₦airaland Forum

HydraFeeds:
I was referencing the summary aspect before some will say that AI makes one dumber .

Well if it is not rightly used, it ll make them dumb

Impressive..we need more

All of them just pack their children inside....na wa o

HydraFeeds:
Not different from key points we used then .

AI is a leverage .

AI is better than those key points

Those key points only focus on textbook def while AI is self taught

This generation have no choice than to excel...no excuse of complex textbooks or poor teaching

Your soul no pity the hole

Why speak ill of the dead. At least three are yours

They ll rot in jail

See his head, he ll rot in jail

Dysfunctional family produces such kids

Gagare1:
I hope it will be a short read.

So, there is this person I met during my undergrad years who was into youth ministry in the campus. He is a family man. I was introduced to him by a family that I consider my spiritual parents, and being the passionate type about the Christian faith, I trusted him and we started doing Bible study and other campus outreach programs. Our friendship grew well enough that sometimes I visit his house during the weekend (along with other youths he relates with) for Bible studies and what not. With time, I got to trust him enough to allow him into my personal space, which is not something I do easily because I am an introvert (until I trust you, then I sanguinize rapidly).

Fast forward to about two years later, I entered my first relationship with a lady and I hoped to marry her, so I introduced her to him. Gbam! Things started changing between us. Whenever she and I had issues (mainly bordering around her closeness with guys and her dislike of other ladies, even my own relatives) he seemed to take her side, always blaming me for being rigid. Now, he might be right that I am rigid, because we clearly disagreed on certain issues like him claiming to have more authority over me than my own parents because he is my spiritual leader, which I firmly disagreed. Or him saying a good man will forgive a cheating wife, for which I replied "she will go to her father's house and NOBODY can make me take her back". And many other instances.

Now, as time went by I got fed up with her flirting with random guys, and her lack of commitment to the relationship, treating me like an option. So when I graduated and left her on campus, I decided to gradually end the relationship by telling her to simply go ahead and commit to any guy she feels an attraction to, since I will no longer be around. Any reasonable person would have understood what it meant. As God will have it, about two months later, I met the lady that will later become my wife. But I didn't even try to woo her until after about six months when I was on NYSC camp. So everything was done via phone. First, I called my ex and officially ended the relationship, then call the new lady and professed my love.

Despite almost a full year of separation, all hell broke loosed after that call. My ex reported me to that mutual friend, who immediately went ballistic on me. He threatened to take unpleasant measures against me if I don't retract my words and come to the table. Table? To eat what? Tuwo ko Gurasa? I maintained my stance, telling him, "When I return from camp I will come to see you, but don't expect any change in my decision, I will only come to officially tell about it". And that was what I did. And for about two years, we were estranged.

However, when it was time for me to marry, I thought it will be good for me to honour him for the five years we spent together as friends on campus, at least he was kind of a guardian in a way. So I personally travelled interstate to meet him and address any grievance, even offering him the honor of being the guest preacher on my wedding. Now, I had to bypass a host of ordained ministers who were colleagues of my Dad, to choose him. In fact, some of them even told my Dad that they hoped he would have chosen them to minister at his youngest son's wedding, but I made my choice, and my Dad respected it. Of course, he chose his own friend to do solemnization.
Everything went smoothly.

About two years later, my wife and I decided to visit his family for Easter, we went with our daughter who was barely a year old. We spent two days. After about a year we visited again, but this time we returned with a clear decision to end any close relationship with him, choosing to simply treat him as an acquaintance and no longer a family friend. But why the drastic measure?

Here it is:
During the second visit, in the course of our discussion, only the two of us, he admitted jokingly that on their way back from our wedding, where he preached, they were discussing about how I chose not to marry a lady that matches my educational level and age, but instead went to marry a small girl with lesser education because I want to control her. But I will be shocked with what I will get, because that small girl will surprise me (i.e. deal with me).
Literally laying a curse on the very wedding he preached on. That was it!

Ever since we returned, for more than three years now, I give him cold feet. He has tried many times to get us to visit but I always find a way to avoid it. I simply don't feel my family is safe around them. The trust is no longer there.

On more than two occasions, he called my wife telling her to ask me what his offense was, that I am ignoring him. For me, it is a matter of family security.

By the way, the age gap between my wife and I is 5 years only. But she has a small body, so people think she is a small girl. I love that woman too much to risk loosing my guard, not for anyone, much less someone who cursed us while we smiled at each other.

I am open to mature advise.

Did I really go too far by redefining our relationship with him?

What took you so long before you take this decision. Even your parents will respect your decision when it comes to marital choice.

He surely does not respect your decision, its time to put an end to such relationship

Deeprooted:
I won't bore you with unnecessary details.

My immediate younger sister is less than 2 years in her marriage with no children yet.

On the 13th of February, this year, her sister in-law moved in with her 6 children.

My sister thought it was just a visit only to be informed by the husband that his sister was divorced and would be with them for a few days.

