₦airaland Forum

JovialJune:
I wonder you see in my write up that my sons will be taught to worship women? Where exactly?

If my saying I'll teach them how to treat women right means worship, then I have no words for you, seeing as you are a woman.

I am not a woman... u already lost.. because u saw (f). The more u look and less u see. Is this same mind set u are using to bring those boys, believing every shit they see

Yes teaching ur sons how to treat women right means worshiping women(because you have been specific about the gender)

You should say treat people right. U are teaching them how to give special preference to women, is that not worshiping women

Like I said... is not gonna be easy for them with the mindset u are about using on them.

Years ago I had a room mate with same mentality, my mum say, my mum said, thinking women are gift to the world and should be treated differently.

Right under his nose his gf was taking advantage of him , messing the young man head up...

We had to rescue him. We retrained, teaching him how to view the world because his mother did a bad job.

That same job is what I see u doing, is still early, u can modify it. Make the treat people right, teach them right from wrong... teach them to protect them self and if anybody come for their neck, they should go for their head.

Be you man or woman... peace out my dear...

The world doesn't give men chance, the only chance they have will be what ever teaching u give them now

anochuko01:
No naaaa. You're the student here and I'm the teacher

Just be the owner of school make we rest

JovialJune:
Lol I already have sons, I am and will continue to train them and teach them right on how to treat ladies well, regardless of where they are in future

Cheers.

Teaching ur sons how to worship women doesn't make u a wise mother.

Teach your son how to treat people right. Humanity b4 gender.

You guys are trying to solve a problem and creating another.

See, the world will squeeze out life out those boys... make them soft and watch other men match life out of them.

Out here even men don't give a f*ck about men. Is survival of the fittest.

Teach them how to treat people right, teach them decency of life...

If teach them how to worship women..

I pitty those boys, because even women won't spare them ..

The world is never perfect and can't be..

Is eat or be eaten

anochuko01:
If this was to be an exam, you for score like 1/50. Person ask what's identification number, only for you to answer with NIN.

Answer so u can score 50/50...

Kids every where

tobechi74:
Help anyone achieve her dream . But she does not owe you anything in return. I have heard cases of men insisting their wife paid them half of her salary because she sponsored her education. That mindset should be abolished. She does not owe a guy marriage because he sponsored her education.
If she no longer finds him suitable for marital commitment, she can bail out at any time. She must not marry you the guy as payment for debt owed.

If you want to invest in her, draft a contract first and state the terms and conditions. Then enforce them in a law court. Then, this is a contract and not done out of love.

So what u are saying is men should stop supporting the dream of the woman they love.

Marry her the way u met her. So that it won't look like a transactional marriage...

Lets accept our self the way we are

Oyiboman69:
Which one is national identity number please?

NIN

evuna:
Most of those people saying that it's normal are not igbos or some of those woke people. My aunt met her husband in germany but they did their traditional marriage in the village. someone stood for them. I have watched some British events and they always praise their tradition.


Don't let anyone deceive you, stand your ground. Not everyone should go home. Besides, colleagues can attend the white wedding in the city.


I am sorry to as, which state are you from. Enugu or anambra person will never conceive such. Marriage is not between two people in igboland. it is between two communities. That's why we value the concept of "ogo".


Once allowed, always allowed. Except your sister isn't getting married to an igbo person. Think about when her children atttends a kindred meeting, someone will remind him that her mother wasn't properly married. No matter how polished you are, respect traditional institution unless it goes against your Faith.


People even travel from abroad to do igba nkwu in igboland, let alone those in Nigeria. Go to the North, they respect their tradition, same with the south West, but they are here telling you that it doesn't matter. Can your sister's children sit in an igbo gathering, that issue will come up.


what about August meetings, can your sister fully participate? She is very young and might feel she doesn't need village people but time will tell. Those highly read people in my community finally succumbed and are even spreading traditional views.


You are the Okpara, if you allow it. You have not done well. Act like an Okpara.

U have spoken well my brother... don't mind this social media generation

The reason parents need to teach their kids the meaning of culture becos very soon we have no culture left

Mynd44:
Culture is dynamic and never cast in stone as long as Tradition is followed.

You know she can actually give herself away in marriage right?

That's the point... since culture is dynamic.. let her give her self away in marriage...

Inferiority complex keep eating us while we keep working over night to copy the Western culture.

When I visited China, I was hit so hard... I saw how this people are protecting their culture with every thing.

When u keep modifying every thing... we will loss we are over time all on the name of dynamics

Sometimes u ask why marriage have no value anymore u think the answer is far fetched is right in our face.... because we can do what ever we like

Mynd44:
It is her wedding and her choice. I know you might feel a bit skirmish about it but it is still her choice.

And how is this an "Igbo tradition" to marry at home? I think the tradition is the marriage itself, the travelling home for it is the culture (I stand corrected). Anywhere you live and you are welcome is where your home lies.

If your worry is about who attends, invite those people over.

But still talk to her and try to find a middle point, make compromise which might include, an introduction in the village before the wedding while it might not be the actual event but she and her husband visits to meet everyone. This can also be agreed on after the wedding.

I have Igbo friends whose traditional marriage was done in Lagos because they felt the logistics was off. Some felt their friends, bosses, mentors, colleagues who they feel are more impactful in their lives than some of the family members they have not seen or even met might not be able to share in their special day especially if the "elders" who will attend even in the village are few and can be convince to travel to the city if they insist.

