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Romance / Re: I'm 28 Desperate To Settle Down. by EyeKandy(f): 11:47am On Dec 02, 2014 |
kpolli: Hmmm.... SMH |
Family / Re: Is It Right To Stop Poor Folks From Having Kids They can't Cater For? by EyeKandy(f): 11:16am On Dec 02, 2014 |
To each their own. 2-3 is fine with me; enough companionship, easier family bonding, quality education and the best I can provide. Guess some parents envision the future that some may be doctors, engineers, sportsmen, ... High achieving professionals. That's their hope. It may work for some though. |
Romance / Re: Ladies How Does It Feel Dating A Shorter Guy? by EyeKandy(f): 10:50am On Dec 02, 2014 |
No Bueno... |
Family / Re: Should I Stop Her From Seeing 'pastors'? by EyeKandy(f): 6:26am On Dec 01, 2014 |
Threads like this make me sick! The name-calling and derogatory remarks about his wife is unnecessary. Its even more "wack" that he's blamed for marrying a "Church-eous woman" and some losers even suggests he divorces his wife. Like WTH? OP, simply put, you need to assume the role of the spiritual head of the family. You can't ask her to stop visiting pastors if you're not willing to step up spiritually, accompany her to a living Church and restore her confidence; stating that you're in it together and you love her. 2 Likes |
Religion / Re: 5 Myths About Spiritual Spouse by EyeKandy(f): 11:46pm On Nov 25, 2014 |
Lastchild One thing I'll like to add is, sometimes, the spiritual limitation to our deliverance could be the presence of one of these four wicked strongholds; unforgiveness, pride, jealousy and rebellion. If you cast demons out and they dont leave, check yourself. Each time, my over-confidence (pride) sets in, I counter with the word of God - "humble myself before God and he will lift me up". Another thing is, you may need to focus more on foundational deliverance because demonic spouses are like three branches that sprung from its roots (faulty foundations). Some of us are convenanted to Christ from childhood,we stray and suffer similar attacks. It's even worse because we know the truth and choose to ignore. Though it tarries, God is ever merciful and willing to rescue you. I enjoyed reading your thread. 4 Likes |
Religion / Re: I Don't Dream Again! by EyeKandy(f): 10:41pm On Nov 25, 2014 |
It's either your spiritual monitor has been hijacked (you're being manipulated spiritually) or you wake up hastily and try too hard to remember. Then completely forget. It's not good to forget your dreams. These are a reflection of ongoing and future spiritual occurrences in your life that may manifest in the physical. Pray against any demon withholding your dreams. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Says I Sexually Assaulted Her by EyeKandy(f): 9:56pm On Nov 05, 2014 |
kpolli: Lol. You've started again. You don't know how deep a woman's mind is. Just because she was silent, doesn't mean this dude wasn't selfish. |
Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Says I Sexually Assaulted Her by EyeKandy(f): 8:34pm On Nov 05, 2014 |
YorubaJesus: I find it a bit extreme that she cast aspersions on your character citing 'sexual assault'. Love is a beautiful thing, but make sure you drum it into her ears that you're no rap!st! Don't apologize for such hefty accusation. Now, its very selfish of you to keep screwing a lady that's in pain. It shows you're not attentive to her feelings. What's the goal of s$x? - intimate pleasure right? So do you expect her to be pleased each time she goes to pee and it hurts so she remembers you, the guy that caused the bruised va.g.ina?? That pain is not funny. When next you see her, explain that s$x is just an add-on to your relationship. "You're more important to me than s$x"' ... i love you bla bla. Any experienced man knows this - please her before you please yourself and you'll have the happiest woman on your hands. 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Segun Arinze Shows Off His Baby Girl (photos) by EyeKandy(f): 1:35am On Nov 01, 2014 |
She's beautiful. |
Romance / Re: Wedding: Must A Bridesmaid And Bestman Be Single? by EyeKandy(f): 1:31am On Nov 01, 2014 |
Naaa...Lately, I seen countless married people (male and female) on wedding trains. One of my friends is going to be a bridesmaid tomorrow even though she is recently married and just had a baby. |
Family / Re: . by EyeKandy(f): 1:24am On Oct 31, 2014 |
easyconnect: No Embassy will query a woman for bearing a different last name from her child. People divorce everyday and baby mamas are everywhere. The change of names should be her sons responsibility in adulthood. Let him re-connect with his father when he chooses and if he doesn't want to, that's okay too. |
