neonly:
I pray d man doesn’t count his teeth with his tongue over d years except the woman is a good woman
Am not against single mothers finding love after failed marriage but most are emotional damage
I pray for her to be happy and fruitful in d marriage

Fruitful? Someone that has gotten 3 kids already, what's there to be fruitful again ? You want her to have a football team

myami:
you know any lady that rapes guys. I'm horñy at the moment

You need help, I am talking mainly of adult ladies forcing minors into sexual acts.

dominique:
If you want to fight against prostitution (as if it's any of your business), why must you do it with barefaced lies? You hypocritical morality police will leave bigger crimes committed by men and start screaming at what women are doing which isn't really affecting anybody but themselves. Now you have to resort to lies? How low can you people go?

This was a yahoo yahoo deal gone bad and the girl was a neighbour to the victims and she just happened to be at the at the wrong place at the wrong time. If it was one of their sisters that was in the car with them at the time the killers came for their head, she would have been killed alongside them. What will you be preaching in that case, say no to having brothers?

Wait sef, when are you going to preach against fraud and murder which are the bigger crimes committed in this story? Leave prostitution matter alone and go and preach to your fellow men to stop killing themselves over yahoo yahoo deals

See how you are claiming victimhood as if you are the fallen prostitute.

Prostitution is a social vice that is antithetical to the development of the society, there is nothing worth justifying qa you buttressed above.

Accountability and responsibilities has been alien to most ladies, it's high time you learn how to take accountability irrespective of circumstances.

It's like saying Mr A is a thief therefor I must be a thief and there is nothing anyone can do about it.

Continue since men are involved in Yahoo therefore I can also involve in Prostitution, what an ideology

Tremple8v:
Who be the Intel? America

Intel is Intel case closed. They got hard copy documents and videos linking them to the group, that is good enough Intel.

NzogbuNzogbu:
Today there was a resolution passed by in UN to stop houti in the Red Sea

No veto from Russia and china to tell you all these nations are only playing lip service to Gaza and want hamas decimated in reality

Houthi is a terrorist group, which nation does open operations as covert operations? They can only support a terror group secretly and not openly, you still have a long way to learn about diplomacy.

God1000:
As expected, it's only the brainwashed religious bigots that swallow everything Israel says.

Every Palestinian is a terrorist to them, murderers don't have any right to call other people terrorists

This world is full of injustice and wickedness

Nothing Palestinians do that is wrong to you even though they eliminated a million Israelis. Israel has the rights to obliterate everyone who is part and parcel of black oct 7, if you don't like it go to the Frontlines in Gaza and show your might. 72 virgins awaits you if you take up the challenge.

What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

emerged01:
Rape doesn't only happen to girls,it also happens to young guys too. I was once in such position,a lady almost a raped me but in this situation I had to beg her and promised her that i will come back for her that i urgently need to attend to something.
If I had decided to overcome her with my power,the table might turn and I could end be accused so I had to beg her and promised to come back which I never did. This lady was even a neighbour's maid. Some weeks later I discovered she was pregnant and later stopped working with her boss after incident.

That's the pathetic situation we find ourselves. You see guys in all thread about rape shouting down guys that are perpetuators to be castrated and all evil but you will never see same people condem this against boys thinking that boys enjoy it while been raped.

This issue will continue like this until we see crime as crime irrespective of who is guilty of the crimes. This view that sexual molestation can only be done to his is archaic and nonsensical.

seunmsg:
If Peter Obi ever becomes president, folks like Peter Obi will be appointed to sensitive government positions. I really pity the non-Igbos that will be unfortunate to work under such characters. That Peter Obi is shamelessly identifying witch such characters offline says a lot about what an Obi presidency will look like if we ever make the unfortunate mistake of making him our president.

Just the way you are pitying no Yorubas for Tinubu's presidency since majority of those working with Tinu.bu are Yorubas

See your hypocrisy, you are castigating someone for future crimes he hasn't committed but condoning another for same crime he is committing presently because you are a bigot.

seunmsg:
If Peter Obi ever becomes president, folks like Peter Obi will be appointed to sensitive government positions. I really pity the non-Igbos that will be unfortunate to work under such characters. That Peter Obi is shamelessly identifying witch such characters offline says a lot about what an Obi presidency will look like if we ever make the unfortunate mistake of making him our president.

Just the way you are pitying no Yorubas for Tinubu's presidency since majority of those working with Tinubu are Yorubas

See your hypocrisy, you are castigating someone for future crimes he hasn't committed but condoning another for same crime he is committing presently because you are a bigot.

freshvine:
When you guys are finally married, you'll be saying "sorry " to your wives for no reason.

You'll all understand that women are always right...anything after that is the beginning of a new argument.

This is a wrong idealogy.

A man who starts with sorry will end up with sorry.

Every man should know when to draw the line from the beginning, if any one stats saying yes to women wether good bad or ugly that man will forever say yes to his doom.

See the mentality you have, sorry for that man who spends his life with that kind of woman. You should do what is right and not insist s man accepts your opinion always even when your opinion is trash.

