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Pootle:
how about you talk about promotion from nigeria national league to the premier league. enough of this foreign football we cant grow like this

They have to earn it....same way afrobeat n Nollywood raised the bar

Naija league is still a joke

Nonsense

What's first class without skills...Most of today's CEOs in my set finished with 2.2

The era of paper certificate is gone...be a problem solver

oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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She is lazy everywhere...i m sure she will be lazy in bed too

Loose her n let her go

On your mandate

Melezenawii:
Borehole by Ayra Starr (a musician) vs borehole by Peter Obi (a Politician who is richer than Joe Biden )

Obi is too comfortable with mediocrity

Donated by ...is referring to the tank not borehole

Agenda must agend

Nairaland should now be called Naijaland

What a shame...they are now using us as training materials for the Wcup

This is the lowest of low for the SE

Bobloco:
Obi Cubana abandons Tinubu’s City Boy Movement, deletes all related posts on his Instagram page.




https://www.pulse.ng/story/obi-cubana-abandons-tinubus-city-boy-movement-deletes-all-related-posts-on-his-instagram-page-2026052215323595890

Inside APC...there is APC. Welcome to politics

Ile Oba to jo...Ẹwa lo bu si

Hope they now have fire preventive measures in place...else another disaster is just around the corner

Goo0dHardDick:
My business associate came to my office and we congratulated him on his wife safe delivery and his new baby girl arrival. But we noticed he wasn't happy and asked what was wrong, first he complained about the hospital and its numerous extortions. It's a federal government hospital and he kept saying if he had known he would have gone to a private hospital instead.

His wife has been in the hospital for 2 weeks after she delivered and each day he was asked to pay #10k for the hospital bed, excluding numerous tests and other expenses because his wife delivered through CS.

This is the craziest part, he said his wife gave birth to a female child and although he thank God for the successful delivery but why a female child? That he is afraid of what is going to become of her because female child nowadays can do and undo, he made mention of the way women nowadays dresses, the sex and finally pregnancy that'll follow suit and that no matter how you talk or train the female child, if she wants to go and have sex, she'll still do it regardless without you knowing at all.

The guy went on complaining and rambling with so much pains in his face. I even tried encouraging him to take the baby to his mother (that is, the baby's grandmother) when she comes of age so the old woman will train her but other guys there said that would be worst because the old woman will spoil and pamper her too much.

Why is it that most men don't want female child?

A female child will eventually drop the family name by starting another one.....no continuity

False alarm

Although no attack was eventually reported, the incident has raised fresh concerns over insecurity around schools and rural communities in parts of South-West Nigeria.

They will carry him to where he no know

Enter grade A league...you n osimhen can do better. I don't celebrate mediocre

RollinTNDA:
China started coronavirus
And till this day. Chinese are allowed to travel around the world.

Ordinary ebola and they ban Africans from traveling the world.

Is covid still spreading ? No dey cross road with this kain brain

Ghanian..no doubt

Ghana n fake mattress tinz

[quote author= post=139483450]Source: https://punchng.com/police-arrest-officer-who-threatened-to-kill-anyone-filming-him/

See The Previous Thread - https://www.nairaland.com/8675851/newton-isokpehi-forgive-me-policeman[/quote]Put him in jail asap

nlfpmod:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HRfb4NVD8LE?si=vI20RMae4J_z4ufU

No substance...oh gosh so terrible

Ezeama400:
https://x.com/chukwe/status/2054114191150137664/video/1?s=46

Not a good singer

Hamzat lokan...tested n trusted

On the codine diet

Reno of all people..mtheww

erico2k2:
You are one of those people who speak borrowed English It is very correct to say I will ring you back, there is nothing wrong, you are not going to fail any test if you wrote that. That page you copy and paste is of same IQ as you.

lolz

When you have a degree in any of the recognised institutions in the UK...then we can have this conversation

iamfraud:
Source


https://www.facebook.com/share/1Crfmq1Rmg/?mibextid=wwXIfr

See how this one dey spoil the image of black race...especially Nigerians

E lo fokan bale..a ma gbe wa le

US don cast...canada here we come

Adelabu have no business in politics

Just questioning

Ghanians manage

Will that stop insecurities

Mushroom school..what do you expect

Another jobberman prepared to take over

PDJT:
- "I will ring her back" is absolutely perfect grammar in Britain.👌🏽 Except if you speak made-up English language like they do in the USA, Canada and other anglophone countries.

That's why you all fail IELTs cos you are following the native speaker speak bad grammar