Romance / Re: I Can't Woo A Girl: I Don't Know What To Say. by EyeKandy(f): 9:47pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Think of it like a conversation. Don't be hard on yourself and no, don't use crazy pick up lines. Ewwww 1. Watch her mood though some girls are naturally mean-faced. 2. Be polite - Hello, can I talk to you for a minute? 3. Introduce yourself confidently: I'm Xixzler, you caught my attention and i just wanna introduce myself. It will be nice to know you. What's your name? - If she responds positively, talk about school, ask more about her - how she spends her evenings, weekends, etc, look around you and talk about anything interesting or funny. (Don't ask open ended questions. let it be like you guys are gisting). Secret: When you're smiling, its harder to turn you down unless she doesn't like you. If she's rude, walk away! Hope this helps. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Confronting The Mistress by EyeKandy(f): 9:26pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Nonso23: Sounds like it. But don't you think men love the attention since they don't get it as much as women? Just curious. |
Family / Re: Confronting The Mistress by EyeKandy(f): 9:11pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Interesting debate. My emotions will determine how I'll react. I watched my aunt beat one pretty young girl mercilessly on the streets of Lagos, but guess what? She stuck around! SMH. |
Family / Re: "Why Should I Pay Child Support For A Child I Didn't Want?" by EyeKandy(f): 8:43pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: Excuse you!! Means?? carefreewannabe: Who says otherwise? Is this a joke? carefreewannabe: I question your understanding and comprehension skills. I coherently described two positions and stated that "I wont judge anyone's decision". Neither the father nor the mother. I explained why my friend struggled at court and now, the guy pays peanuts. Her only saving grace is the birth certificate with his name on it. I am not the law. You asked stup!d questions that has nothing to do with my post. I don't discuss with low reasoning people. This is my last response to you. I suggest you read: Brighter grammar 1, 2 & 3. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: "Why Should I Pay Child Support For A Child I Didn't Want?" by EyeKandy(f): 7:55pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
I'll take a different view on this topic. One of my best friends has a baby for her ex-fiance (both Nigerians), but this guy rejected the baby since birth because she was born fully disabled - God bless her. Now the issue is, he doesn't want to be seen with the baby, doesn't acknowledge her and refuses to support his now baby mama financially. Why?? This is America where competent doctors tell you straight up that your child is disabled before birth. The man wanted her out, but my friend ran to the Church for prayers. I won't judge anyone's decision, but anyways. .. After 6 years, she filed for child support so the dad went to the court with excellent attorneys and told the judge the initial situation and how he suggested an abortion, but she insisted. Just because he never waived paternal rights on the baby and his name is on the birth certificate, he ended up with the responsibility of paying less than $200/month. Chicken change for a disabled child that need 24/7 care. As women, we get too emotional and sometimes, don't use our head. If we close our legs, we'll be just fine. 1 Like |
Family / Re: please help... my inlaws dont want my progress by EyeKandy(f): 7:41pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
pinopino1: What should you do is change your dependent mindset. Think about upward mobility. You're young and your baby is just 2 years old ... work on improving your life, garner skills, embrace a hustler mentality and you may be blessed to find an amazing guy that will be a father figure to your daughter. As for inheritance, you may also call a meeting to express your disappointment in the affairs of your daughter and request a monthly allowance from the properties. If they refuse, count your losses and move on. Some families are too fetish. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: He Couldnt Even Wait To Excort me. Am I Being Used? Help! by EyeKandy(f): 6:39pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Honey, with the kind of immature comments people dish out on NL, please use wisdom in what you take in. Some men need to be told what to do. He probably sees you as a mature lady that wouldn't mind. Don't cancel out anyone from your life until they know how you truly feel. Express your disappointment to him then use his reaction as a yardstick and measure of his character. