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The wealthy never try to impress, they have nothing to prove.

I am guilty of same prejudice. When I see a lady who earns less than 50k monthly or has no job yet she uses a phone worth 200k, it sets of an alarm in me.
You won't blame me and probably the rude guy, it's simply illogical.

ellovee:
Are u insinuating that the fare is on the high side or what?

It's pretty low and most likely won't sustain the budget for maintenance.

It's a lot easier to negotiate with Niger Delta Avengers than Boko Haram.
To strengthen the Naira, we have to export crude, ramp up our reserve and stimulate other industries.
This isn't space science. Does Buhari listen to his economic adviser? or could the ear problem be the reason?
For the records, in the last 5 months we have lost 30b Naira daily due to pipeline sabotage.

Someone please call an ENT specialist.

It looks good, just like most new things. To manage this train, rail and station, it's important to put a few things in place.
1. Privatize the entire system or allow a private company buy up equity shares and operate the train, remitting profit to govt. based on its equity.
2. Ensure the right expert are engaged, where there is a gap, train the workers.
3. Train shouldn't do above its capacity.
4. Hire a facility management company to independently handle maintenance.

Should the appropriate authority put all these in place we will be guaranteed of a long lasting train service at the right fare. N600 for a 150km/hr train is ridiculous and shows a lack of understanding just the same way the stadia have been handled.

caxim04:
This should have been done in the presence of someone

In the US, but not necessarily in Naija. As long as he wore a glove it's ok practice in Nigeria.

obinna2nv:
Here in PHED, the prepaid CAPMI meters goes for;

Single Phase: 39,375
Three phase: 68,901

You pay at any Ecobank Branch and the meter will get to you anytime from 60 working days.

About the same in BEDC Benin. It's comforting to note that it's free at Ikeja.
The Metre belongs to the DISCO, It's irrational to charge customers a premium, to make matters worse, we rely more on our generators.

DevGuru:
UPDATE

I sincerely appreciate the fact that almost everyone here regards this matter a very serious one, this alone warms my heart a little. I have read through every single comment on this thread and I appreciate everyone. I couldn't take down the names of those whose comments aligned with my aim of keeping my marriage, but I thank everyone all the same. I realised from a myriad of comments that informing my people will mean a beginning of the end for my marriage. My daughter too is a major consideration. Above all, she's carrying another 6 week pregnancy. I have therefore decided to eliminate (or maybe suspend as the case turns out) informing any of my family members. I decided to play the records to her while I added some words. I started by telling her that my love for her made me decide to talk to her and not to anyone who would possibly fuel separation in my home like her sisters have done. She was shocked because she had never heard any allegation from me towards her elder ones before. She thought I was crazy and I wanted to bring up what was not. Then I played a little while I summarised the wildest words from her sisters which I heard in other discussion. For the FIRST time, my wife couldn't deny ANYTHING as she was convinced beyond doubt that she had been finished. She cried bitterly as I talked further but did not know what to do. But what pained me further was that it was obvious she cried because she saw that I was going to turn to an emperor and ridicule and justifiably disgrace her elderly advisers, NOT really because I was betrayed.

Right there, I was looking for a particular one to play and then even heard what I didn't hear before. Her eldest sister said she had discussed with some other siblings to intensify efforts towards her job search that as soon as she gets a job, she would have to be sending money home for them to create something for her in their town so she could come settle. She cried further as she heard it too. I told her the implications of what she had done to me with her people and then left her in the room because my baby girl was disturbing me. Anytime our voices are not friendly, she interrupts and cries for attention. I took my daughter to the living room and was playing with her.

After about 1 hour, she came to the living room and fell down before me as she cried further, saying "I'm sorry". Then I asked her to state exactly what she was begging me for - her betrayal or her siblings' offence. She knows me very well, she quickly said her betrayal (even though I knew that wasn't the primary cause of her heavy heart). Then I told her I was willing to forgive her in the spirit of upholding my marital vows to her. I explained further that for the sake of our daughter and the unborn one(s), I was willing to forgive her and build a stronger home with her. She felt a little relief knowing that she was getting back into me. I then said "but from this minute, I'm in a ruthless war with anyone, I repeat, ANYONE who is determined to break my home as I now have to guard our togetherness jealously". I stated further that the only thing I would hold against her was if she ever stood in my way. Just as if a thunder just struck and killed someone dear to her, she cried loudly again saying "she had finished her life". She said she would be the one to suffer in the war I just declared and that I should just allow her to call all of them and tell them never to meddle into our affairs again. I refused to fall for that trick and held my stance that my resolve was not going to change and I walked away. Since then till this moment, she has been like a mourning widow. When it was time for food, we ate together as usual and I've been the one trying to talk now. She hasn't spoken with anyone on phone since then, although I don't know about Whatsapp or BBM chat. Now she's waiting for the next available opportunity when she could plead for her sisters again... only God knows for how long the waiting would be. Let me quickly mention that she sent me an SMS from the bedroom a while ago: I CAN SEE THE HANDWORK OF THE DEVIL IN THIS WHOLE MATTER, PLS LET'S TRY TO RESIST THE DEVIL THIS TIME SO HE CAN FLEE FROM OUR HOME. I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD DEAR".... I simply replied from the living room: "ON THE CONTRARY HONEY, I CAN SEE THE HAND OF GOD. CAN'T YOU SEE IT?"

