his responsibility

No one should be a liability in this 21st century. She should support the house.

CharisEleos:
Lol... I don't know why this story is making me laugh out so loud.
Wait... You shouted at her and she fainted hahahahaaaa.... Are you odeyssey or a lion? Lol..

Well, first and foremost, you need to vomit that red pill you swallowed because that is the number one cause of your problems.

Then, if you have the money, renew the rent for her. You're her husband for crying out loud. Or why would you go and bring a lady out of her parents house and be maltreating her with your redpill baldadash?

Remember that pills have side effects. So this might just be one of them which could have a very bad outcome in your marriage if you don't spill it out now.

Oyen Redpill.

Anyone that marry this one is already looking at op's wife upgraded version 3.0.

She is more cold hearted.

igwebest23:
My pastor warned me during counseling to be careful when ever I have issue with my wife, that if I go to her mum(I.e my Wife mum to warn her daughter, most parents will always side their daughter, d may not see any thing wrong with what their daughter is doing. Then if I go back to my parents, d will support me and conclude I married a Jezebel and for me to send her home. I need to go and report her to my pastors if she doesn't change, then I will have no option than to do d needful

You pastor has successfully taken control of your home sir. He has brainwashed you to see him above your real family that cares.

The best way of resolving conflict is to first admit there is a conflict then make plans as a man to resolve it either in a brutal way or through diplomacy.

chatinent:
Dear oga,

You are your own problem.

1. It isn't a must to do a wedding with ₦1m if you aren't worth it. People should learn to avoid pleasing onlookers by feeding 6000 people. The wedding is supposed to be a day of joy for you both, not for people's stomachs.


2. I noticed you have a thingy with gender roles. You are a man. Your wife is still your responsibility. You refused declaring your salary to her but is quite inquisitive on what she earns. How na baba?

Coming to the part of she sending money to a male friend, I understand you are hurt because it's a male attached.

But have you tried to understand her?

Are you always seeing yourself as right?


What's the big deal if you pay the shop rent, then, you guys build your communication thingy well?


The communication flow is broken.

Marriage is not a football match you play for halftime and retire, or you get a small injury and decide to walk out because you feel you are the chief captain.


It's a forever course...and the moment you realize this, the better for you.


I see a good wife you have there trying to stand on her feet without your support!


Treat your wife well so she'll be more opened to you.


When you start keeping secrets, trust don yapa. Some men who don't want to disclose their actual salary still tell their wives sth.

If I have a fiancee I had already paid for her dowry, I wouldn't have minded setting up the shop for her.

Afterall, she is going to be my wife.

You let her family support her when she needed you.

You mah no know say any money you spend for wedding don go? You for small invest for her business na. People wey don chop plenti plenti food that day don shit your money finish.


To think your marriage isn't up to a year is quite disheartening too.

Build your beautiful marriage, bro.

Ignore these frustrated sets tagged as redpillers here trying to project their failed lives to you.


Marriage is a gift from God.

@ the bolded I doubt you read the op. That wife is a selfish and greedy wife nothing less nothing more.

Misterone:
true talk. you are a master redpiller

You ain't doing bad as well with games.

Misterone:
This was my thought too. I would've encouraged her. In short, I would've pimped her. Op, take this. Lesson one. Whenever you notice your girl having interest in a guy wealthier than you, or have something important that you don't have, encourage her so that she can do it openly else she would do it behind your back. Lesson two: immediately your girl tells you "we are just friends", "I just want to eat his money" etc, start looking for a replacement. Lesson three: never let a girl know her true position in your heart.

@ the bolded is very important. Else she will lie more than the devil while betraying your trust at ur back. Most guys can't handle sharing their women. But they forgot once she wants to be shared, nothing in this life can stop her.... Not even herself.

Mowaconfused:
I moved already . Thanks for the bitter truth

You are welcome Baba mi

RuudVanNisteroy:
Governors in Canada,Netherlands,Sweden,Austria,England,Norway don't do this, nor do they drive in such expensive cars.

This can only be seen with Presidents and Prime Ministers.

Face your south east govs and leave Yoruba to worry about Tinubu. Only low lifers leaves their house to burn while looking out for others.