Since her arrival with her children, my sister lost everything that has to do with privacy in her matrimonial home.

Dishes unwashed, a bag of rice lasts less than a month, the sitting room littered with dishes.

My sister has become a stranger in her home as the sister in-law now advises her husband against being too loving.

I love my sister so much and I'm already thinking of taking her away from that toxic environment.


I want my sister to leave the marriage since the husband is not helping matters with her sister.

This 17th of May and the sister in-law and her children are not making any arrangements of getting an apartment of their own.

What would you advise my sister to do?

Mind your business
Let your sister n her hubby sort things out

A white elephant project

Its both ways...no gender has monopoly of cheating

They have nothing to add to our economy

Kyrx:
I’m impressed by most comments on this first page. Nigerians are mostly good people, no doubt.

In this era of people getting picked for receiving ransom...you better carry your bank along

andy4d2ofus:
I received a credit transfer of 500k into my account from an unknown person.
What should I do next. I don't want trouble, pls advise .

call your bank n wait for the next line of action

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139435993]“If any man keeps malice with me for just 3 days, I’ll sleep with another man” – Lady declares

A Nigerian lady has sparked reactions online after sharing her controversial opinion on relationships while reacting to the alleged cheating scandal involving singer Chike and the ex-wife of media personality Frank Edoho.

In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter), the lady defended women who cheat in relationships, claiming that prolonged silence and unresolved issues between couples often push women into the arms of other men.

According to her, no woman would remain completely loyal for too long if her partner decides to keep malice instead of resolving problems in the relationship.

In her words, she said:

“If any man try to keep malice with me in a relationship because we’re having issues, the highest I can be loyal for you is three days. Me and you are dating and we’re quarrelling. I no talk to you, you no come beg me, the highest I can promise you that I won’t give out my body to another man is three days.

“So Chike we love you, thank you for being a shoulder for her to cry on when she needed you, we love you and we’re proud of you. For once the men should be proud too. So if you keep keeping malice with your woman, another man will take your place.”

Her statement has since generated mixed reactions online, with many social media users criticizing her stance on infidelity, while others argued that communication are important in relationships.

The controversy follows ongoing social media discussions surrounding allegations involving Chike and Frank Edoho’s ex-wife, which have continued to trend online.

"If Any Man Keeps Malice With Me For 3 Days, I Will Sleep With Another Man"

— Lady reveals.. pic.twitter.com/T0iOd5Siv5

— YabaLeftOnline (@yabaleftonline) May 16, 2026

those fallen heroes...you no dissapoint

Goosethetruth:
I don't understand how (an average Nollywood actor known more for playing romantic roles than an intellectual sagacity) you benefited from a Baba sope system of politics and when Baba says that it is the turn of another person and you are refusing to tow the line that brought you to office.
The powers that be have taken away your office and bestowed it upon another. You don't need an Oracle to tell you that the game is up unless you are thick upstairs.

Infact, he should be ashamed of himself for seeking another term. Three terms is more than enough time for him to deliver

Hes not the only one from Surulere, its another man's turn. Even in presidency, no matter how good you are, you can't do more than 8 yrs

Desmond is without backbone...It is finished

E go wait taya..fraud

Sign big players ...no be by coach o. A farmer is as good as his tools

An own goal...its a win for the 72 Vs though

It will rise again

Dry bones shall rise again

If you like go queue under the sun...your votes wont count

Lazy youth, using politics as a gateway to acquire illicit wealth

gohf:
Do you know that wife and woman in Hebrew have the same term?

Gen.21.12 But God told Abraham, "Do not be upset over the boy and your servant wife. Do just as Sarah says, for Isaac is the son through whom your descendants will be counted. (NLT)

Anyway I wouldn't even have called her his wife if you didn't bring this verse up, I wanted to ask you concerning an incident that occured with Jacob and Reuben but seeing as you have quoted God recognizing the relationship between Abraham and Hagar and much more than you had initially claimed, I rest my case, except you want to call Hagar a harlot?

You have comprehension issue

If God recognise the relationship, he wont tell Abraham to chase her away

2. Where I quoted didn't say your woman but your slave woman

Lazy youth...using politics as a tool to gather illicit wealth

Amotolongbo:
You just lost your sight for nothing

Is it your sight?

Why cry more than the bereaved?

gohf:
and also what was Hagar to Abraham?

Gen 21:12

God did not address her as his wife. If God approves her as a wife, he wont tell him to chase her away

But God said to Abraham, "Be not displeased because of the boy and because of your slave woman. Whatever Sarah says to you, do as she tells you, for through Isaac shall your offspring be named.

Stop the killings

chatinent:
If the same devoted Christians saw a black Jesus coming down from heaven, they would run and cast, and bind.

... because they have been brainwashed to believe every heavenly body is white. And the black ones are the demons and the devil.

Its all playing in your head

He was never described as white, all your inferences are from AI generated pix n movies

Ebola returns...drc should be banned from the WC...let Nig take their place