On another note, I do not want to assume that she will not tell her sisters, although it might take a while because she knew they would rebuke her for delivering them into the hands of their 'enemy' through Call Recorder. But before she informs them, I think I'd follow someone's advice here too that I should reveal it to someone who could keep it away from my mum and sisters, which is surely my Dad - just to put someone in the know, in case I begin to smell rat poison in my food... lol. What do you think?

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I wish you well.

I believe her sisters gave an advice based on the template they use on Their respective family. The first people that should this recording are their husbands.
Many have followed the noble path of saving failed marriage and paid with wasted years and eventually their lives.
If you take it to her family, they will accuse the two sister's of been the problem right from time and ask you to move on without them. It's all up to you.Pray about it.

I would have said and concurred with those who said play the tape to her family and yours and insist her family keep their distance but I know deep down that it won't work.

A better solution will be to ensure adequate armed security at ATM points. Activate gps tracking on ATM cards as well

Akainzo:
When you say That has always been the arrangement , please was that the arrangement under which Diezani was GMD and Minister under GEJ? Or was that arrangement shelved for a while to accommodate Diezani?

Dieziani was never GMD, she was minister. GMDs under her were all northerners.

SeverusSnape:
I came to look at the name of the person he replaced him with, And I wasn't disappointed, Buhari can't conceal his nepotism, favouritism and bias. Since southerners aren't qualified, according to zombies, Let him continue appointing the core northerners who are more qualified. See the BOARD OF DIRECTORS, 80 percent core northerners too, No federal Character. I remember many Buhari Ass-lickers saying Northerners are more Trustworthy, Seriously; Zombiesm is worst than terrorism.

I dey laugh those my people wey think say Buhari na man of integrity and unbiased man of integrity my ass.

When the minister is from the south, the GMD has to be from the north or vice versa.That has always been the arrangement.

Hand it over to private business men. This we guarantee a well maintained and sustainable train service.

The publicity this news generates for UBA is worth far more than 3m.
Banks are the best at business, they know it.

well written, lots of lesson learnt. I think as a people we have to speak up against this sort of oppression.
Sadly, five years after this article was written we are still faced with the same cruel menace.

Jobabori:
Prof Takuno Tamuno was once a UI vice chancellor. He is not a Yoruba

I bet we had to go deep down memory lane. My point is it should be based on merit rather than tribal sentiment.

What are the chances that OAU or UI have a non Yoruba VC?
I attended a federal govt college in the west, it was sacrilegious to have a non Yoruba head boy. What a country.

In terms of what it addresses, it's a huge achievement. However, the cost of achieving this is about the same as an individual tiling his residence with interlocking stones.
I will like to know the cost of this project to tax payers.

piagetskinner:
Nairaland has become a forumn where peple ask unecessary questions....as a married man, I think the use of ur discretion is enough to to know how much u shold be giving to your wife...people don't need to tell u how to run ya narriage oga

In Nairaland, he is anonymous. Asking for advice in a marriage forum in church or anywhere else isn't much different as you may find people online who will give sound advice online as well .

I advise you stop buying foodstuff and household items, instead add the money to 20k and let her take care of the house upkeep.
If you start too high, you will be maxed out in a short while especially when the kids start coming. At this point you may have little or nothing to achieve your goals, and guess who will be blamed 10 years later, You.

When you give a passenger filled luxurious bus to a keke napep rider....what you get isn't different from what we have now.
The least we demand is to maintain the status quo.

So sad, the closest experience I have is a police jumping into my car and accusing me of driving in the wrong direction, after pleading with him and parting with 2k, I realized a few minutes later he had stolen my phone.
Lesson learnt, if you give a stranger a lift, keep your valuables out of his/her reach.

Mynd44:
The market women in Bodija market(Ibadan) sweat for those things they wear. They dont have corruption charges on their backs, they were not oil ministers when oil sold for the highest and money started growing wings.