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: My Girl Want Me To Be Having Sex Outside Our Courtship by EyeKandy(f): 5:27pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Lolz. Lemme advice you from the mind of an experienced woman. She wants you to marry her, but she doesn't want to pressure you into committing. Hence, the celibacy talk - "I made a covenant with God bla bla bla". Basically, you're placed on a sex probation pending either a more serious commitment from you or another eligible guy. I could swear that if another guy comes into the picture, she'll dump your a$$. Think deeply if you really want to marry her. If not, let her go. |
Family / Re: Big Weddings, Short Marriages? by EyeKandy(f): 6:14pm On Oct 29, 2014 |
ELLYsian: Nicely written, all-encompassing analysis. Money drives easy divorce. The thought of "I really don't need you and can survive without you" makes it easy to let go. |
Education / A Second Masters (MBA) Or A Ph.d? by EyeKandy(f): 6:08pm On Oct 29, 2014 |
Seems like Ph.D killed the masters degree. I believe that a second masters increases flexibility and an MBA can also polish my business acumen. Plus, it 2 years compared to spending another 4 years of my life studying. I don't want to do much research though a Ph.D sounds like bragging rights. Would you consider it a waste of time and money getting a second masters degree in a similar field, at a top ranked school (M.I.T) but an MBA version of your masters degree vs getting a PhD? |
Romance / Re: . by EyeKandy(f): 3:48pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
neuralnets: When I comment on a thread, I barely go back to continue any discussion, but I'll say this. The easiest way to lose a woman is lack of affection. Don't use money or gifts to buy affection. When we give love and respect to people, reciprocity is expected because they genuinely love us. Possessiveness is my No. 1 turn off in a man. I've experienced the same thing all because he's trying to "protect" me. If you can get past her sins, give her a second chance. From the messages, she's the needy type and likes compliments/attention. Feed her with words of affirmation and spend quality time with her. If anyone else quoted me, sorry, too busy to be bothered. *un-follows thread* 1 Like |
Fashion / Re: Visual Guide On How To Buy Men's Suit - GQ STYLE. by EyeKandy(f): 7:55am On Oct 28, 2014 |
Hope Nairaland guys learned to suit up for important occasions without looking like bonzo the clown. |
Romance / Re: A Sister Seriously Needs Your Advice! by EyeKandy(f): 7:46am On Oct 28, 2014 |
Your sister's heart is whats at stake here. She may be disappointed in the end. His relationship with his ex is not "formally over" yet. Ladies, always define relationships please. Stop micro-managing situations If he's not bold to make you his arm-candy, on-TO-THE-NEXT!!! He needs to break off with his ex and state that he's with someone else and then, show off his new lady. *wink* |
Romance / Re: . by EyeKandy(f): 7:26am On Oct 28, 2014 |
Yeah right!!! **Rolls eyez** By their fruits we shall know them "shes extremely pretty so she gets alot of attention even when im with her". <<--This is clearly your problem. I'll keep saying this: If you can't handle a pretty woman, don't date or marry one. That's not an excuse for promiscuity, but be aware that side distraction will always be there. You are/were her boyfriend, not a guardian angel! Baby girl needed a break from you. I don't see you as the good guy you portray yourself. You come across as a vindictive, jealous, revengeful and controlling guy. A man ready to build a home forwards incriminating messages to "third parties" and thinks he's justified. Really? Even if she fvcked a priest! If my husband sleeps with a reverend sister, I should forward their messages to his family and entire Catholic Church? Now rethink this, in the end, what did you achieve with that vindictiveness? ...except your mum asking her to get tested, made your relationship an open book, her mistakes an avenue for humiliation and all kinds of BS all because you were heated? In all your rants to this lady, I'm yet to feel a sincere apology on your part for acting so immature because, of course, her reputation means nothing to you! Let's assume you're such a great guy, it's either she's loose, hungry for attention or tired of being in bondage so ask her. Your action reduces the bulk of the blame on your girlfriend. Maybe reconciliation would have been easier if you handled things like a grown man would. Maturity in a relationship is not about age or how long you've dated a person. Keep people out of your business. Lastly, you can't force genuine commitment. Forgive her, take a break and re-evaluate your relationship. If she's not willing to be loyal, let her go. Your love for her seems like an obsession. (Let's agree to disagree). 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: Do I Have The Right To Collect My Phone Gift Back From My Ex? by EyeKandy(f): 7:37pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