Chief of staff is from Ekpeye.

linearity:


The guy who use his own money to pay for school fees and upkeep of the child is the mugu, I guess.

Child support is for the child and not for the mom to keep and she go directly to what concerns the child, if the mom is the one that makes the decision on how to direct that money, if I am in the husband’s I will ask her to start from the school fees.

The lady is greedy and ungrateful, she will never meet a better man.

The man should take his hands off and allow her use the money to sort everything that concerns the child from tuition, medicals, clothing and feeding. Let's see if she won't change her mind, ungratefulness and greed is a bad combination

okoroemeka:
for a man to raise a child in that circumstances shows a good man with a good heart and for a wife to disclose such sensitive information to her husband shows an equally good woman,this is not a question about money,it is a matter of bruised egos,the best way forward is to divide the money 60% to the man and 40% to the woman

What is the 40 for the woman for, will she use the money for herself? If yes then she doesn't deserve a penny from that.

The money fis for child support, someone that is spending more than that should be the one to get it. If the man leaves the money and hands up his hands from the child will that child support handle all the bills of the child?

Ungratefulness and greed can actually take away ones sanity and the will to make a good decision

linearity:


Since the money is for the child, just use it to pay the school fees of the child, case close!

The mother is unreasonable and ungrateful here, the man have accepted you and your child from a third party, he is paying the school fees and upkeep of the child.

Then your ex gave you money for the child and you want to keep it for yourself? Her actions is painting the guy to be a fool like a mogu, monkey!

Worst case the guy will take his hands off the child, she should suse the hidden money to pay school fees, clothing, medical bills. That child support is a token compare to what the man is spending.

Jewessgratitud3:
Demand for the money on what bases? Is he seeking refunds for the money he has spent on her for the past 10 years? I don't understand...

Only a childish man would do such. That kind of man can even encourage his wife to go collect money from other men and give him if he can be indicating interest in money sent by his fellow man to his stepdaughter. He wants to turn the girls father to a moneybag 💰. Some men sha.

It the woman I blame for showing. Since she doesn't have any intention of giving him the money,why show him in the first place?

You will never disappoint, critical thinking skills is seldom available these days

TheWinterBird:
Well, the money is meant for the child and not the husband, therefore he has no right to "demand" it. I reckon he wants to pocket it or use it for his own interests. The money should remain with the mother of the child whom it was sent to; she should decide what should be done with it.

This is why no man should ever marry a single mum in whatever situation. The money he is using to foot the bills of another man's child is plucked from the trees isn't it? If the man calculate how much he has spent for ten years on the child as child support for that ten years can you pay?

What is the essence zof child support, to support the child isn't it, someone is already doing that optimally for over a decade. The best is to give that person who has been caring for the child financially.

When the child support hasn't landed did the woman deen it fit to provide financially for her child ? Did she argue on who to spend Money on the child? Did she argue on who to pay tuition fees and medical fees? If no then she hasn't been supporting the child financially but the man. He deserves the child support.

If you say it should go to the woman then she should be prepared to use the child support money to start paying the child's school fees, medical bills, feeding, clothing, housing etc

No man should be in this kind of disfunctioonal home where there are potentially two husbands and intricate relationships. No man should carry the burden of another, single mum's comes with plethora of baggages.

udumosam23:
He is your Husband. Husband o.
He took care of the child with the full knowledge it's not his.

Ordinarily, he shouldn't even let you accept gifts from your ex if he's very stable. If he did, then he has challenges and needed support for all the family.

It is his responsibility to provide for the family and if he has been up to his responsibility and has treated the child as family too. Then it is good you submit the money to him. He might give it back to you for the child's upkeep except it is huge.

My point is, it seem to me you had a healthy marriage without the money. Don't let the money make the difference. Otherwise, your husband matters little.

Even if he is stable you can't deny a man his child because the mother married another person. No you can't do that,

tallfish145:
Is it right for a husband for demand for any money sent to his wife by her ex for the support of a child she got for him,ie the current husband's step child? Worthy to note that the child has been living with them for close to ten years the husband married the mother and has been paying the child school fees and feeding

Yes the child support should go to him and not the wife if she is not the one footing the bills of the child. The reason why they pay child support is to help alleviate the financial stress for the one that is taking charge of the child. I'm this case the man is the one taking financial responsibility for the child's welfare.

What is the basis for the mother holding back the money when the man is the one footing all the bills of the child, what then is the essence of the child support? Is it for the woman to use it to buy a vehicle for her self or it should be channelled for the wellbeing of the child which the husband is already doing.

Let the money be given to the one who is footing the bills of the child.

saphiere:
Nigerian men are afraid of independent women.
They are intimidated by our successes.
They need women that are solely dependant on them so that they can use those women as they whish.
Genevieve Nnaji,
Funke Akindele
Tonto Dikeh
Are a proof that Nigerian men can't stand independent women. They need people they can intimidate. People to bruise their ego on.

If the aforementioned women weren't independent, they would have been in their husbands' houses.