Do not insult Ibadan women, they might sound/look razz but they have honor and pride in not having their names smeared in thievery.

Madam, they wear gold yes, but they also have honor.

The lady has said something instructive about corruption charges been concluded on the pages of newspaper.
If you relate well with her CV, you will understand that it's not out of place to own these property.

I expect his apartment/compound to have adequate security cameras.

"....if you love something, let it go, if it is yours it will come back, if it doesn't, it never was"

PRYCE:
So watching movies is in tandem with childishness or is it joking that is?

See the problem with you sort of people is that you are too serious and your 'ages' turn you to complete narcissists! You think you are better than everyone cos "you don't take stipends from your parents" hence you are "Matured". Your like don't respect your parents cos to you, since you don't take stuff from them, you're grown and can brush shoulders with them.

What if I take stipends from my parents? Is that the new measure of one's maturity? According to your reasoning now, everyone in Nigeria Under the age of 25 behaves 'Immaturedly' or still takes money from his patents? There are NO successful Nigerians whatsoever under 25? Lol!!! Chai!

Donald Trump's children still take stipends from their dad.... but they are successful people with flourishing careers. They confessed so. Does that makes them "Immature" or "childish"....DJ Cuppy is a successful DJ, living off her dad's money; Take your grumpy self to YouTube and hear her speak. Oh and she's just 22... Mr "Under 25". these are just two in a flurry of examples I can give you.

Guy take your warped views out of my mentions. You still have a lot to learn about the human mind, the way of the world. your horizon too needs a lil nudge out the door even with your "Big Age".

What Correlation does Maturity have with taking stipends from your folk for heaven's sake? How much do you pay your parents for the advice they give you? Isn't that the biggest STIPEND you can ever take from them? Why should money be different? If you ca be self sufficient money-wise, you should be self sufficient Wisom-wise. Abi Cos you get "Big age" you bigger than the wisdom your folks can impart on you?

You are very funny!

I am sorry if I offended you with my comment. That wasn't my intention. Apparently you missed the point I tried to pass across.
Please pardon my poor communication skill.

Across virtually all Nigerian culture three major criteria are used to judge the success of a man;
1. Is he Married?
2. Does he have children?
3. Does he have a house of his own?

At 60,70,80 a man's success is sadly measured against this standard.
It's my opinion that this is rather shallow and underachieving, inasmuch as it's important to have all of these there are many other things that should define a man/woman's success.

Things like service to humanity, religious uprightness, mentor to the young all these and many more are legacies which transcends the life of a man. We must have them as our core values.

PRYCE:
Why do you say that?

Your comment and thought pattern is in tandem with the reasoning of people, particularly Nigerians about that age.

kenonze:
Maybe as Amodu see say PMB sympathize with Keshi family, him wan grab the opportunity

Even King Solomon will envy your wisdom.

PRYCE:
Each time I hear Niger Delta Avengers, I think of Iron Man, Captain America, Hulk, Agent Romanov, Thor E.T.C

Well, Buhari should listen oo!...!

You are under 25, most likely you still get stipend from your parents/guardians.

Well said.

bakynes:
Is too bad i bumped into this thread late. We all know how much money that has been pumped to the region in the last 8-9 years or so right from the days of agitation during OBJ's second term. The agitation led to the creation of NDDC, Ministry of Niger Delta affairs, 13% derivatives, Amensty programme( which includes payment in cash to ex- militants and fully funded scholarship every year overseas training), Huge allocations to oil producing states, Royalties from the Oil majors to oil producing communities. All these leading to Billions of dollars annually. When i saw the publication from RMFAC on allocation to all the states i noticed if you add all the allocation of the four major oil producing states (Akwa- ibom, Delta,Rivers and Bayelsa) all together it is more than what the rest of the 32 states earn all toghether. An educated Ijaw analyst on radio said in the last 8 years, Delta and Bayelsa states have received up to 8 trillion naira in cash payment * note* Bayelsa stills owes her workers 6 months plus salary. I have been to all the states in the Niger delta region except Akwa-ibom and can still how less developed they are ( especailly Bayelsa one of the least developed state in Nigeria).


Now let us analyse this, we cannot completely exempt the FG for the injustice done to the Niger delta over the years but i can categorically tell you that the greater injustice is been done by the Niger delta leaders.

I am very sure if all region is allowed to control their resources, the Niger delta will still be undeveloped.

The youths from ND on Nairaland keep talking abt injustice, ask yourselves what was Nigeria/the now Niger delta living on before the full exploration and production of oil in the 70's? Where did the money for exploration and production of oil come from?