kpolli: I think the best way to get it from her is to schedule a meet up to finally "break up in good terms". when she gets there, tell her straight up that she's now another man's responsibility so you need the phone back. If he texts or calls her to return it, I'm pretty sure she'll snub him. lol. On the other hand though, she never asked him to commit himself to this mess. |
Romance / Re: Should I Cancel My Wedding With My Fiancé Or Not by EyeKandy(f): 6:24pm On Oct 25, 2014 |
You may be the kind of lady that won't ask, but expect the man to know his responsibilities. Right? Honey, even the Bible says seek and you'll find. If your desires are not explicitly stated, there's bound to be miscommunication. When you read online that communication is key, it really really is true. Sit him down (or if you live part - skype/facetime) and let him know your concerns. Don't get into a marriage hoping for a change ... it ain't gon work! Don't cancel this marriage plans yet. I was in a similar situation except that my ex had a ridiculous sense of entitlement whereby things should be done for him because "he doesn't have as much". I know he stalks my NL account so I won't give much detail. A wise old woman once told me that my two priorities in a husband should be (1) A man that has my back 100%. (2) A man that's not stingy. Frugality can be tolerated, but stinginess is a no - no. It's not only about money, but how sacrificial he is with his time, love and concern for others. |
Music/Radio / Re: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by EyeKandy(f): 2:15am On Oct 25, 2014 |
New Edition - ♪♫ If it isn't love, why do I feel this way, why does he stay on my mind ♪♫ [url] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ReI6gvzVP0Y [/url] |
Romance / Re: Ask A Retired Womanizer Any Question On Love, Sex & Marriage. by EyeKandy(f): 6:18pm On Oct 24, 2014 |
kpolli: Hahaha....Kpolli. I almost died when I saw this. See why NL anonymity is treasured?? One guy has been giving me headaches. How you been? Sent you a text msg. |
Romance / Re: Ask A Retired Womanizer Any Question On Love, Sex & Marriage. by EyeKandy(f): 4:49pm On Oct 24, 2014 |
RedEboe: Sad reality of life. Last question : When a guy always has a hard on around me, is it indicative of a man that may have a wandering peni$ (womanizer) or a guy that cares about se$ only? I don't mean to ask numerous questions. These are genuine concerns buried in my chest that want out. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Ask A Retired Womanizer Any Question On Love, Sex & Marriage. by EyeKandy(f): 10:06am On Oct 24, 2014 |
RedEboe: The emboldened got me laughing!! Ha ha ha Well, its really not about now, but financial security in the long run, yea. He's the first guy I've dated that's way above me - in terms of career, finances, education, similar backgrounds, ...all that. Question 2: When a guy talks dirty during s$x, do you think its disrespectful? ... I don't wanna embrace a feminist perspective on s%xual objectification though I think its somewhat degrading or maybe I'm not open-minded?? Question 3: How would you handle a girlfriend's sudden decision to be celibate? Or a non-V taking a stand on celibacy in a new relationship? (assuming you're single) I appreciate your feedback. |
Romance / Re: Ask A Retired Womanizer Any Question On Love, Sex & Marriage. by EyeKandy(f): 8:23am On Oct 24, 2014 |
My question: How do I handle a situation where a guy I'm seeing honestly tells me that "beautiful women are one of his vices"? We both laughed at it, but it stuck in my head like glue because I don't know any of his female friends. In other words, if he loves women that much, where are they? He's always texting/chatting and since I don't wanna grill him, it gets really uncomfortable for me. Not bragging, but I encounter lots of men and hold my own quite well. I'm 20-something in my prime (you know what I mean). Mr. X knows this and only steps up when another guy is in the picture. |
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