RuudVanNisteroy:
Batte of Door Openers: Tinubu Door Opener Vs El-Rufai Door Opener:

Tinubu door opener


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=89kqsbfMIIY




EL-Rufai door opener


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOg2FnW8wP8

And they wonder why no one in the world takes them serious. The world corruption and poverty capital leaders living like Kings.

What is wrong with this? Almost all VIPs do this. Unlike el rufai that have double openers. Ur hatred for Tinubu will soon crash you. A man that never govern your state.

Mowaconfused:
Everybody was trying to lookout for him head ,really?
I had nothing when i met this girl and she stay with me through those hard times . Things change for good , you know I can also left her then and go for ladies that match my new standard since everybody dey try lookout for him head but i didn't do that . I did all what we prayed when were struggling ,I kept all my promises. I even told her mom that I'm ready to do introduction but she said her daughter is still young for that ,this was like 6 months ago .

The bolded is why men without game will always lose with women. Men by default know what loyalty means... Women don't.

And for her mummy that said her daughter is too young for introduction. She knows what she is doing... Less than a year, same daughter did wedding.

Brother move on... Life happens

foeedaba:
They should get a list of the affected people and empower them to do other work. AbI LASG no dey empower people?

They should go to their respective state for that. Lagos no owe them Shi Shi

Mowaconfused:
Well, you're right though I didn't feel like I lose anything maybe because I'm so straight and I don't really like depending on anyone . I cut her off myself and she still try to reach me by proxy . Even the day the man enter Naija she let me know . I can still do all these things you listed up there if i really want to . She once said we can still be seeing when the man left but I'm not really into that .

Good. Since you said u lose nothing. Just be cool with the babe. Shit happens, this na jungle and every body deh try lookout for him head... She did what was best for her.

Ishilove:
Noticed and ignored

You have to quote me to show that... IQ is really a thing.

Mowaconfused:
Yes ,she married her ancestor

See lemme tell you the basic truth, assuming ishilove was ur ex girl mentor.... Trust me, she would have advise she left you herself. Ignore her trying to pretend to feel what you feel. Inside of her, she is happy the girl made a right choice.

Michelle55:
E shock me sha! There's nothing wrong in getting married to an older guy but the problem I have with her is the lying part.
Why lie when she knows she doesn't see a future with you? She could have spared you the heart break a long time ago when she discovered she preferred the abroad based man.
Well, you dodged a bullet. Trust me, you will be fine okay.

She did what 99.9999% women would have done in her shoes. Stop trying to look like u re better than her kind.

This is the problem when we preach redpill. Most simple men think redguys are angry guys (I won't say some ain't tho). But the basis of redpill is to expose you to game and make you a better man while relating with women without hating them.

Op, to be real with you, you lost this game. It might not seem like a game to you but to every girl, relationship is a game especially when the honeymoon period in relationship is over.

Subconsciously, she will continue to test and measure you against her potential sexmates... It is natural. That doesn't meant she is worst than other females. As a matter of fact, most ladies you quoted on ur former thread will do worst if given a chance like that. Women are very pragmatic and selfish than men. They take decisions as it comes notwithstanding how u feel about it. They don't really care as long as it serves their objectives and that of their immediate family.

Now, don't wish that girl bad. She did what she did in her best interests. You only lost cos you are not game. I understand you may like to be straight with women, but I assure you, being straight is the best way to always lose with women cos they are always playing games.

You said you were not doing bad for yourself, but still, I think you should have p1mped that girl and get whatever you want (connections, money or travel deals). She won't feel used as long as she thinks you allow her. It would have been a win win on both sides.

Lastly, women are not the angels you wish they are..... They are smart and dangerous and you have to be just like them or even better to win while with them.

Count your loss. Wish her well (you can even send her a best wishes message to open that communication line back).

Then going forward always play your game right, that is the only way to win!

zoedew:
It’s part of the game! They will then cry they are been oppressed and demand to be allowed back in the South ostensibly to continue in their evil ways!!

And south is stupid right? Just wait

litigator:
What an irony! I still can't decipher how they suddenly forgot that all herders and their flocks have an absolute fundamental right to freedom of movement to any part of the country, giving that they are like spare part dealers.

Na hypocrisy go kill them. Now Fulani no longer have free movement in north but in South. Bunch of jokers