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This Oshio is a very handsome man,though Zacheous and chimpanzee

iammo:



Only 58 mscheeew!!!

they need to insult him some more


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If you are a woman,better reserve this your comment and dont ever try go near this man,otherwise you will become his wife without know how it happened. So you are telling me that for a man to have 58 wives including graduates and he has control of all of them ,that those wives fall in love with him naturally?.You think its ordinary. Its only him that know the kind of powerful juju he use to get them and they lose their senses. The world is mysterious. dont ever try or any of your relations whether graduates or PHD holders and nomatter how beautiful they are go near to him,the rest will be story. Even at 58 wives,there is no type of lady that if this man wan to grab and add again as wives that he wont do. He know what he is using to get them

UwaMmebii:
Obaseki is gone

Obaseki is a great man. So everybody should be ass licking?

Please what is the best antivirus for Osho-Virus

Nice one El Rufai.Other Governors and friends will dissociate themselves from Sanusi because of their selfish political interest so that PMB and others will not victimize them.
The only aspect I dont like you much is you are Islamic extremists and you humiliate. Christians and many Nigerians have known you with such a stigma

Thanks for all the decent, born again and God fearing ladies that say "Amen* to this. May God continue to bless you and grow stronger in your faith. It shall be well with you. Adultery can never see your marriage,you will have a happy and joyful marriage.Your marriage will be blessed in Jesus name - Amen.
Please for all those that engage in this, I wonder how you will be sleeping with another woman's husband and at the same time praying God for a husband.I wonder how you will be fighting your husband and that girl sleeping with him when it was exactly what you did when you are single.I wonder how you feel staying on top of a man and at the same time saying that you have a church programme,or still claiming that you are a born again or a real child,do we know what we are doing or have conscience stall,Fornication and adultery is a sin.May God forgive us and give us the grace to stay away from sin. God bless you all

True defintion of USED AND DUMPED in politics. A lesson to other South South and South West politicians serving as an errand boys to the North and licking their yash for just their selfish interest

Goldstar24:
Amen to that

Wao, i need to give you a gift if it had been possible to know who and how to send it to ,you are a hero and the type of people the society needs to curb the high rate of moral decadence in the society where single ladies sleeping around with married men has been taken as a societal norm without conscience rather than sin before God.

donbachi:
More than 15 female nairalanders don read am and for their mind "u dey craze"

LOL,

I know many of them have read it,but please i need those that can summon courage and say something if they are innocent.

If you are a single lady and you dates and sleep with another woman"s husband, when you marry,may another single lady keep sleeping with your own husband the way you used to sleep with them and may your husband keep taking care of her and give her attention. Can i hear somebody say something.....

I don't know what this world is turning into. As a thorough bred up Catholic faithful,we were taught that having sex outside marriage is a great sin and for a married man or woman to have sex outside his wife or husband is also an abomination (sin) before God. We grew up with this teachings and fear and it has been of help

Behold, these days the rate of fornication and adultery has been on increase that many did not even see it again as a sin before God but rather ,a fun in giving your body what it want. The rate single ladies sex married men is nothing to write home about to the extent that up to 5 ladies will be following one married man ,they will all know one another and fighting for one married man.

I have seen a situation a lady is having sex with a man and at the same time telling the man that they have fellowship or virgil in the church today and will go from here.A situation exists where a lady coming back from church or fellowship goes directly to a mans house to have sex and even pass night. and lots of examples.I happen to confront one of such ladies the other day, and her only reply is "what is there,that your body need something and you give it" I was shocked. Meaning that many did not see sex outside marriage as sin.
I am not talking from guess work, what I am saying is fact.
What is happening these days

I don't know what this world is heading to. As a thorough bred up Catholic faithful,we were taught that having sex outside marriage is a great sin and for a married man or woman to have sex outside his wife or husband is also an abomination (sin) before God. We grew up with this teachings and has been helping us not to engage in such an act.

Behold, these days the rate of fornication and adultery has been on increase that many did not even see it again as a sin before God but rather ,a fun in giving your body what it want. The rate single ladies sex married men is nothing to write home about to the extent that up to 5 ladies will be following one married man ,they will all know one another and fighting for one married man. I am not talking from guess work, what I am saying is fact.What is happening these days

Not only handsome,na headsome. Go and make money,that's the only true definition of handsome as far as Nigeria ladies are concerned.

I have seen a lot of husbands and Wives that stay apart because of one reason or the other,may be job locations, search for greener pastures etc.It can be inter state or different countries. Some do meet on quarterly basis,some half a year, a year, years etc. This no doubt affects negatively on their love affairs but most of them hardly accept that fact.