I spit on a gender who hates other gender's successes.

Can you see how the above monikers made mockery of Nigerian women? Asking if it's Akeke bread or sliced bread. Because for their minds no Nigerian woman deserves to be a breadwinner.

Why didn't you mention Alakija the tycoon, isn't she an independent woman? She is not an independent woman, she is an interdependent woman . Same for Prof Dora, Dr Ngozi Okonjo, etc

You mention people who can't bond with the opposite gender as your point of interest. Don't be delusional. If you are really independent you don't need a companion or husband, you need to stay alone that's what people who are independent do.

Interestingly, the ones I cited are interdependent woman women who function as a result of symbiotic relationship with the opposite gender.

You will be fine.

Jeon:
No no no no, they can't.
It will inflict serious injuries to their egos. They can make the lady to go astray from hero to zero, grace to grasses and a mere shadow walking on the Earth, if care is not taken.

You will be fine, you are getting there be patient.

OluwaSegun0509:
Oooo. Tha k God sey una neva marry. Seek ways to move your life better and forward. God is your strength.

Yeah , interesting im doing that..thanks

Emperor4tune:
when i advice young men to forget these ashawo wey they collect 1k you think am been rude,ashawo get class just make money and you will meet decent runs girls that u may even doubt them to be,i mean clean babes with freshness not these cheap dirty girls

Men will make money for decent prostitute , nothing I no go read for Nairaland

There is nothing like decent prostitute, all prostitutes are same wether ugly , fat, slim , short, tall etc

OluwaSegun0509:
My dear, find a billionaire like your dad. No offence.

Guy I am telling you what my ex girlfriend told me, I am not the one saying that

OluwaSegun0509:
Don't date a broke minded girl who think that everything must be paid by a man. Team work makes the dream works.

My ex said and I quote ' I am not a team player I need a husband who can take care of all my needs and set up a business for me, he must be an Odogwu'.

I went further to interact with her in the need to build our financial base together if we ever settle for each other, she went further and I quote ' A man who can take care of his wife is worst than an infidel, you as a man must take care of everything about me your money is my money and my money is my money '
That was it for me, unknown to her she saw me as a minimum wage guy so she could freely express her innate mindset without hiding anything whatsoever. To her she was doing me a favor not knowing my reservoir is filled with plenty of water from the ocean.

I had to let her go, her selfishness and self centeredness is on another level. I can't start a life with someone who doesn't put me as priority never.

LoveJesus87:
u said u got up from the bed, which means u have been having sex with her, using her.
Now that u have called it quit, who do u expect to take up the used and valueless product, ehn?
Don't have sex yet until u marry, u people will not hear. After using yourselves worn out, then u see u are not compatible, then u break up and d cursed lady will be looking for an innocent man to take up d damaged goods and even giving attitude on top. Chai this life ehn
May God guide me in choosing a life partner because out there is polluted and over congested with used damaged products

The man did not use her , sex is for two people they were having sex with each other.

olisaEze:
He said he'd rather be a baby daddy, when that's what he was to the girl. I can bet my left balls (and that's the bigger one) that said lady is almost half his age. You can't date someone far removed from your age bracket and expect not to hear childish demands from time to time. A matured woman with her eyes on the price would get that same wig off this neegha without the wrong words. So broda keep on selecting. Till the day you start school runs and realize that all the other parents waiting for their kids along with you are not from your generation!

You are playing to think ladies of same age bracket don't do same, I laugh.

OKOATA:
No take care of your woman cos of stinginess na another man go knack am for you. You think say relationship for Naija na rice and beans? Na comprehension we go chop? Dey write English dey play.

You will be soon.

PNomsule:
...and what exactly did Dangote do to have earned his way back to the top, especially when his refinery is yet to start producing?

Share spruce can increase leading to increase in his net worth.

Jambula:



You almost made me felt I was wrong,now the truth is out, she's fxcking someone else,you all should think well before commenting here on NL

Did she confirm it herself?

Pecoleee345:


Spoke out of pain cos of wig??

Once again I think the problem is actually family base.

A lady well brought up and not from a hungry home won't behave such a way cos of nonsense wig.

You ain't financially stable as a woman and you disturbing a man to buy you wig isn't that an act of foolishness.


Lastly kindly Google the meaning of An Adult so you can stop calling anyone stingy.

Interestingly these people calling others stingy are earning resources but are stingy to themselves why they call others stingy.

Anyone who calls others stingy is actually a begger, only beggars know who didn't give money to them.

Adults that wants to remain a child forever, some of the are women in their 30s, 40s and 50s unbelievable.

Jewessgratitud3:


The words were said out of anger. If you check well, she may not really mean it as a curse. She acted on her feelings at the time. She only needs to be corrected not thrown out like that.

What if she didn't say it out and is cursing him behind his back? That one too dey happen and the man will never know.

Abeg the lady spoke out of pain. The man too stingy

The word doesn't revolve around ladies, you all should learn how to take responsibility and accountability for your actions. The sooner the better.