Anyways, let us know how this goes and remember, it is her wedding and while you want what is best overall, she is an adult and able to make her decisions. Make compromise and listen too her arguments well.

Is her wedding, is her wedding... then she should give her self to the man why the marriage then.

We keep throwing away our culture like is nothing.

Op listen, this might be the only time ur inlaws will know where ur sister came from.

That is ur root and heritage... it doesn't have to be a big party but the kola nut and bride price should be paid in ur family compound.

See ur in law to be won't give their daughter to marriage any where...

Ur sister might not see any value in it, u have to protect the family respect and ur sister respect.

They need to know u guys came from some where and this is the only time it will happen.

After this they can do their white wedding even in the moon no wahala.

Go home, visit ur umunas, tell the them u don't want it big

Let him come with his close family to ur village and pay the bride price... don't give out ur sister hand in marriage any where.

Bro... the culture is dying ... we need to protect it

bash8936:
The funniest thing is that a south westerner will still be the flag bearer of apc in 2023. who will in turn be the president. Just like Osibanjo became VP after Obasanjo presidency, Igbos will cry marginalization and shout of Biafra tire.. And Tinubu will be the landing factor of Yoruba presidency if not the candidate, unless he’s dead. He has majority of apc governors, speaker and senate president. 2most populous state already strategizing(Kano and Lagos). The game have started. Tinubu have started the move already...The foot soldiers are already answering the clarion calls.

How has this make any impact in ur life

Racoon:
Errors of grammar are common but I have passed my opinion.I had C4 in English Language WASSCE June 1999.Does that not sound good to you? Nnamdi Kanu really do you strong thing.Ndoo!

Waow respect bro. 1999... then I was in primary school

U are seeing it there and still asking.

amc:
Why do you guys always resort to cursing and swearing at people who ask for real evidence to support the claim by CNN and those who believe a massacre too place?

because people like u are the reason the government keep lying with pride

abc115:
Bye Bye Trump

Focus on the d man in as rock.

Leave white house alone

U guys won't learn. This white boys package ponzi for una call am forex

Get an iPhone and avoid stupid arguments....

Incognito403:
Order must be restored



VP Osinbajo already addressed the nation. What else do you want?



Youths who have refused all negotiations but only want violence?

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Order must be restored. We want normalcy restored. Soldiers must be deployed.

Negotiate what exactly...

Police brutality

Unemployment

High cost of living

Poor electricity

Poor health sector

Poor educational system

Like seriously, negotiate what everyone can see.

Pls if u don't have anything to say keep shut.

Some of u feel this life u are living in Nigeria is normal.

I pity u

Lashist:
Nothing like that...if you like zone or "unzone", the youths will hopefully choose a sensible president...APC and PDP no fit chop my vote in this life again...I'd rather waste the vote on a small party with credible candidate than a party with thieves and ritualists

My guy u are wise....

greenhulk:
They will come and tell u now that it is sponsored by the government. Looks like the word sponsored is now tending.

This kind of thinking is why our government have put this nation in bandage for decades.

I used to be surprised how a youth can think this way, not anymore.

Alot of u are damage

Chachangi:
How much were you paid to write all these . You don’t care about innocent lives being murdered daily in Nigeria. Let the future generation send you blessings and not curses. Repent now before it will be too late for you.

God bless

He is a police officer, don't stress

historyles:
I am glad Buhari is actually arresting people

This will only help the protests to escalate and may eventully turn into a revolution. Kudos to Buhari for helping the protests

#GoharderBuhari

I almost attqck u, then I just hold and read through

Roon9:
Imagine if a politician was in charge of the feeding

900billion

Bighead9:
TRUE.
THOSE PROTESTING ARE PDP

I never knew NL is filled with idiots like u.

U can't even comprehend what is going.

All u could see is between tribal and party lines.

Shame on u.

Where are those idiot asking for protest to be end.....ewus gambia

aalafin:
hadn't been they are protesting for something meaningful it would be better
but, protesting against a unit that has been dissolved is senseless

Another 7 idiot liked u post

Biodun556:
You are on point

U mean on point same way ASUU has been waiting since 2009.

It seems u guys are confetable

SilverNorGold:
I support this.. The protest has been hijacked already. Criminal and corrupt political elements are now using it to achieve their own selfish and nefarious interests.

Nigeria go better.

With cowards like u, Nigeria can never get better

Minjim:
Well, the protest needs to be organized for us to take it to #EndCorruption.
We'll need medical care for the injured.
Meal for protesters.
Protesting gears like gas masks, tear gas extinguishers.
And many others

My brother u have time to be explaining to this dull fellows.

I never knew so many nairalanders are this stupid. They complain of poverty but their brain can't think straight.

If we leave this country for people like this, no change will come

wonder233:
As you are there, can you honestly say you're the one thinking for yourself or the crowd is doing your thinking for you? The protest you're so passionate for, can you in all honesty say "Police reform" was what was uppermost on your mind as your number one problem 2weeks ago?

Do u need anyone to tell u how frustrated people are? Except u are still eating mama thank you, when last did u visit the market. This is currently beyond endsars.

Nigerians are tired, endsars is just the stepping stone to end bad governance.

Are u happy with the current Nigeria?.

See no one is forcing u to join, relax in ur house and enjoy, am very sure u don't even have constant power supply, u can on ur generator with expensive fuel.

Leave those who are not happy and want change to protest

dlaw70:
only generation ?
How about generator ??

Add am join as a feeler that u are

dlaw70:
I feel ur pain and frustration.

Feeler ... feel the frustration of ur generation