Some of the close ones I know when jokingly ask them how do they cope when the sexual feelings with their partner is much, almost all of them will respond " E no easy oo but na God be our strength " Wetin man go do na other than to dey bear it,that's what I do or we do,we dey hold our body till we meet ,bla bla" None has ever accepted that he or she are into adultery by keeping a side woman or man that is satisfying him or her in absence of husband or wife being apart.

However,I have heard where many were as well caught in the act,I also shockingly read some write ups in which the the writer(s) by research said that at least 70 to 80 percent of couple staying apart engage in adultery( chop and clean mouth). It is not every man or woman can bear hearing that his wife or her husband is having sex with another person or had it with another person.
Please how true is that almost all couple that stay apart engage in adultery as I am scared of staying apart from my family.

Honestly I never dream that such can happen but that's how I see it and I feel guilty over everything.

During this festive season,we traveled for an event that took almost a week in a far away place that accommodation is a challenge in that area. My wife sister accompanied us in the journey and because of accommodation challenges we were offered a big single mattress that can accommodate as many people as possible and we all do sleep on the mattress. However, in the process, we made love on assumption that the sister is asleep,but i reason later it sounds she is not asleep but pretends that she is. Though she is an adult,a graduate.Indirectly,i guess she was watching us even as she maintained she was facing the wall,and a times she will stretch herself,turns around the bed when the action was going on. My insists tell me she see us and i and my partner feel somehow especially on seeing her.

Please what do you think and is there anything wrong with it.

Kulas:
Since the APC Governorship election Campaign hit the ground, I have never seen President Buhari, Tinubu and some bigwigs of APC campaigning for this colossal failure called Yahaya Bello. I only got to know about El rufai kneeling down begging Kogites to forgive one of their own " Failure Yahaya Bello".Same applies to Aisha. They just came to beg Kogites to forgive, an acceptance that Bello is indeed a failure.

Why is PMB ,Tinubu and others not campaigning for him or begging Kogites on his behalf to forgive

They already know Bello has failed woefully and will prefer just for the sake of their party retaining Kogi work on how they can secretly deploy their resources and rig the election massively in favour of APC rather than coming out publicly to tarnish their image and dent their reputation in supporting a man that even kids on the street know him as a failure.

garetz:
Man city is in trouble if Bravo will be the in goal at the weekend against Liverpool

Real trouble .I dont know why this kind thing happen to my club man city now that they want to play Liverpool. I am sure all Liverpool fans are happy.

zangodangolo:
Having played 11 matches for the 2019/2020 English Premier League,critical analysis shows that Liverpool has already won the 2019/20 EPL with reasons:

1. They have played 11 matches with 31 points against their closest rival Man City with 25 points. This is 6 clear points above.
2. They have won all the 10 matches and only draw 1.
3. Liverpool have already played all the major top clubs including Chelsea, Arsenal, Spurs, Man united and Leicester City,yet they win all of them with just one draw with Man United while as Man City who is their close rival has never played any of the top clubs of Chelsea ,Arsenal,Man united,Leicester City yet they are 6 points behind Liverpool. It is very difficult for Man city to win all the top clubs and maintain close points with Liverpool,
4. Liverpool defense is the best and their three foward of Firmino- Mane- Salah are very ruthless and one of the best if not the best so far in EPL
5. Liverpool forwards are not injury prone and its not possible for them to drop point

In all,No 3 above is the major reason Liverpool is no doubt already a winner of 2019/20 EPL. Do you agree? . Please share your view.

i reason as such. At the moment ,Liverpool is sitting on 99% chances of winning the EPL.

Please what the best way to train your children.Is beating a child whether with a cane or hand the best way to train a child for good behavior and child upbringing.

Most atimes,this used to create a slight disagreement between me and my spouse whenever i caution her to stop beating the children anyhow but rather devise another mature means of punishment to them,for i dont key into the idea that beating is the best way to go.
Secondly that beating can cause harm and unexpected psychological trauma to a child and may result even disfiguring the child and otherwise out of annoyance,and when such happened,our eyes will be open and we start calling devil is the one that pushed us and "had i known" statement will keep flying in,as well financial expenses on treating the child as a result of the harm caused to the child.Again that all the beatings so far has not changed anything in them character wise.Most of it ended up in them telling lies, being afraid and keeping calm/quiet or not to do anything when you are around but once you are not around,they will go back to their normal way.I dont buy the idea of training a child to behave well out of fear when i am around but once i am not there,the child will revert to the opposite character. Train a child in a way that whether you are there or not, the child will act well. Atimes they dont even feel the beating anymore no matter how they were beaten

In all these,she objected me, that i am pampering the children ,that their own father used to beat them well during their childhood.I told her that is their father,and not me,and that his own way should not be the same with me,besides that as a grown up now, i did not see any benefits of the beating their father give them as she said.

I have read different kinds of stories on social media and have seen physically the harm beating a child as means of training/upbringing has caused. My question is,is beating a child the best training in child upbringing.What is really the best way to go for a good child upbringing.

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mysticwarrior:
Op you should understand that some married woman are far more vulnerable than single ladies, A married woman is likely going to fall for the advance of an outsider if the entwined bond between her and her husband disentangled.
1. If a man stop being Romantic to his wife and another man start showing her powerful affections outside, then there is trouble.
2. Sex drive, if a man no longer fulfills and quenched all his wife Erotic and sexual desires like he use to, she might be tempted to get it elsewhere.
3. Financial instability. A man who is financially down stand's a chance of sharing his woman with another man.
4. Trust. Trust is what is earn by partners but once that trust is gone the pillars holding that marriage would collapse.

Op these four factors are not what you should just ignore, A man's life is surrendered by ups and downs, a lot of individuals has passed through more worst cases than your's and still went on to build a stronger marriage, I have seen a case where a married woman was impregnated by her boss the man didn't go public, and the case was settled after the woman showed great remorse, there are other cases where men impregnate their housemaid and sister in-law and the marriage still continued, some men and woman are infecting their spouse with HIV virus everyday but you won't know, na only your own u know.
Op to me your marriage is still very much alive but you have some work to do, you need to rejuvenate your relationship with your wife and spice it up with some of these.
1. Take her out on a date
2. Buy her things like nice undies she would love that, if you have the money get her a Brazilian weavon there are affordable ones.
3 take the family out for a picnic once in a while.
4 tell her powerful and sweet words, women don't joke with that.
5. Coaxed her romantically her response will guild u on what to do next.
6. Spice up and improve your love making with more romance, and initiate knew patterns.
7, since she complained about small boy love making give her big boy love making, take your kids to spent the weeken with a relative and make love to your wife in odd places, the kitchen, bathroom and sitting room, some woman like it slow, some like crazy sex, others preference it very rough and some enjoyed it more when you go very Brutal, try to identify the one your wife prefere and give it to her that way, try all these and you will see some changes.

Thank you

bukatyne:
Nothing is as annoying as when someone stays in a relationship they are not ready to work on.

From your write up, you never addressed the reason(s) why you separated initially.

That is very very key to resolving this issue.

@issue of sex and intimacy:

I find it strange that your wife developed negative habits towards your sex life after the separation. The natural thing would be trying to rebuild and rekindle the intimacy. Please I would to know

1. Who initiated the separation?
2. Who initiated the reconciliation?
3. Were both families active in the separation and reconciliation process?
4. Who earns more in the marriage?
5. Is the earning power significantly different?
6. As honestly as possible, who gained during the separation? Who has more dependencies in the marriage?
7. Were you both virgins? Was either of you a virgin?
8. Did you introduce new things into your sec life?
9. Has the reason for separation been treated?

Explanations on the separation and answers to the above questions may not be possible at this time

All the comments are well appreciated.

Its not that i dont use to say romantic words to her but may not necessarily be at the magnitude she want. At the same time what actually got me upset as well was the fact that even after the reconciliation and reunion,i discovered after sometime that she still secretly communicate with like two men(the ones i know)that she messed up with during the separation(though i dont know whether they still do the other) and i confronted her towards that,and that put me fear even till date on whether something is still going on between her and them behind my back,especially when she started acting all the things i enumerated above and thats more reason i objected the reason(not saying romantic/sweet words) she gave to me.

Truly speaking based on all those act which is more of a betrayal of trust,its never easy to write off all those things from my mind because i dont know what is going on.Its a pity that i am enumerating all these here ,but that how it is eating me deep physiologically,and i am fed up with the whole thing.If couples found themselves in this kind of thing,and later got reunited,is it not the duty of both of them to work harder and rebuild the union by making an amendment and vow never to allow such happen ,throw away and avoid all past mistakes by resisting anything that can create sense of suspicion or further betrayal from the other party rather than doing otherwise.

Again what about the fact that you will lie together with your partner in bed only for her to always turn her back to you and face the opposite direction,its more of rejection or insult and feeling of no want,what is then the essence of sleeping together?, all these wasn't like that before, it all started three years ago till date after separation and reconciliation. I don't know the cause and she refuse to tell me or make an amend

I dnt think there are married men that at some extent dnt say or play romantic words to the partner,afterall it will be difficult to believe such words are unheard for years of marriage only to come up as an excuse after reconciliation of separation

Secondly, it has never happened before all the years in marriage where I am be charged as a sole initiator of love making, it was like 50 50 then and very fantastic, why now that things changed after reunion

The way a woman feels that the man initiated sex and feel loved us the same a man feels being belong and loved when the wife also initiates it and makes sex enjoyable and fantastic. Things has fallen apart and all those things had eluded my once joyful marriage and part of my annoyance is that I tried to revive the sexual life back since close to 3years this started but to no avail and she refuse to open up and tell me the exact cause of this issue or what is going on. I dnt like the way she has been treating my sex life and it's affecting me and that's I said in am fed up ,posting this here is that I have deviced several means to sort it out but it continues till date

spongeisback:
OP here's an idea. Why don't you as a married man and an adult solve your problem or go to a marriage counsellor, instead of bringing your private problem to nairaland for other men to ridicule your wife.

Marriage counsellor do not necessarily provide solution, besides nairaland is not a facebook where identity is revealed and good advice/solution can be gotten as well even based on people's experience

The sexual life of the marriage of years has been fantastic but started collapsing since 2 to 3 years now

There was an issue that lead to some 5 to 6 months of separation before we re united again and I'm those months of separation both of us messed up by having extra marital affair which we confessed and forgiven each other

But right from the day we reconciled till date, the fantastic sexual life has gone bad as I am the only one that initiates sex till today,unlike those years before the separation either she or I do initiate it and make love on frequent basis,but never the same, she don't even care or have sexual feelings to me again unlike those time

There was a statement she used to make within the fist month we re united most time I made love with her and I quote" All these your small boy love make self.... Bla bla"
The statement do get me annoyed and I warned her never go make such statement again as its an insult to me because over the years we have been living together, you never make such, and now we re united such statements keep voicing out with boldness, she stopped it.

I have sat her down severally and asked her why all these non initiation of sex from her again or feeling to have sex with me anymore the way it used to be, that I am now the one that initiates sex and feels having sex with you and many times u turn me down or giving one complain or the other and even if we lie on the bed you turn your face the other side and all these changes started when we re united after 5 months separation.The only answer she give me was that I don't use to talk romantic sweet words to her. I objected it and told her that if for the past years we have been staying and our sexual life was fantastic and enjoyable, was I not the same person of no romantic sweet words(as you claimed)those years?,how come it's after this little separation and reuniting that all these excuse started manifesting? ,I even went to the extent of asking her to open up with me if I don't satisfy to compare with the ones both of us put hand on during separation,or should I increase even my manhood etc, in fact I was confused, I don't know what to do,but she did not say any further thing

To cut the story short,this weekend, I got annoyed and sat her down that since for close to 3 years now, I am the one that initiates almost 98 percent of love making,and her lack of sexual feelings on me anymore as well as all time facing the other side anytime we lie on bed, that henceforth, that we should be sleeping separately as there is no need sleeping together as husband and wife and no need disturbing her anymore to make love, that I feel I am being rejected and I am forcing myself on her, that I can't continue,sex is enjoyable tru the role and cooperation of feelings from both partners and very boring when it's always one partner making and having the feeling,that I know what I am passing tru, that I have tried and I feel she is getting satisfaction and joy elsewhere and should continue the way as it pleases her.

She said she is not having affairs outside and that God is the one to judge and that if I am no longer interested in the marriage why can't I take her back to his father's house and rightful quit

Please kindly advise, I am fed up for three years is not three months and till date she refuse to tell me the cause of her act. Thank you

All liverpool fans will definetly turn to Man U supporters today while All Chelsea fans will at the same time automatically become Wolves and Man City supporters ,the reason is obvious and once after tonight Matches,all of them will withdraw their supports or even turn to enemy and go back to their various support base

The question is why should it be so?

This is too bad. How can a company owe staff months of salary yet those staff do come to work.How do they take care of themselves

If not hardworking Igbo women ,who else?

D wiked Wike

With 5 Matches to the end of EPL and having viewed outstanding Matches of Liverpool and man city, it is obvious liverpool will become Champions today if they win Chelsea.Do you agree?